So all my life I haven't been able to figure out what to do for a career... Every time I sit and think about it nothing comes to mind.... Does anyone have any advice on how to figure it out? I'm tired of being broke at minimum wage jobs.
http://news.efinancialcareers.com/uk-en/199934/want-job-high-frequency-trading-pay-career-prospects-15-key-firms/
>>17260578
>what am I interested in
>what do I want to major in
>what fields can I go into with my major/interests
>what careers are in that field
>what are the employment figures like for the careers I'm interested in
And so on and so on. Just Google and research. You can take a careers test too.
Are there any "crazy" dreams you have? Or do you just want some career where you are guaranteed to have a job and decent money?
So, my husband has a way, way higher sex drive than I do. Which is why, early in our relationship, we found it was easier if he had a secondary, usually a girl that he'd date for a few months and then drop, which was a mostly sexual relationship, as opposed to ours which is mostly an emotional relationship.
It's been working pretty well for the last four years, but now it's gotten a bit icky. I just found out he had anal sex with his current secondary, and it just squicks me out. I mean, it's not like we've stopped sleeping together. And I'm sure he was hygenic and washed and everything, but I cant' shake the mental image that he has shit all over his dick. How do I get that out of my head?
>>17260545
>he's probably done it before
>you probably sucked shit particles off his dick
>your vagina is lined with traces of feces
>>17260545
Does it taste like shit? If not, why would it even matter?
Honestly, it doesn't have to be any harder than that! If anything, you could always tell him to shower his junk.
>>17260545
Are you sure it's the shit you're disgusted by? He's probably had a myriad of different bodily fluids on his dick, but you draw the line at shit?
Is it normal to feel like you've achieved nothing with your life, even though you have? I got a nice degree with a great GPA. I got accepted into med and law schools (but put off attending them because I don't know what I'm doing with my life). I've toured in a hardcore band, recorded and released albums. I've had my writing work published in local magazines and websites with great traffic. I've got trophies from when I was a state level athlete as a teenager. I've appeared on TV and done some acting work. I've slept with around 15 women so it's not even the lack of a sex life that the virgins on here always bitch about. And to top it off, I'm only 21.
When I list these achievements, they seem lofty and meaningful, like they ARE something to be proud of. But I'm not proud of them. They either feel like they happened to someone else, or feel much smaller than you'd expect them to be. How do I find and do something I'm actually proud of?
Who knows. Maybe this is just post-college depression. Ach.
Bumping for big daddy
Maybe it's a mindset thing.
What's your outlook on the past, present and future?
&Did u do all that shit for you or yer parents
Yesterday while running on the track I got a gnat caught in my eye and it took me about an hour to get it out, To get it out I had to fill the bathtub with water and open my eye. I got a fat gnat out and I instantly felt relief but now being the next day it feels like there is still something in there. I hurts to try and look right at all which is the side the gnat was stuck.
Also I had previous had an eye injury where an airsoft BB glance that same eye.
Question is what do
>>17260521
Wash it with saline solution, and put an eyepatch over it for a few days, or if you are really concerned see a doctor.
Thanks Anon, just now due to my gut feeling I felt like there was something still in my eye so I flipped my eyelid and so there was another gnat. I got it out with help an all seems to be good
>>17260521
You should get yourself off to the hospital mate. It's entirley possible that you've scratched your cornea - I did the same thing a couple of months back with a fleck of sawdust at work. Over the course of two days I went from "this is a bit sore" to "jesus christ why are there razor blades in my eyeball" to not being able to see anything at all out of my injured eye. Turns out the scratch had got infected, and if I'd spent the five minuites to get it treated with some antibiotic cream as soon as it happened I wouldn't have had any of those problems. In the end it took about a week before I got any sight back at all, and another month after that for it to return to normal.
I'm a 20yr old NEET whos been applying for jobs since march and i've been either ignored or rejected by everything other than mcdonalds which has given me two interview invitations, i declined the first because my fucking mum kept yelling at me to find a better job, but then i applied again after a week of more job rejections and they gave me another interview, which i have in one hour. But my mum is giving me shit again, should i ignore her and go or wait for a better job opportunity.
>>17260503
Some advice. Take the McJob until you find something better. Be persistent, there's countless other people like you applying for jobs. Your mom is being a cunt btw. Move out when you can, trust.
Dude fuck your mom. Not literally. She shouldn't give you shit for getting a job, even if it's McDonalds. It's a stepping stone onto something better, that's what she doesn't understand. She should be glad you are getting an opportunity, she shouldn't shoot you down. Take the McDonalds job despite all the shit she says, and maybe in 6 months or a year apply to a higher up resturaunt or fast food place. Take the opportunities that you get, because you may not get any others. Good luck.
>>17260512
One more person who agrees
>>17260512
This. McJobs don't have a lot of redeeming features, but they do have a couple. The shift-based nature of the work allows you to pursue better opportunities, and the high churn rate means that managers understand these things.
This is not a forever job. This is a stepping stone, a way to get some cash flow and stop the employment gap from getting any larger. If your mother does not understand this, then ignore her; that mindset is foolish and dangerous.
So me and my ex of 3 years parted ways a year ago, which was for the best for the both of us. We were incompatible in terms of where we were in our lives, maturity, sexually and maybe even personality wise. Both felt like shit at the end of the relationship and the decision to split up was mutual. I broke off any contact after we split up and though I glanced at her tumblr a couple of times during the first 6 months, we didn't speak.
We had a conversation over facebook 6 months ago when we had seen each other in the city and now when I got back from the city my college is in, I found her on Tinder. I had thought about her somewhat frequently during the last 6 months and had this urge to talk to her so I super liked her and we started talking on facebook again.
However, I come from a history of insecurity and I feel that I'm not gravitating towards her personality in order to get back together out of love, I just want her to like me. I get this sharp pain of anxiety in my stomach when it takes her a day to reply which I know has nothing to do with me wanting her badly - sometimes I even feel empty when I get her response. She had physical issues that lowered her sex drive to a 0 which caused a lot of the problems causing us to split up, and I felt rejected sexually by her. I realize that I yearn for her because I've put my own sense of self worth in her hands (perhaps due to the time when I was rejected sexually by her), but I don't know how to let go of the feeling of wanting to interact with her.
She is also the most attractive girl I've ever been with and perhaps even seen in some aspects, so this surely has something to do with why I feel like I do too.
TLDR - I miss my ex of 1 year due to insecurity and I want her to want me more than I actually want her back
It's a bad idea. You haven't given yourself enough time to think straight.
You two broke up for a reason. Your brain is still wired for dependency on her, which is why you're feeling what you're feeling, and is also why you hear about people in toxic relationships breaking up and getting back together over and over.
You need to move on and give yourself time to forget that dependency.
>>17260542
Right. Do you have any advice on letting self worth depend on the approval of others? My low self esteem is an issue when it comes to relationships with women. Not as a reoccuring theme from relationship to relationship but as a theme of how I feel when interacting with attractive women
>>17260560
Find worth in other things.
Hobbies, platonic friends, working towards a goal for yourself.
I'm pretty liberal, and I've read a lot of articles about the dangers of the echo chamber and stuff, so I decided to follow my Facebook friends who were more conservative in order to expose myself to different views and be a better person. Unfortunately I've found that so much of what they say is wrong and it's making me question being friends with them (and I know some of them IRL!) Should I take it upon myself to engage them more and correct their thinking or should I just stop following them? Maybe unfriendly them? Report them?
>>17260451
kill yourself.
>>17260459
That's a little harsh.
>>17260451
You are confusing two separate issues.
1. It is legitimate to seek out friends for what they can teach you about life, and then to decide for yourself how "true" or useful their beliefs are.
2. It is also legitimate to remain friends with people you disagree with on key topics, because the other good qualities of the friendship outweigh that one disagreement.
Indeed, one could argue that friends with whom you disagree are as valuable as those who think the same as you, since they help you refine and clarify your own beliefs.
Only if their beliefs are so very offensive to you that you can't look past them to the rest of the friendship is it appropriate to consider dropping them.
Bought a start house, needed a lot of work. I've been at it, but I am getting really discouraged, not really from the amount of work I have to do, but its my wife. She texts me 3 times daily asking what I am working on, then gets really pissed off for a solid hour if she doesn't notice something BIG.
She will then say she doesnt have enough space to move around, then rearrange everything, you know, right up against the walls I was working on then complain when it takes me a few hours to move everything back to work again.
How the hell do you deal with this? It's getting to where before she leaves in the morning, she will say something like, " So you are doing the floor today? " when I already explained I cant even start that shit yet then she goes and orders a new freezer fridge so theres even less space to get anything done.
She keeps buying new stuff, or building materials when I dont need it, so it sits there either taking up space inside, or I have to tarp it and be careful outside.
So far, I have
>Completely tore out to studs
>Redone electrical
>Insulation
>Fixed sill plate/foundation issues
>Drywall
>Plumbed sink
>Custom butcherblock countertop
>Tore up all carpet, prepped for laminate
>Dug 55 post holes in the most stony soil I've ever seen, adult head sized stones coming out
>Set 55 posts
>Ran fencing
>Set garden up
Its just getting to me, really bad. I mean, I had an EX GF, and she didnt do ANYTHING all day, if she so much as cleaned a dish I was excited about it.
I am feeling like a slave or something now, a slave to labor and finish this house, which will never end, and she says " I go to work for 10 hours, I expect 10 hours from you " its like, holy fuck, I don't work for you.
Shit, give me $15/hr and I will work all day, I barely have anything I like to eat in the house.
Keep in mind, I quit my job because she made so much more and wanted to see me more.
>>17260448
>" I go to work for 10 hours, I expect 10 hours from you "
That sounds totally fair to me, to be honest.
How long ARE you working a day?
All the rest of the shit she's doing is horrific though, and it sounds like she's just too wrapped up in herself and doesn't realise how much you've accomplished or how much her actions are setting you back. Which is understandable, when she's not there to see what you're doing.
It sounds like you need to sit down and have a conversation about what exactly you do all day, how her actions are impacting your progress, and what she can do/avoid to better accommodate your workflow. Maybe have a bit more of a solid plan going forward where she can see you're getting things done, set some rough 'deadlines' so that if you say "I'll get x done by the end of the week," you can debrief at the end of the week and either see that it's done, or explain why it's not (ie if she sets you back). That way if it gets done, you have a solid thing to point to that shows how hard you're working.
What gets me is that I AM a hard smart working person. I am so much smarter than her, and it really just fucking gets me going that I cant be mean or rude to her, because shit, shes my wife.
>>17260477
AGH holy shit that was the end of 2000 word count.
Well fuck. I guess the same thing I wrote in a shorter thing would be
Why DO I have to work all day at this? Is my worth related to what I produce?
I got her the job she has right now, I did the resume, cover letter, pre interview letters, she was just going to ignore it.
She acts like I am lazy, when I was a retail manager for years, working my ass off.
she acts like 10 hours a day is a lot, when I used to pull 12 hour days, and not be a total dick when I got home.
Keep in mind, she came from her parents house where she was a total slob, I already do all the cooking and cleaning as well.
I am an underappreciated house wife at this point.
God damn my other response was steller
>3 years ago
>went to the barber
>got these pimpels on the back of my head
How can i get rid of them
>>17260392
It's staph. Go to your doctor.
clean pic
>>17260409
Lose weight you gross fat fuck
I don't want to be a misanthropist, I know it is not safe to my mental health to hate everyone but damn, I can't help it.
I have normal social relationships and I have a girlfriend but I feel deeply disgusted from the human nature.
I can't trust anyone, I know that everyone one around me can make me suffer and probably will. I have no interest in making new friends or meet new people in general.
I hate the fact that everyone around me pretends to be something else, like everyone is moved by appearences.
Even the little things, such as Facebook posts, make me nervous and I start to feel like the best way to save me is ascestism.
I'll give you an example of how crazy I am.
A girl I know posts a photo of an open book writing "Reading..." in the description. Why the hell stop to take a pic instead of actual reading? That makes me nervous because "omg I'm so smart I read a lot of books" is the latest fashion for people of my age even if they don't give a shit or if they never opened a book!
Males and females talking about true love and how intelligence is attractive (pretending to be "sapiosexual") even if they're the most materialistic people I know and care only about look or genitalia.
All I see around me is falsehood and inconsistency. All I see is people that cares only about physical stuff such as sex and money.
I don't feel good. I don't know what to do. Maybe I'm crazy and I know that is a problem of mine.
>>17260402
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>>17260383
>everyone sucks but me
maybe your first step to getting over this is accepting that you aren't wrong, but you are also one of them. you arent doing anything they do 'ironically' and you do a lot more of what they do then you give yourself credit for.
sure maybe you dont go to starbucks, maybe you dont listen to the latest pop hits, maybe you are a little less mainstream.
just like everyone else :^)
You are me anon
i've been with my current girlfriend for a year and a half. she's a really good person (the best I've met probably), very beautiful and hot, pretty good artist as well.
however, i only now realized she's very very dumb. For instance, she can't even do "1 million times two". She thought it was "100 million at first" and I said it wasn't and then she said she didn't know. There were other instances too of shit like this but I just ignored and assumed she was tired or something, but now I am 100% sure she is really dumb.
So, I broke up with her, I can't handle that much stupidity. Was I right or wrong to do this?
there are not nearly enough intelligent women out there for every man, so you only have a chance if you get lucky or are above average.
>>17260378
Fem here
I know a lot of girls in their teens feign stupidity because men find smart girls intimidating, could she have been faking?
>>17260378
>she's a really good person (the best I've met probably)
>very beautiful and hot
>pretty good artist as well
> I can't handle that much stupidity. Was I right or wrong to do this?
Your call. But if i was in your situation i think it would have been the wrong one.
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Convince me that NoFap is bullshit. Every time I orgasm now I feel this foreboding guilt that gleams over my mood for basically the next 2 days.
I'm not addicted to masturbation, but I'm convinced the longer you go without masturbating the better your ability to socialize and remain confident is.
I orgasmed recently because I'm seeing a new girl. I haven't actually ejaculated in two weeks though. (I practice tantra masturbation, basically cumming without shooting semen. Some people believe your energy is based on semen retention but I still don't feel the same)
I don't know the brain chemistry behind the orgasm but I continue to psych myself out. Anyone else with NoFap experience?
*my most recent orgasm was via my own stimulation not the new girl
>>17260319
>Implying NoFap is bullshit
>>17260479
What's the verdict with my case then? If you orgasm but retain sperm, do you keep testosterone levels and dopamine returns to normal faster than ejaculating?
I'm beginning to feel a little better now that it's been several hours later. I'm assuming here that orgasming without ejaculating has a similar effect to edging. What's the actual brain chemistry behind this?
Hello /adv/isors,
I need to confess but I have no one to tell my story.
I fell in love with a girl 8 years ago. I felt she was "the one" but it seemed she just wanted to be friends. So we were friends. For 8 years.
This winter we were on a party, got drunk, kissed. I found out she was in love with me for some time now but she didn't want to ruin our friendship. Now we are dating and holy shit we really understand each other and it seems I was right about her being "the one".
Wow! What a happy story!
Our teenage years were really different.
I am her 12th boyfriend, she's my 2nd girlfriend.
She fucks since 14, I fuck since 19.
Well, that doesn't look like a problem, right?
Now comes the part where I fuck everything up.
My father left me when I was 2 years old. He cheated on my mom a lot.
We were poor, my mother beat me A LOT.
I remember knowing about sex since I was like 4 years old. And I remember masturbating since then.
I was obsessed about sex for my entire life and still I managed to lose my virginity when I was 19.
I dated that girl for four years until I finally got together with THE GIRL. When I was with the first girl, I was sure I'm gonna dump her cheat on her, but with passing time my confidence disappeared and I lost all hope. She was fine, but never complimented me in any way and I just thought I'm really that bad.
Now that I'm with the love of my life she told me I'm the most hung guy she ever met, I'm the only one who ever was able to make her cum with my hands (she really loves my hands) and tells me I'm handsome every day.
It should be perfect but the amount of guys she fucked makes me sick and jealous. I was supposed to be the one with 12+ girls. That's the only thing I ever wanted. Now she left me for three months (she works abroad). We are together since january. And now I feel like it's the time to finally fuck all those girls I ever wanted. I feel I could do this, but I'm sure this would ruin our relationship for good.
Cont.
>>17260290
I even talked about this with her (we agreed on talking about everything and not lying to each other) and she's obviously mad.
One thing is I feel like some kind of cuck for waiting all these years when she fucked everyone else and I think that this would help me get over it.
Second thing is that as I said, I've always wanted to meet a lot of other girls and I'm worry if I don't do this now, I'll never do it and then regret it for the rest of my life.
Am I just retarded? Am I the bad guy? What should I do? I need help. I feel like shit.
Feel free to ask anything.
ayyyyyyyyy mannnn chill out
youv got your dream girl. congrats. your stuck with her for the rest of your life. this is the problem with relationships. if your like me, cheating is NOT an option. so might i suggest some possible choices?
1) (what i would do) youv told her how you feel about it, and if she loves you she will understand your need to sleep around. but maybe go travelling for a couple months and have a 'free pass' to fuck around. then stay committed.
2) sleep with no one else but her. complete her and have as much fun with her as possible. maybe even take lsd to realise you don't need to sleep around.
3) break up with her
3 very sound options here. can't go wrong with any of them. each demands a really solid amount of effort on your part just like anything in life. good luck.
>>17260400
I've tried number one.
She's thousands of miles away but she won't accept this.
Number two seems reasonable if I could be sure I won't regret it later as I stated in my second post. Plus that thing about lsd, I can't even smoke weed without having a bad trip.
And I just can't break up with her. I'd break her heart and never get her back.
Thanks for you advice though
>Be me (Asian femanon from developed Asian country)
>I feel like most people feel like white people are the best-looking and disagreeing will only make me look stupid
>Like people will immediately assume a half-white person is good-looking and they think having pale skin, double eyelids is good etc.
How to feel better about this?
>inb4 tits or gtfo, etc
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You don't. Do you boo boo.
>>17260283
White guy here. Prefer Asian women over white women. Take that as you will.
My wife is Chinese and she harps on about all that stupid shit while her inner soul is very toxic. Looks shouldn't be everything but they are in this vain trashy society. Find a like minded counterpart and stop fretting over shit you cannot change. It is what it is
If your Chinese though I gotta say fuck your culture sickens me all your 有车有房, 高富帅,白富美,有钱就好了 retarded sayings sicken me. Its where any shred of pure "love" goes to die and gets used for status with feeling of superiority.
>whole family have dogged me/use me for money/treat me like dirt
>gf uses me for my money and is manipulative bitch
>friends are mostly dogs and are fake
Thinking of getting rid of all fr my life, possibly by deleting social media
Anyone else been in this situation?
>
I'm not because I don't have friends but I know most ppl are cunts.
Take care of yourself anon, you got your back and that's all you need.
>>17260295
yeah oath they are, its like you may aswell be a lone and not have friends cause you'll die alone in th end
>>17260345
yeah but times are so tough