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>>17603604
shieet your roommate got game bro

>>17603604
>things that never happened

But to play pretend with you-
Dude. Don't fucking argue with your date, who is kissing your fem roommate, about giving you a kiss if she's playing hard to get.

You should have just shut the fuck up, enjoyed the show, and if they got into it whipped your dick out.

Jesus this is 3-somes 101.


Oh and if your hypothetical room-mate is doing this repeatedly, she wants the d. Or to tease the d.

>>17603635
>enjoyed the show, and if they got into it whipped your dick out.

I didn't want anyone with us. I just didn't want to be rude after she helped me out and cleaned up. I'm not up for sharing at this point. Maybe in the future.

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(2)
> say it's because of crap I'm going through
> make it clear she's not a part of it
> don't give entire reason until near the end of the exchange because I made the people who sponsored me by name worry about other stuff
> eventually come out, apologize to guy
> then try to talk to guy about some things that I didn't like because it hurt my feelings about what he said from before
> didn't know what to call it at the time, but realize he's a gas lighter
> get chewed out by him and said that there was talk of me being sent back because of isolation
> can't argue even if I wanted to, just sit there and take it
> can't blame him about food not being eaten and things like that
> I am wrong for doing it
> but I won't give reason still
> just say it's no one's fault
> night ends on that note
> one day K says I should go on walks with her and her dog because she isn't allowed to in the evening by herself
> first go I'm a little reluctant, but it's better than nothing
> one of the best decisions in my life was made then
> pretty normal convos at first
> later start talking to K about normal stuff more casually
> start going on walks everyday
> start to be able to talk about anything
> culture, meaning of life, philosophy, food, various opinions, you name it
> still give cold shoulder because of bad past though
> K gets comfortable anyway and opens up because she's one of the best people I'll ever meet
> also, K is a (super) nurse
> "Makes sense" I think

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> open up to K eventually, takes a while
> fyi I come from a background where I was very independent
> the few friends I made due to moving a ton were more family to me as I came to realize later on in life
> most of them are gone now, only a couple left
> anyway, guy gets suspicious, always giving me dirty looks thinking I don't notice
> don't respond to or look at him when he does it, as we're doing nothing wrong and there is no need for confrontation
> realize guy is not as cool as I thought he was
> is alcoholic, really good at hiding it at work and pretty much wherever else
> even drives like it's nothing
> it's his elixir at this point probably
> does and says shit that is reflective of his abusive past
> I feel sorry for him and it's unfortunate, but he's a man who hasn't broken the cycle entirely, so it's something he won't change
> I suppose he's an improvement compared to his dad/mom from what I've heard
> one day makes host mom cry once because she said something that was apparently too out of line
> realized she's the bitch
> whole family of boys kind of treats her like that
> come to despise them a little for it
> get (more) defensive of K since, empathize with her even more
> always teased about being lovey-dovey by host bro and even other people (when they're drunk) along the way
> never think much of it, neither does K
> near the end, I really love and care about her
> she does too
> it's platonic, so you can stop there
> Never touched or anything.
> Also, don't ask for my ethnicity. It was asked for it in the last two for some reason *cough*
> anyway, able to communicate that we love each other, for we care for one another and enjoy each other's company a lot
> last day comes

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> cry for first time in a long time (good five years?) and apologize deeply to K about everything I said in order to protect myself
> saying "I forgive you" isn't a part of their culture so much as moving on
> understands my remorse and sincerity, share last moments together sitting in silence after talking a little
> feels good to be cared for/loved and to be able to do the same back
> gives me a picture and letter before I go
> says not to open it until once I board or anytime after
> say goodbyes, other people who sponsored me by name get in the way and she had expected that
> gives me short one armed hug as the action of hugging is so alien
> she went shoulder deep instead of elbow deep
> couldn't even do that with her own son
> means a lot
> picture is taken of her smiling face while doing so
> won't ever forget
> tells me "go and come back (home)"
> I remember that
> Board plane
> open letter and picture two hours in
> read and cry
> first time to feel incredibly intense pain of separation and grieve heavily
> maybe it wouldn't be so bad to go back to Japan land
> have enough money to go and start a new life over there
> chances would be the same except I would have to pass a language test
> that would be no problem
> over a week passes
> tell her I want to go back
> is ecstatic
> "do you remember when I said go and come back?"
> of course, I would never forget
> "Come Home" she said

stop caring about yourself

>>17603561
I don't give two shits about myself and contemplate suicide daily, now what

you should read ``how to win friends and influence people``

Just move to a different company if they aren't paying you enough.
If that isn't possible raise your level of skill so you become in demand.
If that isn't possible because you've hit the ceiling in your career path then pick a new career path.

>>17603565
>Just move to a different company if they aren't paying you enough.
Part of the problem is that so much of my knowledge applies only to my company's products or the devices they interface with. The basic principles of software testing are the same everywhere, but a trained monkey could learn the basics of software testing. I really just need to get out, find a different career, but then I'm basically starting from scratch with no relevant knowledge, experience, or education.

>>17603591
You've been doing this for 5 years and you just realized this now?

You need to decide your goal beforehand then do what you need to to get there. Do you want to make $300k? Do you just want a $100k low stress job? $1m? All of these are possible with low risk provided you put in enough effort and plan ahead.

>>17603522
start with the man in the mirror

>>17603529
I've contemplated killing myself may times actually. Never went through with it cause I haven't found a painless way to do it yet

>>17603522
Harry Potter and the philosophy stonning
Harry Potter and the prisoners of awswich
Harry Potter and the order of the third Reich

>>17603501
toastmasters

plus i dont want to pay the membership fee

>>17603501
Same I want to do stand up so bad but I'm so nervous my delivery will be such shit and nobody will laugh and I'll just wanna die.

>>17603924
Do you know 100% that you will be shit? no? then go do it and see if your right or wrong plus nobody becomes a good comedian overnight, you have to fail over and over again for awhile until you know for sure that if this is something you should continue or not.

remember certainty is the enemy of growth.

>>17603454
Let me correct one detail, now that I think about it- she did hug me for real when i got her from her place yesterday. But as a counterpoint, she was very unreceptive when i tried to kiss her earlier in the week.

you care too much and she knows

>>17603454
I had a similar issue a few weeks ago, turns out she was seeing two people and wanted to try us both out before she went exclusive.

I won't say that is the case with yours but I think that she might just be hesitant about jumping into a relationship. Your best bet is just going to be honest with her and hope she actually gives you a straight answer. Better to know than to speculate and poison your thoughts.

Are you incapable of talking to them and negotiating a "no friends over after this time" agreement?

>>17603414
Given what I know about their cultural norms it seems unreasonable to demand a cut off point like that

>>17603434
If you're a retard who can't talk to his roommates like a normal person, you put up with it. They're not mindreaders, they're not going to know that something's wrong if you don't fucking tell them.

>>17603331
don't know but if you ever actually off yourself like a dumbass then feel free to send some of the money my way

if you have any savings, go on a extended vacation to different countries. you will lose any inhibition quickly enough, people are very friendly towards travellers and there's plenty of people who travel alone.

plus when you come back home you will have plenty of good stories to share.

>>17603331
I didn't start making six figures until I was 30. You're way ahead of everyone else in that department but behind in the friends department. It's not the end of the world though, you're still young, there's still time.

Try taking a stupid community college class in the evening, something like photography or artistic will have interesting people that are in their 20s or early 30s. You have to get yourself out there, don't just go home on the weekends and sulk.

>>17603326
Drugs. Phenibut seems to work. Just look for drugs that help with social anxiety but don't expect miracles.

>>17603326
Drugs and therapy for your social anxiety.
To start with, the drugs do work in 95% of people: better anxiolytics basically do what alcohol does to you, but with less cognitive dysfunction.
The problem is that none can do it with zero cognitive effects, so drugs are only used for short-term treatment.
Therapy is the long-term solution.

>>17603326

Practice. Next time you're drunk pay attention to what it is you do and then try to imitate it while sober. It will be a trial and error thing, but with practice you will learn. Fake it till you make it. If you can do it drunk, the potential is there, so you can do it sober too, if you just learn to chill and practice helps with that.

oh boy

Did you actually tell them what you did or did you just go in and say "I don't know what happened, help!"

Completely upfront about it. Promise you.

Because ive been rejected by ugly girls and hot girls, i try not to seem desperate even thogh i am. I just want a good girl and need to know from femanons if im ugly or not.

>>17603266
no, just bland

>>17603271
Explain, am i mild cute or.?

>>17603263
1. why tell them
2. are you a boy or girl

Don't really have any suggestions cause I'm not the type to offer up info unless you ask. I'm an open book once you ask but until it comes up it's just random info that no one cares about

>>17603263
Think about it a bit more. Depending on how your parents are, just fucking don't. I'm 20 and whatever-sexual (pansexual for all I know) for around a year. Telling my parents anything has not crossed my mind a single time, and it probably never will, unless I end up married to something that doesn't look much like a straight woman, which is unlikely. I'll tell if and only if I engage in a serious relationship where that will become self-evident if I ever take them to my parents' place.

>>17603286
I'm a guy.
I feel like they should know that they produced something that won't evolutionarily succeed in any way.

>>17603248
tell em you're pregnant

>>17603254
God damn it that better not be the only response i get for this

>>17603320
what more do you need

Video games

Drugs. Namely?

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