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>>18662624
Good, now how about you talk about it with him instead of 4chan?

>>18662624
So divorce on the grounds of criminal negligence and fear of safety then. Problem solved. Or were you here to rant?

>>18662627
How do you tell someone they're a shit parent? Id be so offended and wjen you try to talk to him about serious shit he'll shut down and act like a kicked puppy or litterally cry

With a Flux capacitor

Mundane experiences feel faster because you're so experienced in them and your brain doesn't need to work hard to understand them. Experiencing new things slows down time because your brain is forming new connections and integrating new information with old. Go do something new.

Allow yourself to be bored, and never rush things or attempt to multi-task. Much like when you meditate, just focus on taking in the world, rather than getting to point a or b.

>>18662616
Yo, on some real nigga shit, tell that bitch ass nigga to keep his mouth shut or you and yo homies gon' pull up on his ass, ya dig?

>>18662616
Who cares? You haven't spoken to her in years so you don't want to talk to her. Conversely what is he going to do anyway? Non problem.

"I haven't talked to her in years you posturing faggot"

>>18662543
25.

>>18662543
21

19

Why is she avoiding you?

>>18662478
You are fucking blind OP.

>>18662503
Why?
>>18662501
She's not really avoiding me, when we talk we do it for hours, and she enjoys it. We just don't have time. We've known each other before, but two years back we've chosen different schools. It's complicated.

You need to determine your values, your interests, and those activities that you find most pleasurable.

That involves you trying new things, and thinking about what it is you enjoy and doing it more.

>>18662513
How do I try new things?

1) Think about what you enjoy eg "I like nature"
2) Think about ways to do what you enjoy eg "maybe I could find a hiking group online in my area"
3) Go to hiking (whatever) group and give it 3 or 4 sessions to see how much you enjoy it

If your doctor has told you that it can take up to a month to see results, then you can't expect them to work after only 10 days. You have no basis to convince yourself they don't work because you never tried them for the amount of time you were advised to take them.

If I were in your situation, I'd tell myself "I think about killing myself daily... what do I have to lose by taking these meds for 30 days? Nothing. What do I have to gain? Potentially a loss of my suicidal ideation."

>>18662470
hello me
>>>18661398

>>18662469
post a picture
you are probably not attractive enough,either in appearance or character, or in both.

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>>18662469
Some girls doesnt look like girly girls, arent approacheable, look pissed all the time, when outside are always surrounded by more sexy female friends or they never leave basement or they simply dont have any luck. And times are changing. In certain places it is socially unacceptable to compliment, look or approach girls because feminism, rape and muh independency.

Also in current times you have to compete with porn, videogames, social networks, friends, tinder, sluts, prostitutes and of course pic related.

Post pic.

>>18662499
This, if you don't hang out in places where it is socially acceptable to ask girls out or when you are you are always around better looking friends that is probably why you are having trouble.

The workplace is a great example of a place where you can't really ask someone out effectively as a guy. If you take the lead and ask people out though it would probably work.

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I started thinking about making and selling videogames a couple of months ago and haven't been able to stop thinking about it. I've been depressed a long time now and I can't find my feelings about it. I don't know if it's something I genuinely want to do or if it's a sort of frustration where I just fantasize about being successful.

I've got no experience making a proper game but I got a bit of familiarity with Gamemaker, I've got notes and stories written down for what would happen in the game and how I'd want it to play and I've got a few thousand dollars in savings that I could put into it but I just don't know if it'd end up a horrible mess. I dunno. What do you think what would you do?

>>18662466
>something i genuinely want to do.

Ill bet you like 99% of the population isnt doing something they genuinely want to do. That was a pipe dream. A lie. All jobs suck, nothing is going to be so profoundly interesting youll be in love with it in college day 1 to final.

I swear those "do what you love" campaigns in school were the dumbest and worst bits of advice every given to kids.

Having a job is about having income so you can keep eating paying rent and have something to do so you dont get all lazy and depressed.

Youd probably be less depressed and unmotivated if you were a mf janitor all these years for crissakes.

>im in college so i cant see myself doing this

Too bad. Thats your training now. Thats what you offer society. Thats your marketable knowledge. Read above. Now go do it.

>>18662475
Oh and about making games.

Same bro. Just started codijg stuff with a friend.

Thing is we have well paying jobs. We code on evenings and weekends. The odds of our work going anywhere at all is low. Same for you. I suggest you prioritize an income, then work on things like games.

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What the fuck

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>>18662438
You dont want to have inbred retarded deformed babies. Stop being retarded and date one of her female friends instead.

Imagine if you had a kid and your brother/sister had sexual relations with them. You'd fucking kill them wouldn't you

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>>18662425
Tinder, badoo, meetme, okcupid, social events you hate and so on.

Stop wasting your life and STEP OUT FROM YOUR COMFORT ZONE. Life is change. Change is life.

Also start going swimming or walk 5km minimum per day.

>>18662425
Have you consider making something productive out of your personal interest? I remember there were occasionally some video game creation threads in /v/, its easier than ever making games nowadays.

Put your years of experiences in vidya into good use.

>>18662444
I'm too unattractive to be near people.
I've thought about swimming but there's no cheap place around, plus it's a public area and going alone is just lonely.

>>18662453
I'm not intelligent enough to code and shit. Already tried years ago, dropped out of IT because I had no idea why I was even there

The thing with most drugs is that they do not offer you a static experience like a ride at an entertainment park, but rather change your mindset without being able to dictate how you personally respond to that.

If you want to try it again (which I do not necessarily advocate, but we all do stupid shit and LSD can be hella fun) I recommend paying attention to how you can affect the stimuli you feel. You should notice that the moment you start paying attention to the beautiful/calming things you hear (like some laughter, a nice association) the entire atmosphere should clear up a bit. Like a lucid dream. Likewise, the more you focus on scary or worrying things, the more they crowd in.

Bad trips are not the norm but not very rare, either. It can have to do with a bad trigger but also with personality (like being type A and not dealing well with the loss of control). And they can induce spontaneous psychosis (though I think you meant to say psyche, but still) so be careful.

>>18662421
Thanks for the response anon. Although i had a bad trip, i do feel changed. It helped me look at my life from a more general perspective. Like i zoomed out and now i understand more stuff.
Although i do want to say how horrified i was. When i had a flashback today i can't tell if it's just the acid or if it hit me like some kind of ptsd. I had the exact ssme irrational fear and feeling but to a great lesser extent. Being reminded of the feeling had me pretty shook
It's funny because i was woke up in a slightly hung over-ish, post-drunk state and started reading something about self awareness, then one thing stuck out made me feel uneasy and off.
>take a belief that you live by that's incredibly important to you, put it in your hand and crush it, forget it,
After reading this i immediately thought back to the trip and felt it again, but to a smaller extent. I started reading stuff about psychosis disorders and lsd which made me a little more scared i eventually continued on to the dentist and felt that disconnection again. Lasted about an hour and a half but i was keeping calm as i was having my braces operated on

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>>18662409
Acid is psychedelic and can trigger various mental issues you had predispositions for like depression, schyzo, bipolar and so on. And yes, even one trip can have permanent life altering changes to your brain. This shit is illegal for a reason.

Do yourself a favor and stick to alcohol. It is also pretty bad, but much more safer in this regard.

>or you know, just eat ice cream

I had a phase like this. It eventually extended to even 2D porn, so after a while I was imagining very arousing scenarios and girls. Textual references helped, or browsing hot 2D followed by reimagining it whilst masturbating.
Now I see a lot of hot women and I enjoy 2D. However, I can't orgasm unless I listen to music - had to learn the hard way and cruelly damage the self-esteem of a few women.

>>18662403
By porn I did mean mostly 2d porn

And the strip shows would be boring if not for the music and choreography

>>18662387
Time to stop looking at porn and fap once per week only.
https://yourbrainonporn.com/

>>18662379
You gonna tell us more little bear.

Age, how fat are you, how depressed are you, when was the last time doc checked your blood for hormone levels, what are you testicles like, who molested you as a kid, who raped you, sexual history, how much porn do you consume, how much do you fap, how nervous you are when pussy is in front of you and how many times have you tried to have sex without success and so on.

>>18662383
>Age
23
>how fat are you
Average build
>how depressed are you
Currently literally in a mental hospital (we're allowed phones/computers in the Netherlands) for depression.
>when was the last time doc checked your blood for hormone levels,
Recently asked to get tested on testosterone. Test results were fine.
>what are you testicles like,
Big I guess
>who molested you as a kid,
Lol no one
>sexual history,
3 girls, it would be 4 if I could get it up last week.
>how much porn do you consume,
>how much do you fap,
One fap every one or two days
> how nervous you are when pussy is in front of you
Quite nervous
>and how many times have you tried to have sex without success and so on.
Plenty of times

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>>18662390
>depression
>in mental hospital
I guess you are taking some antidepressive / happy / ssri pills. ALL of them have this one very common side effect: they break your dick. Well, not the dick, but that part of your brain which makes boners happen. You could call them birth control for boys.

Anyway, now you have much bigger problems than your dick. Like not suiciding or getting even more crazy.

If you still feel like fooling around with some girl, simply use cuddling and oral sex. But really, first solve your brain issues, your dick can come second.

Good luck?

Your dick already knows the answer

>>18662401
tfw

go on the holiday you absolute mongoloid. there's billions of pussies in the world but only one family. if you don't go now, you might regret it later in life (typing from the position of a man who was too lazy to go for a 2-week-holiday with his parents and that was the last holiday of theirs before my mother had a heart attack).