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Feeing like I cheated but I didnt 2017-08-27 02:21:24 Post No.18661402
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Feeing like I cheated but I didnt
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so I've had a crush on a girl I work with for a while, but havent acted on it because Im in a LTR with someone who I am still happy with I suppose, but she doesnt just drive me crazy anymore like the girl at work does. Shes very friendly and does some things that are borderline flirting, but maybe I'm just reading too much into it
but what happened was that there was a dog we had to put to sleep (we both work at an animal shelter kennel) who she was extremely attached to. basically the dog became so sick and aggressive after almost a year and we couldnt adopt him out, but she loved him so much. We did it at the end of the day and she couldnt stop crying, and I offered we go get something to eat together to help get her mind off of it. Well when we did she drank a bit too much and was still so upset she wasnt in a state to drive herself home. so I'm planning on dropping her off, and she mentions (to herself maybe? It was hard to tell with her drunk) that she didnt want to be alone. and I probably shouldnt have done it, but I bought her back to my place for her to sleep it off. we watched movies on the couch until she fell asleep cuddled up against me, and I didnt have the heart to move her. I didnt want to move her.
We've been working together like nothing happened and we never had sex but I still feel like I did something wrong. Should I be feeling so guilty?
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Cheating isn't just having sex with someone. You definitely crossed a line there, that's why you're feeling guilty.
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>>18661404
should I tell my GF then? idk what to do
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>>18661421
Will it make you feel less guilty if you do?
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>depressed
>fifth semester
>friends moving out, getting out of touch one by one
>classmates are very weird and I do not fit in with them
> don't have friends to introduce me to people
> my hobbies are lonely
> no groups I take interest in my university
>no romantic interests
> Do not know any way to meet new people and I do not think I would be a nice person to be with
>ex thought I was handsome and some other people but self esteem is non existant
I am seriously considering an hero every day. I am not native to thos city either, has anyone been in a situation similar to this? (as being 100% without anyone and unable to make new friends)
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Get a job, maybe meet someone and if not you still got the money
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>>18661654
I do not have money problems and my course is full time with fucked up schedules.. Plus study hours at home. I wish I could tho
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>>18661398
Just push through it til you graduate. College is shit.
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Sounds like a silly question, but my warped mind has a hard time wrapping itself around this concept.
I was at a (male) friends house in Sudbury this past week and I told him before I came that I didn't want to do anything sexual because I didn't feel comfortable.
When I got there he was kinda drunk (which I found out later) and he held my hands on the bed while shoving his hands up my shirt and down my pants. I told him I didn't want to do anything and to leave me alone but he didn't. He even pulled my shirt up so everything was exposed. It was quite humiliating. He kept telling me that I "like it this way." I don't really remember. I am not sure how long it lasted. The whole thing to me felt like an hour but it likely wasn't even close to that.
Anyways I just kinda froze and let him do his thing until he stopped. I just felt like I was backed up into a corner. I didn't know what to do. In this situation you always think you will kick-ass and defend yourself, but I just froze :(.
Anyways, the whole situation was weird and now I feel worse about myself as I am trying to like being touched by men, and now I feel like I have been set back many steps.
How do I get over this? I don't even know what the fuck happened :/
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Yeah, you definitely got molested. You should talk to someone about it, you'll feel better afterwards.
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>>18661383
the trouble with trying to like men, or women, is that they're a member of homo sapiens, a disgusting species of primate
they're capable of much worse and you're right to have extreme doubt in them until proven otherwise
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>>18661383
As someone who comes on here regularly to shitpost about how much he hates women I have to say that unless you're hiding certain details it sounds like pretty clear-cut molestation.
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Recommend me anime based on myanimelist!! 2017-08-27 02:12:13 Post No.18661380
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Recommend me anime based on myanimelist!!
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https://myanimelist.net/animelist/knopfler
the retards at plebbit didn't give me anything worth watching.
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>Mal
Just die
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>>18661380
Cowboy bebop
Space dandy
Uchuu patrol luluco
Death note
Spirited away
Kick heart
Tatami Galaxy
Ping pong the animation
5cm per second
Paprika
Perfect Blue
Gyo the movie
Tokyo godfathers
Astro boy
I just realized I have watched too much anime. Wtf am I doing. Luckily I have good taste.
Anime is the reason I don't have a bf. If you are a girl I can give you the Gud flujoshi shit. Just let me know
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>>18661432
Would you give the Gud flujoshi shit to a male attracted solely to fujoshi?
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How to be more sexually aggressive? I feel like an huge idiot. I'm the type of guy you could give many signals that you are interested and I still wouldn't get it. Looking back I realize there have been many opportunities to get with girls but I either pussied out or noticed too late that she was into me. There have been few instances where I made moves on girls and surprisingly it went well even with a girl who I thought hated me (I was drunk, that's why I made a move on her).
I think everything would be easier if I was just one of those sexually aggressive guys who take every opportunity to hit on girls. Every guy around me seems to have that natural drive to flirt with girls they like and I'm just standing here surprised how easy it looks for everyone else.
I'm just inept as fuck when it comes to sexual attraction although I have been called attractive many times, people think I'm funny and it happens that girls show interest in me. I don't get nervous around girls. I just don't get it.
21 year old virgin going to uni btw.
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just be yourself around girls, be engaging and funny, and be you. don't think about trying to get that pussy. when a girl starts hanging around you, laughing at your jokes, that's a good sign. do some very innocent, occasional touching and see how she responds. if she enjoys it, keep chatting her up, then create a situation where you two will be alone. go for a walk, say you had plans to go somewhere else, that sort of thing. say you're planning on watching a movie at your place, or say you'll kick her ass at cards or something. if she's game she'll come with you and end up at your place (or hers). badda bing badda boom.
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>>18661395
that's cool and all and I didn't have problems with that part so far but how do I get sexual since apparently as a guy it's all on me to make it sexual and take the initiative
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>>18661373
I'm not the lovemaster, so I can't tell you about what level of aggression you're supposed to have.
all I can say that is leaning towards being more aggressive, since you asked for that, is
a. all new and uncertain relationships come with a level of awkwardness that is nobody's fault
b. all of the women who were so aggressive I didn't need to be turned out to be fucked in the head
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How to stop being a pushover beta bitch? 2017-08-27 01:42:01 Post No.18661330
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How to stop being a pushover beta bitch?
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2017-08-27 01:42:01
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My ex cheated on me. Ghosted me after that, kept sparse contact but never actually left. Kept seeing the guy behind my back (I watched her snapchat location). Still would talk to me saying nothing happened (yeah right) etc and she's just confused and doesn't know if she wants to break it off or not.
I know this is all bullshit. But part of me wants to stay. Part of me wants to give her another chance. This is retarded. I know it is. But despite that I still don't want to leave. It's like I'm accustomed to abuse and think I deserve it. How do I stop being a fucking bitch and just leave?
Someone please slap some sense into me.
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Fuck that cheating whore,
Why would you put up with her shit
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>>18661330
Literally beat the shit out of the guy who she cheated with then bitch the shit out of her and leave.
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hey, you're me 15 years ago. break it off with the girl, be direct and brief, and stop talking to her. then you should get relationship coaching and/or therapy, while you perform actions/tasks to boost your self esteem. exercise also helps a ton.
i know it feels like you're trapped now, but if you do these things, you'll grow out of it.
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Just moved into my dorm for my sophomore year.
Last year had some extreme ups and downs.
1st semester
>finally wasn't tfw no gf
>broke up with me
>tfw no gf
>closest I've been to going through with suicide over winter break for several reasons
2nd semester
>pledged a fraternity
>had fun and met qts at parties
>hazed like fuck
>dropped fraternity
>back to no friends since all friends pledged same frat
>endure the rest of the year
I've looked at clubs and groups at my uni and I have no interest in any of them.
Not good enough to join any rec sport teams
Wary about pledging another frat because I don't want the same as last time.
Literally have no friends right now.
What do?
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>pls respond
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p-pls
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>>18661491
Don't kill yourself anon. I'm in a similar boat. Just transferred to university, live in a house with a family of strangers, fall asleep crying every night; have no friends; have an unstable relationship because I'm off medication and making my boyfriend sad all of the time.
I think you should go to counseling. It's not good to be considering suicide. Maybe get into Magic? That helped me. Keep trying to luck for clubs... if not in university than outside of it. Focus on school and experience the rushing reward of good grades. Try online dating and meet qt3.14s so that you're less lonely. Don't frat
>talk to grill all summer
>occasionally hang out with her when our mutual friends would invite her over
>take her on a couple small dates
>get really comfortable with her after a few months and get drunk with her at party
>stumble back to my place with her & took her virginity that night
>"anon I've wanted you for so long"
>"I'm so glad you're my first"
>"yes anon, just like that!"
>etc
>she leaves for college the following weekend (about 45 mins away)
>instead of talking everyday, we talk every other day
>she's now stopped messaging me first entirely
>she's now opening my messages and not responding most of the time
I really really like this girl, but I think she probably just doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I mean because she was REALLY into me a lot before she moved away. What happened? Does she miss me so much that she just wants to forget about me? Did I mistake summer fun for something more? I mean I took her virginity....
>pic unrelated of course
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>>18661325
>Did I mistake summer fun for something more?
Either this, or she's met someone else who's probably better in bed
>I mean I took her virginity....
So? She doesn't exactly sound like the sort of girl who wants her first time to be 'special' so why should she care?
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that's how girls operate. they can be really into somebody that fits into their plans. her plan for you was to bang you, have a summer fling, and that's it. she might want you on the side every now and then, so you can leave the door open for that if you want, but don't hound her. guaranteed she's going to be getting dicked by other dudes at college soon enough.
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>>18661368
damn anon, you're probably right
My bf is considering stopping taking an SSRI. He's taken it for the entire time I've known him. What sort of changes should I expect as he goes off it?
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If he's tapering off of the med with the guidance of a pyscharist or primary care doctor, he should be alright. If he's doing this as his own discsison, it can be a rough ride. The good news is that he'll lose the terrible side effects. Your boyfriend may lose weight if he had gained some by going on it and/or function better sexually. Stuff like that. If he comes off as depressed at times, you may not want to jump to the med change situation because it's basically impossible to come off an antidepressant and feel just as good or better after coming off it. That can be disengenuis to some. Making a huge shift in your (or anyone else for that matter) behavior will probably throw him off and there's a chance he'll get depressed. Hope this helps.
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Something I can actually help with
I knew a girl, met her when she was on SSRIs, spoke with her for several months after she stopped.
She really grew as a person and became ever more independent. Sometimes things got funky, but as time went on she ended up rediscovering herself and while it took a long time, she eventually started feeling herself again.
They will change as a person, but not necessarily in a bad way. And you'll end up changing with then.
I don't remember much, mostly just being impressed by how they weren't really the person I thought they were.
I don't really remember too much unfortunately.
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>>18661365
>rediscovering herself
>feeling herself
What does stuff like this even mean.
im a lazy irresponsible loser. how do i turn my life around and do something with myself
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find something that you want to accomplish and work towards accomplishing it.
then do that again about ten thousand times
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You won't. You don't change unless you decide to. Chances are you'll stay the same until you're forced to change, then you'll bend or break
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Very generic and common advice compilation: do it one step at a time with regularity, do not be too harsh on yourself, if you're past your 30s do not aim for the top, you can still find happiness with a modest income, do things that cannot be undone to force a little responsibility at a time upon yourself.
Slightly less common tip: give yourself a deadline for some serious improvement, like 1 or 2 years from the moment you've taken your first step (2 weeks without breaking your sleep cycle or consistent workout for example) ; consider drastic measures afterwards if you don't make it, like drugs to increase productivity and concentration, with carefulness and previous research ofc.
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Confusion about a friend's texting habits 2017-08-27 01:22:03 Post No.18661289
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Confusion about a friend's texting habits
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2017-08-27 01:22:03
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To keep it short, my friend will often go for 50 minutes to an hour without reading my texts. This wouldn't be a problem under normal circumstances, yet they often open the app 3-4 different times before responding.
I'm worried that they simply don't want to continue the conversation when they do this. Am I just being delusional and making stupid assumptions? Why would someone open a texting app with no intention of responding to all their texts? I don't know anyone else who does this so it strikes me as odd.
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Odds
1. Your convo is boring
2. He's bored, and goes through his apps
3. Busy and replies to newest texts
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I used to act similarly to your friend when i still had a decent amount of conversations going. Most of the times it was because i either had to think deeply about what to answer or was too taken by more important issues concerning that specific person to be able to keep on the small talk as if everything was alright.
Every now and then i was actually busy doing other stuff and just checked the message preview.
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>>18661305
I'm probably putting too much thought into it, frankly. I've known him for years and trust him more than anyone else, so the likelihood that he doesn't want to talk to me is pretty low.
Thanks for being an objective perspective on this.
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Yes I know the repercussions, I've done one before due to incidental reasons... I just want to do one for about a couple months, cut my calorie counts to bare minimum and lose about 40-50 lbs. I just want to know if there's any supplements I could use, and a minimum of activity to deter muscular loss.
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>>18661278
If you lose weight like that you're not going to keep it off. What's the point?
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Don't do it. No more than 500 calorie deficit.
Also, how old are you? Gender?
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>>18661282
Male 24
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I feel sad.
I don't understand, I got a job, and I'm working out. I'm also getting out of my house more, and meeting new people.
But, I can't shake this feeling of sadness.
I thought doing all this would make me feel better, but if anything I just feel worse, and I don't understand why.
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Its boring. God knows what humans are meant to do. It ain't this though.
That's literally it. Its just boring. At least for me.
Repetition is the worst thing ever for me. I hate it. I want something new every day.
Maybe its an over saturation of media? Like watching a cartoon show, every episode is something new? Maybe we think that's how life should be?
IDK
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Same, anon. I know how you feel. Even though you have everything kinda sorted out, there's something personal inside you that's still missing. It's like an unexplainable emotional void.
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How do I overcome childhood abandonment issues? I'm tired of being unhappy, and I know this is the root of my issues.
Summary:
>dad left my mom and I when I was a baby
>I was having issues when I was about 7 or 8, and my mom got in contact with him so I was able to get to know him
>We do the father/son thing for about 4 years, then he leaves again
>His entire family cut off contact both times he left
>He died 5 years after he left the 2nd time
>His whole family suddenly decide they want me around
>Tell them to fuck off
>Fast forward to today, my paternal grandpa recently passed away, and it's dredged all this shit up.
Issues I'm having:
>Avoid any kind of meaningful emotional interaction with people at all costs
>Emotionally distant from my mom, and don't tell her anything personal, even though I know she's one of the only people I can trust
>Feel angry any time I see other people that are in happy relationships, either romantic or familial
>Any time I meet new people, I'm quiet and stand-offish, and take a long time to come out of this
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You should try functional programming languages, a fast&easy way to distantiate yourself from problematic states. When you reach full purity, there will be no unneeded interactions. Helpful link: http://haskell.org
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>>18661255
thanks for the helpful information
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i dont know why but i stutter on words that start with w and some with h, my worse ones are what,where. and how. Also when people ask my name I have to say "my name is", or "I'm" or i stutter insanely hard. Its getting really annoying and awkward. Anyone have any tips
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I have a rather bad stutter
I talk fast which makes it worse. I feel your pain
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>>18661273
i never take breaths when i talk so i talk really fast to get it all in
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