Not here to ask for advice.
I just wanted to know what's it like to have people who genuinely love you. And not just in the romantic sense, but from friends and family. I'm closing on my thirties, and still have never had the privilege
>what it's like to be loved
The only thing on Earth that prevents me from killing myself. How you still haven't done that yet is a mystery to me, op
>>18661706
>How you still haven't done that yet is a mystery to me, op
Kind of getting close to it, desu.
>>18661699
that's why you've got to create one. Your past doesn't define you, your future does
Hi, first time poster as you'll notice lol but if you decide to give advice please be brutally honest and don't sugarcoat, tired of this bullshit honestly.
I just wanted to make a thread for help since I feel like I'm a betamale and I don't want to be. I try to get a partner by talking to other people, but everyone just fucks with my or is not clear about not wanting to hang out or make a relationship. Good example of someone is I talked to someone who was really nice and I felt was perfect, then she never responded unless it was like a 6 hour gap. She never made any effort to talk but when she did she sent amazing long messages that were thoughtful. I gave up because she never sent a message and didn't stick to plans at all even when I made one since nothing was getting done. I've been messed with by an entire lacrosse team using one girls phone, and I just want to be better.
I'm also really lonely in general, even though I like it most of the time I still get a terrible feeling in my gut whenever I think of how I have no friends even when I do. I'm super introverted and I try to make friends on /soc/ or irl and I end up talking for 3 days then ninja logging b/c I'm to lazy to make friends even when I want to make them and it pisses me the hell off. People are either to autistic or to normie to the point where it hurts me internally.
I try to exercise to stand out, I did it for 2 months straight then I got lazy and sad so I stopped for some reason, it makes me pissed but I don't have the drive to continue.
I don't mean to sound like a depressed faggot or anything but I just want help from other people that may have been in a similar place, Thanks in advance if you decide to help!
>>18661686
I used to be you 10 years ago. I remember being a kid like you.
I've got three things to say
1) Go to the gym. Start lifting
2) Make friends with normies. Go out in IRL and in public. Get drunk and fuck up.
3) Be confident and not give a shit.
Women are attracted to one thing. Power.
Power comes in many forms. Money, intelligence, muscles. It's all power.
You may think "Hurr, I'm supah smaht, I gots brains power".
You don't.
You're just a kid who thinks he's better than his peers because he reads books instead of trying to impress girls.
If you ignore everything else I say, go to the gym.
Become a fit twat if you have to be one
>>18661705
Thank you anon, how do you meet with normies? I'm really introverted and awkward AF, but do you just try to make conversation with random people? How do you become approachable?
>>18661728
Are you in college?
My high schooling was abnormal so I can't advise you at all.
But for college, if you're in a class, if someone says something, meet them after and be "Hey, I thought what you said about X was cool"
Bam you have a reason to talk to them.
I know it's hard. It was always hard for me to do that too.
If you can do it once, you can do it again.
If you're up for your first year, go to all your Frosh events. I made a mistake a didn't. Fuck that. Do it. Go to all the stupid Frosh shit.
If they make you do the introduction shit say "Hi, I'm David and I love ice cream"
Just be honest and smile a little more than you feel like you want to
Why do people confuse shyness for arrogance? I've been accused of walking and talking with an air of superiority, when that couldn't be farther from the truth.
>>18661685
Because all stupid Americans smile like an idiots to attract more people
Well insisting could be taken as arrogance.
Didn't you already make this thread earlier?
>>18661697
I did but the word normie triggered everyone. I used it in a sense they're more socially successful and generally better people while I'm a fuck up, but some anons took it as an insult and got distracted.
Is it even possible to get over romantic feelings for a friend?
>>18661676
Yep it is , in fact a friend already knows your ugly ass
And she or he will tell straight answer to you , "yes or no "
>>18661683
Listen m8 we both decided that it would be best if we stayed friends
Yep. Took me two years almost exactly, and a shit ton of personal growth. I also spent like 30-40 hours a week alone with her through that time, not sure if that helped or made it worse but I got through it.
Hi /adv/
I'm on vacation with a girl, and she's made it clear that she's interested in casual sex, but how do I initiate it in such a way that if she didn't mean with me I don't ruin the entire week?
Don't worry once she sees how small your dick is she won't want to fuck anymore
Go take a walk and talk about anything and then bar hop
>>18661674
We actually did some bar hopping today, which is when she told me about her previous attempts to set up elaborate encounters, even though she's a virgin.
Got my girlfriend pregnant just abort it or go for the good ol push down steps. Or hanger idk give me some advice.
>>18661671
Well making an abort .. it will fuck her up so badly later.. she will regret her life and regret that she met you because the baby was killed
Be a responcible man and make your gf happy... even with little money you can have happiness
Are you the same guy from last week?
Or are kids nowadays really this fucking stupid
Do the world a favour and abort that fucking mistake. If you're too retarded to put on protection or pull out, and your gf is too retarded not to keep up with birth control, knowing that you're a fucking retard thrn that makes both of you too fucking stupid to be parents.
Plus it starts with one and she'll be wanting more so good luck with that.
>>18661731
Children are the key to world peace and happiness hey? Is that what you tell yourself every night after you rape you 5 wives?
I met this girl about a month ago, and we've been texting every day since. A few weeks ago I discovered she was dating a guy, but broke up with him about a week ago. We can talk about anything to one another, and nothing is off limits. I feel so good when I talk to her, and we love spending time together; but I don't know how to convince her that we should start dating. I feel like we're too close, if that makes sense. Advice?
>>18661664
Bump
>>18661664
Been in a similar situation.
Jump on it.
Ask her out on a fucking date. And don't be too ambiguous about it.
>>18661664
If you only text each other, get to meet her more, go out with her, if you don't want this to be dates yet I think it's alright, they're going to be dates over time (when you'll go out)
How should I go about buying Indonesia?
Buy Indonesia? Like, all of it?
I'm sure there are better investments anon
>>18661644
Start small. Buy Bali first, and then leverage it.
Why? Shit and giggles?
I get incredibly anxious when Im given instructions by somone to do something. I feel like I cant take basic instructions without getting a panic attack. Its not always but it has been a constant problem my whole life. Could this be due to childhood trauma?
Being a faggot does have a great impact throughout life.
>>18661628
>Could this be due to childhood trauma?
Why do you care? What would it change even if it was?
There isn't a strict cause-and-effect between traumas and behavior. We always hear how those who abuse their children were also abused BUT not all who were abused automatically abuse in response.
You can deal with your problem now without needing to look for excuses for it.
>>18661628
Take notes. There's no shame in that. Many "normal" people do that, just to be sure.
Just say "Wait a minute. Let me write this down, step by step, just so I'm sure." Nobody will be offended or think you're being odd in any way.
So after browsing this place for a few minutes I think I figured this place out. It's just tumblr but for sexist people and faggots.
So, just tumblr.
This is pathetic. Take a few more minutes and learn to close threads while you're at it.
>>18661627
Pretty much Tumblr. Two places with two groups of people who are just looking for someone to blame for the fact that they're unlikable, unfuckable human garbage.
How do I get a 25-35 year old long-term boyfriend as a 21 year old woman? I want maturity, not money.
>>18661626
Be hot.
If you arent hot now, work for it. Thats all you gotta do.
And dont die
>>18661626
>I want maturity, not money.
Then you have to have the maturity of a 25-35 year old.
>>18661626
1. be hot
2. don't have had significantly more sexual partners than him
3. demonstrate your willingness to contribute something more than your body to the relationship
that's basically all we want and yet it's just too much to ask for a huge percentage of the female population.
I found out this evening that my boyfriend of 3 years fabricated his entire backstory to me. When we met, he told me this elaborate tragic story that was extremely hard to believe, but he stuck to it.
FOR YEARS I tried to get him to admit that it didn't really happen. I tried to give him so many outs, but I just accepted that it happened.
Today, we got a letter in the mail that was written to him, and it confirmed my suspicions. It was all a lie.
Now, none of it actually affects a single thing in our relationship, as I've told him sooo many times that I don't care about what happened in his past. But this is a huge betrayal.
I don't know if I should do anything or not. We never argue. We are a perfect couple. The only thing that has ever happened is this. This gigantic lie about his life.
What would you do?
>>18661624
What was the lie? What did the letter say (and why were you opening his mail)?
Lemme guess, involves his family?
Wtf was the back story?
>>18661631
I'd rather not get into the details, but yes, it was about family.
The letter was from someone that he claimed was dead.
So I know the sage advice never hit on a girl while she is at work.
But what about when I"m at work? I do front desk, nights and weekends, and we get a lot of single women with obviously have nothing going on but are desperate for something. I've always been afraid to jump on the cues they put down for coming off as creeper or something, breaking some unspoken rule. Not tryin to get fired just yet.
Just ask the girl that you're interested on to go for lunch together. After awhile move on to dinner.
>>18661607
Too add into the sage advice: if you're trying to hit and have a success, consider to arrange one of you to move into a different workplace, or if it's only working as a fling, then be professional about it, "don't ask, don't tell."
>>18661607
I used to work at a hotel as overnight... I don't think I'd have ever hit on a girl there. You're going to go from artificially being nice and explaining how you are a servant to trying to be smooth? Idk what type of girls stay there but if it's a cheaper one maybe...business hotel fuck no and a resort probably not.
I have had women hit on me. Drunk ones overnight shoved money down my pants when I went to help them with shit. Sometimes awkward ones would ask me to linger in their rooms but it never escalated and I never had an interest in bothering after work.
Coworkers are a different story. I was able to sleep with a few coworkers. Idk if you get those foreign 1 yr contract workers but the girls are isolated away from anyone who cared about them in a new city/country and usually single since girls are terrible with ldr. It's about as easy as it gets for fwb just don't be a dumbass about it.
>used to be a staunch Christian
>spent my time calling atheists, agnostics, or even those merely questioning their faith autists without lives
>start reading philosophies, studying other religions, and reading Nietzsche (that was the real catalyst)
>begin to question my faith
I don't know anymore. I definitely believe there is a god. However, I've been deviating from Christianity yet at the same time refusing to completely give it up. I seek answers from other Christians but sometimes their hypocrisy and extreme judgement just disgusts me and further fuels my questioning.
Has anyone else been through a similar situation?
>>18661604
Started off Christian, had more issues with it over time. Eventually I gave it up and found my own set of beliefs that feels right to me, at least for now
>>18661611
Did you doubt yourself when going through that?
>>18661604
I gave up on Christianity due to circular reasoning. or at least that was the one of many reasons i gave up on religion in general. it's all bullshit
Hey guys, school just started and I'm trying to get to know a girl in my French class. It's been two classes already and we were seated side by side both times (rather randomly). She's pretty and seems introvert (just like me) - she doesn't talk much.
In the second class we had a small team-work to do, we were a team of five and we both were in the same team obviously.
I'm waiting for my next class to be [hopefully] near her.
I'm aware it might be hard to start a conversation without being weird, but I already know that one good way would be to do a joke, maybe make her laugh. I think presenting myself "officially" would be awkward as hell.
I also found her on Facebook, but I'm not gonna add her now, would be too soon in my opinion.
So, I'm here asking for your help.
>What should I do?
>What should I avoid doing?
>>18661596
Don't try to do anything in the first week or two of school. Just be a warm, comforting presence. Smile, offer her a pencil (I am old, I realize that probably isn't still a thing), make small talk about the lectures. Have your shit together (dress neatly, show up on time with margin, appear prepared).
Once you lay that groundwork, then just be up front and honest and steer clear of all that subtly shit (she's introverted, she doesn't like dealing with people's shit). Say something like "Its been cool hanging with you in class and you seem real nice. Can I take you out for coffee sometime?" Or movie or lunch or whatever you prefer.
In short, be forthright but don't come on too strong. Be cool and earnest.
>>18661614
OP, do not interpret 'dress neatly' to mean 'dress shirt and tie'.
Just don't wear T-shirts too large for you and cargo shorts.
>>18661618
Yeah I'm not a fuckboy so that's not an issue
Thank you, I'll gather the most tips I can here