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>>18664456
Pro tip: we don't know you or these women, so we can't help you

>>18664456
Sounds like both are really shit options. NEITHER is a good long term partner.

Go with neither, and keep looking.

Given this very limited and brief information. 1 sounds better if you're planning to be a husband. Then again we're not you. So do what you want

do new things constantly to distract yourself from the pain

>>18664448
Do something productive
>>18664449
Ignore this person.

>>18664452
Honestly, it's hard to think about anything else than working up the courage to kill myself. I don't want anything life has to offer. Thanks for the advice. I'll try to figure out what to do...

This is why you are a virgin.
But yeah, stop trying to find meaning in all the little shit. Relax, you'll eventually find someone who wants your d.

streaks you fucking dipshit

Why would you want to kill yourself? Just curious.

>>18664438
Depersonalization is what I think I have, but it's probably an offshoot since it's pretty different from the common symptoms. Ego death? PTSD? Panic disorder? Elements of all of them. Plus the good ol classic major depression. I'm a husk. I'll leave it at that.

Ah, okay. Do you have any friends or family? Sorry that I'm not really helping by the way..

Go and get a vasectomy...?

>>18664367
Freeze your stuff, then get a vasectomy.

>>18664367
Vasectomy. That's really it, at least for another ten or so years. Male birth control pills are in human trials in the UK, but not yet in the US. So if you're in he US, you'll be waiting a while.

Wait shit how could you get busted with a guy then? Are you like confused or something?

What kind of busted actually? Dick-in-mouth, or just plain two dudes chilling together? Just say it like, "hehehe it's just a prank!" and never mention it again. And go fuck girls.

>>18664359
Stop acting like a guilty person, and confront the problem. You have nothing to hide, right?

Right?

Just beeee urself :,)

>>18664357
It could be that people feel you are trying to hard and it feels fake. Are new people blowing you off or people you knew for a while that you are trying to become closer with

>>18664420
People I've known. They always have an excuse for why, but I have to pry it out. They don't even tell me they can't, I just get ignored. It's so fucking rude, girls will even reject me in that fasion

>>18664429
Yeah it can be hard to change a first impression people make of you. If you are trying to be social now when you weren't before people might not understand that. Just make sure you make a good impression on new people and build from there.

If you believe that he won't make it another 24h. I say to just ride it out. Save yourself the insane hospital bills they'll charge you just for getting him a room for a few hours, and some pain medicine to make him comfortable. Let him rest at home, I say. If you have pain meds to make him comfortable, that works too.

It's a difficult moral choice. To go against his wishes, or to do what you can to give him the most time.

The thing is Anon, he's already made up his mind. Even if you could buy him more time, it won't make a difference, it's just delaying the inevitable. There's no telling how the stress would affect him, either.

This isn't your fault, and ultimately, your actions don't matter. It's beyond anyone's control. Your father is dying, he knows this. Spend what time you have left beside him, while he's with his family in his home. That's the most comfort he'll be able to have.

Be strong, Anon.

>>18664338
This, hit up some med school connects and get Pops some opioids

Just make the goddamn cup of tea and do what you've been planning on doing. Hardest part is to actually starting it.

Don't be hard to yourself if you think you fucked up. There's still more time to go and try again. Forgive yourself and keep it on.

>>18664339
You're absolutely right anon, it's so hard to get over my fears but I have to. I won't get anywhere if I can't even make a simple cup of tea and talk with people.

Fuck, fuck, fuck I'm terrified at the prospect of seeing through my lame attempt at conversation.

Thanks anon, I'll try.

>>18664305
>However, I'm terrible at talking - one of the worst conversationalists in the world.
That's not true. If you did something wrong, so what? It's not that terrible really.

>>18664364
>at the prospect of seeing through my lame attempt at conversation
You have zero idea about what goes through their head, let alone their opinions about you. And if they judged you, so what? You shouldn't validate yourself through others.

Here's a prime example that I think shows how he is intentionally trying to push my buttons:

>last week
>physics department (I'm a physics major) is throwing meet and greet in lounge for new freshman
>go with junior buddy (also physics student, not my roommate)
>start talking with a couple freshman
>notice one of the kids is kinda anti-social, probably has slight autism/aspergers
>relatively innocent kid
>later on, after the event, friend says that kid threw a cup at him after mentioning something about drinking alcohol
>wasn't surprised, kid probably doesn't know how to act
>talk about it with roommate and friend, roommate says he would have kicked his ass
>laugh it off, thinking he's joking
>then I say seriously that I wouldn't because probably get kicked out of school
>he's like "No I would legitimately do it, and if they kicked me out I would just get a job with my family."
>wat.exe
>argues that he would be within his right to defend himself
>I tell him he wouldn't, he would look like an asshole if he beat up a freshman at the event held for them all the while in front of students and faculty members you know
>says he wouldn't give a shit
>says "You're just a liberal, you wouldn't understand"
>told him that I'm not a liberal and then let it go

He's conservative and he knows I'm independent, he called me a liberal to push my buttons. I know he's talking out of his ass when he says he would beat up this kid over this stupid shit, which leads me to believe he's just trying to argue with me for no specific reason.

It's literally only been like 2 weeks since we moved back in with each other and I have other stories about how he's being an asshole, maybe I'll post some.

My question to /adv/ is how do I deal with this? If he's jelly of me, do I just shut the fuck up and let him win? If this goes on should I confront him about it? Idek what to do at this point, I feel like I've lost a friend.

Sadly, you were right, you lost a friend. Perhaps he's never even consider you as his friend to begin with.

Keep your conovo with him into minimum since he's not responding well anyways. Only confront him when he's going over the line. Keep it to yourself most of time and consider him a lost cause to you.

>>18664331
No we were friends, but sometimes I don't think he's entirely lost as we still have good humored conversations inside the room and out. He just seems to respond differently some times...

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Cuck the bf? You know what you gotta do.

Long distance relationship are bad since both parties would be physically unable for most of time to be intimate.

I see no wrong for you to make a move on her should her relationship situation are not improving. ALso, it's not like you're crusing someone's marriage they're still on dating phase, right? GO for it.

Age is a big factor here how old are you guys ?

>>18664281
People only like those books because they offer "insights", I only care about Edward Muzika's.

>>18664281
Yeah, this isn't just you anon. If you've got serious intentions to be cultured, then reading is probably an important thing to do. The other day a friend of mine recommended that everyone read the Bible, Christian or not, because there are so many artistic/literary references to it that if you don't know much about it's contents, you'll be missing out on a lot of references. So, even though this is unsolicited, you might want to pick up the Bible and read from front to back (or at least the more interesting parts. I'm sure there's a guide somewhere) is probably a good piece of literature to start with if you want to be cultured. Other holy texts too I guess, but idk anything about them.

That said, I think it'd be pretty reasonable to say that you don't really have to give a shit about being cultured. In many facets of life, that's how I feel. I don't want to fly to South America and get high on DMT. I don't want to be eaten alive by mosquitos (or alligators) on a turbine-powered boat in the bayou. I don't want to climb Mount Everest. I don't want to eat monkey brains or dog meat. I'll be missing out on all of these things, but that's okay, because I don't give (enough of) a shit about any of them and plenty of other things. Nobody's got enough time to soak all of those experiences in, so you've got to pick and choose. If you feel like reading classical literature isn't worth your time, then don't. There are other ways to pick up the skills/merits that people say come from reading those sorts of books.

Cont

>>18664346
If you read technical manuals, textbooks, or other 'non-fiction,' you'll walk away with meaningful skills while still improving your vocabulary and reading comprehension, which I take to be two of the biggest reasons that people want to promote reading in the first place. I think that fiction is more commonly recommended than non-fiction because it seems like it could appeal to more people, making reading less of a chore, but I pulled that out of my ass. I don't know.

I doubt that you'll find enlightenment in a fictional book (or a non-fictional book for that matter). I picked up Dostoyevsky from my library about a month ago for the exact same reasons. I still haven't finished the little anthology of short stories, but what I've read is good. It hasn't changed my life, and I bet that when (if) I finish it, it still won't. It's just another means of reflecting on your own experiences. You can reflect in ways besides reading, so if you feel like you'd rather educate yourself in other ways, then I'd encourage you to do so. Anybody who thinks they're 1337 for reading old books is probably a cunt looking for attention. Reading old books is fine, but having to brag about it or put other people down for not doing so is absolutely cringy, in my humble opinion. Reflection is something that you've got to do for yourself. Reading the reflections of others can obviously be helpful, but supplanting your own efforts with other people's words is doing yourself a grave disservice.

I see the irony, and I'm sorry to be such a cunt. I've just dealt with a lot of pseudointellectuals like the ones you described, and I really resent that shit. I think it's toxic to confidently and un-ironically propose that "everybody needs to watch Game of Thrones" or "spend a year in a foreign country." Don't be a sheep. When somebody else's prescription for satisfaction/peace/etc fails you, look elsewhere or come to your own conclusions.

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>>18664278
most women probably are repulsed by you

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80% of women are closet-politically incorrect.

Serious.

Wow, she literally just advertised that she'd fuck a dog. I've never really seen that. If a dude said that, people would go ballistic.

>>18664262
Yeah I used to be the same. All it really takes is practice. Now that you are aware that you are subconsciously doing it you can instead force yourself to get out of your comfort zone and talk to women. After a while it gets easier.

>>18664262
I've got the exact same problem anon

Don't beat yourself up! Talking to people you're attracted to can be hard, everyone has trouble with it.

I used to be really shy, still have some problems with it but sometimes telling myself "Everyone experiences this, relax. You're not alone." helps with my social anxiety. Also a conversation tip: The best way to seem interesting is to seem interested so once you guys are on speaking terms be sure to ask her a lot about herself!

>>18664260
Have you paid any attention to your hygiene, grooming, and style? Appearance matters whether you liked it or not.

Also, finding the one who'll click with you is essentially a number game, you have to put your best and keep trying until it sticks. Don't be discouraged if you're still haven't found any. Keep searching and improving yourself on the part you think you fucked up on.

Eh, you also can kiss your cousin then? It's not like it's forbidden. Ha just kidding.

Higiene is great, grooming is alright/fairly good, although I don't have much of a sense of style so I'll definitely have to work on that.

Btw you got a point there lol, that was funny and the second I mentioned my cousin I knew someone would say something there, although I'm glad to say I wasn't expectingn such a friendly and helpful anon!

Thanks for the advice!