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>>17884218

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>>17884218
Get a new hobby, but a fountain pen or a dip pen for writing calligraphy

>pic related

>>17884302

*buy*

>>17884185
Don't be such a pussy dude

>>17884187
How do I do that?

Grab her by the pussy.

Same problem bump

>>17884219
OP here, let's talk man. How did you get me into this situation? Are you trying/doing anything to get out of thus vicious circle?
For me it's always find new friends > feel good > realise all the drama > try not to get in > ignore drama > get sucked in either way > see all the pretence and lies and bullshit > get fed up with it > leave group

I'm honestly pretty tired of this "being social" crap. Waste of time and nerve.

>>17884184
This is called getting older. People feed you that you need 1000 friends and to never be alone but it's all bullshit. When you get older you stop caring about people who don't really care about you. Just keep the true friends for as long as possible and realise that friends move on with their lives and may not be permanent.

I would only be worried if you end up completely alone and sad.

>>17884170
No, don't take that shit.

Fuck pharmaceuticals.

Why don't you actually fucking work on it yourself instead of popping some pills(tm)

Anxiety has great outcomes without meds because anxiety meds are not effective long-term and become an unsustainable crutch. So do seek help, but since you yourself described your case as "mild" you would be fine avoiding meds.

That said, they aren't evil and some people NEED them. Anyone who says otherwise hasn't had/hasn't seen severe mental illness. They won't turn you into a robot. Everyone reacts differently. I feel a little robotic on SSRI's- they cause a blunt affect in me. So I simply told my shrink that and we looked into other drug classes. People who stay on meds they don't like without looking at all their options, while whining about their meds, are kinda stupid.

That said, no pill is perfect, and none are 100% safe, and since your condition doesn't demand them...

Look into therapy. Anxiety is generally a thearpy-type issue anyway, data supports this.

NO NO NO NO NO

Exercise, change your diet, and go see a counselor if you need that after the last two don't work out enough. There is a reason why multiple European countries have legislation to ban them, because they're psuedoscientific at best and directly harmful at worst.

>>17884135
because the point of clubbing is no strings attached sex
that would mean adding strings

>>17884142
I agree with you, but if she gave OP her number, she must've expected something.

But club girls are flaky and I still think you're right.

>>17884135

Just move on, there is infinite possibilities why she is no longer interested but I'd say it's a bullet dodged that a one night stand isn't responding to you. I know it's hypocritical as you are the other half in the equation but someone like that isn't really relationship material in my opinion Just think of how many other times she might have done the same with other guys.

But if I had to put my money on the reason it would be that she regretted her drunk actions and just isn't interested, or is already talking to a guy and just had a one night stand in between.

>>17884131
There have been many attempts to break down "what a man is", and it's always led nowhere. Why do you even care?

Learn to do whatever you feel like doing and be free to think for yourself. Maybe that's what some would call a man, but that's just being an individual.

>>17884144
I feel like managing myself into a wheelchair or getting myself otherwise crippled just in case it's a physical matter, just so nobody will expect me to participate.

>>17884131
>What was I supposed to learn instead?

i dont know if you are "meant" to learn anything. i was never really taught anything from my father and im doing pretty good. everytime i fuck up i make sure i learn from my mistake. most guys think im a cool, nice guy and women find me adorable (in the good way that they will date and fuck me).

>>17884118
I just prioritize. I don't smoke weed during the semester and I try not to veg out too much if I do. In your case just stop and maybe smoke as a special occasion with your wife and fuck. Like on Christmas or your birthday, you know. Just buy a gram. Think about being more motivated and less fat and you won't want as much weed.

Yeah, I'm in the same boat. My career is ready to go, all I gotta do is buckle the fuck up. I don't even have to quit, I just need to slow down.

But shit man, every time I go sober for the whole day, it reminds me how much of an irritable asshole I can be. Chemically induced apathy can be a very good thing for some people, even if it makes us lazy and unmotivated.

I generally only smoke late at night before bed or special events. Im finishing a CS degree in May and weed has never stopped me and I don't plan on stopping it.

My buddy drinks a lot, one day I watched him drink 6 12% beers in a sitting. The guy works for some of the largest financial banks in the world and always does his shit. When he doesn't have things to do he's another person.

Wanna tell me wtf 3dpd means in the first place?

>>17884130
Nvm. Found out. Well, first line of defense would be realizing the so called perfect world anima is making you envision doesnt exist. People are pieces of shit. Everyone in anima is a cool interesting friend who would give his life for you just about 5 mins after meeting you. Truth is, such people DO exist, but are a very rare find. Think 1 in 1000. Maybe I'm exaggerating but idgaf it's how I feel. You would need to work very hard for such a friendship.

The second line of defense is, if you can't accept that the majority of people are self-centered, uncaring normie pieces of shit focused only on your looks, you delve into even bigger depression, and try and ask your doc for anti-depressants.

Also stop watching anima, it's a fake world created by the authors that pulls you into their show making you live in the non existent perfect fabricated world, it DOESNT EXIST, thats perfectionism and will continuing watching perfect things that dont exist will only make you feel worse about your imperfect life. QUIT NOW

>>17884130
3D Pig Disgusting, a way to refer to women/real people as less than something like 2D characters.

>>17884099
I can relate to your situation to some extent. Try not to focus on them being "3DPD", but instead on personality. If you act a certain way and end up with a group of friends, nice. Otherwise, guess you just couldn't find anyone worth your time.

Yeah, it turns out that literally nothing that happens in High School matters. Welcome to the churn, kiddo.

>>17884079

Ditch the online relationships, just cut all contact, they seem to be lowering your confidence and ego rather than boosting it. Try to get in shape, eat better and exercise, maybe take up lifting (look into starting strength program), start socialising more, reach out to people you've lost contact with and see what they are up to, if you drifted apart without any bad blood most of them will respond kindly, I mean these were you friends right. You're very young so improving your self image and confidence, getting out more and socialising will go a long way to improving your outlook on life.

>>17884079
Are you going to college or do you have a job or... what do you do all day?

Go to /fit/, read the sticky, get a gym membership and start getting back into shape. Find some active hobbies that get you out of the house.

>>17884075
Ask /r9k/. Not here. Now go away.

>>17884075
Don't go outside.

>>17884075
>Interaction with women just makes me depressed and suicidal

probably because you have never interacted properly with one and therefore they are alien to you when they are actually just people.

how should we know? your mom could be a crack whore single mom or a golddigging russian mail orderd bride or a christian career woman or a blak sahm. you think all those people would be happy with one and the same thing?

the only thing all those moms would probably value is you soendong quality time with them. so pick up a voucher to do soemthing TOGETHER

>>17884066
Obviously you don't know my Mom specifically, but throwing out any idea based on what you know about moms w ould be helpful.

Thanks.

>>17884068
well, that is my best idea i have about moms in general. just the fact that you've but in the effort to think about what would make her happy will make her happy the most.
maybe there's something she really likes to eat and you could get a high end product off? chocolate? cheese? tea?

maybe there's something specific she loves but thinks it's tol expensive to buy for herself on a daily basis? for example: i know my sister loves white truffles and lobster, but she wouldn't just buy that for herself, so it makes a nice present. even if it's weird to gift a lobster. she loves it.

or go for dinner in her fav restaurant?

or, gift her something relaxing like a voucher for a professional massage or something? a pedicure?

maybe she would enjoy something diy. get a bottle of red wine and mix a spice mix for mulled wine and give her that

>>17883997
Just stop, man. Shit, what's wrong with you? How's it so hard to not go out and do some shit? Fuck

>>17883997
Get a job, pinko faggot.

>>17883997
It's the aussie curse. I'm the same, mate. Got some VB in the fridge looking so good right now.

Maybe you should leave her, but that also depends on whether you can find someone else.

>>17883989
You sure she's not depressed and trying to hide it? Keep in mind chronic conditions can last for years at a time

>>17884206

This. Some people just have different interest/energy levels, but depression can make someone like this as well.

I like hobbies more than my bf, who is happy with his one hobby- games. But in terms of keeping up with hobbies, wanting sex, being disorganized....I feel that feel. As in, the feel of clinical depression.

>>17883952
It means she wants to make sure she's doing better than you.

>>17883959
Even after like 4 months? lol

>>17883962
yes lol thats how this works

>>17883951
Go. Be polite and gentlemanly, but cool. End with "This has been pleasant and I am glad to have met you. But I don't think there's anything to build on here, so I wish you well and hope you find what you're looking for with someone else."

It's the basic courtesy you owe anyone.

>>17883951
Bite the bullet, meet her once.

Maybe do it at yours or her house so you don't have to be seen in public with her. Get drunk. Make sure she gets drunk. Rest of the night will work itself out.

>>17883956
>>17883958
Fuck, really don't want to go but you guys are right. Id be kind of a piece of shit if I didn't show.

Just worried this is gonna come back to bite me in the ass.