>Dude just join a club/group lmao
Yeah, but where the hell do I find shit like that, I can't find anything
>>17887345
try meetup.com
poke around craigslist
look in those local free newspapers for your city
use your brain that is what it is for
>>17887567
>use brain to look for STDs and shitters
>>17887567
Do you even use those? I'm pretty sure the people that recommend these ideas are people that give throw away advice to people they really can't relate to.
How a man's love working? I find it hard to understand. For example, when woman fall in love she knows that this man is destined for her, chosen by gods, he is the only one who can make her happy. Even if there is exact same copy of him she will love her own man because he make this funny sleepy face at morning or some other insignificant stuff. For men I see it like that:
1) meet an attractive woman with slightly brain presence
2) make sure she likes the same shit as you
3) immediately love her
You're entirely wrong and extremely bluepilled
>>17887338
Please open my eyes with your explanation of love.
>>17887333
>when woman fall in love she knows that this man is destined for her, chosen by gods, he is the only one who can make her happy.
Why does she fuck other men behind his back then?
ima turkish guy who is relatively off by family and can live without working a single day of my life. but the country is islamized rapidly and i wonder if it would eventually end as another syria, so if i choose to go to europe as a migrant i will be poor and not able to live quite like here but will be safe and guarantee my future maybe. what should i do family ?
beyler :)
Open up a Baklava shop
Why is ur familt well off? Do they own like kebab shops? *sarcasm*=
I have no problem in having positive feelings, but as soon as other people express them I immediatly get mad.
Here's an example:
>buy a christmas gift for my mom
>give it to her
>as soon as she starts smiling I immediatly start feeling a mixture of discomfort, disgust and anger
And this applies to literally every person I've ever met, it basically driven to complete isolation for years. I love people in theory and I feel I have great empathy, but there is somenistinct that just bring me to hate them as soon as they stop acting cold and lifeless.
I've just realized how fucked up it is, but I don't know what's its roots and how should I address it. Is it autism?
>>17887007
This happens alot to me too, I would ignore women that like me, if someone becomes proud of me no matter what it is I get that feeling of disgust.
>>17887280
If I had to guess you're jealous of their feeling happiness because you don't feel happy very often/at all
Hm, might be that you have a low opinion of yourself, so when you see someone being happy cause of you, you get angry and confused because how can an another person think higher of you than yourself.
So my girlfriend and I tried out some BDSM stuff for the first time 2 nights ago.
She's always been into the idea but we haven't gotten around to it until now. We agreed to try both of us playing dom and sub to see what we like best or if we want to keep doing both. We started with her being dom and the whole thing has gotten me very... confused. Seeing her like that was really weird, like she was a completely different person. And I actually enjoyed it. I ennjoyed it a lot more than I thought I would. But now I'm kind of concerned for two reasons.
Reason number 1: I'm not sure if I'll be able to pull off the whole dom thing as well as she did. She seemed really committed and really knew what she was doing. I'm worried that we'll start and I won't really know what to do. The idea of being dom turns me on but I just don't know if I'll be able to do it right.
Reason number 2: If seeing her like that was so strange for me, I'm concerned about what seeing me as sub was like for her. I don't want it to change the way she sees me outside of the bedroom. This is compounded by the fact that I don't know if I'd be a good dom, because if that means that we don't end up sticking with both, then I'm worried there won't be a balance in the relationship and so it'll be more likely that her as dom and me as sub will bleed into the rest of our relationship, and I don't want that.
I know this must be really basic paranoia that sounds totally ridiculous to anyone who's into BDSM, but I can't quite shake it.
Should I do something? Say something? Or just see where it goes?
I'm not into bdsm, but to be a good dom I guess you just do whatever you want. Don't try to play a role, just do what you want and forbid her of her free will for the session.
Also, being sub in the bedroom doesn't mean you can't be dominant out of it. Just impose your will over hers outside the bedroom.
https://www.reddit.com/r/bdsmfaq/
What you're experiencing is far from ridiculous. This is perfectly natural after discovering these exciting new things about yourself, your girlfriend and your relationship.
First things first, communication is key in BDSM. If you haven't already, sit down and have a conversation about the play-session. Both your concerns seem to come from you not knowing how she has experienced things.
Tell her what excited you, ask her what excited her, try to come up with fun thing to add to the next session, etc.
Exchanging experiences and reliving the fun you both had will allow the way you experience BDSM to grow.
Talking will also give you an idea of what your girlfriend would enjoy in being a sub, which in turn will help with the anxiety over doing the "right" thing as a dominant.
Also, know that there's no "right" way of being dominant. All there is to it is having control and that you're free to do as you please (within the constraints of consent, of course). The only measure of "right" is whether you're having fun.
While the bleed-effect is quite possible, it doesn't have to be a bad thing. Even if it happens, it could be a fun addition to your relationship. If it isn't, be open and talk about it. But, allow it some room. By rejecting any bleed straight of the bat, you close off a big path of potentially fun growth.
Bottom-line, if you're open and honest about BDSM, both inside and outside the bedroom, you can make it the most enjoyable experience for both of you.
To answer your last three questions: Have fun. Be open. And definitely see where this ride will take you.
>made a good number of friends in the past 2 years
>they all enjoy my personality apparently
>when we hang out some guys straight up tell me they came just because they were looking forward to spend time with me
>a girl even said that without me it wouldn't be as fun
And yet I'm gonna spend the holidays alone and miserable like the past 10 years.
I just wanna spend time with somebody I appreciate, but I'm never part of anybody's plans.
>>17887262
doesn't make sense
if you want somebody special you need to tell him/her that ask them on a date 1-1 not with other people
yes this really does make a difference !
>>17887262
Having basket of friend is useless. You need one good friend that will be your soul-friend, aka best friend that you will completely trust.
>>17887262
Maybe they are being sarcastic.
My girlfriend and I have been in a very volitle relationship for 7 years. In the beginning she treated me like dog shit and hit me and stuff (1st year) and ever since pretty much I have been angry and violent back. It didn't help that she would have sex with others. I never cheated physically during the past 6 years. The worst I'd do is talk to girls online. I broke up with her for like 3 months. I got a job at a restaurant and eventually she got the same job. All while we weren't together. Eventually we have sex and I get HPV from her because she was fucking anything and everything while we weren't together. This year was OK compared to the past but then recently(like 2 or 3 months) we been arguing alot and I found out she was talking to the same people again so I go out and have
Sad shitty sex with some random tinder whale. Which brings us to today, I've been in a state of making it up to her and yesterday I went out with my brother to do last minute Xmas shopping and then we hit up a bar. I didn't see her at all and barely contacted her. But I did say I'd be out. I hadn't planned on drinking and not seeing her, but I got wasted and went home even though I said I'd see her later. She called me about not seeing her and I went off on her saying things like I can't be with my family? I can't have a day without you? Sorry for long post but what should be my next move?
Run for the hills ...
>>17887266
Just end it? But it's the holidays....
Please someone help...
How do you tell your partner of +1 year you don't love them anymore? It just seems impossible to dodge the guilt tripping and, possibly, anger
>didn't even make a year
>swears it was love
Yeah, sure buddy.
>>17887243
Are you sure you don't love them anymore? Are you even sure you know what love is?
>>17887247
fair questions, but people tend to say it the way op did if they already got their eye out
I can't stop being a hateful piece of shit. I try my best to let go of the prejudices and disgust I hold for some people, namely fat people, Muslims and certain shades of brown people, but the second I see them it swells within me. Is there any way to get yourself to be more accepting, to feel more love for the people around you?
>>17887207
Take a long look at yourself. Are you a productive member of society, or are you also a drain, just like the people you hare?
Have you ever even talked to a brown person? Maybe get out more.
Date a Muslim chick. You'll suddenly grow an understanding for both other religions and other races.
I'm in my early twenties. Where could I meet not-totally-stupid girls ?
Classroom
>>17887193
I you knew the number of shallow whores in business schools...
They may be fuckable, but as a person they have nothing to say.
>>17887191
Work or a bar or through mutual friends.
I'm a 24-year old female and I already feel like I'm getting too old...
I've never dated in my whole life, but I want to get married and have kids... it seems for me all my friends who are getting married nowadays are marrying their highschool sweethearts...
I'm scared. What if I die alone?
Just pick a guy and love him
>>17887194
I don't have experience with the whole dating thing... I don't want to go to a bar or some dating site to meet my future husband, no...
My only requirement is financial stability...
>>17887197
So basically, you just want everything, but without putting in any effort.
It's Christmas Eve. I haven't seen or spoken to my ex in nearly 3 years. I'm going to call her today.
If she rejects me, I will kill myself before the New Year begins.
>>17887163
Wait why is she your ex? Also, killing yourself? Is it the only thing left for you to do?
Don't kill yourself over some bitch dude . Your better than that.
>>17887163
Follow the Buddha
I'll put it very bluntly: my dick has lost a lot of sensitivity recently.
I don't even know why. 2 months ago it was perfectly fine. In early October I was masturbating normally, then a week passed and I tried jacking off and I didn't feel much at all, and it's been the same since. I don't have a problem getting an erection at all, I just can't feel much of anything when trying to further pleasure myself.
There's this "Man 1 Man oil" that's said to restore sensitivity, but I want to go through all alternatives without resorting to pay for some "miracle cream". What can I do, /adv/?
Have you tried nofap?
>>17887175
I have! I avoided fapping for a solid month (unintentionally partaking in nofap november), but when I tried it after a month had passed I still couldn't feel anything.
Bump? Anyone :(
I need your help guys. This girl I know keeps doing some shit around me she never does with any guy. She touches my hand whenever she can when she thinks no one can see her, she always seems nervous near me, laughs at everything I say, doesn't matter if it's a funny joke or not and whenever she hears me laugh she laughs even harder. I'm a beta who's never had a gf before and I think she might like me. Does she like me at all? If yes, how do I make a move? She also broke up with her bf of 2 years less than a month ago, so is there anything I need to do or try not to do when with her regarding that? Thanks.
Man just ask her out for coffee.
>>17887098
yes she likes you
ask her out
Thanks guys, I'll probably just ask her out for a coffee or something, yeah it's cliche but who cares lol. Should I just ask her irl?
Decisiveness
Persistence
Courage
Faith
Equanimity
All you will ever need to succeed and be happy in life. Live by these 5 values and you will go far.
>>17887086
And how does one achieve these values?
>>17887086
>Faith
What for?
Rest is legit though.
>>17887121
According to the stoics, faith in gods/fate. If we modernize it a bit we can say say faith as in a feeling of certainty regarding something (god, life, yourself).
Stoics are good for the 21st century in my opinion. Everyone should read what little was collected of Epictetus, and Marcus Aurelius