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>>17885293
i"ve been looking for carbon monoxide for ages
-Where dids you manage to get it ?
- How did your suicide fail?

31 year old male.

Life gets easier through hard work. Life gets cruddy when you don't work. All our ancestors had to endure hard labor simply to remain alive, to feed their families. Of those men, many have lost their children, wives, had their daughters raped, have had their homes burnt or destroyed, etc. Think of the amount of suffering that has come before you. Now think of how many have overcome worse circumstances than you.

Work is it's own reward.

>>17885293
>Losing my virginity is literally the only thing remaining on my bucket list.
Get a whore.

Teach him to always love, never to hate. Hate just leads to envy, sadness and depression. Hate will never bring you anywhere but rock bottom.

>>17885299
Tell him to never go on 4chan.

>>17885299
He's already kind of hateful. We had a rough time growing up. I didn't help it but he unfortunately looks up to me. He's gonna be with my Christmas and I was thinking about pulling him aside and talking to him for a bit. How do I say these things when I exhibit envy sadness and depression daily?

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>>17885269

Look on fetlife, it's called blood play.

>>17885345
? Interesting but i am not looking for a woman who is into it.

I want a young innocent girl

FUCK

YOU

For posting this shitty thread.

In response to your question, she wants your dick i n her mouth. Help her in accomplishing this.

>>17885263
Sounds like she wants you. I'm going through the exact same thing but I'd hold on to her if I were you. Just see how things play out and respect her relationship bro. Try to convince her she'll be better off with you

>>17885549
Alright I'll try doing that, I'm just kinda playing the waiting game too. good luck with your situation

I have the same problem at 27. I'm trying to ease back into real sex, but I just don't seem to get any joy from the chase anymore.

>>17885218
I know, I eventually want like a family and stuff, but I lose interest in sex really quickly, so like no reasonable woman is going to want to start a family with a guy that needs 6 shots of Jameson to fuck her once a month and not enjoy it.

bamp

>>17885196

>>17885196
your brain gets desensitized to old material. aka stuff you've fapped to before.

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I have the same situation OP

Watch tv. Stay away from the internet.

Just sit down and think about how fucking dumb it is to fall in "love" with someone you know nothing about and haven't even met irl. You are infatuated by an image.

>>17885171
Block her from everything. Tell her you can't do it because of the distance, and you both need to move on. And block her, don't look back.

>>17885163
I don't. By that I mean you don't care about getting laid, that's how you get laid. I don't know how old you are but I have a feeling you are young but you got to have it come at you naturally, if she refuses you hold back but if she allows you to continue you keep going.

Dig?

>>17885163
Like a lot with the same person or different people? Because different people is just a high that sucks when you come down from. 'Specially when you land in aids.

>>17885163
Be attractive and social if you want lots of girls. I wouldn't know though, since I just stick with long term relationships until I get tired of them

>>17885081
It's incredibly easy to find a boyfriend, girls have the luck on their side for millenials, so if you're not 1/10 or 2/10, you will be able to find a boyfriend soon enough.

>>17885088
How soon is soon? I've been trying for a decade.

>>17885081

minimal requirements? low standards.

men are not all the same, we dont know your type, we dont know anything.

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bump again

Pls stahp ignor thank

what is "good looking" by your standards?

>>17885046
The last time a random guy had forgiven for humanity, he has been declared as god of son and people wrote a book about him.

>>17885046
>How do I just wish them well and forgive everyone who wronged me?

You don't. It's just some hippy blabbering about forgiving your enemies.

Instead you should learn from the way they treated you and understand that the average person is not some noble creature.

People are lying pieces of shit and their main interest is hedonistic lifestyle. Most people would sell their parents if they were promised a large house with a pool for it.

>>17885046

by living life and leaving them alone. in some csaes you were probably wrong. in others you were probably wronged.

TV and movies has made it seem like were all perpetually doing one thing, when really its mixed.

the kid who gets bullied often bullies someone beneath him. circle of life.

if you want to make peace, just leave things as is.

>>17885005
Get a new girlfriend

>>17885005

Only if you're beta enough that she's willing to fuck someone behind your back.

What exactly do you mean by "clubbing," too? I always wonder in these threads if it's some girl going to a trendy bar with hip music for some drinks with her girlfriends, or if it's like fucking drop the beat techno Vegas kind of shit where 75% of the people are there to have sex.

No you should be focusing on your goals and careers, not worrying about your gf.

If she's trash she'll soon reveal it, so you'll dump her and move on. Don't let the actions of women stop you from growing. If you feel threatened or anxious due to a woman you are being weak minded.

>>17884953
Because she's tired of waiting for you to go further, it shows a lack of interest in your part and she's responding accordingly.

>>17884953
Could it be that she's busy with her family during Christmas my paranoid friend?

>>017884970

So if I show interest will she return? What if I just ask her out now?

>>17884972

Aye potentially I suppose. I'm a very paranoid person and liking a girl, in which I originally tried to avoid, has really triggered by synapses.

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>>17884948
Get over yourself. This shit happens. Is it worth losing your only friend over some tart? Doubt it.

>>17884948
it happens man. Why do you care? They both spent a lot of time around each other presumably, and who each of them is fucking shouldn't really matter. If he starts dating here that's another story, but if they wanna fool around a little there's not much harm in that. Unless shit went down between you and her cuz of cheating or something like, idk.

No, find new friends. You don't need the reminder of them all kissed-out evert time you see them.

Sadly not enough info, even if I was a professional psychotherapist, the situation is so delicate that you would need to write an essay on the details.
It's possible that you wrote this, because you know someone would suggest that he not see his family for a while. There is nothing wr.ong with that, in both senses.
If you want, we can talk about one problem that he relapses on, and get advice.
Obviously from a big picture perspective, dude needs to take a fucking break from his family. You might want to consider that advice might be better given as to how you can learn to fight for that successfully.
Frankly it sounds like a cycle, a merry go round, I can paint a horse but what the fuck will that do? We might want to think about shutting down the ride.

>>17884932
He has never been able to say no to his mother. If he says no, and she sends him on a guilt trip, and he capitulates. I don't think there's much chance of him "getting off the ride" any time soon.

Is there anything that can be done to help him spring back more quickly, or not lose as much ground?

If describing problems would help, I can do that a bit. He's got severe anxiety issues, mostly socially, and OCD. Before he goes on one of these trips he can act pretty normal, even if he's stressing. When he gets back, he won't leave the apartment for a week without panic, and the OCD is back in high gear. He apologizes for everything he does, and for not doing everything he doesn't do, and tenses up if I touch him. He picks the skin off his fingers and hands. He won't sleep for more than a few hours at a time, and won't work out or eat regularly.

After a week or so he starts to calm down, but it takes quite a while for him to get back to how he was before visiting.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iw3sDgaoBeA

This is beyond advice, this is clinical. He has rigidity , You can play some shit on the big speakers (if you have them), things like this video reduce rigidity.

Also when he panics, he is likely scared of what is going to happen next, and this makes him panic even more. You can remind him that he has panicked before and the world didn't end. The anxiety is him reaching into the future, and seeing something bad. But if you could show him that the bad thing doesn't happen (his panic episondes always just end with normal life) then the panic will be reduced.

You need to know that, even this little stuff that I am suggesting, is not your responsibility. You are never obligated to rescue anyone, and you are fully entitled to your own life.

This whole fucking situation is not of your doing, you didn't create it, it is not some message from fate that you owe your dues (or whatever). You can choose to get out at any time and you are in no way a bad person.

Not even experts can solve the problems you present at any reliable rate, so to beat yourself up for anything, and I mean anything, is not only wrong , but doesn't actually help a god damn thing.

You are in a deep quagmire,