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Hate to bring the bad news, but what you're feeling is actually a different presentation of depression and anxiety. Both manifest themselves in extremely weird and unusual ways. You're not out of the woods just yet.

>>17884913

Can you explain that more?

Because I feel way way better than I did just a few months ago

>>17884917
Sure. You may be feeling better overall, but now you're presenting different feelings and emotions that are overall negative. Maybe you weren't concerned with loneliness before because you had bigger problems, but now you're feeling those emotions because they are present and you haven't dealt with them yet. It's kind of like when someone goes into a major depressive episode and a few weeks later is just apathetic and indifferent to everything. They go from sad to indifferent, which, although varied on the emotional spectrum, are still manifestations of depression.

Feeling better isn't 'better,' per se. Overcoming these things take more effort and time than most can ever imagine, believe me. But I feel for you, anon. Keep fighting the good fight and take care of yourself.

It says you're fucked.

>>17884896
It's itemized bro I don't understand what your question is

>>17884896
Why don't you call the billing department and ask you idiot?

>>17884889
To be cucked and devalued by society for your whole life unless you man up and take what you want.

>>17884894
How do you find out what you want?

>>17885574
you want money like 80% of the time, and 20% of the time women, but the latter can change depending on how much you have gotten/been with in the past time

How are you keeping your mind healthy?

Exercise and get a better idea of "healthy" food.

Pay checkups for conditions that may crop up?

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>>17884900
By thinking posivitive alot, watching movies from jackie chan and the most important thing is to smile


>>17884905
Thats a good Idea, thanks a lot

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>>17884817
I cant help you with the over eating OP, but there are several ways to keep you going. A gym partner really helps. If you dont feel like going, get on your gym gear and go well, I will just go to the gym and thats it. Once you get there its hard tonot work out. I find the most powerful tool is write down what you have done so you can see how you have improved. God Speed OP.

>>17884817
I have had so many people ask me these things in vain because they don't have the self discipline to make it. If you want to stay healthy, it needs to be your lifestyle. Many find the gym to be boring. You are stuck inside not seeing much. Also losing and keeping off the weight is much easier with intense aerobic exercise, not so much aerobic exercise. If you want to make cardio exercise a regular ordeal that you can stick to, you need to find something you enjoy or you won't make it. I ride mountain bikes and I inline skate a lot. I don't go to the gym but I keep my weight down and I'm ripped. The main point is that I enjoy doing those things. My girlfriend couldn't find anything she enjoyed doing to stick with. I kept pushing her to try new things and now she sits in front of a television jump roping for 30 minutes at a time a couple times a week. It's done wonders for her.

As for eating, if you regularly do cardio exercise, you just need to put REAL food in you. Things that give you nutrients and not good that gives you nothing other than makes you feel full. Cut back on sugar. Stay away from the fake sugar like high fructose corn syrup, aspertane, Splenda, and sucralose. That shit is POISON to your body. Your body doesn't even know what to do with it. At least your body can use sugar. The biggest impact you can make on your body right away is no more fat foods because it does nothing for you other than keep you alive, no soft drinks, cut down sugary breakfasts, and make at least one meal mostly vegetables. Once again, this has to become your lifestyle.

Once you do this stuff for a while you won't have to think about it as much but the main point is you need to make it a habit that you don't lose. There is no reason you can't be doing physically great into old age. Just keep moving and eat real food anon!

>>17884895
Fast foods, not fat foods. Ironic misspell though

>>17884764
>, I do want to eventually date her again, but that doesn't matter nearly as much as being her friend


Pick one.

Be her best friend again
Or
eventually date her again.

Do not do both. That is part of what fucked you over last time (in addition to it being your first time moving out, in addition to it being that START of a relationship, in addition to it being your first time in a relationship ever....). You can indeed be best friends with your girlfriend, but you can't treat your girlfriend--who you are living with---like you would your best friend.

A best friend you can get some space away and take a break from, someone you are dating and living with, you cannot.

Pick one.

Be her friend now. Do not have ANY intention to date her again. Do not have that be a motive AT ALL. Go date other people.

Or

Give yourselves another 3+ months. 100% move on. Date other people. Live your life. Grow and reflect. Revisit her and ask if she's interested in trying again.

You need CLEAR LINES. That's part of what fucked you over before, don't repeat it again, especially if you want to salvage a close friendship.

>>17884786
Appreciate the response.

I should add I don't plan on moving out soon. We both live nearby as well. My clear goal here WAS to be friends with her. If it turns into a relationship, hurray. If not, that's fine. I'm not interested in any of what we did before. I'm not even trying to actively pursue a relationship either. It just kinda happened last time. That's what I meant by not being opposed to dating again.

Should I still wait or should I pursue the friendship?

Also, I'm sure age doesn't matter here, but I will say we are both pretty young. We were friends in high school. I'm 20 currently.

>>17884870
>>17884786
I think what I honestly want is to move on 100% like you said, but still remain friends in the mean time. She really was/is my bestfriend. Obviously if we're dating, I wouldn't treat her like that again, but that's just reiterating what I've already said.

Would it be a mistake to try and rekindle the friendship now and just let it roll naturally into either us remaining friends or being together again? Im fine with either, I'm just opposed to removing her all together.

we will need to see some proof to be able to give constructive advice

Doctor.

>>17884749
see a doctor

>>17884691
bump

>>17884691
>cute as a guy

become skinny, remove all facial and chest hair, post ads on craigslist looking for homo nohomo hookup

>>17884754
I knew some people woudlnt get it...
You do realize that there are two types of attractions. Like for girls for example there are ones that are hot, very good body, genetics whatever. And others that are cute. Its not just hurrr look at that pretty girl I like her alot.

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>>17884682

Nice b8.

>>17884680
i think it's the same guy who posted about the penalty box yesterday lmao

Don't panic OP. I'd still mad dip some curry pussy right down. That and try and hop onto the powerful muscular thighs and purple giraffe tongue vagina of a chunky black chick. I don't discriminate.

I'm slightly jealous of the deeply connected family and businesses of ethic groups near me. I miss large family dinners are find it kind of cold and heartless that my parents want to be so isolated and alone in their big empty houses waiting for the day they get home help or move into small managed buildings so they can maintain their independence because as a white male I'm basically designated as a worker drone with no real purpose other than to chase money.

we are conditioned by our balls, which you seem to lack.

to be honest it's pretty much one of the best feelings there are, if the chick is hot.

With my GF I get hard and want to fuck her so badly every morning, even if it fucks with my health and I get headaches a lot.

There really might be something wrong with your libido.

how hot were your GFs and how active and experienced where they?

>>17884654
We are in game where the winner is the guy who makes babies and makes sure they will have babies in the future.

One strategy is to be conditioned to be "the bull", impregnate everything what moves and hope for the best.

Another strategy is to be clever productive guy who has some kids, but maybe puts such kids on good starting position.

>>17884636
positivity here

am a doctor w/ a job
married
house
car
friends
family

just have to work hard and many hours w/ much responsibilty and high risk of agression

>>17884656
>am a doctor w/ a job
>married
>house
>car
>friends
>family
sounds boring...

>>17884636
2016 was a shitty year... I'm turning 30 next month,
however I've made a big move this year, and that was to finally finish off a settling relationship of about 4 years....
I think I finally had the courage to do it in august, it was hard as fuck, even afterwards,
but things are finally looking up, getting things that I want done,
lost a lot of weight and getting fit, meeting new girls and getting a few heartbreaks too

>28
>live at home
>no car
>work really hard at shit job
>last girl I dated left me after a week because she just wanted a provider for her kid
>might have a date with a girl from work who rejected me in the past
>not sure if I really want to go through with it
>she's probably just screwing with me anyway

I hope 2017 is better, but I just know it won't be.

To shill or not to shill, that is the shekel question

dentistry, orthodontics and rhinoplasty do wonders and are legit as fuck, the others are risky because you can end up looking fake (big lips, puffed cheeks, weird skin tone and many more).

I'd say rhinosplasty first because people unconsciously give less trust to certain nose shapes. But make sure it's a real problem first before you fix it.

Anyway, just so you know, there was this ugly fucking horse debating tucker Carlson last night. She was a senator from New York and I expected fireworks but she made her case calmly and actually got Tucker on her side. Don't remember her name but it will take you 2 seconds to google.

Sarah Palin was hot as fuck to me,but a lot of people think she cost Mccain the election more or less.

It's not how attractive you look that scores in politics, but rather something more subtle.Looking strong, determined, and other things, but it's not necessarily raw attractiveness.

Trump has enormous flaws, but he gives a physical persona of mental determination and strength.

>>17884620
No, be a serious contender. Be a strong leader. Strong leaders are not handsome. Look at Trudeu

>>17884619
It's not something I'd recommend to be honest. $12 every 4-6 weeks isn't that much money to spend to keep your hair looking half-decent.

>>17884619
I just get like, 4 hair cuts a year and go to the college schools so I only pay like, 5 bucks a hair cut.

I've been cutting my own hair for about 4 years now. You're first few cuts are gonna look pretty bad. Watch YouTube tutorials and go slow is my recommendation if you want to do this. A plus is that I can trim whenever I want to get a fresh cut look. Downside is doing the back, I usually get my gf to help me with getting it even. Overall I would only recommend this if you like cutting hair, not if you're just avoiding talking to a barber/hairdresser. Find one that's good and just treat them like a friend

>>17884585

If it's your accent, get over it. My voice sounds like how a potato would talk if it could.

If it's a lisp you're upset about, go see a language therapist.

Dialect coach

I'm positive that it's more in your head tho
I sound gay (I'm bi) as fuck and still get women

i have gotten women in the past purely because of my accent