Mirror mirror on the wall...

Eg. I should to be responsible and find a job, but figuring out where and what is the problem since I have no experience

you should cut all contact and delete her number

why cant i do it, /adv/

>>18025587
because you are emotionally dependent on her. invest yourself no more.

stop fapping, stop watching degenerate porn, start running again, get fit.

>>18025568
See this fucking suicide plan through to the end. You're a lost cause and should end it NOW before you lose the will to and live a life of certain mediocrity and disappointment.

>>18025568
Ask her to hang out. She likes you. Waiting is only gonna make her mad. Everyone already thinks you're dating her, everyone says "you two are cute together"

She fucking rubbed her ass in your face in the middle of a shift. How stupid are you to not ask her out? She's given the fucking "go ahead" signal so many times and you're an idiot. You're stupid, worthless, you should just die. If you don't ask her out within a week you should drink bleach and be done with it cus it's never gonna happen otherwise.

She's better than you. She'll move on and you'll be stuck with nothing. As always.

>>18025568
Time to get fit bruh. 20 less kgs and youll be swimming in pussy

Stop talking to your ex

>>18025654
just stop touching your bepis lol

Real talk, just like, uhh, try to control the masturbating. Like slowly try to mastubate less and less, from like daily, to like maybe once or twice a week, eventually a month and so on and so forth. Just believe in yourself and tell yourself you have complete and utter control of your urges. Worked for me. Then run anon.

>>18025928
Stop talking to your ex.

You gotta stop crash-dieting man. It ain't gonna get rid of those last 5 pounds

Stop thinking so much of what you want to do in life and get off your ass and start actually making moves.

You really need to reconsider your priorities. Are hours and hours a day on 4chan really helpful to you? There are things that you should do every day. Every day! Do you?

>Shower
>Brush teeth
>Cook and eat three meals
>Tidy your home
>Pick up your clothes
>Study
>Practice music
>Exercise

Instead, you spend hours wasting away, not doing anything productive. You expect to cultivate a family with these habits? How would you feel if your children were doing what you're doing now?

>>18026192
Start small. One habit at a time, one month at a time. These things take time

>>18025568
I should stop feeling like a bad person when I prioritize what I want to do ...

>>18026206
Cultivate a healthy ego.
[spoiler]The philosophical ego isn't the same as the biological one. Work on yout biological ego[/spoiler]

>>18026204
Thanks, anon. I do tend to get overwhelmed with everything and just throw my hands into the air and give up.
I'm sort of starting with the showering and music. I'm up to a shower every other day as opposed to once a week, so that's better! Of course my home is still a fucking mess but I'm trying not to be so down on myself.

It sort of sucks. I got out of my spiral of depression, more or less, but I still have a lot of the habits from when I was depressed. They're harder to get rid of. I didn't expect this.

>>18026223
You gotta commit these habits to the subconcious, and that doesn't happen in a day. The more you keep doing something the less conscious effort it will take. Think of you brain as a muscle – the more you exercise it, the easier it will be for it to lift heavy shit.

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>>18026250
I'm gonna get swole

>>18026124
I don't know what "crash-dieting" means, but I don't think dieting is actually a solution. A temporary one, maybe, but it really takes a change in your eating habits, and that takes a change in your perception of food.
When you start getting used to both cooking your meals and knowing what it is that you're eating, you start realizing that some food just fills you up with no nutritional value. I'm talking cheetos.
>But they're sooo good
You eventually devleop a taste for real food rather than MSG, and fried tortillas stop looking like a decent meal.

Also 5 pounds is not much, make them muscle.

>>18026206
You can only be happy when you follow your heart (I know it sounds corny but that's the only way I know how to express this).
When you work to please others or just because "it's what's expected of you" you're following will o' the wisps and you will end up with a void inside you.
People are selfish, they ask of you to become this and that to account for their own shortcomings, it's easier to look at flaws in others than to make the change we need in ourselves.
Best of luck

Fucking go outside and talk to strangers you absolute autistic shit. You're never going to get anywhere if you just sit around petrified and wait for people to come to you. Bite the goddamn bullet and just fucking DO IT. They're going to reject you, yes. The more you fucking do it, the better you'll be. Fail faster. It's the only way to fix your goddamn crippling loneliness and self hate. GO OUTSIDE.

>>18026346
"Go outside" is pretty fucking vague. Participate in things. Go to hobby classes. Join a club. Put yourself in situations where you'll be forced to interact with people.

You gotta pick a subject and commit to it, even if you get lured by all the other (loosely related) stuff that lures you and distracts you from making substantial progress.
Set yourself a schedule and work on it for a fixed amount of time every day, until you're good enough that you can say "this is my thing".
You alredy know what it is, you just gotta take the step and most importantly take the commitment of doing it every day regardless of distractions.

>>18025896
What the fuck she rubbed her ass on your face during work shift?!
Man that's gross, did you at least wash your face and mouth out

>>18026353
True, but baby steps. I make it my goal as is to get the courage to talk to a stranger every day. Even just mundane small talk that lasts 20 seconds and then I never see that person ever again. Build up from there.
It's the quite literal paralysis that plagues me. I'm trying to overcome it but when your fucking mental disease becomes physical it can be difficult. My brain is screaming at my legs to move and my mouth to form words, but they just stay put.

>>18026331
Crash dieting is a drastic and temporary diet. It's essentially disordered eating behavior. "Diets" (in the colloquial magazine sense of the word) are considered temporary, but "crash diets" are even more extreme.
You're right, it's better to change your diet (in the biological and nutritional sense of the word) rather than go "on a diet".

>>18026367
"Too much abstract thinking could be used as a defense mechanism, in order to hide from dealing with the fear of concrete interactions. Concrete interactions consist of the day-to-day interactions with people in your life."
In other words, your brain is an overthinking asshole. You probably knew that already, but it's just a friendly reminder to stop overthinking simple things.

>>18026378
I mean, if I knew how to do that I wouldn't be in this mess now would I lol?

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>>18026388
Believe it or not, meditation helped me with this. It does take pracitce though. Have a beginner's infographic, courtesy of /fit/.

>>18026400
Eh idk, I've always just seen meditation as just hippie bullshit sitting on the floor doing nothing and breathing. Skimmed through most of that, and my opinion still wasn't really swayed.
I feel like it's like a placebo affect. Only works if you have faith in it, and if you don't, no matter what you do it'll always just be sitting on your ass and breathing weird.

>>18026428
There's tons of evidence to back up the benefits though. Just go on to pubmed and type in "meditation" in the search bar.

>>18026428
Not the same guy who you're talking with but.
To consider something as hippie bullshit means you have a cultural predisposition to things based on nothing but memes. Meditation may not be a scientifically-proven thing, but it's certainly not a hippie new age thing.

>>18026367
This is smart, anon! I love my interactions with strangers. Sometimes long, sometimes fleeting. Definitely give it a try. It'll be things like

>Military helicopter flies over head. Both me and an oncoming pedestrian stop to watch it pass. When it's gone, we make eye contact. We both make concerned faces. I say, "Yikes!" and we both laugh. We keep walking

>See man walking a dog who's back legs are wheels. I say, "May I say hello to your dog?" He says sure. I tell him that the wheelchair contraption is very cool, and ask him if he made it. He says he did. I tell him that she's lucky to have an owner like him. He thanks me. I stand up and tell him to have a good day, and we walk separate ways

Strangers are great because if you're awkward, you never have to see them again. Score!