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It does happen. Typically more often with someone sitting next to you in public transit or even just on a park bench, but I've had guys walk up to me or pull over to talk to me.

As for whether or not it works, well, you have a chance that you don't have if you just let her walk away. But it's no magic trick and while a girl might find it ballsy that you approach her in the wild during daytime, it will still mostly be bothersome if you go about it wrong. It is really uncomfortable to have a guy come up to you and do that whole "hello beautiful girl, this is me, trying to get you a little turned on wink wink" act. It makes it very difficult to talk like actual people.

If you must do it, my tip is to try conversation for a very short time, and if you can tell it's not going to flow right away just tell her she caught your eye, you'd like to meet up some time, and either give her your number or ask for hers. (The former being safer.)

But imo it's better to invest in learning to make small talk with strangers in general, and then only ask the girls out you actually have a spark with. Not just in finding her pretty but making each other laugh or having something in common. You have a much better shot that way, it's much more natural. I think what I detailed above should be reserved for girls who make such an incredible impression on you that you couldn't live with not giving it a try. Otherwise you are setting yourself up for awkward interaction and a rejection. But it absolutely happens.

>>18099625
In my opinion, if you go on a 2nd date with someone you should try and stay exclusive. Or, at least, that's the attitude I try to keep.
Anyway, don't do anything physical with them unless you've decided who you like most.

I would feel pretty angry if someone did not tell me right on the first date (even if only by a casual mention) that he was seeing multiple people.

But online I often see people reference that everything's fair until exclusivity has been verified. This also seems to be a pretty big EU/US cultural difference.

>>18099625
Don't get rid of the silver and bronze medalists until you've had a foursome and came inside all of their butts

Tineye, reverse Image search?

I can confirm he lies, I took that photo and I am not your friend. The red haired girl is dead, as are all the others pictured. Do not believe the lies that your friend is telling you.

As long as she hasn't developed a relationship with someone else, you're not too late! Since you haven't had extensive conversation with her yet, the only foundation for her interest is physical attraction which won't just disappear because you haven't made a move. At worst she was flirting and decided to stop initiating contact if she thought you weren't interested, but you can always get that back by making the first move.

As for how to talk to her, it kind of depends on how awkward it is for you to start passing her area of work like she occasionally did yours. Is there a break space where you could strike up conversation while the both of you are making coffee or something?

>>18099592
Thanks for the response, it's reassuring to hear not all hope is lost. It's difficult because she works in an isolated clean room, which is situated next to my department. So I can't really just pop in to say hello, unfortunately. As far as break space, there's really just a cafeteria, and she seems to take her breaks at different times every day while my department takes all of our break at the same time.

There was one point where she said hello in the cafe while I was on my way outside to grab a jacket. I said hello back but I didn't stop to talk because I'm an idiot. I think if we had been alone it would have been fine but I guess I don't feel comfortable flirting in front of all our other coworkers...

>>18099539
Always best to save as much as you can before you pull the trigger.

>>18099550
What if I have no job now

overthinking

>>18099513
in what way? did I overthink too much and "broke the relationship" needlessly, or should I just stop thinking too much about wether or not I'm an asshole for breaking it?

top kek, i know this post in itself is overthought too

>>18099524
it sounds like you didn't want anything serious with this woman anyway so you're better off without her and just doing your own thing

Depends on what you want to do with your life and what your career goals and ambitions are

what do you want to do with your life, what are your passions?

Is your family financially secure enough to pay for college or would you have to finance it with student loans?

>>18099480
Some people won't get it and when you get real blunt they'll swing right back to the other side and over-dramatize it so you have to tip toe tactically and as a fellow introvert, fuck that noise, just start ignoring them more so than usual and focus on your own universe.

Having a good relationship with your family is an excuse to not make friends?

>>18099579
Didn't have the need to talk to someone else. I'm coming from a family with parents, who are happily martied, and have 2 siblings.

>>18099453
Seems like you guys don't share the same values, I wouldn't accept her invitation and would just move on

>>18099453
If you are a serious guy that doesnt want to do drugs but accept an offer to do drugs with someone you just broke up with then it is obvious you arent over it at all. Dont do something you will regret later.

>>18099461
>>18099459

desu lads, I just wanna have sex at this point.

Stay low and watch for signs. Its possible she got really really drunk. But like you, id doubt that.

Act like nothing is wrong. Act nomal. Analyze her behaviour. If she goes out again, follow her. Seriously. I caught a girl sort of cheating on me by doing the 'creepy' thing and following her. I got suspicious drove outside her apartment. "Hey im with my friend Tom. Were outside your apartment. Wave to us bitch!?!?!?" "Oh i cant...im going poo"..."thats okay well wait" "no seriously go its okay" "you stupid fucking cunt...tell me where you are right now or were done right now" "okay im with hanna and my ex boyfriend. I didnt want to tell you cuz i knew youd be mad" "...okay well yea youre right about that. See ya forever bitch".

Guys got gut feelings...great gut feelings. Dont listen to this feminist bullshit. Do what you gotta do.

>>18099451
Just wait for her to wake up and ask her about the night before preferably in person, Watch for any red flags and then go from there. Don't follow her if your relationship is at the point where you need to pull something like that just break up

>>18099466
what would be some red flags

>>18099444
Yes she's ghosting you. It's fucking over. Two excuses already, and the finale nail with I dont have time. That IS the sign of gtfo.

>>18099444
Here's how to handle this.
Text her and say an uncle in Singapore died.
You're heartbroken as you were very close.
As part of his will and state you have just inherited $20 million.
Not that you care about the money you just want your uncle back.
Thank her for giving you a chance and state that you understand her hints and that it was nice meeting her and you wish her the best for the future.

Watch her tune change instantly.

It's crucial you 100% ghost her back or say that you're sorry you're to emotional to even consider being with anyone right now and tell her goodbye good luck.

>>18099444
You didn't fuck up buddy, she just lost interest. Go look for other women

First thing you need to understand is this:

Whatever you do, it's going to take time. Do not be disheartened by the long journey ahead of you. Keep at it and one day you'll realise you're out of the hole.

What you need to do is challenge yourself. Pursue something, go outside your comfort zone and be willing to make an arse of yourself. Ask people out knowing it's going to go to shit, take a class is a skill and move towards a career.

What I would start with is just going out one night, heck ask someone you barely know out. Then get drunk, high five some random people and waste your money on some pointless shit. Just get your feet wet, remind yourself that there's a crazy fucking world out there and it doesn't really matter if you look like an idiot in it. Kill that ego, it will only hold you back.

>>18099377
You don't lack ambition, it's the courage to strive for something better that you need. Relationships are more trouble than help, but if it's what you want then work for it. I work graveyard too, it's essential you find a day job instead. So you can feel human instead of like a vampire. Try a dating site or two, keep trying new things until something sticks.. I pulled myself from depression by forcing myself to do better each day, little by little I gained my confidence back and started dating again. Have faith in yourself op, don't let negitive people get in your head.

Doctor

I have phimosis and I have no problem getting hard m8.

>>18099369
Circumcision

> Why does it feel like once you turn 30, you die?
Maybe because before civilization, advancement in nutrition and medicine, that was our average natural lifespan. Slightly more than 30 iirc, like 35.

> I am also deeply disturbed by not having had a relationship. I now will not have a chance to experiment with wonen and see what kind I like.
Very few people get the amount of relationship that would in any way be deserving of the term "chance to experiment". Like, most have two to three real substantial ones (longer than a year) at the most.
And you have honestly not missed out on much. It doesn't fill the void.

> If I do meet a woman my age, she will probably want marriage and kids within like two years. Or she will already have kids which will be shitty.
Both are correct. Question is, why do you want to meet women?

Also consider that if you find a woman that doesn't want marriage and/or kids, you're set. For a long time, if you treat the relationship well.

I'm 30, and I still feel like I'm waiting for life to start. Nonsense, I know.

I still feel like a teenager, or early 20s. This is probably because I have been actively avoiding things that are trademarks of adulthood. I really struggle with moving on into the next phase of my life because I spent so long looking at adults thinking I was completely different and separate from them.

I don't feel my age and I certainly don't act it. There is some cognitive dissonance there because I want to continue wanting what teenagers/early 20s people want but my age is always front and centre of mind and I feel very self conscious. I feel like I missed out on a lot and now I can't go back and experience it.

29 and I feel better than ever. checkmate op

>>18099331
Well - how old are you? What kind of skin do you have? What results do you want to get?

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>>18099344
23
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I want to have beautiful skin of course (and maybe also better facial hair :^) does rubbing minoxidil 5% work?)

>>18099362
Are you gay or something? Real niggas don't use creams, they just wash their face with water every morning.