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Why are you studying something you're not interested in?

>>18100252
Because I didn't want to disappoint my parents so I picked a high paying major, I've worked for 2 years(had time management difficulties and useless classes) to do the general education part of the degree so I don't want to give up now that I'm doing the actual major related material but man is it hard to get the motivation for this stuff.

>>18100262
Well if you've done the GE stuff, wouldn't it be relatively easy to switch majors to something you want to do?

And some real talk here: who are you living your life for - you, or your parents? You can't go through life making decisions based on what will make others happy. You've got to start living for yourself. Your parents do want what's best for you and so they'll push you into a major that pays well, but I'm sure they'd rather you earned an average amount and were happy than you earned a lot and were miserable.

I recommend you masturbate and tell her when you do and remind her she should be there gobbling your cock instead of being mad sitting in mom's house.

Why are you with her? Are you actually under the delusion that you have a future with her?

>>18100247
>Why are you with her?

Greatest I've ever been with. Learned about the crazy family once I got to know her. So far apart from the stressful moments once every few weeks, it's great. The arguments have been multiplying recently though, and it's starting to get on my nerves.

Are you actually under the delusion that you have a future with her?
I really don't know. She is preparing herself to cut every tie to them once she'll have moved far enough (so at the start of the next school year). I don't know how effective that's going to be. One of her sisters managed it. They pretty much don't care about what she does now.

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Watch Ni Hao Kai Lan

Humans learn best by immersion.

Go into a chinese resturant, and ask to work for free in the kitchen for a bit. Tell them all you want out of it is for them to refer to things in Chinese until you learn what it means.

I dont know chinese but lets say chicken was like "naolong". If they keep saying "Whitey we need u to cook naolong now"
you will learn that shit incredibly quick.

>>18100246
Not, OP, but I served in a restaurant working with Chinese only speaking people for about a month and learned next to nothing. I mostly had to communicate through drawings and the register system. The people I worked with were not very friendly towards white people and more kept to themselves. To be fair, I wasn't making it a point to make friends or anything, I just didn't get the same kind of help from them that they'd give to one another, even when it actively hurt the business.

They were also untrusting of suspicious situations. My boss would have loved to hire somebody who would work for nothing, but probably wouldn't have believed anybody offering to do so.

You're being a dickhead.

Yes, I definitely tell my friend who has depression that his life is worth living so that he'll live and pay taxes. It can't possibly be that I actually like him and care about him as a fellow human being.

>>18100195
exmaples???

>>18100195

surround yourself with people who treat you well.

remember there's a difference between criticism and being a douche.

i know a few people who give what i like to call 'pre criticism'. this is where they give a criticism on something before it even happens and claim they're helping.

for instance.
>working on a short film about a doll that moves
>explaining to fellow filmmaker about how were making the doll move
>him: 'well hopefully you make it look real and not bad'

another example
>working on a script called 'a bitch in oz'
>explain its just a rehash where dorothy is a bitch
>he says 'well hopefully you write it so shes actually funny and not just bad'

his 'precriticisms' are based on assumptions he doesn't need to take to preemptively put you down. it boils down to
>try not to do a bad job!

which isn't helpful its just them trying to seem like they know more than you.

if you got people who are clearly doing this, why would you listen to them?

>>18100207
>messing up at work and getting yelled at
>friends always "too busy" to hang out
>"I only like you as a friend"

1. Stop smoking cigarettes, smoke pipes or cigars instead.
2. If you can't stop smoking, use a metal mouthpiece when you smoke
3. Use a 1:4 ratio of bleach and water respectively.

>>18100149
Thanks, will give the bleach a whirl I guess. As for quitting, easier said than done, but will try

How the fuck does this happen? I smoked a pack a day for 7 years (thank god for vaping, seriously quit cigs and vape you will thank me) and I never had nic stains,

God sometimes I miss a good newport (not a nig) but vaping changed my life.

>>18100122
>i gave my number to girl
U silly. Males have to chase girls via any means, not the other way around.

Just wait until you see her again and chat her up. And maybe this time ask her to some social interaction like dinner or cinema.

And dont mention this unless you want to see her panicking (which can be fun).

Yeah you fucked up. The man always takes the initiative, at least traditionally.

This is her way of politely saying no thanks, not interested. Next time you see her she will say one of the following :

>OMG I totally forgot im so sorry
>I was really sick and I slept all weekend im really sorry I didnt tell you
>Something came up with my family Im really sorry

The military is like the worst fucking place in the world to be for someone in your position. If I were you, I'd STFU, get my time in, and then GTFO asap while milking it for all it's worth. Get your money for college or whatever it is and get all the free shit you can on veteran's day.

Then move to somewhere that isn't dumbfuckistan and get friends who aren't fucking morons. The only smart conservatives are the fiscal ones.

>>18100251
That's my plan, I'm handling it well for now in my opinion, but some people can tell.

I'm not a douche so I didn't make an official fuss about it, but there was this guy in technical training who had a gay cousin. He recognized I was similar to him and fucking ripped into me for like an hour when there wasn't anyone else in the room. He wasn't insulting but wouldn't stop asking. Now I'm worried if it's obvious to others.

Chaplain is your best bet They will keep your talks confidential. If they have nothing else to offer than the "light of jesus " or whatever garbage they spew at you, thats a shitty chaplain.

If you are lonely you need to realize that often loneliness is a product of your own actions. Getting out of that lonely rut will also be a product of your own actions, not others. Even if it's meeting someone online and skyping every now and then, you CAN find someone to fufill the needs we all have. These needs are fufilled by the military for some, but not all. I'm talking about companionship.

Maybe get out of your element a little bit. Pack a lip and go play some spades with the boys. For all you know they're good people you can get along with on a personal level.

If you need to talk I'm here on /advice/ for a bit. Nothing else to do today.

Matter of fact let's talk. What kind of interests do you have? I like to woodwork and play the piano.

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>>18100054
say it was a hate crime.

>>18100054
Say you would've raped her, but you mistook fat roles for pussy

>>18100054
tell them she called you a nigger first?

Make a stink about racism and giving her a taste of her own medicine.

If you are punished and she is not, threaten to take it higher, say things like public school attendee's demand "equal opportunity" and should be teaching such.

If need be, start talking about laws public schools and the fair treatment of each student. Admit that calling her fat was wrong, but a defense to a much larger and catastrophic way of thinking (aka racism).

Public schools will do anything to avoid lawsuits. They will either punish the both of you, or let it go for both of you. And you just keep climbing the ranks until someone listens. Do this only if the school treats this situation unfairly after knowing all the facts.

>>18100051
I usually try to spend less than 30-35€/week for breakfast, snacks and 10 meals.

Golden rule: spending very little is all about meal planning and prepping.
Prepare a weekly schedule for meals, buy just what you need, cook once or twice a week. Repeat meals if necessary.

For lunch I usually eat carbs or salads, dinner is always proteins.

>Veggies and fruits
Buy according to the season. By this alone you can save a lot of money. I go to farmer's market, on Saturdays you have 1 kg of anything for 1€.
I love avocados too - they cost 1€/1.30€ where I live and I use them as the main part of a lot of dishes. I love them in salads and with chicken, feta cheese, eggs.

>Carbs
Pasta is cheap as fuck - I usually either make homemade pesto or cook it with veggies. Some ideas might be pasta with broccoli/zucchini and bacon bits; pasta with tomato sauce; baked pasta/lasagne
I often buy grains and cook them, then put bell peppers, olives, onion and chicken in them. I like making homemade pesto too, and I add some potatoes and peas.
Rice goes with anything - chicken, beans, any kind of cuisine. Always have some.
I buy sandwich bread, the shittiest one.

>Proteins
Eggs are cheap as hell and very versatile. You can use them as ingredients for complex recipes, or you can make yourself scrambled eggs, omelettes, and such.
Cheese can help for extra flavor. Cream cheese is also very versatile.
Beans are a great meal, too. Sometimes I just eat beans with olive oil and onions and I love it.
Chicken is super versatile and the cheapest meal. You can freeze it too, add it to most meals and it is just awesome. Grilled chicken is amazing, you can put it in the oven with some beer and some potatoes and it will taste amazing.

Spices and herbs are THE game changer. You can even grow your own.
Bread is lame? Putt garlic, olive oil, salt, pepper and oregano on it and you have great food.

Your diet will consist of the following :

TUNA
HOT SAUCE
TOP RAMEN
OATMEAL
CHEAPEST CHICKEN YOU CAN FIND
RICE


sub in beef every now in then if you can.

>>18100051
learn to bake bread and garlic knots.

>>18100028
mind your own business

I forgot to mention they work as temps. at a call-center and regard that is some kind of significant employment, like they couldn't think of anything better to do with their lives.

I'm just really frustrated at the whole situation and my go to would be emotionally destroying by cutting remarks on everything stupid and idiotic they do which practically consists of everything for their daily mode of existence. I'm refraining but it's eating me up now.

>>18100037
you clearly have anger issues, seek help

The part they never tell you about is the crippling addiction they develop to the medication.

I heard it can fuck up your heart if you take it for too long.

>>18100021
That sounds like very very bad company.

Yes take adderall. But try it first before the test so you know what it will do to you and how long does it take to kick in.

>>18100029
This isnt heroin. If you dont abuse it, it is almost safe.

>>18100021
First of all taking a stim you've never tried in a pressure situation is a good way to shit yourself.

You can get addicted, you could have a heart condition you don't know about and it explodes, and you could sweat your balls off during the test. That's about it.

>>18099999
>>18099999
Also as far as the "protective friend" theory, my bf and I have been solid for almost 7 years. We haven't wronged each other at all, at least, not on the level where we'd deeply confide in our friends about it.

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>>18099999
>oooohh these beautiful quints

But seriously though, I think the best way would be to let your boyfriend handle it when she does it again. Like maybe ask him to look out for her remarks and cut them off when she makes them. You won't look bitchy in front of everyone and she can't hold it against you.

>>18100019
Yea, I brought up to him a time she was calling me big because she said it while the three of us were in the car together, and I guess that's more of a girl insult because my bf was literally just like, "but she's a stick, of course you're bigger than her"

Which I know, it's just the tone she used was pretty demeaning. Something a guy who wasn't really paying attention to, would probably not see as an insult...

>>18099926

not really. if you do that you probably dont have anything else of interest on there.

If you've did some online test, no. If you've done a test with mensa or something sure.

No. IQ is not a skill. You can put characteristics that imply a high intelligence: organizational skills, ingenuity, prioritizing under stress. Putting your IQ makes you seem pretentious.

>>18099904
this can't be real, you can't be this autistic

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>>18099904
>he sends me pics of his cock in her ass
rekt

>>18099912
What level on autism do you think he's on?