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I am 22 and I don't like guys my age. I rarely like guys who aren't at least 8 years older than me. My last "crush" turned 33 this year.
I rationally know it's stupid to date someone who is so much older than me, but I really can't help it.
Is it always a bad idea to date someone so much older? What are some red flags I should look for if I decide to go and date someone older than me?
I am not interested in a casual thing.
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Dunno but since I'm 28 and already feeling 30 on my back I can only hope more 20's girls share your taste.
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It's generally a stupid idea. Very few older men want to "properly" date young women, they just want to fuck them and usually manipulate them.
Red flags? Do you think a young womens emotional needs can be met by an older man? Can you met his? The fact men that much older than you are in to you is the red flag.
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>>18118249
I think a lot of girls do. You're pretty hot people.
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My girlfriend has gotten really fat, and I'm considering dumping her, any advice on how to break the news in a way that will effect me the absolute least?
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>>18117729
you know youre supposed to walk them at least once a day, right?
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Why not just talk to her about how her weight has affected your attraction to her? Look, I'm kind of okay with the whole feminist movement, but I also GET why a guy doesn't want to be with a fat chick, especially if she didn't start that way. Just be honest with her. Who knows, maybe it's the kick in the ass she needs to get fit again. Is that the only thing that's bothering you about the relationship?
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>>18117736
She has issues with dealing with stuff like this, she was bulimic before and all and all very sensitive about her weight. Talking to her about this is a big no no and will either cause MORE problems or make her relapse.
So it's not really an option.
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So, a few months ago I posted on here about being raped. Thought I could handle it, but I can't. Can anybody offer ideas on how to get over it? How to live without the fear and pain?
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Find someone to talk to about it. A counselor or therapist is a good place to start. These kinds of traumatic events take so much power over our lives because they make us feel broken. Or because it alienates us from the rest of society because we can't trust those around us.
I hope you haven't given up and that you can find some comfort again in your life, but you're never going to truly get over it in the sense that you don't think about it any more. But you can overcome it.
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>>18120040
Life comes with fears and pain built in. Try to separate the rational and irrational fears and minimise the pain and live life how you want. not everyone wants to rape you.
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>>18120040
Therapy. There is no home remedy for getting over this. You need professional help. There are plenty of rape crisis centers and resources around the country that would be glad to help if you contact them.
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Advice you've been given that does not work.
e.g.
>be yurlself
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advice that I've given that does not work
>go back to /pol/
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>Just study what interests you in university
And now I have an insane amount of debt, hopefully going into IT at community college can help...
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Be me /adv/
>22 year old married male
> started dating when we were 16
>got married young because I'm in the process of enlisting
> both work in restaurants
> moved in together even though financial unstable because her parents randomly move PA
> hates her parents for forcing her out of home
> hates our apartment
> hates my family because my mom drinks and my sister is immature
> 2014 we go from normal sex life to sex once every 3-6 months
> try to talk to her but she says she is asexual and their is nothing I can do
> start to fap more
> really feel like shit but I don't want to cheat
> as time goes on we get more distant because of her being in school and financial constraints
> she physically abused me and bit a chunk out of my face
> she asks why I stayed I said I wasn't going to give up
>really contemplated leaving
> I have a dirty conversation with a strange over text send her a topless photo
> feel shitty about afterwards
> she sees it and kicks me out of the apartment that both our names are on
> I comply really start think I should leave
> it's been 3 weeks
> we have been communicating
> she has me over a few nights then has me leave or stay the night
> says she likes having the place to her self
> ask what direction we should move in says Idk
> i go to show and meet her with my friends and other friends at bar
> I'm drunk she's pissed
> doesn't talk to me for a week and then yells at me when I ask what's up
> says I'm gonna be just like my mom
Should I end this??
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>she is asexual
There's your problem.
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>>18119529
She says I need to change and look at sex different. She wasn't like this for the first 2-1/2 to 3 years then it changed. She is also the only person I've ever been intimate with.
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>>18119557
>she is asexual
>she says the fact that you're not asexual is the problem
wow
And to answer the question in the OP, yes. This is why you don't marry young and this is why you don't marry when you've only been intimate with one person. Thankfully you don't have any kids with her to further complicate this.
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I know this is a long shot and will probably be completely unproductive but I'm desperate.
How do you not abuse drugs just to be able to function normally. If I don't take things I shut down mentally. Tiny things overwhelm me and I become paralyzed incapable of independent actions (I take Anything it's not the drug but the escape, relief mental pain to make me feel normal)
My will keeps getting sapped. Was I destined to fail due to circumstances I endured as a child (circumstances I had no control over)
If that's the case why should others who didn't go through what I did succeed ? I have a high IQ (tested when I was 18 by a psychiatrist) but can't function in normal society, I have no friends but don't feel lonely because I know what people really are and how hopless normies are.
Pic unrelated, I got it off /b/
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>>18119470
This will be my last thread on /pol/. It helped me a lot but I need to move onto the next stage of my development. I have a folder of redpilled gems of /pol/ I found very interesting. I will use them to help shape my doctrine in stage II.
Thank you all so much for everything. It's been wild.
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>>18119470
Maybe you shouldn't have abused drugs if you wanted to be successful in life you degenerate.
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>>18119472
If I hadn't abused them I would have burnt a hole through my head with anxiety.
You're right though. I need to overpower my weaknesses and rewire my brain through suffering. Productive Suffering is how humanity developed
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Recovering from Apathy 2017-03-12 12:03:34 Post No.18119423
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Hi /adv/. Over the past few months, I came to realize I have dysthymia, a form of depression which takes the zest out of life and makes everything less enjoyable. It feels like being "numb". I plan on getting a prescription for antidepressants soon, but it'll be several weeks until that's possible. For now, I'm on my own, and I want to make the best of this time so I can bring my passions back.
What would you recommend I do? Have any of you had Dysthymia/Anhedonia before? What helped you the most?
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>>18119423
If you live a shit boring life then it's reasonable to be depressed about it. Doubt pills will help much.
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>>18119423
That's just called adulthood. It needs no medical name. You'll get used to it.
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>>18119767
Most adults actually enjoy doing things, and don't feel the desire to sleep all day. Even if it were an age thing, it shouldn't happen as young as 18.
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How the fuck do I move past this
She's a current roommate's friend so I see her once a week and it sucks
Fuuuuuuuck
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Please
This fucking sucks
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>>18119376
Do you have any memories of where you're kissing her or touching her sexually?
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This isn't really advice, but I feel you.
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Should I ask her out? 2017-03-11 11:25:36 Post No.18119314
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I'm In a bit of a pickle. Should I ask out a girl In my class. She is very nice to me and I wouldn't want to ruin anything between us. But will I regret not taking it any further with her?
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>>18119314
Make it seem casual but its still a date.
Ask her if she wants to go out for lunch with you, or go to the movies if you're close.
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>>18119317
What if I just ask if she'd like to meet up some time?
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>>18119314
Do it.
I just found out that my longtime crush has a girlfriend today and I know for sure he was single at some point but I bided my time and now whoops.
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So basically I made a bet to a friend about 8 years ago that I would buy him a $500 lap dance at a strip club. Well he won that bet today and I owe him a $500 lap dance. The problem is that I never go to strip clubs so I have no fucking clue what a $500 lap dance looks like. What should I expect for $500 and how do I know if I'm getting my money's worth?
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>>18119301
lap dances are way less than 500. for 500 he should get fucked twice at a club. Now you can drop 500 on 10 lap dances with tip
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500 bucks is an entire night for two guys in a strip club if you're not being fucking jackasses about it.
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A lap dance is $20-40 where I'm from, and that includes the handjob.
$500 is several anal sessions with a mid tier whore.
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>have serious driving phobia
>all advice says "lol just practice more bro"
>pretty much "just b urself" but for driving
>go out on a 2-day roadtrip
>first time I've driven in 8 months
>end of first day, get in an accident
Are there people who just can't drive? Should I just give up? I love traveling and roadtrips but I can't drive worth shit. I'm not rich enough to be fine with totalling a few vehicles trying. I also don't have friends or a significant other who can drive for me.
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how did you get into this accident?
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You're bad at driving.
The way to stop being bad at driving is practice.
You left out all the details of the accident, so I'm going to assume you're at fault and you should not have been driving in that part of town with such little experience.
Go away shitsauce.
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>>18119169
Not being able to drive around by yourself is un-American. If youre Eurotrash or a Canuck youre fine.
Why are my feet so wide? I've always been self conscious about them. Is there such thing as feet surgery?
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They looketheth normal to me.
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>>18119160
Really??
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I accidentally spread a rumor
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How to stop it? It's not entirely factual and I only said it to make someone at work feel good about themselves not realizing it's risking rep of someone else and mins.
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You tell people that you made it up.
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>>18119043
So am I a liar? I'm gonna be more screwed once that guy (boss) finds out I lie about them.
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>>18119049
Well you have not other option so...
Is it worth using drugs to break the monotony of life?
As far as I'm concerned, this is the only answer. I literally can't think of another way to make my life exciting. Like it doesn't matter what flavor of shit I choose, it's still going to be shit.
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no, it just creates more problems
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I think if you have self control and don't get addicted they can be beneficial . for instance mushrooms have been shown to be more effective in helping people quit smoking than any pharmaceutical
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Yes, drugs can be a lot of fun. Don't jump in too fast
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Sent a nude to a girl and she blocked me.
The thing is I kept teasing her with half nudes and was getting huge implications she wanted it. I'm freaking out because I usually don't ever take risks like that, what should I do???
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>>18118537
Is it a girl from school or work? Or was it just a random girl on social media
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>>18118540
A girl I met through a mutual friend from school. We've been messaging each other but I got huge implications but I was being a horn dog. I never felt so stupid. I just never get enough of anything and I've been trying to push myself to move forward with girls and then this happens. Fuck I want to die
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>>18118559
Als long she doesn't do anything that can ruin your social life you should be alright. Does that mutual friend of yours know anything about this?