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Am I wrong in believing that going to a therapist will just end up in them making idiotic /adv/ tier suggestions like "get a hobby" and "quit watching porn"? I find it hard to believe they are really capable of doing anything more than anyone else would and it seems like it would cost a lot of money
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I went to a therapist. We would just shoot the shit and talk for an hour or two, not really talking about my problems at all. I thought he was just trying to act as a friend, but really just made my problems worse as I felt I wasn't getting any real treatment for my problems. Eventually I just got over it myself, i really don't know how. Don't take medication though, that was probably the worst thing I did.
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>>18370805
Yeah, I found this too. They just talk to you, give you no advice and hope you figure it out yourself.
When I was a kid, one even spent thirty minutes kicking a soccer ball with me. Imagine the audacity to charge for that.
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>>18370881
I figure they knew that the kid was being forced by their parents to be there, so they took advantage and just went lazy mode.
I also knew as a kid that parents had a right to know anything being talked about in the session, which definitely did not make me want to share at all.
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Hey /adv/ I've been having sort of an issue with my boyfriend lately. I want him to sort of show he cares about me/misses me or if he actually enjoys talking to me and if I make him happy SOMETHING I guess? I constantly tell him how special he is and how much he means to me and how talking to him makes my day and how handsome he is etc. I just don't really get the same thing back which makes me feel kind of lonely and maybe like I'm not wanted or not loved so much. Maybe I'm just being a dumb girl and wanting validation or whatever but it's difficult considering we're in a LDR. I just want him to realize that I mean a lot to him if I even do. How do I go about this in a way that isn't crazy or hurtful?
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Do you love yourself? Do you feel you are special?
These are important questions before I can offer further advice.
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>>18370640
Tlak to him. Tell him how you feel. Work through this together. If he doesn't care, then dump his ass. But at least try to talk this out.
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You could reel back in the affection too. He will notice and hopefully initiate on his end.
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Advice for depressed, anxious anon. 2017-05-31 10:24:19 Post No.18370626
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Advice for depressed, anxious anon.
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I've been depressed since I was 10. I managed ok on my own up until college. I got there and pretty much became a complete loner with any 'friends' made only lasting a semester or 2. Fast forward to senior year and I completely shut down. I stopped studying and just slept whenever not in class. Now my parents want me to go to grad school but I'd rather just stop trying and waste away. Started developing anxiety recently. I start to have mild panic attacks whenever I'm left alone with my thoughts for too long and have a general sense of dread otherwise. TV & internet don't drown it out like it used to. Gotten bad to the point of active self sabotaging myself whenever the opportunity presents itself. I'm pretty sure I should be in therapy and on meds of some kind but refuse to tell my parents cuz I don't want seem like a pussy and let them down. They care but are the high pressure type achievement obsessed type. Want to get help without letting them on but don't have healthcare because no job. I've gotten so good at pretending to be well adjusted, you'd have to really look to find anything wrong with me. Lately, I've found that I've lost interest in the very few things that would get me out of bed (never thought I could be bored of porn & anime) and I often wake up to the thoughts of what a disappointing piece of shit I am. I've come to hate myself, my life and the wasted potential that they represent. Not gonna rope myself anytime soon but alcoholism seems more tempting by the day. What do?
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>>18370626
seek professional help anon
and I am not meming here
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>>18370707
How though? I know my parents care about how I'm doing but whenever I feel like approaching them with what's wrong, I freak, panic and end up pussing out.
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How often do you masterbate?
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How do I go about getting an Asian girlfriend? Only have ever exclusively dated white women. Can I control this or is it just luck getting an Asian qt?
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>>18370592
This kind of thinking will alienate any Asian girl you might want to date. You don't pick girls out of a catalog to date. You just date the ones that are in your life. All you can do is do new things, go to new places, and meet new people until you find an Asian girl that you like that also likes you back.
It would be a very stupid and time consuming endeavour, but you can do it if you want.
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>>18370592
Well, show manner and let ur intension known that ur interested in said asian gf, Asians hates rude people, and just show her some what stuff or whatever.
But I think ur chances are not that good
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>>18370600
This, the day I got an Asian gf was the day I really didn't want one, holy shit she was the best fuck I've ever had.
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I was yelled at a lot growing up. I believe it's the core reason for my insecurities, my softspoken/mumbling speech pattern, and my constant overprotection of privacy.
How do I come about overcoming this?
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Your insecurities, speech patterns and valuation of privacy concerns are all symptoms. Being yelled at is also just a surface level concern, it represents a more fundamental problem.
To help you out more specifically can you answer me this: when you reflect on what you did at the end of your typical day, do you feel you can go to bed knowing you are a respectable person? If so, why? If not, why not?
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>>18370546
I feel you man. I had to deal with emotional and mental abuse daily. Resulted in anxiety disorder and rock bottom self esteem.
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>>18370546
anon you are not alone
Getting a new car.
>2010 Nissan
>100k miles
>1 car accident prior
>im 25
>no prior car
>0 tickets ever
>license for like 3 years
Can I get any information you have on insurance? Things I need. Don't need. Good companies. Places to avoid.
Just want to get an idea of what a good quote is
Don't want to get swindles by an agent because theyre sellers ultimately. Its like when I go get a computer and try to sell me insurance, geek squad, microsoft for 1 year, screen protection, etc.
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bamp
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well first off, dont buy the car... unless its like $500.
just tell them what you want and dont be swayed
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>>18371078
why not?
estimated 2k, family friend is the guy selling.
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Should I be worried about this?
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Cancer, get that shit checked and stop smoking weed.
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Looks like a wart, just freeze it off
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Has it been there for a long time? If yes, it's probably just a harmless mole, if it's new, see a doctor.
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Am being made fun of by this girl or what? 2017-05-31 09:43:49 Post No.18370467
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Am being made fun of by this girl or what?
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Sup /adv/
Last weekend I asked a girl I met in the past few days at my Uni.
She said she was busy, ok cool no problem.
But today she comes to me and speaks about this guy she thinks he's cute and all that.
and I'm like what? really?
I just laughed it off with her, but I think it's just plain rude to do that especially because I just asked her out a few days ago lol.
Tell me /adv/, is it wrong if I'm a bit upset about this?
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>>18370467
She doesn't want to date you. She wants just a friend to talk to. If you don't want that, you have the right to move on and ignore her from now on.
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>>18370473
Yeah I understand, perfectly fine with me.
But the fact that I just asked her out a few days ago and she just does this really pisses me off tho.
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>>18370473
this. unless she was vague about the guy and the guy coulda been you and she was trying to send a message without actually sending one to keep you interested even though she's busy... she's not interested and is trying to send a message without sending a message that she doesn't want to date you, and she's interested in another dude.
it's one of those, you haven't given enough context to discern which it is. I've had both happen and the latter is a shitty move and I'd just stop talking to her.
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I really need help. I have become so paranoid in my day to day life that I can't function anymore. I've been going on /pol/ for about 2 years, and it has totally fucked my mind. I'm constantly scared of economic collapse, shit that Varg talks about, if i'm a good or "non degenerate" person, etc etc. It has gotten to a point where I'm in fear all times of the day. I look to /pol/ and right wing forums to see if what i'm doing with my life is ok and right wing approved. I suppress it with things like music, weight lifting, hanging out with friends. I feel myself going deeper down the rabbit hole each time I do something that makes me happy. Is there anyway I could regain myself back? Be able to do things I like doing instead of needing approval from others?
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>>18370449
don't go to /pol/ dumbass. Work on yourself and stop going to shit forums if you have such a weakass mind lol
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>>18370449
r/nofap
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Heh /pol/ is a good board with valuable information in small doses. Too much of it and you'll find yourself damaged, as a non white /pol/ has fubar'ed me.
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Help, I want to keep a guy as a boytoy and I don't know how to approach the situation.
We've fooled around, and we hang out sometimes, but I think he wants something beyond friendship.
I'm okay with being fwb but I'm mostly interested in him as a pet/boytoy. I just want us to fuck, have fun, but have him listen to me then it comes to sexual things.
I've told him I'm not interested in a real romantic relationship, which he was fine with. He been treating me differently now, though. He's linking fingers with me when we kiss, or he'll kiss my forehead after we get hot and heavy.
I feel like his body language says he had feelings beyond fwb and I just want a pet.
What do I do?
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He might think your a slut and doesn't want dick breath or if you just swallowed his kids he doesn't want to see them ...or demand that mofo that he will fuck you at your command
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>>18370406
You type like English isn't your first language. I'm looking for legitimate advice.
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Probably that guy love you so your better option is to find another toy
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Boyfriend addicted to porn 2017-05-31 09:11:05 Post No.18370352
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My boyfriend of two years has always been really open about his porn habits. I found his old DVDs pretty early after I moved in with him and we had a good laugh, and sometimes when we're using his computer to watch movies or whatever I'll accidentally paste whatever he last copied, and 99% of the time it's a link to porn. I looked at his downloads, again because he doesn't hide anything from me, and saw that he's been downloading at least 10 videos a week for months. So much of it is novel, fake crap. Nurses, cops fucking chicks they arrest (cringe), daddy daughter, even saw a few Star Wars and Ghostbuster XXX parodies and even a Guardians of the Galaxy porn.
But it gets worse. Besides all the videos of anal, something he won't actually take the time to do with me, there are also swinger videos, BBC and petite women, and a couple of "cheating wife" stories. I would never cheat on this man, he's even told me it's one of his worst fears because exes have done it to him before and tells me to stay away from male neighbors etc, yet he spends more time watching this garbage than he does in bed with me, and he always projects a fantasy onto me, mostly the daddy daughter kink or just "yeah you need my cock don't you" and I have to act.
He skips foreplay and I pretend to get off because I don't want him to be sad or make promises of getting me off "tomorrow night," when he's not tired. Knowing he masturbates like a teenager when I'm not home, but won't do anything past grabbing my ass most nights.
tl:dr, boyfriend watches a LOT of weird porn, isn't very intimate in bed. I know he loves me, but while I'm sitting over here wishing we could to tantric sex, he's watching porn of things he would die over if I did and it's alienating as fuck and making me feel less inclined to want to have sex, which I hate.
How do I tell him that his porn habits are pushing me away and that I want to try new things without this turning into a fight? I just want to restore intimacy.
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>>18370352
>10 videos a week for months
lol what a noob
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Sounds like my old room mate. I would just break up with him, he prolly has skitzo
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Talk to him
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Dear God please tell me how to develop discipline
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>>18370270
Find something worthwhile. Then you will apply yourself.
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>>18370274
I've already found several worthwhile things, it's still not enough
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>>18370270
I'm not the person to talk to about this, because I lack the discipline I desire as well. But maybe I can explain the process or the "theory" of achieving discipline.
Discipline is all about doing what needs to be done, even when you don't want to do it. It also entails doing it with the same degree of effort regardless of how you feel.
As an example, let's say you set out to do X pushups each day, and increase X by one every day. At first, it may seem easy. You may even find the motivation to do pushups for a few days in a row, but eventually a tiny voice in the back of your head is going to start saying, "If you don't do pushups today, no one will know but you". And you might let it slide. Or you may be sick for a couple days and not be able to do pushups, so when you get better you have to find the same motivation to get down on the floor and down your set number of pushups. This isn't the best example, but it's sort've the barest explanation of what discipline "is" and what tends to derail us from our goals.
So, now that we know what discipline is, how can we go about achieving it?
Discipline is not easily obtained. There is a reason that it is an admirable quality.
Like many things, the first step in achieving discipline is acknowledging that you have none. This goes beyong simply saying, "Man, I am so lazy!" Really analyze yourself in the mirror. Think about your past failures, ponder on the things that your lack of discipline are keeping you from achieving, but most importantly, think about your successes. What have you done in the past that you have actually stuck to? Once you have a firm grasp of where you stand on the axis of "Do or Do not", you can begin the process of undoing that which once bound you.
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This qt girl approached me yesterday and started chatting me up and giving me vibes. She totally wants the D. The problem is that I don't know what I should say via text because I'm autistic af over text. We're both on campus rn. What should I text her to ask her to study with me / boba / movies? Help me get laid!!! PS she sent 'yes I do' an hour and a half ago.
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You ask wat she's doing the what she's wearing then what shes wearing underneath that. If you get that far with getting rejected then your gold
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>>18370204
This is good advice actually.
I do this quite often and don't get thrown off when she might ask "why".
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>>18370285
The response to why is " just picturing your sexy azz in a thong or something "
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Are there any weightloss pills that arn't scams?
Yes, I'm aware that there is no magical medicine that will melt fat away. I'm talking in the "Will help you lose pounds faster when combined with proper diet and exocise" kind of way.
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>>18370107
Drink a bunch of water and go for a walk/run every morning. Also don't eat like shit.
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>>18370107
Yes coke or crack
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>>18370252
Sure but meth is the best or adderall which is a bit safer, unless you can get pharmaceutical meth which is hard to get
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How do I stop obsessing over girls?
It takes away from me trying to focus on things constructive or even shit I enjoy like video games.
When I finally meet one I feel like I just scare them away by prob seeming over eager then they just end up ghosting on me. Which just puts me into a massive depression or obsessively checking to see if they msg me or not.
So what can I do to basically careless? So that when I do meet someone that I dont scare them off or constantly check to see if they respond and end up being depressed just because they blew me off.
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>>18370089
Have a life. If you have a life, you don't have time to be checking on her or your phone all the time. You have things to keep busy. SO you won't overburden her.
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>>18370101
That I understand but problem is that even if I do have things going on it ends up taking priority over whatever I am doing. I try to be busy but I just drop what I am doing to obsess
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>>18370089
Idk but I have the same problem. Or more specifically had the same problem 3 times in my life, currently on my third and it's worse than ever.