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>>18369232

What do you want to do? Want to go out with her or make her lose interest?

Freeze up and watch the feelings deteriorate

>>18369232
Not notice them until few years later when you're lying on your bed alone in the middle of the night and wondering what could have been.

>>18369164
Find girl.
Buy condoms.
Ask her on date.
Get rejected.
Cry a little and try another girl.
After a while you either succeed or become r9k resident.
Then you keep dating and fucking her until she tells you she loves you.

Yes it is that easy.

If no girls wants you, consider improving yourself (hard) or lowering standards (easy). Even single crazy ugly dumb moms deserve love and provider.

Also you can always try going gay if anything else fails.

>>18369184
Thanks! I just wanted to make sure that's how people actually do it. Friends of mine tell their story like:
>had a crush on a girl
>decided to talk to her but I'm all shy tee hee xDD
>we went out now we are a couple
And I started to believe their bs.
What you say makes perfect sense.
According to my therapist I have an extremely low libido for my age so it only crosses my mind to try to date someone I've already known for a while, which is why my approach is bound to fail. That's the way normal people do it.

>>18369198
NOT* the way normal people do it

>>18369125
stop being a wageslave and be the boss of yourself OR become a NEET

>>18369125
4chan gives motivation

>>18369135
Eh I can't speak directly to OP as he's in white collar work, but I entered my field intentionally so as I'd have no "take-home" work.

OP has two other options, if he's valued enough by the company he can set boundaries - or pergaps charge for the home work - or he could join the blue collar workforce.

How old are you? Getting circumcised after you're full grown is going to be painful as fuck. Girls like cut but they want any kind of dick desu. Unless you need circumcision for medical reasons, don't do it for aesthetics lol

Don't do it unless you need to for medical rrasond, it ain't worth it for a few sluts.

>>18369055

Every girl you've beem with says they prefer cut? How does this come up, exactly?

>that was great babe, how was it for you?
>pretty good I guess, would kinda prefer you were circumcised, but whatever

Pretty cold desu. Maybe I wish they were a delicious trap but it seems mean to tell them that.

>>18368963
American spirits are pretty harsh imo. Just stick to vaping even if it doesn't look as neat. With vaping nothing justifies stogies and the risks and drawbacks that comes with them.

>>18368963
White Ox bru.

>>18368983
Isn't White Ox loose tobacco? Or do they come in prerolled too

>>18368899
damn, never roasted someone so bad they quit their job. What did you say and why?

I honestly doubt you were the one thing that made her quit. Maybe that happened a few times and you were just the last straw. If you feel bad try getting her info and issue an apology.

>>18368899
post what you said

Everybody lives their own lives. For you she was just a bar manger bitch.
For her you were just another asshole who just happened to be the last straw to break the camels back.

It was nothing on you personally.

>>18368849
I confessed.
Then she wanted to cheat on her bf.
Pretty close to doing it. Then after the summer I fell in love with another girl during my internship. Once again I'm the creep.
Eh.

>>18368849
You don't really choose who you are attracted to. It isn't like if they don't reciprocate the affection that you can just turn a switch off and stop liking them. I get your point and I think it makes a good argument though. People tend to side with those people because those are the ones that post here and most can relate. I've seen people take the side of the person who is bothered by the affection in threads giving the other perspective. It's akin to your best friend complaining about someone and you taking their side even though the other person also has grievances that are justified.

>>18368849
I'm completely cool with my love being unrequited. What's important is the other person's happiness, not whether I get to be their S.O. or not. I'll still be happy to be their friend.

I find this whole topic a bit confusing and hard to empathize with, really. I guess I'm weird.

MUCHO AUTISMO

>>18368714
The same way you score tennis. Love means nothing.

>>18368714
Adopt a cat from a shelter.

>>18368690
Lol I don't really think they were talking shit but your message is incredibly retarded. For starters if she doesn't know you're joking it just sounds like a threat. I would be creeped out if I got a message like that out of the blue. Next time you catch wind of a girl talking about you just send her a simple greeting. Don't beat yourself up man, we all make mistakes. I'm sure I've made more than you when it comes to women. Just learn from this and don't get dragged down by it.

>>18368690
it was probably just something made in passing and you took it too far

>>18368699
Yeah I can see that. I'll just leave it be. I had a couple happy face smileys in there though! (Like that meant much anyway) Can't really send a text after that right? Until we see each other in person again I guess

>>18368470
is that tofu?

You didn't give her any information, did you?

>>18368499
It is! Fried and covered in hoisin sauce. No I did not. I was intriqued by the questions so I did answer, but i dis t really give valueable info.

>>18368470
you should have hung up, hope you dont end up homeless

Become a programmer:
1) save up $6k
2) Take a programming bootcamp
3) The bootcamp will place you in a high paying junior position when you graduate.
4) change jobs every 1.5-3 years to get a bump in pay.

Actually, being promoted isn't how society works anymore. It's understood you need to go to a new employer if you want a pay raise/promotion.

Same applies to your job (if you actually enjoy working in food). Work at one place for 6-12 months. Move to the next place. Say, "I know how to do this and this, pay me more".

You can still move up in society. You just need the right mindset.

>>18368285
annon speaks truth.
You need a skills based job or you need to run your own business otherwise you will be stuck in shitty dead end kitchen jobs forever

military is a good choice if you don't mind taking orders and don't have issues with authority

>>18368285
>become a programmer
Uhh...me not good in da computerz.

I thought I was till I fell for the CS meme in Community College. Still, this sounds good, but the biggest problem is that I don't exactly know how my savings will last during the time I attend. I unfortunately had to buy a studio apt to gtf away from my worthless family, so I unfortunately heavily rely on this shitty job to keep my building, electrics, internet, and more paid.

Still, I'd kill for a bump up in life. If this is the way to go, I'll go ahead and scrimp and save to my last dollar to enact this plan.

I truly hate working here and it turned me off from the kitchen forever. I'd much rather kill for a desk monkey job OR something more rewarding than this. This position is humiliating and unthankful. Literally anything else is better than this (except burger flipper)

Anyway, that's sad to hear. I always thought you get promoted from within rather than just hopping back and forth to jobs. I always heard job hopping is bad to do, but if it's the way up, so be it also.

>>18368295
I'm okay with strictness so long as I can move ahead in life.

Quit.
Do it for yourself.
You're the only person who will look out for yourself.
We are all going to be dead in 70 years.
Quit.

>>18368178
I'm currently reducing my drinking from 15 years of constant obliteration because its causing too many acute health problems.
You think shit sucks now? Destroy your body with alcohol.... then it'll really suck. You can recover from where you are, but that won't be possible forever.

Fuck it. I drink all day every day and sometimes I like to chainsmoke and then resort to bumming smokes. Who want to live to be old anyways amirite fellas?

Lifting will get you laid, but not because you'll have giant muscles.

Because to be a good lifter, you need to take care of your body, it will improve your self esteem. Sure, people will be more attracted to you (unless you go all steroidal world championship level). Going to the gym will get you out of the house and put you in a position to meet people, both lifting bros (who can be wingmen), and women. Don't join a goodlife, join a local gym that's busy and not too rundown

>>18368159
Just being fit won't necessarily get you laid. Only time I remember it helping was when I was at a pool party with my shirt off and a guy told me some girl said she would be open to hooking up with me because I had a nice six pack. Besides that I've never noticed it helping. I mean just look at the people on /fit/ for seeing it isn't some magic potion. That being said, being fit does help give you some confidence and might make you feel better about yourself. Seeing your body transform and change is pretty incredible and it gives you something to strive towards as well as it keeps you accountable if you begin to slack.

All of the times I've gotten laid, even when I was pretty muscular, have all been due to personality. Cultivate a good personality and work on exercising your brain. That will get you laid more than just lifting weights. Do things that embed you with a sense of confidence and work on picking up girls wherever.

>>18368159
they will increase, but being cut isn't the only factor in getting a gf (or quality gf) but it will help.

Also, you say you are 4/10 ok... so is taht cause your fat and gross or because your face is that of a Neanderthal? either way, you can make your body a 10/10, and your face is a 4/10... then you sit at a nice 7/10 especially for girls who like muscles.

Also, whats the worst that can happen? You get stronger and healthier? just do it already.

>>18368129
Why do I reply to bait.

Yes, that's cheating anon. You need to be 18 or older to post on this website.

>>18368129
idiot. yes.

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>>18368129
Yes...it's only not cheating if this is an arrangement your SO is chill with.

This question is "will this get me pregnunt" tier.

>>18368125
I'm sure you know yourself that there is no easy answer for that.

What you must always keep in mind, though, is that you shouldn't project someone else's shortcomings onto a new relationship. Don't smother a new SO because a previous one broke your trust, because things will go very sour very quickly if you do.

If you can't do that, there's no point in getting into a new relationship. You should also communicate these issues once things start getting more serious, so the other person knows what's up.

>>18368135
Thanks. I didn't expect a miracle solution to this because there is none, but different perspectives and thoughts are always helpful.

It's not like I am plagued by a fear of some sort, but I just cant't let myself go and open myself up. I don't trap my feelings inside because there are none. Wether this is just an illusion I created myself or fact, can't tell.

>>18368125
Train them