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Hey guys, KV age 24 here. I really want to get a GF, so I've started working out, lost some weight, started reading books etc. etc., you know- selfimproovment stuff. There are three things however that are really dragging me down in my quest:
First-getting fit is a work in progress, but even if I get fit, I'll still look pretty mediocre- I'm not a pretty face.
Second-I don't know any woman in my life that I would like to ask out. Uni was a sausage fest, work is a sausage fest, as you may have guessed I'm not a very popular person and I hate going to clubs (In our country night clubs are gathering points for rich guys and gold diggers)
Third- the mere fact that I haven't seen any pussy "from first person" cripples my character when it comes to women- the anxiety is strong with me. Whenever I even think of approaching a girl I get very nervous. Plus I can't talk about sex openly, because I have no experience.
The thing is, that I see a ton of attractive women every day and I really want to approach some of them, but is it worth it? How do you guys think- is there any point at all to go to a complete stranger, the only think you have in common with is that you share the same subway train and try to generate a relationship out of thin air, or is the risk of becoming known as an insane creep too big.(Pls note that many of these girls work in the same building I do, so they won't just vanish after a failed attempt).
Or are there any other socially acceptable ways to get into a conversation with a girl.
PS: Don't recommend Tinder-I've tried it for six months- it's shit if you don't have a face like Brat Pitt.

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What is my problem that the girls always chat about me from a distance or to other people but never talk to me in person, to what kind of person does this usually happen? Certainly not to a 24yo khv? What is the explanation of this bizarre nonsexual attraction/interest? I'm normal looking, no neckbeard or anything.

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hey /adv/ i need advice on what to major in, in the past few days i've been relentlessly trying to figure out what should i become and it is quite puzzling, i want to major moslty in biochem but i also have a passion for Microbiology but i seem to be perplexed when it comes to which, i am located in europe and mostly i found ,,some,, collage options but hardly any job options, advice me, should i really chase my passion or should i change career paths?

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So I had my first one night stand last night and couldn't get hard. I've always been able to get hard for girlfriends but this was awkward. She came 6 times so it's not like I couldn't do anything but I would like to get my dick hard. She wants me to come back tonight. Any advice on how to get/stay hard?

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Has anyone had an expirience with tonsilitis?
Since yesterday i got a small fever and my tonsils are swollen, with some small with spots on it..
It's a bit less bad than on this picture, but my question is. Should i consider getting antibiotics etc straight away or wait and try to cure it myself?
Thanks for the response in advance

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I get spaced out the more I strain my eyes and get bad mindfog.

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I want to give up on the western world and move over to the DPRK to work for the Korean People's Navy. Where do I start?

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sup /adv/

I'm an an applied math major going into my second year of undergrad and am looking for a decent online Calc II course that I can take over the summer.

All I've found so far is this course taught by some mormon guy: https://is.byu.edu/description/MATH-113-200

Any recommendations help, something self paced would be ideal.

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Hi /adv/. I think that I might have depersonalisation. Since I was 12 I have been having these feelings. I feel like I am just an observer. i would describe it as looking from the back of my head. Life just feels automated. like I lost all of my control.I cant focus and All of my motivation is gone. sometimes time moves slowly or quickly. I have anxiety atacks and overthink just about everything. Worst thing about it are the feelings. I feel like I lost all joy in life. I lose all empathy and start doing things, that I normally wouldnt.
I realy need and advice if it really is depersonalisation or something completly different. It is tearing me and my relations with people apart.

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I have major trust issues that have prevented me from trusting girls, one of scenario I often find myself thinking is that she's just useing me to make her X/ BF jealous. What are some red flags that help you guys identify if you are being used?

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Are there any reliable data sources for salary information (e.g. given job role in a given area) besides the H1B database?

Yeah sure you have averages and self-reported things on glassdoor, but H1B is confirmed base salary for all jobs

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Starting uni classes tomorrow. It's been years since I have been in a school. I really want to meet new people and be friends with them but I have no idea how to do it. I have always been socially awkward. Do I find someone sitting alone and just sit next to them and say hi? What do we talk about afterwards? It's really going to suck going to class everyday with no one to talk to.

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Is college really just a hotbed of casual sex, flings and meaningless physicality?

I'm a virgin, but I've dated 4 girls in high school and though short-lived the relationships were all very important to me. I'm going to university this upcoming fall, and all my family is glad I'm single, being very suggestive about how college is full of easy sex with a lot of different people. But I don't want that. I want to find maybe a few (if not just one) girls who have similar ideals to me whom I can really connect with, like real people, not sex-crazed animals. Not necessarily for a lifelong commitment, but I don't find any meaningful value from one night stands.

Is this a far off dream? Am I being unrealistic, and should I just dive into college hookup culture?

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So I need some advice regarding as to how to proceed with a current relationship I'm trying to pursue. Sorry if this a bit long there's two parts (see part 2 for the tldr version). So, some back story:

We met through college and hit it off pretty well and it turns out we're from the same city. It was apparent that she liked me. When I move back we talked about going on a couple dates. We go on said dates and I immediately like this girl, and I catch feels for her. We end up making out on the second date and sleeping together on the third. I was feeling good vibes from it all and I wanted to pursue it further. After that week however she was headed off to a city 4 hours to go to a new job.

Me not having a car, I could not see her. And so, for about a month we kept in contact pretty much everyday. Called at least once a week, I was planning to book a train ride at the end of the month to see her. The day I was to do that, I heard she got fired and was headed back to the city. Prior to her arrival back, we had planned some activities to do throughout summer (hiking, beach, see Canada Day fireworks,etc.). The two weeks she got back I didn't see her due to it being a busy week for her. The following week I took her out to dinner for her birthday, everything seemed fine.

We had planned to see fireworks the following week, but that fell through. She was with her family when she saw them which was fine. But all throughout that week she was kind of dodgy and not as eager to hang out like before. It felt off (I don't know how else to explain it). After that day she wasn't really responsive to texts or it just didn't seem like she wanted to talk. She doesn't text first at all anymore, and I have to be the first one to text.

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So I'm interested in getting involved with the field of cybersecurity. I'm extremely good with computers, and I'm proficient in multiple programming languages. I just finished my two years, and I'm looking for a bachelors program that would help me in my pursuit of working in this field.

Is there anyone here that works in the field, or is more knowledgeable of it than I? I'm thinking of majoring in a program that focuses on security and network administration, rather than compsci/engineering, was mainly wondering if that would be wise or not.

Any advice/information is helpful. Thanks in advance.