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>>18729803
>Should I visit a dermatologist
yes

google fordice spots perhaps

>>18729809
>google fordice spots perhaps
Those only show up on the shaft, not the glans

>>18729809
I'll see if I can't get an appointment set for this week.

>>18729827
Do you think it could be another disease? The doctor that tested me said they were nothing to worry about and they'd probably go away within the month but I'm not entirely sure if she's right.

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>>18729544
drinking is a major social activity. you don't have to get blackout drunk but having a drink in your hand makes you seem less like an outsider. protip: gin and tonic and just plain tonic look identical. Rum and coke looks just like coke. Though you will be around drunk people while sober which I'm not a big fan of, don't know about you.

Join clubs and shit, study with people, etc. There are plenty of ways to make friends if you are a friendly person. If you are anti-social and think you're better than everyone you'll have a hard time.

>>18729544
Plenty of people in college don't drink or fuck. Granted they're losers like you, but they do exist in moderate quanitities.

>>18729528
I'm a programmer myself, it's a nice enough job and you can make a decent amount of money. But if you don't have a deep interest in the tech I totally get why it weirds you out. If you do want to work in CS, then avoid younger companies / startups. Go for companies with older staff (with families), they'll have a culture that suits you better.

Taking time off to figure stuff out is always an option, but I'm honestly not sure if four years in the military will give you much extra outside perspective. You'll be busy, distracted, and surrounded by guys all headed in the same direction.

FWIW, I worked as a volunteer in the UK for half a year and that gave me a hell of a lot of perspective, meeting people from all over the world.

>>18729807

How'd you score a volunteer gig in the UK? I'd be interested in something like that.

>>18729838
If you find a UK charity, they can usually help with paperwork and visas and that sort of thing. We've had a few other Americans.

I volunteered at an outdoor activity center. Volunteers were all 18 - 25 year olds, from all around the world, living on site, delivering activities to young people.

PS: Drinking age is 18 in the UK, parties are lit.

I have a way to do it but my process is kinda weird. When one pops up I don't try to stop it, I kinda "quiet" my mind until it goes away.

>>18729505
Have you considered making some good memories?

>>18729524
Can't override bad memories tainted by ocd I used to have.

My brain tormented with a person I don't like. So I'm stuck obsessing over it.

>>18729499

You can't jerk off, or jerk off your nose, to clear your sinuses.

>>18729499
Vaporub

>>18729499
This that James Comey in the picture?

Just be normal and keep being nice and let her make the first move.

>>18729480
>It just seems very awkward to bring up any non-work related stuff when we're in class.

Why? Are you a boring person who has nothing outside of work? Talk about your interests and her interests. Talk about a great hiking spot you discovered or the cool Spanish dishes you are learning to cook. A lot of hobbies and activities you mention could lead to a shared activity that would lead to "dating". Try and give her reasons for you two to hang out, buddy.

>>18729832
We're literally in a class for 1 hour a day. Most the time, we're walking around the class helping kids. Can't really just go into a corner and talk for 15 mins. That's just too awkward and not possible.

It means that she has plans and wants to go out, but you'll have to work around her schedule.

Ask her when would be best for her - She'll either tell you, or deflect it (in which case don't bother.)

It means she's fucking chad

It means you are inadequate and she's already getting dick somewhere else.

I mean, nothing positive can come from messing around with her so put that out of your mind. Unless a short term hook-up is all you're interested in.

She's pretty much admitted that she's into you. So there's two options:

1) Be a friend. Hold off on the romantic stuff.
2) Don't be a friend. Say bye

this could happen all the time anon, you just need to keep meeting people.

>>18729431
this

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>>18729423
I'd fuck off
>you still have them feels and they wreck you
>she loves your attention but nothing more, you'll still want to fuck/gf her
>her bf has to live with his gf having a beta orbiter, this will strain their relationship

This novel feeling of connecting with her isn't worth the three points mentioned. Time to move on. If you wanna be friends then see her max once a month or every two months.

That's just kind of what happens after meaningful relationships end.

First it'll hurt like hell, and you might not be able to function normally. So fuck it, embrace it. Order some crappy food, watch some Netflix, distract yourself in a passive way.

After that, distract yourself with positive stuff. Put energy into work, physical improvement, whatever you think is important.

Beyond that, it takes time. And putting new, positive things in to your life.

(PS: Drinking by yourself is just going to make you feel shittier, so fuck that anyway)

>>18729424
Thanks anon just alot of free time i am only in class for around an hour a day 4 days a week and have no job so lots of free time for feels. I have this weird feeling its not sadness i dont think its just this pit in my stomach like a rock or something like nervousness or something i do not understand it just this empty stomach feeling that i can shake when i get to thinking about it. sometimes anger but rare just that feeling i cant leave behind maybe i am just apathetic as i haven't cried about it or anything but i do know for sure i miss her.

>>18729448
Most people suck at emotions because we like to hide them most of the time. Try full on fucking crying like a newborn baby. You might feel relieved.

we can't help you if you don't tell us the base problem making you feel this way.

I myself sleep with a machete beside my bed.

>>18729403
Either kill yourself and have your family cry and miss you or fix your problems and actually tell people and get help

>>18729403
join the military and go out killing a few sand nogs, my man. if you're going to kill yourself, die the warrior's death, not the coward's death. you might just find the will to live along the way.

Forgot to say

>she says long distance relationships don't work
>I don't agree or disagree

>>18729402
Sorry man. It seems like she's not that interested...seems to me like those all hints and that she doesn't want anything serious

She's not interested.

Been there, done that lol. Enjoy the pain.

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>>18729398
I bet it's not really hard at all considering California's culture. You should tell your story to the news to make the doctors go on a power trip and speed up the process. Is it Cali or Oregon that gives you suicidebpills so you can do it at home?

>>18729430
Yeah this probably isn't the right time but I will have to do it one day probably in the next year maybe I will use diethyl ether with other legal cns depressants

>>18729398
Hey Man, they have made some important strides in A research and I know they have a couple of new drugs on the list to be scheduled soon. (Fuck, look at AIDS, was a death sentence, now, it's survivable via pRep).

Stick it out, maybe see if you can be part of a trial...

>>18729322
She was probably waiting for you to say something. Instead of hiding behind a friendship, you need to let her know how you feel at the beginning

>>18729352
its late now, shes gone and disappeared. I cant assume speculation,and how could I tell her, she wasnt over her ex-bf. Dude used to pick on me on HS because I was uncomfortable

Without her input, it's hard to say. However my first thought is that she's gotten back with her ex. If that's not the case, she could be thinking about it. If that's not it, then she's not over her ex and maybe thought she wasn't ready for another relationship and you were getting to close. The regular hangout sessions were moving toward relationship territory and she didn't want to be in that position. This all assumes she's normal. She could also have any one of many psychological problems including bipolar. One thing to remember, it's not always your fault. You can control what you do but not what other people do. Consider this an early warning sign. When people don't act normal in the early stages of a relationship, it's not going to get better, it's going to get worse. While you grew attracted to her, she didn't feel the same way about you. This happens more often than not. You need to move on and hope the next one works out better.

You could do it, but you're very much limited in project size if you're on your own and have to deal with the business side yourself too. You could build stuff for very small companies, but you'd need to be very cheap to outbid generic software or cloud services.

Make it easy for yourself, just get a normal job.

https://www.upwork.com/o/jobs/browse/c/web-mobile-software-dev/

>>18729261
Your best bet as a small operation on the short term is to become a reseller of some other company's software, one that has extensibility options. But you become a salesman by nature as well as a developer.

I'd personally just become a contractor and sign on for one year contracts or whatever. Been considering this for a while now as a wage cuck.

*a bad person

>>18729257
Completely normal op, just don't act on your fantasies

>>18729325
What he said.