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I'm in a situation similar to yours. What I'm trying is doing drugs at music festivals. I'll let you know how it goes.

>>17979344
Well good luck to you. I wish I liked going to music festivals and events like that. It would be way easier to meet people.

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One last bump

>>17979178
You don't stop feelings, you manage them.

>>17979178
Enter advanced advanced buddhism

>>17979364 is correct.

This might sound corny as hell, but if the bad feelings are getting bigger, do the following:
Check if you're thirsty. If so, drink some water.
Check if you're hungry. If so, have something to eat.
If you haven't been outside all day, go for a 10 minute walk
If you haven't spoken to anyone in a while, reach out to someone. Doesn't need to be anything heavy, going to /b/ and calling someone a faggot works as well.
If you can be arsed to exercise, do some push-ups, a couple of squats, maybe go for a jog

This won't make the bad feelings stop, but it'll help managing them.

First of all, your family is shitty as hell for straight up calling your girlfriend fat. Who does that?

With that being said, not being physically attractive to your girlfriend is a perfectly reasonable and valid concern. It doesn't necessary make you a shallow person. A lot of things factor into the success of a relationship, and you have the personality match, which is great! Now that you have that much together, wanting to work on physics attractiveness isn't a bad thing.

So, how to approach this? Straight up telling her you don't find her attractive is probably too harsh. Instead, have a talk with her about how you want to change YOUR lifestyle to a healthier one, and ask her to do it together, with you. Having a friend to exercise with is a huge motivator, and having your significant other change their diet along with you makes the change 1000 times easier. If she refuses, you'll need to ask why. Pry if you must. Be prepared with good answers and motivators if she doesn't think she of capable of success here. I work in healthcare, and I can tell you first hand that being overweight really, really affects your health in terrible ways, and the sooner you change the better.

>>17979211
>First of all, your family is shitty as hell for straight up calling your girlfriend fat. Who does that?

If she's fat then she's fat. Are they supposed to ignore the elephant in the room?

>>17979211

Any Asian family will and without a second thought. It's part of the reason why Asian girls are even more obsessed about appearance than western girls.

>>17979172
new dank memes

>>17979172
Don't forget they've made the youngest generations stupid. And it's only getting worse.
They're now killing us on the spot if we don't fall in line, and everyone knows but no one is doing anything about it.
They poison the food we eat and the water we drink.
They're killing our planet for money and don't care.


Maybe this is why I'm depressed.

>>17979172
>Relations between nations are getting worse.
America and Russia getting along. The EU will be over soon and Trump will fuck up the Chinese economy. What the fuck is wrong with you? Every evil country will be destroyed.

>>17979161
It's better to end it when you still have good memories of the experience. This way it will be a part of your life that will bring you happy or perhaps a bit sad feeling - instead of anger, resentment or worse. What's done is done, time to look towards the future.

>>17979193
Thank you anon

>>17979193
Was that hard to translate from binary code in your robot CPU?

Your open for abuse if you think like that.

Find a loyal man and love him genuinely.

>>17979140
Are you very religious and want to be a homemaker and pop out babies and blah blah "traditional family values"? Depends on where you live I guess. Your family could probably hook you up with someone.

Do you just want to be a trophy wife? Depends on how attractive you are. Also, lol, no you won't find someone your age, gotta lower your standards there. They just want a cumbucket to make their bros jealous and who will father their aryan sons. Which begs the question, why don't you want to be more than this?

>>17979140

The leech part would kill it for me.

I'm on my way to becoming a doctor and my speciality requires long hours every week. I wouldn't mind my wife not working, but she sure as fuck will not be lazy and only add to my work.

If you have no career skills to provide, get good at cooking and cleaning.

>>17979124
Introduce cuckolding.

fuck 'er in da bum

>>17979124
Same way you do as a girl, start some kind of drama.
Cheat or something

>>17979058
>it seems to satisfy her more
you only see what you want to see kek

I think the answer to "should I talk about this thing with my partner or not" is almost always yes.

Why does it have to take the fun out of it? When you're hanging out nonsexually, make it into a conversion about kinks and preferences and what both of you like, want to try, and want to do more of.

>>17979075
Yeeeeeahhhhhhh whateeeever you say there, buddy boy.

>>17979083
Straightforward, will do.

sorry anon, i dont understand you. you condemn other people for their strong opinions yet your very own "personal philosophy" that makes you hate everyone else is considered by you acceptable and not radical. what do you want? if you think this some kind of lone-wolf-ish then youre wrong, it makes you sound like a huge prick.

>>17979029
Being angry is not part of the philosophy. It's just an emotion I have come to ask for help with. Is calling me a prick your main objective? I'm not here to have a stupid argument with anyone, right.

>>17979037

no need to be so touchy. being angry isnt part of the philosophy? then why mention you try not to hate everyone youre surrounded by?
can you at all explain what this emotion is all about? what have the other people exactly done to you to destroy your trust in their best intentions?

Go on a date?

>>17978982
Yes, sorry for the typo

That depends. Would you say that your basement is large and acoustically dampened enough to hold a grown adult in captivity?

>>17978952

Yeah. You obviously don't like him if you have doubts about it.

Besides he wants to go out for a party which sounds more exciting than coffe. Coffe is for boring people.

You two dont fit togather.

>>17978952
sorry, what do you need help with?

>>17979013
No, in fact I really like him, but I guess he thinks I'm up for a hook up or so which I don't really into.

>>17978906
what video?

Depending on the person and how serious they are about it, it's either having the perks of a serious relationship while being able to fuck around, or it's being able to maintain a serious long term connection while not having to shut down every other person you're attracted to. Technically you don't just miss out on sex and infatuation by doing that, but also what you could learn from them and your interaction, what they could add to your life or just getting to know them by itself. And obviously there's a point in that once you have that kind of connection with someone, you easily have certain personal conversations and moments you usually don't with people.
I guess also the naïve idea that you have a sort of loophole in regards to cheating and jealousy if you open the relationship, that won't threaten your bond anymore (in theory).

>>17978908

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CEjgMhF0uQo

>>17978888
embrace apathy, realize that we are all alone regardless of the presence of others

>>17978931
Shut up already.

>>17978933
Do you disagree? Please we all die alone, if your scared of abandonment, then work on self improvement to where you can sustain yourself and don't need anyone.

>>17978877
>I need help choosing a degree
No, you need to take time off and do something else before you go and study so you don't waste time and money

>>17978877
This list is fucking stupid and made by those typical wagie STEM cucks who literally only have their job as a personality trait

Some liberal arts degrees (especially music and English) can take you a long way, and any of those are more respectable than fucking computer science aka corporate bitch: the degree.

Just do what you fucking want. I know you said you have no creativity but think about what jobs you'd find least objectionable in life, since your degree is basically job training. But it's also worth noting that you may not even use your degree in the future.

So tldr, do whatever you want. Almost all degrees have some high paying jobs you can land with them, and don't be scared off by STEM only faggots, especially if you'd like job options outside of 9-5s. Also, I was under the impression from some of my Austrian friends that euros pick their career path at age 12, is that not the case in your country?

>>17978877
Whoever made that chart is a fucking retard

Kill her with kindness.
Act really kind and amicable at all times.
Don't talk shit, don't argue, don't react.
Let her reveal herself as the psychotic bitch she is. She'll act out big time once she realizes you're not going to react. Possibly dramatically. That's when you've won.

Sounds like your bf has really endured her shit as well, personally. Why the fuck isn't he making a stand? "Don't want her along on the holiday" would be a good start, but also taking a statements to get some distance between the two of you and her. I know this also influences his relationship with his younger brother, but honestly, this chick has pulled enough psycho shit not to trust her in your surroundings again.

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>>17978884