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What is the difference between a romantic relationship and a friendly relationship?
It's weird, I don't really understand the difference besides kissing and all that stuff.
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>>18077950
there's no such thing as a friendly relationship with the opposite sex lmao.
usually one side has unrequited love for the other.
seems like you've been in the friend zone this entire time and never realized it :^)
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>>18077954
Well, kind of
But what is the difference?
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Feelings of tenderness that you don't have for just a friend, and that you hope the other person reciprocates.
A willingness to be vulnerable in a way you wouldn't with a friend.
A desire to have these feelings exclusively for each other.
For example, you won't care if your friend has other friends, but you don't want your lover to have other lovers.
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Hey guys, I have a girlfriend of ~4.5 years that has BDP. We always knew that something was up in previous years, but never figured out what it was until a couple years ago. She's been on meds now for half a year, and it's been a LOT better. Before that, I was seriously considering leaving her because of the constant emotional fits and the manipulation, but I'm no longer thinking about leaving. She's apologized for acting the way she did before many times, and we really do love each other and care about each other.
Problem is, there's still issues that come up frequently and I have trouble dealing with them the way I used to. She can be incredibly warm and loving one moment and then turn cold as stone the next. I don't have the same thick skin I used to, /adv/. Is there something I can do to better cope with these things? I know that things are probably the best they'll be now that she's on meds, and I recognize that if I want to stay with her I'll have to put up with a certain level of this
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Are you a masochist, OP? Do you enjoy being emotionally abused?
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>>18077918
You'll always have to put up with this. Trust me, mental illness rarely goes away entirely. It's like malaria. She'll be relatively fine as long as she keeps on her meds and works to stay healthy. You'll never be entirely free of it though.
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>>18077918
abandon ship. she will not change. she can not change.
source: experience
my gf's annoying ass ex bf literally will not leave her alone and is convinced she's gonna go back to him. she hates this motherfucker because he emotionally manipulated her for like two years or some shit but she humors his desperation and still talks to him occasionally. I've read the texts it's gucci she's not cheating on me. anyway he keeps buying her expensive shit in hopes she'll want his dick again but she's not having it. and she doesn't know how to get rid of him without sending him off the deep end cos he's a lil pussy bitch
wat do
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>>18077839
she needs to realize that it's a real short leap from his current behavior to violent stalking.
she's got to cut the guy out of her life before shit gets bad
she, not you
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>>18077839
Women are such fucking retards sometimes
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>>18077846
This
If it persists confront the dude. Maybe spend your free time bulking up. If he gets violent beat the shit out of him.
Be Theodore Roosevelt here. Speak softly but carry a big stick i.e. get jacked.
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Guys, I need help
I just showered after having not showered after several months and it's sooo tangled I can't even get comb the hair through the first parts of it (its quite long)
Help!
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Go back in and put a generous amount of conditioner in your hair. Let it set for like a good five minutes. Detangle with your fingers as best you can before you rinse it out.
That should help a bit
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When you comb your hair hold it in the middle and comb the ends first. Work your way up and if you hold it right then it won't pull your head
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Cut it
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I finally got a wonderful girlfriend. Shes Catholic so she believes sex should be only for married couples. I'm ok with that but should I tell her that I lost my virginity to a prostitute because I was feeling so lonely thinking I'd never find a girl like her? Do I risk losing her if I tell her I fucked a whore?
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Does she think you're a virgin? Is she even one?
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>>18077751
Hmm...she might. Just keep it in and take it to your grave.
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>>18077753
She's definitely a virgin. She never asked me about my sexual history
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I have no skills whatsoever, but I have a college degree (in a fuck off field with no opportunities)
What jobs can I apply for and get?
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what degree
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>>18077750
Learn programming
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>>18077850
Music Performance Specializing in Opera
>>18077851
I'm looking for something more immediate
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Hello /adv/!
I've decided to off myself. I've been to mental hospital twice, both times because of attempted suicide.
I have an antidepressant combination called California rocket fuel. On it for few years now, doesn't help a bit, just taking it to keep my parents happy.
This time I will try to stab myself in the heart region.
Is this a viable option? I met a ton of people in the mental hospital with slit throats, bleach drinkers and such, but not a single person with heart stab.
I can't take this shit anymore.
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>>18077729
Razors pain you;
Rivers are damp;
Acids stain you;
And drugs cause cramp.
Guns aren’t lawful;
Nooses give;
Gas smells awful;
You might as well live.
and if that made you even smile for a moment you aren't depressed enough to kill yourself
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>>18077745
Nope.
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>>18077745
Man you suck at making people smile.
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I keep having sex dreams about one of my friends. I feel really bad because I have a boyfriend and I feel like I'm being unfaithful even though I know it's just a dream. Would you want to know if your girlfriend/boyfriend had a sex dream about someone else or would you not care that much?
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>>18077710
Don't feel bad. It's out of your control and I'm sure you wouldn't shag or do something romantic with the friend. It wouldn't bother me at all if my girlfriend had a sex ream with someone she knows. I wouldn't say I'd "want" to know, but I wouldn't mind knowing it. I don't care because it doesn't bother me. I will also say that even if you're attracted to your friend then there's nothing wrong. You're gonna be attracted to other people whether you are in a relationship or not. What matters (to me personally) is what you do with that person. As long as you wouldn't do anything sexual or romantic then idclmao.
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>>18077972
Also, out of curiosity, how would you feel if your boyfriend was having dreams like that? I assume since you feel bad about your dreams, you'd feel uncomfortable with him having those. If so, why?
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>Would you want to know if your girlfriend/boyfriend had a sex dream about someone else
No, because that's an insane thing to share with somebody.
It was a dream. You have 0 control over it. Your desires are not confined and locked to just the relationship you have chosen.
If you had a sex dream about him, sure, tell him, because that might arouse him and that's always fun.
If you didn't, it doesn't matter. It's irrelevant.
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I had the fourth opportunity to lose my virginity last night. The past three times, I wasn't able to get it up, and this time was no different. This is really starting to have a debilitating affect on me, and I just do not know what to do. The first three girls weren't really that attractive, and I was even more nervous/anxious because I was severely overweight. This time I had no excuse, her body was amazing and I've lost some 80 pounds over the past 6 months, and am now at a perfectly normal weight (6'1 180 pounds, compared to 6ft 265) I could feel my dick getting a semi when we were making out and shit, but it just refused to go any further. Should I just take the plunge and buy a fucking viagra/cialis? I am at my wits end, and I don't know why the fuck it seems like I have a broken dick at 19. I cannot keep going on with this routine of disappointing girls while embarrassing myself at the same time. But at the same time, as more shit like this happens my mental state is going to get worse.
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You were completely sober? being drunk makes your dick not work.
Do you jerk off? Your dick gets hard when you jack off right?
My advice is to stop jerking off from this day forward, thats right a compete nofap.
From now on you only get to get off when it's fucking a lady
Do you take prescription pills? I would hope not at 19 but ya never know.
If you do, stop doing it immediately, drug companies are evil, they purposely make your dick not work so they can sell you more pills.
They care about money, not people.
Fun fact: The most prescribed drug in the United States is Lipitor, for blood pressure.
The number one adverse side effect of Lipitor is erectile dysfunction.
The company that makes Lipitor makes another best selling drug... You guessed it, Viagra
Don't trust pills man
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Oh and if you really absolutely must jerk off.
As in, it's been a month, can't get any pussy, having frequent wet dreams..
Then sure, go ahead and clean the PIPES but...
NO PORN
ZERO
You are hereby banned from pornography.
You jerk off with your imagination from now on you got that
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>>18077740
Fun fact: lipitor is atorvastatin, a drug of the statin group and is used for hyperlipidemia.
Fun fact: If you are hypertensive and stop taking antihypertensive drugs, you increase your chances of kidney failure, heart failure, valve dysfunction, ruptured aneursym and stroke by a few fold.
Don't give uneducated medical advice to other people.
I'm with you with the other advice though.
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whats up /adv/
need legal help
SWIM put a deposit on a vehicle to hold it while SWIM needed to get their stipulations together for financing an auto loan and also didn't want it sold to someone else. SWIM was told verbally that the deposit was non refundable, but that there was an approval already so the salesmen said "It doesn't matter about being refundable or not, we got you an approval. Get your stipulations to support your credit application and you'll get the car"
SWIM came back to get the vehicle, however when the credit application was submitted, the income showed $3000 monthly. Only about $1000 was provable once bank statements/paystubs were provided. This was a sub prime loan so all of that was neccesary. SWIM signed a credit application saying they made $3000 monthly.
The dealer offered to refund about $400 since the vehicle was taken off the market for some time and they missed out on sales and what not, however SWIM declined that and wanted the full amount.
What ground is there on this? is SWIM entitled to a full refund? The dealer is insisting they said no refunds and they are also saying they have a sign in the show room stating that there are no refunds unless stated otherwise.
If it helps, this is in Texas.
>pic unrelated
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>>18077663
Absolutely NOTHING ever said orally or promised by a salesman has any legal binding power. ONLY things in writing - and if there is indeed a "No Refunds" sign there, the salesmen have no power to counter it and it trumps anything they say.
It's a hard lesson to learn but an essential one. It applies to all situations, not just cars.
(Now, if you still want to deal with these guys, they'd probably let you apply the full deposit to a different car.)
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>>18077773
So if SWIM decides to go the legal route, due to the sign in the show room there will be no ground to get a refund?
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>>18077959
The fuck is SWIM?
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Is it normal for rmm8 to always buy your weed? I smoke often so my rmm8 knows i always got a few joints lying around and he knocks on my door and asks to buy a joint 2-3 times a week for 5 bucks. I know im making maybe. its just really annoying how he always asks to buy my weed and is too lazy to go pick up for himself (in my case i have to walk 30min to pick up and 30min back. How to j address this issue without hurting our alright relationship. I dont wanna seem like a cheap guy who hogs all the weed but i also dont wanna share my stash with people who are too lazy to get their own.
Help? Thanks
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Im thinking of soaking some bud with alcohol and leave it in a place where its easily found cause i also suspect rmm8 has been going through my stuff when im not there. Ive lost cigarettes before and my prerolls seem like they have been fondled with with. Is this a good idea?
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Five bucks for a gram joint is low senpai.
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>>18077633
Congratulations. You are now a drug dealer.
What you should do is spike a joint with some ice, this way you can get more profit in the long run. You are already enabling your friend to ruin their life, degree and urgency are meaningless at this point.
It baffles me how anyone can use illicitly sourced drugs. Where is the ingredient list? Where is the accountability?
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just like everyone else here
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alright fuckers how do you do it.
iv heard that you have to hate life to the point that you want to beat it but hate is unsustainable for a long period of time.
self harm is fucking great and helps a lot (ignore me, don't hurt yourself kids) but it only delays the bullshit until next time you feel like shit.
you cant tell the people you trust the most because it will ruin any chance you have of interacting with them normally in the future.
if they don't try and hold some bullshit intervention then they will always be weary around you, not wanting to set you off and acting like your made of glass when really nothing they say can be worse than what you tell your self.
how do you act like your happy to see people, like you enjoy the 9-5 and hanging out. you think your in control of your emotions but every time you get drunk or high everything bubbles to the surface and you have to leave or people will see whats behind the fake smile.
nobody really needs any of that "oh it gets better anon" or "nobody really thinks your a cunt, its all in your head" there has to be an anon here who has dealt with the self hate and has a logical answer to this shit
in b4 kill yourself fgt and man up/ get over it.
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>>18077624
you sound "depressed" because no one will suck your dick. fuck off
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Don't drink or get high and nothing will bubble upto the surface and stop being such a faggot ffs
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>>18077624
I feel the same way, i wouldn't go as far as saying i have a crippling depression though.
Don't get drunk with others if you are not very close to them, i tend to leave parties early before i can't control it aswell.
Go find a dork who is not connected to any of your other friends and befriend him or her to talk about these things, it helps a lot and before you realize it other have probably done it to you aswell.
People don't talk to me anymore if they don't have to, i didn't forget how to socialize but nowadays i feel like everyone thinks i'm an idiot, feels like i have to pretend to be someone else to be accepted.
Having atleast one good friend or two that care about you helps you get through all that shit, you won't be able to do it alone.
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>be me
>known as an introvert to most of my friends
>they know I usually only like to hang out with them individually, and not a group
>friend hits me up to help him figure something out with his car after work
>so I get off, grab a beer and head over
>we're drinking, working on his car
>get that shit figured out then go inside to chill for a bit
>we get a little weed and smoke up
>chillin for a bit
>his roommate comes home, that's cool known him for years shoot the shit a little bit
>his other roomate comes home, who is a complete loser, drug addict, retard with kids who is in and out of jail
>and he has a half gallon of vodka and is trying to party
>I take my leave a minute later
Am I autistic? I might've stayed for a beer or two if they had beer, but I wasn't trying to get vodka hammered, and I didn't bring any more weed to roll up. I had beer and weed at my house though, and I had to work in the morning. So, I just went home and hung out by myself watching netflix.
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BUMP.
I do this regularly. If I get asked to hang out, I usually have to ask if there's anyone else over, and I'll decide from there if I want to hang out.
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Nah you're just more introverted. I usually prefer smaller groups too. Trying to fight to get a word in with a large group is annoying
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>>18077525
I do this every time
I always feel like people are 'giving me the hint' to fuck off and feel increasingly unwelcome as time goes
I only feel 100% comfortable when im alone
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I've been having problems with studying in the past. Examinations are in two months, and the college HD taking tests every day.
The problem is that I'm having trouble with motivation. This may sound weird, but I'm extremely and I mean extremely averse to studying at night. Something just happens to me when the sun sets. I can study for a couple of hours easily in the afternoon, but never in the night. I also really hate it when I do nothing but study and have no time for myself. So some advice would be appreciated.
Also, what are some efficient ways to memorize stuff quickly? My course is memorization heavy
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>>18077424
>My course is memorization heavy
Enjoy your superficial education
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>>18077424
I have this same issue too at times. A good fix is to change up some of your typical studying habits. Try to study in a different location, or try studying while walking (as of you are giving a presentation). Get a new beverage and drink it while studying in this way. A change of pace can go a long way
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>>18077424
Study in the morning. I've been teaching myself Japanese for years and I find learning new words and remembering older ones is the easiest in the morning (I'm a morning person). For memorization, use flash cards. Look at them at least once everyday. They are a godsend.
Also, there are different types of learning that people are more suited at.
For example, I'm not an audiovisual learner at all. I can listen and understand something, but I'll completely forget it immediately. I am, however, more of a reading/writing learner. When I read my textbook, I always take notes and remember it the most easily that way.
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Hi. I have a huge issue. So I have been talking to a guy online for nearly a year and he moved near me and we met and he's amazing, I really like him. He's just very big... like I'm "thicc" myself, not very small but he's obese and I'm worried about being judged by my parents and people and the looks we'll get. I'm not sure how much he weighs... probably close to 400 pounds. I do find him attractive but I'm worried about the opinions of others. I don't want people to be like why's that girl with that fat guy? I'm only 20 and I'm not ugly but people are very superficial here, especially the young... what do I do?
Maybe this isn't even an issue but I have social anxiety and hate feeling like there's eyes on me and I hate being judged
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Get some standards. At 400lbs he will probably be dead by the time he's 40. Unless you're significantly overweight too (thicc is the new "curvy") I wouldn't waste your time.
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>>18077363
what does thicc mean exactly by your standards, narcissim makes it impartial, you might be fat as well so no, ppl wont judge, but don't worry if he's really 400lb he'll die before you even have your first child, that is if he can get a boner before lifting his belly to unhide his micro penis
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>>18077405
Im 160 pounds so i guess ppl think im chubby, but im a pear shape so im thicc
Thanks for nothing