Hi. I have a huge issue. So I have been talking to a guy online for nearly a year and he moved near me and we met and he's amazing, I really like him. He's just very big... like I'm "thicc" myself, not very small but he's obese and I'm worried about being judged by my parents and people and the looks we'll get. I'm not sure how much he weighs... probably close to 400 pounds. I do find him attractive but I'm worried about the opinions of others. I don't want people to be like why's that girl with that fat guy? I'm only 20 and I'm not ugly but people are very superficial here, especially the young... what do I do?
Maybe this isn't even an issue but I have social anxiety and hate feeling like there's eyes on me and I hate being judged
Get some standards. At 400lbs he will probably be dead by the time he's 40. Unless you're significantly overweight too (thicc is the new "curvy") I wouldn't waste your time.
>>18077363
what does thicc mean exactly by your standards, narcissim makes it impartial, you might be fat as well so no, ppl wont judge, but don't worry if he's really 400lb he'll die before you even have your first child, that is if he can get a boner before lifting his belly to unhide his micro penis
>>18077405
Im 160 pounds so i guess ppl think im chubby, but im a pear shape so im thicc
Thanks for nothing
>>18077363
That's a person who wears their lack of self control openly for all the world to see. They know what they're doing is wrong but they continue to do it anyway. People will think you're a moron for being with someone like that because you are being a moron for being with someone like that. Fatties like that have structural brain changes on MRIs similar to those in severe drug addicts. The areas of their brain that are responsible for decision making are atrophied beyond all repair. This guy is more than likely going to be dead by the time you're 30.
>>18077363
Are you asexual? Because if you're not that might be a problem. He may very well be physically incapable of having sex because his penis isn't long enough to escape the fat blocking it. Certain positions are going to be out of the question and you're probably going to have to do most of the work or else he'll be wheezing and sweating like crazy.
What about your feeling torwards this fatty, having a relationship with a person you love could very well help you get through the social anxiety problem.
also grow some balls and go to the gym, both of you, next thing you know yall might just have a good and healthy relationship that was carved out of hardwork/fat.
Tell him you really like him, and for health reasons you want him around and the only way he can prove he likes you is if you BOTH commit to a rigid diet loss. If he can't make the commitment to saving his own life he is not worth the time