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Get a fucking sammich and a tan you white ass bitch, that's your fucking veins showing up under your anorexic thin skin.

I bet you fucking blind people when you wear shorts.

>>18516291
Looks like you are just a veiny chick. Sometimes a tan will bring those out (at which point, don't tan). Other times, losing a tan will do that (at which point, tan).

It's not a health concern, and it's not really a beauty concern, either.

>>18516291
>am have alien ass cancer?

/adv/ is really stupid this evening. I wish I could chart the flows of different 4chan users like a meteorologist

>>18516231
>Is it possible to get manager positions as an introvert?
I've never seen this be the case

>Is it possible to for an introvert to adapt eventually the more advantagious traits of an extrovert?
Yes. Basically, you just pretend that you're having the best day ever, and nothing can get you down. Do it enough, and it becomes second nature.

https://www.wsj.com/articles/why-introverts-make-great-entrepreneurs-1440381699

Just because you're introverted doesn't mean you're not talented. Especially as a leader, maybe. I do think it's kind of excessive how extroverted and socially "normal" you have to come off as to get a job, when they do personality screenings - it's completely unnatural for people to feel 100% happy all the time. The customers don't need that much convincing, you need to talk to each person for about 20 seconds. These employers want to draw the very soul out of you and inspect it to see if it's not in mint condition. It's fucking insane. That being said, you just need to find your niche, OP. It sound cliche, but ffs do NOT fake a personality or force yourself to do things that don't come naturally. It will show.

It's not cool to break a promise you've made, if you didn't want to go to the festival you should have said so from the start.

And your new gf will survive a birthday without you. You can celebrate with her a few days before or after instead.

>>18516246
I don't think missing a birthday is right, especially in a new relationship
>>18516227
If you really want to please your friend you could get your gf a ticket as a bd present, otherwise there's nothing you can really do since it's her birthday

>>18516246

I think "promise" is a bit dramatic, I just said yes to an invitation and paid for my own ticket. And I explained why I didn't say no from the beginning. I know my girlfriend will be fine without me on her birthday but like I said that is not the ONLY reason I no longer want to go, its also that the fun aspect has disappeared completely.

>>18516183
Aids.

I would get it checked out, might be cancer. Or it might not. Or you could just bloody yourself up with some sharp tweezers and just get it off.

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>>18516183
Looks like a kind of melanoma.

That is a rare form of skin cancer, melanoma.
Go to the doctor IMMEDIATELY. The sooner they catch it the more likely you are to survive.
GO.

Yes, it does.

At the very least, the site you used to search it will now have a copy of it in its database. This is unavoidable.

>>18516164
What do you mean by at the very least?

>>18516171
For a search engine to use your image, you must upload it to their website.
Whether they store it or not is another story.

>>18516151
It doesn't sound like you're getting emotional release or nearly as much money as you like That's a real difficult issue. Have you thought of ways to remedy that?

>>18516154
idk, that's the whole point of the situation, if i had enough money i would be more comfortable, but even money does not teach someone how to take care of themselves. and we do not have anyone to help

>>18516169
>if I had more money I would be more comfortable
do what you can then. and also focus on having some positive experiences and emotional releases. violent thoughts are usually just negative emotions being suppressed instead of resolved in a healthy way.

>even money does not teach someone how to take care of themselves, and we do not have anyone to help
what did you mean by this?

>>18516088
a genuine person with long hair is also cool. being a fuckboy is tiresome and time consuming.

go meet girls. it's not about the date. it's about meeting girls who are cute and sexually active.

>>18516118
yeah.
The question was how I should approach girls, I literally have no Idea how.

>>18516125
stop being a sperg

spergs
1. wonder how to approach girls
2. have general anxiety about their social anxiety
3. sit in the corner afraid instead of making mistakes socially and learning

what if you were talking to a girl right now

tell her you want an open relationship

>>18515910
Don't do anything you would be ashamed of if you were caught. Pretty fucking simple, dude. You're not an animal, so don't act like one. Open the relationship, end it, or quit cheating.

>>18515910
>your an addict
Find your rushes somewhere else were you not playing with a persons emotional well being.
>You can't have it all

>>18515874
Make a list of things that you are willing to try, might want to try, and never would try, and get her to do the same. Both of you should sit down and see what you both are willing to do, and then do research into how to go about it safely.

Just remember that being open and discussing what you both want is key. Finding a local munch and joining Fetlife might also be good options. Both will provide you with a place to get insight into how to safely explore this stuff.

Oh also don't fall for the "no true __" meme, its just a way for people to force people into doing things.

>>18515874
>>18515893
Lol fuck, I didn't see you used the meme, I didn't mean to sound like an ass, sorry about that!

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>>18515927

what meme are you talking about?

and i'll do that, i'll have her write up something tomorrow.

No, he replied to your legitimate question with a total non-sequiter amounting to a dismissal.

Conclusion: your friend is full of shit

>>18515768

>No, he replied to your legitimate question with a total non-sequiter amounting to a dismissal.

Can you explain that sentence. Lol. English isn't my first language.

>>18515769
Non-sequiter means what he said does not follow. Meaning, his response to your question has nothing to do with what you said. You asked "who decides worth?" and he answers "men and women are different."

Not only did he not answer your question, he then dismissed it by insinuating you are not smart or worthy enough to discuss or have an opinion on the topic

No cucking him would probably ruin the marriage. He's obviously insecure as fuck and if their marriage is going to fail then it's best not to be the one responsible for it.

>>18515762
D) do nothing. Your getting into a fucking time bomb. You don't know how mental stable her cuck is. Do you want to take that chance for some pussy? If you are as good looking as you say you are. Then you should have no problem getting regular bitchs.

>>18515762
I choose B. Screw with her once to see how much she'll let you get away with. A woman who doesn't fear cheating on her man equals a man that shouldn't be feared. Even if the douche is unstable, him not outright killing you is assault under conditions you and her can easily lie over. Most cucks don't find out right away anyway so if you really fear what he'll do then simply fuck once and leave her be. Either way go get some pussy regardless

bonus context:

- this mental illness came from my mom's side of the family. mom's mom was far worse, and my mom's still alright, but certainly her mother's daughter. The only reason I think I've avoided this is cause of my dad's genetics + my 4chan lurking

- growing up she always told us, "well you feel that way because you choose to feel that way". When i told her that if we threw everything out, once she sees how clean the house is she won't care anymore that the garbage is rightfully in a landfill. She said "yes I would", even though I think she's just "choosing" to feel that way, the same way she's been using that phrase to talk to me and my siblings all our lives.

- she's been seeing a therapist before in the past. I don't know if she still is now, and apparently at one point in her life she was suicidal. My mom is still a great person and I'm lucky that my parents are still together throughout all of this, but it's certainly just a case where certain situations bring out certain flaws in certain people, and this is something that's been tasking on us.

- She knows we would all much rather throw everything else out, but she really doesn't care. At our most family meeting she was crying so much about how she wants to do this her way and be "ecological" etc

>>18515743
>Has any other anons dealt with hoarding in their life?

Yep, and still do.

When I was kid, my mom and I lived in a decently sized house. We eventually had to move out (I was about 15 at the time), and during the following transition period everything went into storage. When we finally got into another place, it was a dinky little apartment, so naturally we couldn't bring everything there. Due to various circumstances, we never had the time to address the remaining stuff that was left in storage, so that kept getting left on the backburner. Of course, as time went on, new stuff would come and go (moreso coming than going though), and the old stuff would just remain in storage.

After about 16 years and several moves, it's built up to about 3-4 storage units worth of stuff. One of which contains the "current set" of stuff (currently between places again), and the others containing either the stuff we started with, or other stuff that was put into storage during another move and never taken back out. She finally seems to be more receptive about actually getting rid of things, but she too still seems pretty insistent on donating (or in some cases selling) it herself, instead of just letting it go. The problem with that, though, is we're both limited on the means/resources to actually do anything to that end. Transportation is extremely limited for both of us, and between my job and having been the main person to help her with moving all that stuff so many times over the years, I just don't have the time and energy for it anymore.

Something needs to be done, though, because this shit can't go on anymore. We can't afford this, and it's already caused too many problems.

A friend of mine just went through this. What he did was to go through the house and promise not to throw anything out but to organize it and put it in storage.

As he was "organizing" it he made two groups of stuff. One was actually going to be "saved", which was code for moving it to storage (off-site, but you can use the garage) and then dispose of it over time. The rest of the stuff was being disposed in groups small enough to not be noticed.

If you don't have the time or energy, have someone come in and do it for you. You may have to put everything in the garage for later disposal if you can't do the initial sorting.

Once my friend had finished his parents were amazed at how better the house was. They never missed anything and never went into storage to get anything out.

>>18515692
Get a hammer and end its existence in this world. Or hold down the button on it

Are you kidding me? Unplug it!

>>18515692
Take the battery out, putz.

>>18515634

okay... don't say shit and start driving her home. she keeps rambling about how I need to "leave" (im sure that means forever) and just keeps talking about how her and her BF are in love and i need to leave.

i didnt know what to do. i dropped her off and left it at that.

so.. i guess the advice i need is this. what the fuck does she actually want? I mean i care about her and hate to see her like this. she seems confused as fuck. I mean shes clearly not happy with her relationship but doesnt want to end it.

so what do i do? what is actually best for her?

1. ignore her and cut off all contact.
2. tell her: "you clearly don't like your bf and you need to choose." i know she would choose her bf probably but i thought maybe in the long run it would make it easier for her? like "oh yeah, i was right, he was trying to get between us" like she can rationalize it ya know?
3. try to stay her friend and tell her that I am perfectly fine with her and that if she wants i will stop her when she gets too close. i get the feeling that this isnt going to work though.
4???

idk. I am willing to take myself out of this completely. what is best for her?

feel free to ask me anything. i realize there are a lot of details that have been left out probably.

>>18515643
She lives with her boyfriend there's a certain amount of reliability she gets from him i.e. Resources. If you give off the feeling that you have more resources then that cuck of hers she would drop him. But she's being a women and is indenial and acting delusional.
Also don't say shit like you respect the guy and his relationship. If you actually did care you would have stopped that girl from kissing you, let alone makeing out with you. Don't lie to yourself. You don't respect him.

>>18515634
>the inverted cuck
HAHAHHAHAHAHHAHHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAAA.
She is using you for foreplay, then going home ASAP to suck on her bf's cock and fuck him while her pussy is still wet. No shit the bf doesn't have a problem with it, you're saving him all that time, energy, money.

>>18515496
Cut them out bro. You usually become the people you associate yourself with. They will only bring you down. When people get like this they become poisonous. You can't change them. You will find new friends.

>>18515505
they're the only friends i have.. i dont know how to make friends. i'm not really a normie, i dont get along with randos at bars and i have big ambitions, its weird to think of just uprooting myself and starting new like that.

>>18515543
Well you can still be friends with them. Just make sure there bullshit doesn't rub off on you. Maybe bring up some better ways to have fun be more active in the group?