22 year old beta seeking advice.
How to score pussy?
A lot of beta guys I knew in high school totally changed their shit around.
Like I knew a few guys that were big and nerdy and socially awkward. They dove straight into school with STEM majors, graduated quickly, then they lost a ton of weight, got good jobs, and Party with all their other once-beta, now-alpha friends.
seems like they went through quite a few years of grind to get where they are. I'm really happy for them.
>>18524091
It's called "lowering your standards." I'm a balding middle-aged fatty and I still have a girlfriend years and semi-regular side pussy. She's like a 5, but she sukk gud. Arm candy is for looking good at a social event. A wet hole is for fugging.
Do you own your own place? If not, get one. Hop on Craigslist looking for whores willing to fuck, cook, and clean for rent. They'll be chicks lining up to ride. Keep 'em for a few months then get rid of them when you tire of them or they start not putting out. You'll feel like a fucking man once they start begging to suck your dick for another week under your care.
Hell, while you're on CL post an add looking for a nice older woman who wants a submissive little bitch faggot boy toy. You'd be amazed how many mummies are into that shit. Just be prepared to ignore 99.7% spam. You'll learn to recognize it very quickly.
>>18524110
>>18524145
Don't fall the bait, this is a buzzfeed post
I spend too much time at home doing nothing.
I want to create something. If I had enough space and money I would start doing some woodworking or metalworking I think, but I cant.
Any suggestions? I don't want to pain and I make music already.
>>18524043
I live in the middle of goddamn nowhere and a college not 10 miles down the road has a makerspace open to the public with all sorts of toys.
Just look around. Better yet, take the effort to ask around at some shops or even on Craigslist and say you're seeking apprenticeships.
Is it possible to go from being an average american dude to becoming the greatest human being of all time?
Or do you need to be born with connections, natural endowments, money, etc.?
It seems damn near impossible that whoever will be regarded as the GOAT human being will have came from a family of mediocrity. But this is, sadly, all I desire out of my life. Anything short of it would be a disappointment.
>>18523977
You just have to be alittle better then everyone else and your the best.
>>18523977
Davinci did it
>>18523977
I like your attitude OP
>be me 15
>date 16 year old boy
>fucking incredible for two years
>so happy with life despite having anxiety/depression
>boy graduates high school
>i break up with him because he showed no interest in staying together in college
>thought i was going to marry him
>best years of my life
>year after breaking up
>boy is schizo/drug addict
>me alcoholic
>talk to him
>says he regrets messing up
>says he also misses me and thinks of me
>tell him i feel the same
>week goes by no texts
>drunk text him and tell him i kind of want to get back with him
>he laughed and said "never" as if i was some kind of degenerate
>now going into my sophomore year of college
>same with him
>talked about life plans with him that one week we said we missed each other
>both want to move out west after college graduation
>feels so bad pursuing that dream without him
>have dated 3 people since him, can't get that same "settle down" feeling
>super lonely because can't find someone to love
will this go away? it's been a year and i still feel like absolute shit. i don't want anybody else but him and he's not too keen on that just because it's been so long and i've been with other people
is it ever possible to find that settle down feeling again?
yes. but its never going to happen if you kepe this person in your life and keep making moves to make it happen. hes a drug addict and a schitzo. its been like what, 6 years since you started dating? 4 since you broke up? you're not the same people you used to be, neither of you are.
what you are experiencing is akin to what a spouse feels when they have trouble burying their dead partner. an unreasonable attachment to the 'vessel'. you see his face and it reminds you of who he used to be, and that feeling.
move forward. follow your 'dream' for your self. focus on all the other types of love besides romantic. and don't chime in here claiming 'OH I HAVE GREAT FRIENDS AND A LOVING FAMILY, AND A SENPAI AND A KOHAI AND AND'
i didn't say GET other love, I said FOCUS on other love. Take the time to appreciate and enjoy what you have. Make these people a priority in your life and bask in them.
>>18523921
it's been a year since the break up and i'm 19 now. dated around 2 years
but all the other advice is great and i'll really work on that thank you anon
What's some good ways/tatics/setups/lines to pickup girls.
>hey do you want to get a cup of tea or coffee sometime.
>oh you haven't seen homecoming? Me neither, let's go see it together, my treat.
>>18523800
Girls will practically be chasing you when you get a job, Champ. And that's as simple as showing up, speaking with the manager, giving him a firm handshake, and telling him you want the job.
>>18524105
Firm handshake. F I R M.
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>>18524115
Will treasure this for as long as I can firmly shake hands. Thank you, anon.
*firmly shakes hand*
Well, I've been together with this girl for about 8 months.
She's a very adventureous person and has spent the last 10 years living and working all over the world, I find that exciting but hasn't had the same opportunity or will to do it really, i guess.
Anyways, when I met her she had "come home to stay" was the idea atleast, but she's had some problems finding a job and such "her skills just aren't needed here" so she applied for one job outside of the country, at one of her ex-employers "just to see".
Well unfortunately/or fortunately depending on how you look at it she was instantly offered the position.
So she was gonna decline the offer, but it's turned into a discussion of: "what if I accept the offer?, we can go together and yaddayadda"
Well, Idk I really don't want to loose her and I am open towards doing something like this with her but at the same time, we're only 8 months deep and our relationship hasn't had to endure any form of trouble yet, until now, i guess.
Idk what to do, I really want to follow but I worry!
Then Also that we'd be moving to Spain: I guess a general English understanding is not a thing there, I don't speak Spanish!
>>18523793
>I guess a general English understanding is not a thing there
you'll be fine
>>18523793
>I don't speak Spanish!
you'll be able to order coffee and buy groceries in a few days, you'll improve as you go
>>18523793
>I really want to follow but I worry!
go
come back if it doesn't work out
>>18523805
I will need to work aswell, Idk how they look at non Spanish speaking in my field there.
My education should be fine though, there is an international standard on how my field should be formed so it should apply there aswell.
>>18523824
Become an English teacher.
I just realised how much my parents have stunted my maturity and emotional growth and my self esteem is basically null at this point. How can I fix this?
>>18523724
Just do angst-filled teen things like sneak out, hid everything from your parents even if it's minor things etc etc. How old are you OP?
>>18523724
Self knowledge and self development. Search it up on the internets. Start working on your weaknesses
I called after two months begging for my ex back and I regret it even though they said they want to get back together. I can tell they don't really have feelings for me and just don't want to be alone and need somebody to use again. I agreed to help them with something today but I don't know what to do after that's over with. I really am in love with them, but I don't want to get hurt again and go back to the habits that caused us to break up in the first place. I don't think they really ever had feelings for me, they just saw the whole thing as a practical, temporary convenience, and it's so hard for me to just accept that. I spent this whole time trying to get over it and see it all clearly and just caved ... anybody who can offer some guidance or perspective would be appreciated, but you can just call me an asshole too. I deserve it for being hung up on someone who hurt me so much.
>they
is this a polyamorous thing
>>18523714
>I agreed to help them with something today
You spent most of your OP telling us this person used you the whole time for convenience and the first thing they do after you beg is to have you help them with something. They don't give a shit for you, you are cheap labor.
>>18523747
Yeah I know. I don't even know how to feel now.
I met a woman which is a mother of a girl who has leukemia and her husband (girl's father) died from a disease too (a different one). I gave them some pocket cash I had (it was my own will, not her), however, on the way home and still I am just feeling pity for them all the time. I'm no rich man myself, but I just think, how many cases like that there are in the world, mothers who struggle, children who are malnutritioned and/or sick, poor people that are not guilty for becoming poor. And so I think the whole day, how I am having everything I need (not much, but enough), I am not sick, and just feel guilty about me being happy while someone who deserves much more is full of problems and dread. I can't stop thinking about it.
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>>18523678
I'm sure you've met with suffering and pain in the past. You will meet with more in the future. Those people for whom things are bad, have also had happy times. You can't take on the world's problems. Do your part to help, but in a sustainable way, and realise that it will never be enough. Work out your own peace, then learn to teach it to others.
It does no one any good to lose yourself to despair.
Say someone would like to report compromised mods of a board like /b/ , how would one undergo such an activity?
4chan was created by the FBI and is staffed by law enforcement agents, all of whom are above compromise. Your paranoia is unwarranted.
>>18523673
/b/ isn't moderated by normal 4chan mods and janitors. It's been out of 4chan's hands for years.
So i had a great night during a meetup with some people of a club i joined about a month ago.
During the conversations a girl asked me about my mobile number which i finally noticed after she told me three times already. Am i deaf?
Anyway everybody went home at some point and she started to text me, so continued chatting all night.
She asked me if i want to hang out with her going to a pub/club the following week, so i suggested a place. Even asked me if i would anger a girl by hanging out with her.
Im seriously confused about it, since i never expected it to happen. Being single for 5 years is making me feel like an idiot again.
I dont wanna fuck it up. She seems to have a nice nature. I fear the awkward silence or too many geek topics. Tell me what to talk about if that happens
>>18523654
She likes you, else she wouldn't have initiated. There aren't "too many" geek topics. You will have to judge your conversation by her reaction. Does she have something to say about your topic, or is she just listening to you talk about your special interest? If the topic generates conversation, keep talking about it. If it feels forced, drop it. Silence is only awkward if you make it that way. It's ok to have gaps and lulls in conversation, you don't need to feel bad about it.
The thing is to stay with the conversation, don't jump backward and forward in time. Take a break every now and again if you feel you need it. Go to the bathroom, the bar, smoke a cigarette, etc. Good luck!
I hear it lowers your man hormones and makes you less productive.
>>18523645
It mosty just is a bad use of the productive parts of many people's days.
Marijuana is still on-the-books illegal, and however unlikely, it has the potential to ruin your life.
It also is expensive like cigarettes areand at your young age of ~18, if you took your yearly weed fund and invested it instead, by retirement it would amount to tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars, meaning you would worry less about running out of money and could get old in peace. To me, this sounds like a more satisfying time then getting high, DESU
Moved out a year ago for uni, about eight hours away with the train from where my parents live. I am super anxious and terribly distressed by phone calls and never really call anybody. My parents are divorced and have got new kids with their new partners. I have a minimum of contact with my mother (like two text message per month or so) and I kinda stopped answering my dad's calls three months ago and now he frequently calls me about four times a day and I never answer his calls or listen to the countless voicemails. My parents have no contact to each other and I think my father is very concerned about me. I guess he doesn't think I am dead or so as he can see I changed my profile picture on whatsapp. Of course I feel very guilty but I slowly start losing my mind and feel totally unable to answer any call or write a message or so. I have horrible nightmares and grow more uneasy by each call. Haven't talked to anyone about this and started putting my phone on mute in the drawer. At first I wanted to put it off as some oddity I have and general problems with my parents to continue with my somewhat functional life here, but I feel I am on the verge of mental breakdown now. I developed problems with my sleep and indulge in selth-loathing almost daily with the thought of never being able to turn into somthing even resembling a man. I have never been in psychotherapy or so, as my stepmother works in that field and I always became furious and resisted when she made any remarks concerning that. I started to randomly quiver ocassionally and I don't know how to get help without having to talk with somebody. I feel like a total cry baby.
>>18523606
Jesus, dude. Format your posts. Paragraphs are a thing for a reason.
What, precisely, do you want advice in?
My ex girlfriend who I was in a long distance relationship with may be back in the country.
I never got closure nor my chance to see her a last time.
I run into her or someone that looks like her today. I confronted here, the person did not know me at all. yet they were blatantly hiding from me.
I cant help but feel that was her, lying straight to my face.
Thing is I know she is staying with her dad, so I am thinking of waiting for her outside until she arrives home. it could be any day which means I will have to do this 4 days, at least
Am lost, hurt anxious all over again. will this be worth it?
>>18523589
No. There's really no such thing as closure between both parties, at least from my experience.
Move on. If you need to, get pissed off at her for the way she's be treating you, tell yourself that you deserve better, and go and find it.
>>18523589
>I am thinking of waiting for her outside until she arrives home.
You realize this makes you a literal stalker?
I had dated a girl in the social group. Started off as acquaintances (since I moved back to town), became friends and then started going out. The other harpies in the group, whom I'd never date though they always wanted a shot with me, saw they were losing the hot friend. Typical crabs in a bucket scenario. Pulled her into their bullshit and eventually I got turned off, lost my trust in her and broke it off. Traded a good thing for temporary fun, then wanting me to give her a second chance. Broke up with her and pretty much that group.
It's been almost a year and I saw this women at another mutual friends get together. This friend kept in touch and told me about all the get togethers he was at previously that these women put on, showing off their boyfriends and whatever. Of course I didn't get the invite which is fine, but when I saw them, they were all Oh Anon, I haven't seen you in so long! How come we don't hang out anymore?! We've missed you!
Instead of being all fake and cordial I just called them out and said they're full of shit. Said I heard about their parties the last few months, sorry I couldn't make it. They couldn't respond, their boyfriends had the look of oh shit don't please piss her off. My other friend just started laughing and spit out his drink.
I just walked away to another group of people there, introduced myself and made some new friends.
Could I have been more tactful or was it ok?
>>18523427
That was perfect anon.
>>18523427
That was brilliant, if true, well done!
>>18523441
>>18523442
It wasn't totally dramatic, just a 10second exchange and that was it. But it was enough for me
It just bothers me how me and this girl hit it off so well when we dated only to be curved by some perpetually single bitches. I know it wasn't "their doing" since my girl went right along with them too. The whole thing just left me bad vibe around them. When the ex wanted a second go, I just couldn't let go of it