> Be
>be me
> be a nice guy
>be a capitan basketball team
>go to gym
>U are not virgin and actually so many girls tell u i like you
>U are always cold cold man
>u never fall in love so u never had Gf
>Some day Abigail show up
>u talk to her
>now u are in other high scool
>go to university but she go to other
>Now i dont know what i should do ??
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>Recently forgetting a lot of important dates, conversations, etc.
>Today I had planned to do something with my dad, who is the most important person in my world
>I forget and completely blow him off for bowling, probably hurting his feelings in the process.
>I stayed up all night trying to figure out what was missing, because something felt off. Once I figured it out, I lost it
>I called and texted my dad apologizing repeatedly, it's 3am so of course no response
>I start belittling myself, saying I'm horrible, I'm not as great as my father thinks I am, I'm a waste, etc.
>Thought about killing myself and told my own dad that in a voicemail
>Practically bawling my eyes out and knowing I won't get any sleep tonight, and it dawned on me that this isn't healthy and it's happened before.
Something is obviously wrong, but I'm not sure if it's depression, or something far worse. Or maybe I'm overreacting. I'm financially stable and able to get help, but I don't want to ruin my reputation or looked at as mentally unwell over something that I can probably handle myself. What should I do?
(P.S. I would never try to commit suicide. I've thought about it, but it's just something I wouldn't do.)
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A lot of people receive counseling, even "normal" people. Everyone hits a rut in their life eventually, and if your financially stable, you should think about investing in someone who's professionally trained to help you out of it. Even if your not in a rut, they're someone you can talk to about your feelings and problems that won't judge you. The reason they became counselors is to help people like you have confidence in themselves, and lead good lives.
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Blowing off people is pretty shitty even if it's because you're forgetful, but frankly it's easy to avoid.
In all seriousness, do you know how to set a reminder on your phone?
Feeling bad because you blew someone off does not mean you are mentally unstable or something, because in reality you should feel bad.
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I know, I'm just not sure if it's really worth it. I've been taken to counseling when I was younger, but I was taken out soon after for unknown reasons. I know what I'm doing is unhealthy right now, but what I'm scared of is if I'm just unhealthy in general.
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How do men spread their seed to multiple different women without having any downsides at all? If you think it's not possible it is.
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Donate sperm. That's it. If you just bang and leave chicks, there's a downside: your kid is going to be raised by a single mother. Also, huge risk of getting and spreading STDs.
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>>18526275
this, but there's also child support, crazy bitches that will fuck your life, accidentally sleeping with chad's girl without knwing it, being shamed for having numerous one night stands, someone calling rape, etc.
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Keep telling yourself you run shit until you believe it. I felt like a fucking loser for years, then I got a GF, and my confidence improved. Then I just kept wing-man'ing myself, hyping myself up, and creating a snowball effect until my ego was unbreakable. Trust me, anon, it works. In the span of a year I went from a NEET loser to a college student who's losing weight, caring about education, caring about his future, going outside, etc., and you can do it too! Find or rediscover what you're good at. Focus on it or them, and tell yourself you're the best god-damn thing on the planet until you believe it. You may come across as a giant egotistical douchebag at first, but it's about you, not the outside world. You can do it, anon. If you have to, fake it until you make it and never let anyone take it. Remember, you run shit! Anyone who tells you otherwise is a fucking retard. That's honestly how I see it: I run shit and nobody can tell me otherwise. Everyone else is just mad they're not as great as I am. Work yourself up to that level of confidence. It won't be instantaneous, but it'll happen if you put in the effort. Remember, snowball effect! Good luck on your endeavor, anon. Even if, at this point in time, you don't believe in yourself, I believe in you. If you have to, BE right in arguments. SHOW people why they're wrong, CORRECT people when they're wrong or misinformed. Eventually you'll just believe you're the best fucking thing ever and anyone who says differently is stupid. What ever is causing you this trouble, let it go. Think about it if you have to, but always remember they're missing out, and you're the motherfucker that runs shit around here! Again, good luck, anon! You got this!
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You know at this point I think I'm basically in a self defeating cycle.
I need a gf to start believing more in myself. Don't get me wrong, I have a decent life and I'm confident in my qualities, but I believe I'm unloveable. St my core I just need a person that validates me, somebody who accepts me and I can accept back. Yet as long as i believe this no woman will rightfully be attracted to me. So I'm like Sisyphus. I improve myself and stuff but the objective of my quest is what prevents me from achieving it
Glad you got your life in order tho
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This, its pretty damn sad how on the ball I'll be once I actually have someone that I know will stick with me. Women however want a guy to be almost her version of perfect before she even considers him worth her time. I've never seen a woman willingly go after a guy who was still fixing and improving himself. They want a full course meal, but dont wanna hear how long it took you to make it.
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OP I am literally this if knowing there's other people like you helps at all
I procrastinate so badly that I have genuinely nearly made myself sick from not eating and absolutely dumb shit like that
I find having a balanced schedule helps a bit, do boring work shit here, then fun stuff here, etc
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I don't know that that really applies to me. For one thing, the extent of my vices are really only time-sinks. I don't smoke, drink to excess, do drugs or eat sugary foods. I guess the vice I've had is getting into bad relationships of which sex really was the only thing going for it.
I'm not about stating my RIGHT to indulge. If anything, I hate the fact I didn't have a stricter upbringing and the necessary disciprine instilled in me.
I just don't get the part where I feel utterly joyless when I'm free to do things I was doing when I shouldn't have been doing them.
Right now I'm struggling to get through reading One-Punch Man, playing Wolfenstein and watching a bunch of movies I torrented. They all seem incredibly boring whereas a week-ago when I had a court matter to settle, things to study and inconvenient work shift, those things were endlessly fascinating and stimulating.
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How do you forgive yourself? 2017-07-17 06:34:24 Post No.18526195
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How do you forgive yourself?
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Had a rough and tumble break up with ex after a roller coaster of emotions relationship. I suffer from severe depression and he cheated, there was a lot of me trying to correct things while being bitter, wasting my breath trying to explain that I was rushed into the relationship and that I cared for him but was pissed. It was ugly, there was a lot of yelling, crying, and back coping mechanisms. I spent a lot of energy doing what I thought was right, trying to smooth things down so we could be friends, trying to explain my depression and just how unhealthy I was, and unaware of it. It blew up in my face. We lived in the same house and were together for about two years. I spent a lot of time with his family. Now that I'm here, months later and reflecting, what hurts me most is this feeling like I wasn't myself, like none of this would have happened if I fucking took care of myself, and I didn't. I became a recluse, and kind of a bitch, and to look back on it now breaks my heart. The idea that he and his family probably thought I was a manipulative hermit bitch tears me to pieces and I don't entirely know why. I'm trying to do like everyone says and just take in stride and like a life lesson, and get my mental health and social skills on track, but the guilt I feel and wish I could repair things still tears me to bits. It's so bad the thought of seeing him sends me into panic attacks, and I pray that it came through that I'm actually a great person who was going through a bad time. Yet it keeps me up, and in pain, to think about it. I don't know why, because it's unlikely I'll ever see these people again, but I feel like people who considered me family now think I'm a crazy bitch. How do you reason with guilt?
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How do I stop myself from wanting to quit from getting fit?
I want to lose weight but every time I do I usually try and quit after the first week, usually because I forget about it or get lazy
any suggestions or tips?
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having a very regimented schedule worked for me, but then again I am an autist
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Try harder once you've found the right reason. Once you have that in your mindset, it will just occur without you thinking about it too much.
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Forgetting about it shouldn't be an issue; there's plenty of ways to remind yourself that you are trying to get fit.
As for your laziness, observe your thought and emotion patterns and learn to recognize what exactly is causing your "laziness". In rational terms you know it's better to not eat that slice of pizza or to go to the gym instead of watching Netflix.
Curiously enough, the motivation behind wanting to get fit and wanting to quit could turn out to be quite similar once you've found out the root causes for both states of mind so to speak.
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3pt shots aren't even making the rim. But mid-range wise, I'd say I'm pretty decent. But when it comes to stepping outside the 3pt line, my shots aren't making the fucking rim.
The weirdest thing is, if I close my eyes while shooting, they DO make the rim. It's like when I look at the basket from the 3pt line, my mind is telling me I can't make it. I'm 20, 5"7 and 100lbs, but come on, even 3rd graders are shooting 3s. I've only just started getting back to playing basketball, but it's always been like this when it comes to shooting 3s.
Any advice?
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Go back to basics and keep trying. Remember what we were taught in elementary school, "Shoot with your right hand and aim with your left," and vise-versa if you're left-handed. Also eat some food nigga. You need to put on at least 30 pounds.
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>5'7"
>100lbs
ayy lmao
I'm 5'7" and 145 and I'm a fucking twig. I can't imagine what you look like. Also I accepted long ago that basketball wasn't my calling.
It was coincidentally around the same time I realized I had stopped growing.
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Hi /adv/. I'm the guy who's having a cease and desist letter written; I've talked about my case here. Long story short:
>was trying to go out with a girl
>it didn't work out
>we were still friends on FB, her account started liking lewd articles
>asked her about it through chat in a caring way, sent screenshots
>she took it badly
>we managed to talk, I told her it was a misunderstanding
>woman started telling people I was a pervert
Anyway, the firm I contacted assigned me a young female lawyer (she contacted me by e-mail). We're going to talk over the case tomorrow. How good are female lawyers at writing cease and desist letters? I want a really scary one.
She kind of reminds me of pic. Probably fresh out of law school. If the woman I'm sending a letter to calls back, I'm kind of thinking she won't really give her a good talk down.
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A male lawyer might hold back when writing a letter to a woman, but a female lawyer won't. Especially with a woman like the one you described, since she seems prone to try using a guys sex against him. This is really the only argument she can make (and I should note it's invalid), but a female lawyer will leave her completely disarmed.
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Good point. And thanks for backing me up against the girl, though I know it's only from my POV.
It was a totally shit experience. She was already talking bad about me with her friends way before that blew over. I was friends with a few of her friends, we've went out on group dates and stuff, and then, one day, they all started dissing me. I started being mean to her and she started playing victim. I know because I heard from her friends that I've been "mean" to her.
Honestly couldn't figure out whether or not she had the ability to self-reflect.
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Anyway, you guys, you think the woman will comply after she gets sent the letter?
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Essentially things took a rocky turn this year in social life, relationship life and future career prospects. Try to sum:
Graduated 2 years ago in film studies degree which I opted out of comp-sci for as I was having a hard time at it and depression.
Met my gf that summer as I graduated and we went out for almost two years. Two months back we broke up as we were both depressed or having some bouts of it due to work related stuff.
I was feeling like shit as i was unable to get a job in my field of study, while my peers and gf were doing great in their careers.
She was depressed as she moved from home and didn't get to see family much or friends along with me apparently not listening to her problems, however she never stated them she refused to talk about her problems with me a lot of the time, she has aspergers so getting her to come out her shell is difficult, something I admit I didn't always consider.
Outside of seeing her I didn't do anything as i never had money to travel to see friends in the city.
Due to our problems we reluctantly but mutually agreed to break up as she states 'if we dont fix ourselves well destroy each other' .
She asks if im going to cut her out and stop talking to her and I said i wouldnt, and I didnt want to as im holding out hope.
At this point I got shitty night shift job that Im still doing just for money but have considered quitting due to colleagues and boss.
We meet up 2 times to discuss stuff and drop off items and end up having sex on one occasions which she realises was a poor choice as we didn't stop ourselves. I told her afterwards I couldnt come to her apartment any-more and that we dont text each other as much
I decided to talk to someone and therapist as the suicidal thoughts were coming on strong and I want to be better myself to get back with her, if there even is a chance.
Obvious question is: Any advice on what I should do?
feel free to ask questions.
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>be 19
>definitely depressed
>be not drinking because family has alcohol issues
>be not smoking because anxiety issues
>no way to socialize in a setting where people will like me b/c no smoke no drink
>so lonely it physically hurts
>only had 2 gfs, both total bitches
>want companionship but hate people
>what do to help not feel horrible all the tine?
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MMOs.
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>so lonely
>gfs both total bitches
>hate people
it sounds like you might be the problem, op. beyond counseling, i recommend fixing your sleep schedule, waking up at 9am at the latest, going to sleep before 2am, eating regular healthy meals and drinking lots of water. if you treat your body like shit you're going to feel like shit, and you'll be amazed at how much happier you will feel, how much more energy you will have, and how much nicer your skin, hair, nails, complexion etc. will look if you just take care of your body.
as an added benefit people will be more naturally attracted to you and you'll probably be more likeable and in turn like people more, since you are not being treated like a greasy NEET and in turn hating society
you might feel defensive but i say this as someone who was a depressed shit pile for longer than you have been and the very basics of self care did wonders. nutrition, sleep schedule, hygiene, and eventually exercise if you can stand it, will make you feel amazing and because you don't drink or smoke you've got a leg up already
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Can someone reccomend me some good audiobooks to listen when I'm driving, at the gym, and doing other things? I have three credits on audible. I'm 23, have depression and anxiety, I'm afraid of talking to people and procrastinate way too much wasting time on stupid shit instead of ambitious.What type of books should I look into?
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Alright random pic.
So I have no excuses, but I crushed on a girl that worked where I did awhile ago, but I'm older and she is barely legal. What should I do to initiate conversation with her?
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I've become a whiny and sensitive bitch. 2017-07-17 05:33:58 Post No.18525998
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I've become a whiny and sensitive bitch.
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Hell, I've become downright effeminate. I'm on antidepressants, could it be that?
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Plenty of side effects are possible with pills. You might want to talk to your doctor about it. Meanwhile, if you're concerned about your behavior and dislike it, you're always welcome to make a conscious effort to change.
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It's been 2 months since I broke up with my gf, I spend my days alone and bored, eating and watching old series
She talks to me daily and makes me want to tell her that I love her but she already has a boyfriend
Should I stop thinking about it and look for another girl besides losing weight? (Yes, I'm a depressed fat virgin)
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Why do you still talk? Let it go.Find someone new.
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You have to let it go now mate.
As long as she's with her boyfriend then even your best efforts are really in vain.
Nothing good will come from keeping contact from her at the moment. Just cut the cord and if you can't focus on bettering yourself for another prospective partner at least do it for the day if and when your ex breaks up with her current boyfriend. But be advised that day may never come round, and if it still might not be the outcome you desire...the good thing is that by then there's a good chance you'll be feeling very different about things.
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These guys are right. You'll never be able to move on if you keep in touch with her (or at least your healing process will go dramatically slower). Cut contact with her. It's gonna hurt like a bitch for a few weeks/months, but in the end you'll be glad you did. I'm going through this right now as well, so stay strong brother.