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What can therapy do for me? 2015-11-21 23:27:06 Post No.16486792
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What can therapy do for me? 2015-11-21 23:27:06 Post No.16486792
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What can therapy do for me?
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2015-11-21 23:27:06
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I'm lazy and depressed and anxious. Don't want to get out of bed to do things that are important. Almost 30 and still don't have a real job and live at home. Also I'm fat and ugly and hate myself. And I used to cut and burn myself so I'm covered in scars. And I'm hopelessly alone with not a single friend and never any possibility of a romantic partner.
What can therapy do to fix me? Because I know what I should be doing already, I just can't seem to make it happen. So if therapist just talks about things I should be doing that doesn't really help. Can therapy make me do things? Force motivation into me?
I can't really afford therapy, so if it isn't going to help I don't want to spend the money.
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Either they drug you up and let you go or you consent to cognitive-behavioral therapy, which is personal sessions with a therapist to basically change the way you think about things. I've done both and they haven't helped, I only got better through external means.
I personally believe therapy is for 1) normies who have no self-introspection or 2) people who need someone else to help face facts. #2 is like people who never advance in skill at their hobbies because they can't admit to fucking up and self-criticize to get better.
I honestly don't know where I'm going with this, I don't know you personally but all I know is that therapy is not for everyone.
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>>16486792
Therapy alone won't do. I really helps to get a different perspective of things and realizing obvious things which somehow one oversaw.
Also:
You need to start a physical activity.
Stop eating junk food.
When you feel better, engage in some kind of community service, that will boost your sense of worth.
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>>16486792
lol me too desu I have a job though and my own place. But I am lazy depressed and anxious... It's hard because you go through like mood swings of self loathing, then loathing of everything around you and so on. You need to find a way to break the cycle. Commit to a hobby or find a job.
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I want to be a police officer, but I accidentally committed a felony a few months ago. They may find out in the interview process. Should I apply anyway?
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>>16486785
Good question OP. I have the exact same question but I was formed 1. Would they still take you in?
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>accidentally
bullshit
>a few months ago
Sounds like you haven't been convicted. If you have, delete this thread.
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>>16486785
May? They Will
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Which suit color is better? My friend bought a black suit for prom and he is encouraging me to do the same because it is more manly and better looking, but I was considering more dark blue one (petrol blue/navy/however you call it) similar to the left one.
Which color is better to you?
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It's not about "better" in this case. It's a question of utility.
While you can get away with alternative colors, there are some occasions which very much call for a black suit. An example would be a funeral service. They're handy enough that I think every man who can afford it should have one in his wardrobe. It's not just about looks. They serve a social purpose. That having been said there's also some criticism about the psychological weight of a black suit outside of those particular settings. In other words, wearing a black suit in a particularly casual environment might elicit questions like "Did you just get back from a funeral?"
If however you think that this isn't a relevant issue for you, get whatever you want.
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>>16486614
I like the black one better, so go with the blue one.
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I think the more alarming part is your freind wants you to dress like him. The fuck is that about?
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G/f wanna kill herself
What to do?
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>>16486594
Have sex with her
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I kind of need more pre-text of the whole situation to answer this properly, but the best I can give you right now is to be there for her. Make sure she knows that you care. Let her friends and family know what's going on with her. She just needs love and support right now senpai.
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>>16486594
haha man, ok so here is a story:
>acquaintances have this fat friend and tell me about how her bf and her are so happy together
>I ask how can he be happy with a landwhale
>They tell me I am a horrible human
>Landwhale's bf kills himself
>Everyone acts like they don't/really don't understand why
>"He seemed so happy"
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So i have a problem /adv/
I am 22 years old and i own a car, but i got fired.
Im currently in trade school that pays me 2,99$ an hour during internship hours.
Thats all the money im getting(16hours a week)
I recently broke my phone by accident and i need a new one..
I cant get rid of my car because my school is that far away and it's cheaper than a bus or train.
How do i get money very very quick so im not forced to sell my car..
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Sell your body, or sell drugs
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Steal shit and pawn it
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>>16486586
these are not an option for me
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>start dating a qt
>shes a full normie
>constantly shows me the texts she gets from guys asking her out
>Im a robot
>she always says she talks too much and I talk to little
>"why so quiet anon?"
>"you're not gonna say anything?"
>"whats on your mind anon?"
I cant shake the feeling she might leave me for being too cold. She knows I dont talk much but she still likes me and is very affectionate towards me, but they usually are at the beginning. Should I be worried she might leave me for chad? Ive never had a gf before.
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My advice is to focus on your happiness and let her worry about her own satisfaction.
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>>16486548
This
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>>16486545
>worried about things that MIGHT happen
>so worried that you're never fully engaged in the relationship, always "preparing" yourself for the other shoe to drop
>the relationship never stood a chance
That's pretty much it. There's no guarantee that you won't get hurt in the future, but fear and insecurity like this are sure-fire relationship killers. I don't think there's any such thing as happiness without risk of pain at the other end. Either you've got to take the leap of faith, put your worries aside, and enjoy the moment, or you've got to resign yourself to a lonely, isolated life of emotional "safety."
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So an old, old ex of mine who is in a relationship right now tried to cheat with me TWICE and sent me nudes both times.
The first time I actually convinced her not to cheat on her boyfriend and she told him about it, apparently he forgave her. Then yesterday she came back with the same talk. I stopped responding. This morning she sent me a picture.
At this point I'm seriously considering telling him. Should I tell him?
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Yep.
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Of course.
Of course.
...but maybe...
No, just kidding. Do tell.
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Help me.
...just help me.
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The dude will catch up to you if you're wasting time on making internet posts.
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>>16486426
He's COMING for me!
>got low self-esteem because people treat me like shit
>people treat me like shit because I have a low self-esteem
wat do.
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Stop allowing people to treat you like shit. Spend more time around people who don't treat you like shit.
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Act differently than you feel.
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>>16486400
>people who don't treat you like shit
women
>people I want to spend time around
men
>>16486404
I feel like I should not be treated like shit.
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Hey /adv/
My life consists training, anime, porn, work and school. nothing really intresting but i enjoy it. the thing is i might enjoy to much ditched my old friends cause they were waste of time. "friends on school" usage to waste time. Is this a unhealthy life i am living? should i change?
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You happy, Anon?
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>>16486371
Pretty much, yeah. is this wrong, cause for a lot of folks this is wrong
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>>16486385
Fuck 'em. You're happy, bud.
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Hey /adv/. I just needed some input on something that came up very recently and how I should go about handling it.
So my friend that I just met at uni earlier this semester invited me to Thanksgiving with him and his parents. I'm a humble person in public and always shy from others offers whenever approached with anything. He knows that I'm in bad standing with my family and haven't talked to them in years, so I'm certain he knows that I don't have plans of my own.
Now since I know we as people like to take a rational and noble approach when giving advice to others when we wouldn't actually handle it like that ourselves, I have a few questions that are worded very specifically. Would you take him up on his offer even though Thanksgiving is traditionally a family event? Would it be ruder to decline him than to invade upon their holiday?
Sorry for the long post. Cheers, everyone.
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I'll give this a bump before I decide it's too uninteresting of a topic.
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In brief, my concern is that you've just met him. I think that this is a great kindness to pay a friend whom you've known for some time. It might not go so well with a friend you barely know and a family you've never met. I think you can afford to pass this one up and help yourself to a turkey sandwich and Netflix this year.
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>>16486335
I'm not clear on whether you want to go or not.
why is it that there are so many more lonely young men than women?
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>>16486303
It is better to be chad's sidebitch, than to be an /adv/ OP's queen.
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Strong men have harems; weak men have hand.
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>>16486321
rape isnt ok desu
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>Crush on this qt I see at the gym
>He places his stretching mat next to mine and start doing abs stuff
>As soon as I finish my set, I pick up my mat and move it to the other side of the gym
>Mfw that probably gave off the wrong impression
>I was about to do stiff-leg deadlifts and didn't want my butt to be right in his face
>Tfw not stacy enough to be that lewd
Also that same day
>On my way out of the gym
>Idle around the qt, thinking of a way to approach him while pretending to be on my phone
>Some other dude is standing on one of those balancing balls and doing some weights
>Remember a /fit/ comic about that
>Kek'd out loud
>Qt saw me, I probably looked like a bitch
>Power walk the fuck out of there
Do I still have a chance?
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>>16486261
Get out, fag
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>>16486264
But I'm female
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>>16486275
You sound pathetic
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How the hell do I live with a crazy abusive "mom"
Today as soon as I woke up she was already screaming at me. If I stand downstairs she just mutters bitchy comments under her breath and if I go upstairs she just slams shit. She has 0 friends or anything not even her family talks to her. Today my dad stole money out of my wallet and I said holy fuck i wouldn't mind if he stole 5 for food but he took like 12 for cigarettes, then I hear ya know that's our money anyways you owe for us for all the food and shit and I said ok I guess and she's been screaming at me for 3 hours and slamming shit. I have a sibling that tried to sexually abuse me and gave me PTSD and she always compares me to him saying he's better than me and I have a cat and she says she always hates it and is always mean to it but when his cat comes around and I'm around then corner she acts all nice to it just to traumatize me.
If my dad is home she barely makes a sound but as soon as he leaves she goes fucjing crazy. If she sees me shell start doing shit around the house and slamming shit and yelling. Even if I don't respond she just sits there and yell at me no matter what I do. She's a crazy cunt who just sits in her room getting drunk 24/7. The other day she got drunk and I was just sitting on the porch and she just says fuck you and tries locking the door. She tried saying she was going to slit my cats throat and attacking me. She started bring up my sibling and my trauma just to get me going and i punched a wall. I tried calling 911 to see if I can get her help and they sent the cops and they told me she should kick me out and I got arrested and taken to jail. I was hoping I could go in a program to help me find a job and get me out of my house. My dad doesn't believe me or care but she literally goes from when she wakes up to nighttime just yelling at me and slamming shit. Oh and were freakishly poor.
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>How the hell do I live with a crazy abusive "mom"
get job
acquire apartment
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>>16486218
No car in the middle of nowhere PTSD no sleep, I want to move really fucking far but that just makes it harder
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Get the fuck out and never speak to any of then again.
What kind of answer did you expect?
You could also just kill them all, and then yourself. World would be better off without them in it, and you wouldn't have to live with what you did. Win-win.
How do you convince yourself that you're just as valuable as people who have relationships? I'm in my early twenties and I've never had a relationship, that makes me feel really bad about myself
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>>16486125
You are probably not. Need to know why you can't/don't get any.
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>>16486125
Your time will come when you have someone who gives a shit about whether you are alive or dead. Start branching out slowly but do not rush like everyone else. It will come tho my friend.
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>>16486128
I'm trying to be happy, so saying that I'm not as valuable as them isn't really helping.
Please help me to stop feeling depressed