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Advice on dealing with older parents 2015-11-22 06:39:45 Post No.16488075
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Advice on dealing with older parents
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2015-11-22 06:39:45
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I am 21 years old, and live with my parents. Sad, I know, but I am going to university and am on my way to becoming a highschool teacher in two years. My problem is, that my parents are very controlling, mostly my mother. She constantly gets on my ass about grades if they go to a B. Think asian standards, but white. She scares me almost every other day with threats of forcing me out of the house, searching my things to catch me doing things, even going to the point that if I want to do something, she makes it seem like its a waste of her time and not mine. She has even gone to the point to instill in me a fear that everyone is out to get me, and to trust no one, because they are out for themselves. What can I do to tell my mother mostly, that I need to be treated like a man, and not like a child. Will give more information if responded too.
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I suppose you don't have any options on moving out?
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>>16488084
Nope. They know this fact. Saying that if I left, I would lose a check I normally get, and in this way, I can't leave. So I am trapped until they essentialy die.
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I was abused by my parents, and all I have to say to you is just suck it up and get over it. Abandon hope of her behavior ever changing. It won't. Learn to control your own emotions so you don't get riled.
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Got a job XD what should i buy first?
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stocks in bitcoin
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a treadmill
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>>16488034
isnt bitcoin just a shit gimmick that will never last. and a sure way to lose money? (im no expert but i know a few people who have bitcoins and lost thousands)
>>16488040
lol its not me, its a match from my tinder account (i generally just swipe yes very fast)
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I have a really hard time talking directly about anything sexual. Usually I'll just replace words like dick/vagina/breasts with "y'know" or a gesture. I struggle with this both in general sexual conversations and in more intimate settings. I've got a hell of a hard time talking dirty in bed or asking for whatever I like directly, although I don't have any trouble saying I like something, and very little trouble asking about what my partner likes.
I'm not anxious about sounding stupid or otherwise embarrassing myself, and I know what kinds of things I want to say and how I want to word them. It's just something that feels inappropriate to me and I can't force the words out of my mouth. I imagine it's partly because I grew up in a house where sex and bodily functions weren't something you talked about and curse words - both sexual and not - were off limits for me to say, and even now as an adult I've gotten lectured by family for saying them casually despite the fact that they're all fine with other members of the family and themselves cursing.
This is frustrating and detrimental to my relationship and I want to change it. But most of the advice online is for people who're insecure about talking dirty or who don't know what to say. For me, it's more that I'm just overly conservative in what I feel is appropriate. How do I work past this?
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Just force yourself until it comes naturally, I guess? Doesn't really seem like that big of a deal, though. Everybody acts like their parents to some degree, you could've ended up with habits a lot worse than shyness over "dirty words." More of a funny quirk than a dealbreaker.
If you really want to change, I guess you just need to force yourself until it starts to be natural.
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>>16488029
It's detrimental to my relationship though. I can't ask for what I want in bed or talk about what I want or how best to satisfy me. And I can't talk dirty even though both me and my boyfriend want me to. I have tried forcing myself and most of the time I full on can't make the words come out of my mouth. That's not a quirk, it's a character flaw.
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>>16488047
I dunno. I guess you could just practice. Like, literally just practice saying the words out loud when you're alone, like a crazy person, until you can get past the mental block.
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My bf is at work and I can't sleep because I'm scared ):
Hold me
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>>16487971
GAMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
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>>16487975
im a girl
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>>16487981
gama means toad you cubic zirconia
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Writing a resume and cover letter 2015-11-22 06:00:44 Post No.16487962
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Writing a resume and cover letter
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2015-11-22 06:00:44
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20 year old anon here. Zero experience in employment. What do?
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>>16487962
lift and be yourself
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I can post you my cover letter that has gotten me a few interviews at decent entry-level positions while I'm in school, if you'd like.
Maybe other folks can tell you if its good or not.
Useful?
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>>16487962
Depends on what you want to do. What did you have in mind?
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re-enlistment after discharge? 2015-11-22 05:36:20 Post No.16487862
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re-enlistment after discharge?
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2015-11-22 05:36:20
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Hey guys, so I got my PTSD from trauma that I got when I was a little kid, triggered in basic training. When i came home it was hard for me to go to my unit on the weekends because of panic attacks. I got discharged. But never got my DD214 from my CO. I've been on treatment since I left and I'm over my PTSD. Is it possible that one could re-enlist and go back into the status of active? It was over a year ago. I've been wanting to go back and finish my contract and go for a deployment to get it over and be a police officer. Is it possible one could end up again in the army? I'm not sure what my discharge was, but it definitely isn't dishonorable or less than honorable. I have a feeling is medical, an FDA, or a medical. I've been trying to establish contact with the CO of my last unit. But I'm sure they want no contact with me since I probably placed them in a hell of a lot of paperwork. If I do manage to re-enlist again, do I have to go to basic combat training again? Or do I simply slip into AIT?
I enlisted when I was a junior in highscool, and it was hard for me to adapt to the military life with school, family and other things going on around me, not to mention the Panic attacks themselves.
Thank you in advance guys.
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>>16487862
Medical Discharge dumbass
You're not getting back in; You're supposed to get your DD214 before you leave
Fucking army..
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>>16487873
Never received it mate, I was told I'd get it mailed. Haven't gotten shit since then.
It was less of a year of service however. You think they'll count it as medical?
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>>16487896
with 99% certainty i'm saying its medical
only site i know of is
https://www.ebenefits.va.gov/ebenefits/about/feature?feature=military-personnel-file
but you probably don't have DEERS either
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My boyfriend told his and my parents he was going to marry me and purpose in a couple weeks. Thing is he recently changed his mind about wanting to have kids he wants to but does not want to admit to it where as I do not. I do not see myself marrying anyone I do not want a life style like that I want to have pets and focus on my career. Something else changed recently too he is in his late 20s and befriended some 19 year old and since all he talks about is alcohol which makes me very unattracted to him. He will send me pictures of all the alcohol he has drank and it bothers me.
Should I just break it off? My family really wants me to get married but I am only 21 and do not see that as a future for myself. I feel very limited.
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gtfo
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Marriage should make your life simpler, not more complicated.
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>>16487835
>Should I just break it off?
If you're coming here for help, you probably should.
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Should I change my haircut? 2015-11-22 04:51:23 Post No.16487718
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Should I change my haircut?
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2015-11-22 04:51:23
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Hey! I'm really wondering what people's options are on my hairstyle, should I cut it or leave it as is?
I constantly change my mind on what I want to do with it but haven't had the balls to ever cut it, even though it grows back quickly.
(hopefully this is the right thread to post this in)
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>>16487718
How old are you? And be honest.
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>>16487718
Nice lips fuckboy
You'd fetch a good price
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As you said hair grows back, do it. Change is the spice of life.
Also I hate the haircut. Looks stupid.
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My friend got kinda mad at me , and said it's weird when he found I had atin of pics like this on my phone. There's nothing wrong with them , I just like them. I don't understand why he is calling me weird.
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Do you know the kids of which you have pictures?
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>>16487748
No why?
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End yourself.
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Can i leave home for navy bootcamp without my parents knowing? I want to signup for the navy and never come back home.
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>>16487691
Are you 18? If so, you dont need your parents permission to do anything. Just know that they are also not under any obligation to support you either.
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>>16487697
I'm 20 and queued they will try to foil my plans. I'm under the impression that upon becoming enlisted i won't need their support. I want nothing to do with them.
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>>16487710
Sorry *queued is supposed to be *worried
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Who do you think is prettier?
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Or
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>>16487641
This one . But they pretty much look the same
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I like both of those pictures.
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Asian girls just never seem interested in me, in an oddly disproportionate manner. Like 100 girls could fall for me and not one would be Asian. My campus is over 50% Asian so it's weird and perplexing that I only ever get white girls hitting me up.
I assume it's because I'm not Asian or white? Every Asian girl around here is dating either an Asian guy or a very light-skinned light-haired white guy.
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Why do you think /adv/ will give a shit about such a piddly problem? Approach only Asian girls and see what happens. This place is reserved for people with real problems you faggot.
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>>16487453
It's cuz ur a faggot
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That's what women do. The vast majority of women go for men of their own race.
Just look at white women, they all go for white guys, except for girls with daddy issues who go ONLY for really big black men. They are attracted to this weird kek fantasy, meanwhile some asian women are attracted to a weird Aryan fantasy.
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Civil lawsuit for rape 2015-11-22 03:11:46 Post No.16487440
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Please help me /adv/ you are all I have right now.
>at a party 2 weeks ago
>extremely intoxicated
>snuggle up with a girl to passout
>she grinds on me, I take as a sign to advance
>finger her for a while and go to sleep
Everything seemed fine in the morning, but I hear a week later that she wants to get police involved or sue somehow. I don't want to become a sex offender how can I stop this...
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>>16487440
Lol just deny it. No semen, no rapekit will find anything. It will be her word v yours, and you're innocent until proven guilty. Deny the was any sexual contact whatever. Anything at all. You just fell asleep together.
And probably consult a lawyer just to be sure
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Hire a lawyer asap, don't talk to the cops unless you have your lawyer and do not come into contact with this broad.
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>>16487451
evidence over text of me apologizing and admitting
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>My dad seems to think that planet x, nibiru, and chemtrails are a thing.
>He thinks I should be upset over our government
>I honesty couldn't give less of a fuck
>This sort of faggotry feels like an insult to my intelligence
>How do I tell him without sparking full blown meth-rage lecture?
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He's dad, he put up with your stupid brainless speech all throughout your life until you became who you are today. You put up with his crazy old man shit.
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>>16487341
Arrogant little shit
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>>16487341
Hug him and say yes dad before its too late
You cumstained little pissy shit
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Is the future actually worth seeing?
Bear with me here. It's a serious question I've been asking myself. For the past 2 years, I've gone through various stages of "critical thinking" about society and the world at large - From a skewed liberal point, to a skewed far right /pol/ hate, but then that hate faded away into a sort of nihilistic depression. I can't fucking see ANY sort of light, ANYWHERE I look.
I dislike literally everyone around me; my friends pool both online and in real life has shrunk by about 75% in the past few weeks for assorted reasons. My mother and sister (with which I live) stress me out to no end. I probably won't graduate high school. My mother doesn't know this yet, and probably won't for a few more weeks, so I'm just waiting for the storm there. No idea what she'll do. I wish I had dropped out at the end of 10th, because fuck these years are not worth jack shit.
I sit in my room with the blinds closed and the lights off. I used to enjoy music but it just grates on me now, and I had extremely broad tastes. I talk to a total of about 3 people who aren't blood-related to me. People always say "it'll get better" with this senseless optimism but I've weighed my options and it does not seem like that will be the case. I've tried a decent but not extensive slew of drugs to push me forwards, but it just takes me back to a normal and then drops me to lower than I was before.
Fuck this shit. I don't even know what kind of answers I expect. Maybe some messiah revelation shit.
pic is just an animal i like
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>>16487324
There's nothing wrong or right. There's nothing good or bad.
There's only the importance of things existing.
Be a thing.
Zen Buddhism is your answer. The way or the Dao.
Listen to Alan Watts for a week, and come back next Sunday with your same OP image, and we'll talk.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iv9zocKASsM
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>>16487324
>high school
>muh darkness
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>>16487324
I'm sorry, I almost just posted "AHAHAHAHAHAHAA", which wasn't terrible constructive.
You are a teenager. You have precisely dick in terms of life experience or applicable data with which to engage in critical thinking, and everything you think you've learned about the world in the last few years is wrong. In a decade or so you will look back on yourself and boggle at how you could ever have been so foolish.
If you want some positive fluff then try this: the world is a better place than it has ever been. Life expectancy is longer. Medicine works. Your average middle class American lives in more comfortable conditions that medieval royalty thanks to modern conveniences like gas, running water and electricity. The world population is becoming increasingly educated and informed. Globalisation may expose use to more depressing news, but those events were always there, we just know about them now thanks to mass media, and in the long term it brings cultures closer together. And in the last few decades an ever increasing proportion of the populace has gained unlimited access to information in the form of the internet.
Basically, a century or two ago you would likely be slogging in a mine or factory this very moment, whereas now you have the leisure time to get high and mope in your room about how much life sucks. On that note, all teenager think that, it's a phase you'll grow out of. I can't help but suspect that your shrinking pool of contacts has something to do with your wangsty behaviour and shallow emo navel gazing.
Also,
>I've tried a decent but not extensive slew of drugs to push me forwards, but it just takes me back to a normal and then drops me to lower than I was before.
If there's one thing that will most definitely make your situation less favourable to you it's continuing down this line of inquiry. Stop it, you silly dumbass.