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Physical exercise in the mornings.

>>16485790
It always cracks me up when somebody advises things like 'eat well' or 'exercise' as a solution for major problems which need to be adressed by not avoiding them

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>>16485802
Crack up all you want, 'facing' the problem of obsessively worrying about the future by obsessing about it can't work.

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You can ask for a DNA test. That'd be step one.

Otherwise lawyer up.

>>16485762
Thanks. I'm kind of at a loss for what to do, so you're really helping a dude out.

http://www.mommyish.com/2011/11/23/woman-steals-ex-boyfriends-sperm-has-twins-sues-for-child-support-836/

>>16485704
>Wat do,
tell her you dont want to meet and be done with it.

She probably thinks she wants you but ultimately it's not going to work out

Fuck her if you want but beyond that it's way past time to move on.

>>16485704
>"it was stupid of me to ignore you for so long".
> It seems like she just wants to be friends
I will tell you why straight up. She got fucked over majorly herself with every type of cock in her and out. And now she wants you back to be a little bitch to her so she can be reassured she still have that hold on you of emotions. Do not even consider it man. You do not know where that cunt has been for a year let alone what has been inside her.

>>16485621

Get off internet, turn off computer, go outside. Problem solved.

>>16485626
I'm trying to be realistic here. Internet addiction doesn't just somehow end like magic.

>>16485619

Get hobbies that interest you, find a job you actually enjoy, save money and do something fun with it, etc. etc. There are plenty of opportunities to be entertained, if you just get out of the house and do something for a change.

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Welcome to life, Irken child

Get a hobby dude. There's plenty of shit to do out there. Learn to draw stuff or take guitar lessons or start going to the gym or whatever. Hell if you're not spending much of that money then start saving it. You can save up and travel to somewhere for the holidays. Or get a kick ass gaming PC. Plenty of shit to do dude.

>>16485495
Dunno. Does he have any talents?

No, he looks too old.

>>16485502
Inshalla he knows the teachings of the one true prophet (PBUH).

>>16485450
This is b8

Don't fall for it, newfags.

Sage

>>16485454
It isn't bait, I just want an honest answer

>>16485454
this, we had a thread like that yesterday

Spend your time doing other things than bitching. Pay attention to the moment, when acting/thinking like this occurs, replace your behaviour with something more constructive. It will "build confidence", just from the mere fact that you experience being in control of your own emotions and actions. It's a fake it til you make it situation. In the progress of growing more experience-oriented, and "less outcome-dependant", you will appear more attractive. If you want to get with women, you should learn "how to build attraction". YouTube is a terrific resource for this. As long as you don't see it as such a life or death situation, but just learn to enjoy the learning curve, don't be so focused on the result, but understand that the first step is to learn "how to hold conversations as a man", you will get there eventually. Being rejected should become a part of the fun. It's healthy, because it allows you to reflect on what you can do to improve. The most intimidating part of approaching, is the moment you walk up and start talking. The moments following makes it easier and easier, like talking to a friend. If you can challenge yourself to do it as much as possible, it will become a natural part of your character.

Protip: don't just talk to girls you'd like to fuck. Talk to everyone, the bus driver, the mail lady, the cashier, people you pass on the street, neighbors. Saying stuff like "What a lovely day!" to strangers, can be enough to warm you up, so that when it comes to approaching girls, you've already talked to plenty of strangers that day.

And about your Turkish friend. Push her further away, in the back of your mind. Look up what I've written in apostrophes, and go out and have fun experiencing. Who knows, one day you might want to visit Turkey. Who knows, one day she might have broken up with her boyfriend. But don't save your v-card for her.

And btw, good looks really isn't the reason people lose their virginity.

>>16485471
Thanks a lot for this reply.

>Pay attention to the moment, when acting/thinking like this occurs, replace your behaviour with something more constructive.
What do you mean exactly by this? What is 'more constructive behaviour'?

>>16485471
>Protip: don't just talk to girls you'd like to fuck. Talk to everyone, the bus driver, the mail lady, the cashier, people you pass on the street, neighbors. Saying stuff like "What a lovely day!" to strangers, can be enough to warm you up, so that when it comes to approaching girls, you've already talked to plenty of strangers that day.

This x1000

You know why older guys are so confident? Because they have more experiences. If a toddler drops his ice cream, it will be the most horrible thing that ever happened to him, because not much else has happened to him.

So try to get as much experiences as you can.
Couchsurfing or meetup often have meetups,

Now, by nature he's not one to wear his emotions on his sleeve. He's always the sarcastic, snarky, funny, smarmy asshole ("fuck you man!" is a common phrase yelled at him all day, every day), but that night he was completely different. Now, he's back to being himself. and I'm worried, because he seems to be avoiding me now. While we were having sex, he actually asked me "We're gonna do this again, yeah? Tell me we're going to do this again." and wouldn't stop until I practically screamed yes at him, kept telling me I was the best he ever had, held my hand, told me how long he had been waiting and how much he wanted me, etc. And now I can't even talk to him because he keeps putting me off.
I had told him I didn't want to have sex with him originally because I didn't want to complicate our friendship or ruin things, and now I feel like that's happening.
I don't know what to do. Now, I'm really regretting the decisions I've made here. What do I do? Do I just leave him alone for now?

I guess I'm more just trying to get an outside opinion, or something from a male perspective. All of our guy friends/his roommates (they all live together) keep hinting that "you guys will figure it out for yourselves" and "you two are perfect together", but nobody knows about us hooking up. I'm just confused and worried, and I feel like an idiot for letting myself do this.

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>>16485373
>>16485378
>>16485427

There's not really much we can tell you. We can't exactly read your friend's mind to find out why he's avoiding you. There could be a million different reasons for that.

The only thing this thread will do is attract bitter /r9k/ trolls.

>>16485433
At least you're keeping it 100, I appreciate that. I just don't really have anyone I can talk to about this irl, I prefer to keep my dirty laundry away from public eye. Thank you.

depending on your thirst level, either just tell her "cool, give me a shout when you're up for a quick catch up"

or wait for 2 weeks and ask her whether she's up for coffee at [insert coffee shop close to her work here], with no exact time, but be sure you're free right then and the day after in case she says "see you in 5 mins" or the next day or so

Stop being so incredibly beta. Why would you say that it's awkward?

Just tell her it'd be cool if she made some room in her calendar and told you when she'll be free

>>16485203
I purposely left that part out. We had a love/hate thing going on, the usual teasing when flirting is involved so it was unusual for me to ask her out for coffee out of nowhere. Appreciate the advice mate.

>>16485141
Do you work out?

>>16485146
Yes, I do many things. It just feels like a constant battle though, at every lull in my life I want to commit suicide. I don't think the urge will leave I'm trying to see if anybody else lives like this.

Keep hanging in there OP. Live is fucking hard. Mostly i stay positief but fuck last night it was a kick in my confident balls

What kind of a book is worth reading but too embarrassing to read in public?

>>16485137
jerk off
troll on 4chan
fantasize about not being a neet

i'm a neet and that's what i do all day.

>>16485137
if it's too cold for a long walk, it's best for a short jog.

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nigger are you serious

>>16484953
Yes.

>>16484942
Wouldn't it be a whole lot easier just to go to the meeting?

And by the way, that is not how you catch a cold, though it might produce pneumonia.

Get over it, new guy.

>>16484862
Good advice faggot. I've spoken to every single staff member, including the managers, and the other managers don't get along with her at all. Others have made complains yet nothing has happened.

>>16484840
You're still new, so you really have to prove yourself to the others. Keep your head down, your mouth shut, and go above and beyond what's expected of you. Take initiative. I pretty much had to do this, and now everyone turns to me when they need a go-getter to get shit done. People that were hesitant when I first started love me.

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>>16484748
>skip to the summary
>no summary

OP here, continuing. first time posting to 4chan sorry

Ex: My boyfriend and I had a separate room in the apartment, but it had folding doors so we couldn't put locks on the doors. The sister stole my things when I wasn't home, we all had "meetings" to address stuff like this, she would promise to not do it again (but she would do all this shit again). I was calm, but of course it bothered me.

Ex2: She is extremely passive aggressive and delusional. We shared a bathroom at the new apartment, and one day she brought up in a conversation that she was going to buy me conditioner in front of friends. I asked her why, and she said it was because she noticed that I was using hers. I told her very calmly that I did not. But no matter how I denied it, the bitch then whipped out her phone showing everyone photos that she had been documenting "proof" by taking pictures every day of her conditioner. She claimed that the little sud coming out of her conditioner was from me using it, but no matter how many times I denied it, she still thought I did it. Even after I told her that I can't use conditioner for my hair and I only use shampoo.

These kinds of examples happened almost on a daily basis and larger events at least twice a month.

BIGGEST OFFENSE WHY SHE DOESNT DESERVE TO LIVE: her mother was diagnosed with tumorous cancer and on the day after the mom's surgery we were in the hospital, the sister started extreme drama about HERSELF claiming no one loved her and how everyone had it easier than her. How no one expected her brother to be more than he had to be, etc (random delusional things just for attention). She never went to any of her mom's chemo treatments either, I was the one who was there with her.

OP here, last part

She never apologizes for what she has done, if I mentioned I was not okay with something she had done in the past, she would just go, "oh it had nothing to do with you, it was because of ____." well piece of shit, you still caused me trauma by threatening to kill yourself because your brother left a plate on the counter.

She is the worst kind of person and has threatened to kill herself whenever she does not get her way, especially in logical discussions where she is a hypocrite. I truly wish she would commit suicide. She doesn't deserve the life she has. She gets free money from the gov't for "disability" and going to school. She doesn't have a real "disability", it stems from everyone allowing this bullshit behavior while growing up. With all the money she gets, no one asks her to pay rent and her mom buys all of her stuff for her (clothes, textbooks, food, etc). No matter how many constructive logical meetings I had with her, where I tried to have solid reasonable compromises, it only got worse for me. I was baffled that my bf, and his mom allowed this bullshit- so I bit the bullet and now work fulltime while going to school to live at a different place.

Summary:
My boyfriend's sister is a spoilt piece of shit. No one ever holds her to blame and I truly wish she would die. Because of her I have some serious psychological trauma whenever her name is mentioned or think of her, and I desperately want to get over it, instead of having negative thoughts about her. If I'm an awful person, how do I stop being one? I believe I will meet more people like her, so how do I get over this. Thank you