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Can polyamory work or are people wired for monogamy?
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It works for some people but not for others.
Count yourself out if you get jealous.
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In my opinion it's going to come back into vogue as the economy tightens, but only for the middle/upper-middle class.
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Here you are
http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2012/12/09/entire-monogamy-debate-summarized/
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So I started chatting a lot with a girl at work.
I ended up falling really hard for her.
I basically confessed to her and she said "No, we can't be together."
She continued trying to chat with me at work, but I was really heartbroken, so I told her I didn't want to keep talking with her.
We basically avoided each other for a while after that.
Recently though, I've found that she's staring at me a lot.
Not in a shy way. Where if I look at her, she looks away or something. No. In a kind of aggressive way. Where if I catch her staring at me, she'll stare back at me hard and refuse to break eye contact.
And it happens a lot. Multiple times a day.
Wtf is this.
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She likes your attention. She just doesn't like you romantically.
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>>16490668
Bingo.
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>>16490668
This. She knows starting a relationship with a coworker is a bad idea and so enjoys the attention you gave her and might be even fucking with you.
The fact that you know someone likes you gives you power over someone else. Look away and don't try anything but be polite.
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Soon it's gonna be a year since my ex girlfriend left me (Next February) and it's been a very weird year. It's been... Something different. Not bad or good. But I'm definetelly not happy, not as happy as I was back then, just before meeting my now ex-girlfriend.
Starting at February up until the beginning of the summer, it was the worst part. Copying with that lost, while at the same time I was constantly bumping into her in the most random situations. And things each time were more and more tense, thanks to my own impulsiveness (Looking back, I don't regret much having ruined one or two parties)
Summer started and I thought it would get better, but I got even weirder. I spended the whole summer on my own, or getting down by some toxic friendships that were still strong back then.
The Summer ended and all I could think was "Can't get worse than this summer" and definetely, it was an improvement, but... It was all overall just a very weird moment of my life.
It's still is.
Now I'm looking for a job while finishing the last classes of my grade -By the early days of this next year, it will be over- I got rid of those "toxic friendships" and, overall I'm feeling better on that side. I'm a little more alone than before, but hey, better alone than in bad company.
I admit I have taken a few looks on the social media of my Ex-GF, and I just don't know what to think: She's even better than the last time we met. She's doing so good. I guess it's good, yeah, I don't wish her any badly. It's just so weird and it hurts so much to see she's doing so perfectly without you. Like, hell, it even looks like she startd to get better the moment she dumped me....
It's been a very weird year, /adv/. Been waking up and fighting against it, but not a single time I've seen things getting better. Not a single time things have changed. My life, right now, is just something so weird. There's so many things that are missing.
Am I going to make it, /adv/?
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>>16490651
Can It be done, /adv/? I've just been through too much. You have hopes. You're willing to fight for it.
But, damm, it just doesn't seem to get better.
While she has it all, and I have nothing
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I dont know op, but I'm in the same boat as you....except it was in March :(
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>>16490672
Can we make it?
Since the moment she left me I grew so strong, because that's the only thing I could do with myself.
i've been fighting all this time for something better. But things rarely change. It's been too much time fighting with no reward going on
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How do you tell the difference between infatuation, love, or something in between? I need to figure out where I am.
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Image familiar.
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>>16490622
This isn't true.
>>16490543
Infatuation is more like an obsession.
Something in between is just like liking someone. You like them, but you don't feel anything more. You wouldn't go out of your way for them. You simply like their attention.
Love makes you feel like everything is right. Everything fits into place. Love makes you a better person for that person you love. You think about that person all the time, but it's something different than infatuation. It's not a need to obsess over them like infatuation, it's a want to obsess over them.
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>>16490622
Wtf is this broscience
Not really advice but I like hearing stories like this, maybe it would help me find someone maybe not, but they always seem to cheer me up.
ITT: tell us about the love of your life, and how you met her/him or how you plan on making her/him yours.
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>Be fat all my life
>become funny, awesome and a rebel to make up for it
>transfer to school that ranges from 6-12th grade
>Met her in 6th grade
>became great friends all the way up to 9th grade
>Get in loads of trouble making her along with everyone else laugh, telling her jokes, being me
>Eventually get kicked out of school
>lose contact with all but 3 close friends
>hang out with them when I can
>slowly losing all that weight
>11th grade year close friend has a movie night and invites a bunch of people
>See her there, doubt she remembers me
>She does, we talk for hours until we have to leave
>no time to exchange info so more time passes
>same friend has graduation party, meet her there, we connect again,talk more find out we're going to the same school, comments on how different I look
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>>16490589
>at party finally exchange numbers, talk occasionally until school starts
>"I'll see you then"
>both of us took the bus but it turned out we had classes at different times, she had day and I night
>when she got off the campus shuttle, I was getting on
>She would always jump on me and hug me when she saw me at the stop
>next semester comes and we finally have similar class times
>talk all time time like we used to, never been happier
>tell my mutual friend that I have a crush on her, he says I don't have a chance, she's still stuck on her ex
>tell him I'll make the impossible, possible
>he laughs and says good luck
Then it begins..
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>>16490614
This is a kickass story.
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What is the probability that the sum of two die is less than 10, given that the first
die is a 5?
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>>16490434
If you cant figure out something that simple, just tell your teacher you dont understand.
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>>16490434
1/6?
Or like
16ish %
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1/3
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Can someone explain to me why people get soo angry, afraid or hostile towards someone if they are I guess what you would call a pedophile? I mean one that is non offending.
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Every pedophile started out non-offending. They were dangerous even before the first time they took a victim personally (as evidenced by their eventual doing so). No one wants to be around when you take yours.
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>>16490302
the sole fact that you lust after children, who should not be perceived as objects of desire, tha fact that you may end up molesting some kid and scare them for life.
For me the most disgusting is the fact that someone can fap to a picture of my 4yo niece in swimsuit. I would literally kill just for that, nevermind full blown molesting.
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>>16490302
the same reason people are afraid and hostile towards sick dogs. They may not have bitten yet, they may be kind of nice even, but they're sick and eventually they snap. And you definitely don't want them biting your own dog and making your dog sick, so it's best to keep them away
kids need to be protected over adults because they are the future. The only way I'd ever humor a pedophile is if they self-castrated, medically or otherwise
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I'm dating an aspie girl. Or used to. Lately I don't know where we stand.
We first met two months ago as classmates, and I asked her out shortly after. She has a lot more classes than I do and needs a lot more time for them due to her condition, but initially she managed and seemed almost obsessed with me instead. I genuinely promised to help her out where I could. I seemed like the person closest to her, and that was fine.
Then she met this guy, a classmate who shares all her classes. He's taken an altruistic interest in her (his words, not mine) and hangs around her all day, every day as some kind of guidance counselor.
He buys her lunch every day (and offers me the same); he runs errands for her; he walks her home daily; he corrects and tests her on all her homework; he acts like her moral compass; he even insists that she invites him over for all kinds of helping reasons. Hell, I think he even dropped a class entirely so she wouldn't have to spend a free hour alone.
She's cool with all this. "If he wants to do it so badly, I'm not stopping him" she told me at first.
Outside of dates I never see her alone anymore. She and her attention are always with this guy and his lectures.
Lately work's been getting to her. She's been shooting down my plans for weeks because she's too busy. To me she's become distant, cold and sometimes even downright ignoring. Apparently she's unchanged towards the guy, but that's probably because he's directly helping her through everything.
I know that this is normal Aspergers stuff. Be logical, focus on 1 thing, have 1 person you're close with. And I'm no longer that person. He is.
I want to know how she feels about us. If it's just being busy or she's no longer interested, like you'd usually assume here.
I want to ask it alone in person, but also play it cool with minimal drama. But she won't meet up and he's always around. How am I supposed to do this? I don't want to drop it and move on, so how do I get out of this limbo?
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Did you have sex or not?
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You can't just tell the guy, straight up, that you'd like some private time with your girlfriend? It doesn't even have to be awkward or confrontational, if he's just her friend then he'd understand. That's a pretty normal request
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>>16490059
>taken an altruistic interest in her
What a condescending prick, though. I think you should just tell this guy to fuck off. He's not a doctor, and she's not a charity case. She has Aspergers, she's not a blind old lady trying to cross the street. This guy isn't doing her any good by taking control of her life, treating her like some kind of special-needs "project" to make him feel better about himself.
The obvious explanation is that he wants to fuck her. And if that's the case, he's taking a real creepy, predatory approach about it. I honestly think you should just tell this guy to fuck off.
My ex in another country is accusing me of being a pedohile and rapist. She's 10 years younger than me (but over 18) and I broke up with her. We have only met up a few times because of the long distance. Now she's send my family and friends pictures of us together and calling me a child molester, rapist, pedophile, etc.
What can I do? Please help. She's obsessive.
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you could try not fucking any more children.
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tell them to fuck off
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>>16489994
>over 18yo
She can go fuck herself
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Hello /adv/. I live in 'murica, and work down the street from one of the very few clinics in my state that provide abortions. Every single day there are protests outside the clinic. Not only do I disagree with their view point, but they stuff up traffic, harass people walking by, and just generally make asses of themselves.
So I ask you, oh kings of trolls, what are some things I can do to troll these protesters? It'd be awesome if I could get them to just go away, but I'm realistic with my goals and understand that won't happen. I'm just hoping to make them as miserable as they're making everyone else.
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Be the bigger man and do nothing. Regardless of anything you do they will still picket, if nothing else you'll justify them further.
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>not ur personal army
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Buy some intestines from a butcher and throw it at them claiming its a ded bby
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=quR4WR9i1FQ
How can i lost my virginity while having literally 0 friends working in fucking factory job along with middle aged people? I rather commit suicide than live like than...
t. 23lvl
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Go to Chinatown, find a brothel. Bring 150 bucks, tell them you only have 130$ to spend. Fuck an Asian girl.
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You're putting way too much value on losing your virginity mate...
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>>16489775
Sex is super important until you have it. Then you realize that all the hype was for nothing, and you were the exact same person going in as you are coming out. Same problems, same insecurities. And that's when you realize that friends, money, and sex are meaningless alone. What you really want is the calm, confident, self assuredness that you relate with sex, and that is something else entirely that you have to work towards. Improve yourself, the rest will come.
So ive decided im gonna ask this girl in one of my lectures out. I was just wondering how i should do it. Weve talked a bit before but we wouldnt be cgood friends yet. Ill only get to talk to her for a few minutes after the class cause she has another right after it, so i was wondering if i should say "hey you wanna get a coffee sometime?" or be more direct and say "hey i like you/talking with you do you wanna get a coffee sometime?". I was thinking of asking her an open ended quetion and then when she answers say "oh, do you have class now? Maybe we could meet up and talk over a coffee sometime?" Would this be a good tactic or not?
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Go with the direct one. Stating intentions right away is better in the long run.
Just be ready in case she's not interested.
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>Ask a girl you hardly know out during lectures
Has this ever worked?
Succes stories, anyone?
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>>16489625
Actually weve spoke for a good bit sometimes. Ive made her laugh a few times its just were not exactly best friends yet
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/adv/ please help me
Girl I'm dating is 5-6/10, normal intelligence, not very educated, but she loves me to death, she's innocent like a child and extremely gullible,
She's also poor, her parents can't support her and her sister from another state and she lives a dump, she recently confessed this to me in extremely shameful way, but she didn't ask for anything she simply said that she's on on "par" with me. her parents are average blue collar workers while I come from Upper class background.
Should I keep dating this girl?
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Does she put out?
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>>16489611
this
also witnessed
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If she's on par with you, I don't see what the problem is. If you can do better, then so can she.
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My butt is the same shape & size as the "cottage cheese" butt in the pic I've posted. Is that considered as attractive or not to guys? Is it too small for guys?
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>>16489399
It's a sign you need to lose weight
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>>16489399
This diagram is retarded as hell. And no, most dudes really won't give a shit if you have cellulite unless it's REALLY fucking bad
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>>16489409
I don't have cellulite. I am just referring to the general shape and size of the butt
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HACHI ROKU?
AM I FKED?
IT'S A BURNING DESIRE
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Wasted 5 years of my life and money in College. I went and never met anyone worthwhile and ended up dropping out in the long run after changing majors 3 times. I'm now in severe debt with a Systems Engineering job that pays me 14$ an hour and knows that I need the money so a raise has been deemed impossible without a degree. On top of all of this I have no familial support and can't possibly get more student debt for a school that I can't even afford the time to go back to now.
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>>16489379
Why did you even go to school if you are going to go in debt
Sm,h family