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>>16483043
>north east a region

very crowded very expensive very liberal politically restrictive gun laws

north west not as crowded not as expensive still liberal looser gun laws

do an internet search for jobs boards plenty of them

if you can speak English well no problem with acceptance

>>16483060
>if you can speak English well no problem with acceptance
dude can't work in the country legally or stay for more than a couple months, would that be a problem?

>>16483060
OP here, thanks for your answer, with north east I meant Maine, New Hampshire, Vermont and the like.

I don't care too much about gun laws, because in Germany I will probably never get one anyway. Being too liberal is a con though. Will look for job boards then thx, didn't know the term for that.

>>16483038
Over 9000

Depends on your tolerance/weight and yes you can. It would not be painless.

However, instead of ODing you should be one of my pets. I'm collecting.

>>16483064
thanks, and I'll think about it.

>>16482980
>I really do think professional help is in order.
I agree.

Start by purging your mementos of her. Everything must go, physical or electronic. Giving things back does not seem to be an option, so donate, sell, or just throw away. This includes ALL pictures. Yes, even those. I normally tell people to put things they can't part with in a box, and then put the box somewhere safe but out of sight, but I think you may need to be more ruthless with yourself than that. Everything must go.

The goal of this isn't to forget her. That never works anyway. The goal is to transform your environment into a place where it is possible, and permissible, to think about things that are not her. The constant presence she has in your life is not accomplishing anything, except to reopen the wounds and keep the pain fresh.

The next step is to flood your brain with new information. Everyone has a backlog of things they think would be neat to learn, but never got around to learning. It's time to shrink your backlog a bit. Don't try anything purely artistic -that'll backfire- but anything else will do.

>>16482980
stop being a creeper and pestering the girl, get some girl

why some guys are so damn pathetic

>>16483022
I just want to be friends with her again. Or really anybody to be my friend. But I need friends to make friends. But I'm just a loser. Who wants to be friends with a loser? I befriended this qt asian girl but she is increasing distance from me. Probably because she knows I have no friends
I just want to hug somebody. I want a little of gentle physical interaction.
Learning a new hobby is OK. But when I do those hobbies I still think of her.

pls

>>16482930
hey, man. maybe consider going on finasteride. it's kinda one of the only real solutions to combating hair loss, besides hair transplants and experimental drugs. maybe look into it a bit more. i've been taking it for like a year and a half now, so i might be able to answer some questions you have

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I'm in a similar position, slim-fit, can't grow a beard, and only on minoxidil (for under 2 months) Except I will never naturally get big or have a beard, I don't have the genetic potential.
I'm also only average height, shy, and have had long hair all my life so shaving or buzzing it is a nightmare.

I've never posted pics, how bad is it? I think I'm between norwood 2 and 3. Should I do finasteride if I have a history of depression? Or try other alternative treatments / wait for setipripant?

Numbers and "method acting".

Mostly, by not cherry-picking arguments that falsely 'prove' it's difficult, and adopting the view that the world is an incredibly diverse place that won't always make sense, or fit patterns currently understood.

As the age old saying goes, 'any fool can seduce a woman.'

>>16482945

>As the age old saying goes, 'any fool can seduce a woman.'

Literally five results on Google.

I'm more or less with you on the first bit, but bear in mind that chads tend to make up a significantly larger portion of fools than self professed non-chads. The latter tending to overthink things without necessarily being altogether "smart".

>>16482820
Were you a virgin when you 2 met?

It's simpler than you think.
Either you change your way of thinking or you gotta follow it. You accept her for who she is and her past decisions or you walk away because you can't deal.

Now if you want a personal opinion, just deal with it. She already feels bad. Why double-down unless you wanted to be an asshole about it?

>We ruined God's plan for us.

Sounds like God is the one ruining you two from just enjoying each other like you should anyways. Honestly who gives a fuck. Look into the freedom of taking responsibility for one's actions throughout life without worrying about some bearded ghost staring over your shoulder and go live life you twit.

If you'll pardon the pun, you need to bite the bullet and just do it. Bear in mind that he's likely going to be pissed because you've been lying to him. You clearly know how to get out of your situation, you're just whinging and looking for someone to give you a magic formula.

You're a human being and it's quite normal for you to lie, I can understand how faking a few orgasms turned into many years. It's fine, but you really owe it to him and to yourself more so if you want to actually sort it out. It might be a good idea to make it clear that you really enjoy sex with him, whether you cum or not.

Tell him you want to try something new and then direct him the ways that feel best.

I can guarantee this will tear you two apart if you leave it silent. Soon thoughts of breaking up or cheating will creep around in your because he doesn't get you off. It keeps happening.

Just TALK TO HIM.
Be as honest as you want.

Lots of women can't cum from sex

>>16482719
Come on bro, you're German. Take ecstasy and dance to techno at a club like a normal German person.

>>16482719
Just go to an ffk club. Serious OP it's easy as fuck to get laid in Europe. I would go but I'm a fat American and am afraid that you euros will hate me.

>>16482727
I say no to drugs and don't know how2club.
Even if I did, it's the same situation as in the OP, but with "real life casual dating".

Just pretend you haven't stalked her shit and ask her how it's going

When she gets into talking to you, drop the convo. Get her to talk about herself and give her positive attention.

Then pick it back up the next day and end it with 'I'll talk to you tomorrow'

Then don't talk to her, unless she talks to you. Give her short busy replies, or let the msg mark as read but don't reply.

Wait and see if she talks to you the next day. If she tries to, reply and give her attention. If she doesn't, like some of her pics/statuses or whatever the platform has (works best on fb - ask her for her fb - even though you already have it, get her to give it to you)

Rinse repeat and she'll be frustrated she's not on your cock

>>16482657
>playing retarded games

skip that bullshit op, if you have to do dumb shit like that it's not worth it, just chill and be yourself if it doesnt work out oh well - you only give a shit because she's cute.

>>16482657
Do you mean like stop in to her workspace (it is a place where I could stop in and pretend to not have known her before)?

Or like just online? I am kinda scared she is going to shame me by tweeting my messages.

What are you reporting them for?

It would help determine if anonymity is a safe action. Also you will have more power in numbers, so if you can get classmates to send in their complaints you'll be better off.

>>16482594

What's your complaint?

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>>16482609
>>16482613

1. The professor has been 5-10 minutes late to every single class. In fact, she made us take a test whenever she arrived 15 minutes late.

2. She moves tests around on the day that they were scheduled to take place (which conflicts with my study schedule).

3. She makes homophobic and racist remarks from time to time (I don't really care about this one but I feel the gay guy in the class should be concerned). Sometimes interrupts the class during testing to make a random comment on something irrelevant to the test.

>one good thing

Dropped out of college

>bad thing

Because of dropping out I owe $2,500

>>16482577
Would you be willing to explain why you perceive dropping out as a good thing? Do you have alternative plans now?

Interesting idea.
What do you mean by good and bad though? By 'good' do you mean something which is healthy and productive for yourself, like exercise, getting a job, etc., or do you mean something 'good' in the sense that it helps other people in a self-less way? Or both?

I mean..I managed to schedule an interview for a job I really want this week. That was good. I bought really nice Christmas gifts and such for my family. That's also "good". Bad is that I failed a test recently (I'm a student) and I'm hoarding a lot of the cash my parents sent me for food by not eating well so I can save it for other things, mainly for my fiancee, when I DO get that job I want. Both of those are pretty bad I guess.

Muh dick
Her work
Be sure to always talk about her. Women love talking about themselves.

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>>16482549
WOMEN ARE BORING
SMOKE WEED

Anal

>>16482453
tl;dr

>she's 18
>I'm 23

that's all I neded to know, it's not gonna work out

>>16482465
It's not like I'm looking to marry this girl, I just want to have some more interaction with her to see if we can actually get along.

Also the real tl;dr is
met a girl at concert, exchanged some words, don't want to fuck up the follow up to where we never meet or text again

>>16482465
Don't listen to this fuck.
How does age even remotely correlate to success or fail?
Yeah, 18 is young and dumb as fuck, 23 is significantly more mature and smarter, but it's nothing you can't work on.

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here are her last few texts

this is p much a polite way to say she doesn't want to see me again right

>>16482300
Why people are so bent on 'celebrating' birthdays? If you are past sixteen and still give a shit, you're childlish as fuck.

Anyway since you sound like a loser and
>i'm doing pretty bad in my classes.
you should spend it studying

>>16482305
yeah, she's not interested and she's giving you a polite rejection

Pls respond

>>16482326
Go bowling with her and other friends.

Source: I've known a disproportionately large number of couples who got together after a group date of bowling. Seriously, I don't know what it is about bowling, but I think at least three of those couples ended up getting married.

>>16482326
And yeah - for fucks sake, don't come on too strong. You aren't friends yet. You are acquaintances. Learn to be a friend if you ever want her to be more than a one night fuck.