This is a very weird situation.
2 years ago I was forced into letting my son have contact with his father (we are both older people in our mid 30s)
Since my son has been seeing his dad he is starting to dislike me a lot and showing me a lot of disrespect. His father is making him hate me I think over the fact that I kept him away from his son for 5 years. I keep telling him that two wrongs don't make a right and that he is fucking up our sons mind with this bullshit he is peddling but he does not care.
My son was fine before his father came back into our lives but he is telling my son all of this messed up things about me and why he doesn't have a father and my son blames me!!!
Can I get full custody again if I tell the courts he is turning my son against me?
I mean he is 12 right now and he doesn't even want to be around me any more and keeps asking to live with his dad. You have no idea how much that hurts. I don't want his dad poisoning his mind on being a respectful gentleman to women. I am the only person who can teach him that. His father is always talking shit about how women are all "lying whores" but I don't want my son around that!
Can I do anything legally to keep him away from his father?
This needs to stop.
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Sorry I just reread that and am kind of drunk. I had 3 years of sobriety and broke today when my son told me he doesn't want to live with me anymore.
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Unless you can show that he's being dangerous or neglectful, then there isn't much you can do. Two questions, then:
1) Why did you keep your son away from his father? Have you told your son why?
2) What is your son's father telling him? If you cannot keep him away, you may still be able to counter his words.
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>>16490309
Sounds like his dad is doing him a favor with regards to women, desu senpai. The whole gentlemen shtick just leads to more Elliott Rodgers.
Have you tried crying? That worked on me sometimes when my parents were getting divorced.
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What are some scenarios where a group of people know something about you but act like they flat out don't?
Basically I have this group of friends and I get the weirdest fucking vibes from some of them sometime. Like they all know something that I don't, something concerning me. Like for example it'll be me and two other guys, and sometimes it feels like the two guys are making an inside joke aimed at me, like while I'm right there.
I asked someone about it once, a kid who I thought was a bit more trustworthy than the others, I was like hey is there something you want to tell me man, insinuating that I knew that he 'knew', and he got really nervous and started maybe overreacting a bit telling me 'dude you seriously have some problems'. But I didn't even come at him strangely or anything I was a bit submissive about it even.
So I was like okay then you can't say it for some reason whatever and he's like idek wtf you're talking about, then he like went outside to smoke (we were at a house party), but he came back in 10 minutes or so later and was like dude if something's bothering you should just tell me, we should talk about it, I sense that you're really upset, etc.
I don't know like what exactly it could be and I tried to convey that, but the response I got was creepily ambiguous, like 'I'm not going to say it unless you say it first/assure me that you know what it is'.
I swear this is like some The Truman Show shit. It's really fucking with my head. I'm tired of people looking at me like I'm some kind of spectacle when they say what's up to me.
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Honestly dude? It sounds like you are completely paranoid. Like, to the point that it might be the early warning signs of some kind of mental illness. People have a conversation or joke that doesn't involve you, and you assume it's ABOUT you. That's classic paranoia. I had feelings like that when I was younger and smoked a lot of pot, but when I'd sober up I'd realize that it was all just in my head.
The world doesn't revolve around you, never forget that. It's entirely possible that people do talk and joke behind your back sometimes, because everyone pretty much does that about everyone else. But it's not all the time, people are probably just having their own conversations about their own shit. It is not normal to INTERROGATE your friends over petty bullshit like this, especially when it's basically all just in your imagination. He might've been right, you might have some problems.
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>>16490080
You're insecure and paranoid. Nobody is laughing about you behind your back because nobody is sufficiently invested in you or your life to do so.
Actually, you sound sufficiently obsessed with this notion that you might actually have some kind of actual clinical paranoia. IDK, seek therapy.
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>>16490128
No man I totally get that. In fact for the first few months I dismissed it as some sort of narcissism from assuming everything HAD to be about/directed towards me.
But I swear it's grounded. There's this one guy for instance, we were at my place and I bought a pizza and he's all, yo man can I get another slice? And I'm like uh it's cold but go for it. Then I walked to the other side of the yard and he's all, 'ey, dude!, yo can I get another slice' And I nodded my head at him, then he fucking asks again, and I realised he was having a go at me and then I also realised everyone else there was just fucking looking at me.
I can understand from an average point of view what I'm describing would definitely be just baseless paranoia but you're not appreciating the actual instances, obviously, because you weren't there.
I could go on and on with examples. They just seem too fucked up and sinister for it to all be in my head. But no I totally get that from an outside perspective, just from how little I've explained, it would seem like typical paranoia. But it's not.
I'm not saying it's like some big evil plot but there definitely is something that they think they know about me which is causing them to act this way.
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Alright you fat, virgin fucks. This is the official /adv/ man thread.
Consider this your call to action. Choose at least one part of you that you want to change and take action today to change it. Announce it in this thread, then take advice and give advice to others as we try to become better men. Update with your progress, provide pics, make goals, subdivide those goals into smaller goals and then conquer your tasks.
If you fall, get the fuck back up, do not quit, do not pussy out. Men get done what they say they will. Mistakes will happen, learn, update approach, hit it again until the goal is reached.
Today is the prep day. Clean, buy, get, whatever you need to get started. Tomorrow we hit it hard and we don't stop until the goal is reached.
Fuck the haters, we got this /adv/holes.
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Gay thread? Gay thread.
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>>16490014
I support this thread.
I'm not going to post anything (I like privacy), but we need more threads like this instead of the usual whiny bullshit -- making progress is infectious, and we should all strive to meet our potential.
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Op here, my personal goal is to get down to my college weight of 180lbs from my current of 225lbs.
My approach is to work out everymorning before work and every two weeks I am going to change my diet in one positive way. This will be a slower approach, but everytime I try to give up everything at once it never works. So starting right now, no more sodas. In another two weeks, I will add one more step to the diet, which will be, no more deserts/sweets.
My mom is a pornstar and so is my girlfriend. In fact my mom introduced me to my girlfriend we are both same age, 21, and go to different colleges. I've been dating her for 4 months and it's been great we've even talked about moving in together and i think I might propose soon. All my friends are telling me "no don't do it". I don't see the harm in it. She may be having sex with these guys but there is no emotion involved and she respects my wishes by not doing nasty stuff like gang bangs and black guys. She's making more money then my job at In N Out burger so she is fiscally responsible and doesn't do drugs and isn't a drunk. We have deep meaningful conversations and she really is my best friend. How can I convince my friends and my dads side of the family that she really is the perfect girl for me?
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>>16488321
holy fuck
i hope its a troll
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>>16488321
>My mom is a pornstar and so is my girlfriend
post proof
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>>16488330
No thanks I want to respect our privacy
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>tfw 4 years behind peers because of fucking up (not getting a job due to bad university choices and lack of networking due to being aspie)
>socially awkward
>zero friends
>kissless virgin
>spend all my time inside
>everyone else has friends, go to parties, travel, do interesting things with their lives, etc.
what can i do to stop feeling like shit /adv/? i feel so pathetic
what's worse is that i don't know why anyone, especially my oneitis from work, would even like me when there are younger, more popular, better looking, less awkward and interesting guys around
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I think we both know what the solution is anon. You won't be getting anywhere and you prospects look very bleek. As time passes you will continue to hold on to hope but slowly learn that your goals are not obtainable.
Might as well do the deed now and save yourself a life of misery and failure.
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>>16422012
>telling people on the internet to kill themselves
not sure if you're projecting or just really that pathetic
i'm not even that autistic
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Go buy a plane ticket to somewhere youve always wanted to go to. Pack one bag. Only google the nearest hostile to stay at. (you should probably start easy and pick a country you know the language or that is generally bilingual english as one of them). Its going to force you out of your shell.
You probably wont do this. But if you spend like a month in another country youll be forced to go out. If it doesnt fix your social issues atleast you can have seen some of the world.
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Hello /adv/. I am in need of some warming guidance. I want to leave this city, backpacking, and be gone for a few months or something. I plan on 'begging' for money, playing guitar for shit tips, and doing whatever necessary to survive, other than hunting, unless need be. I am in a rut, and I want to find myself.
My problem:
>I am 18, enrolled in college (sitting here in the library instead of attending Biology 1010) as an agriculture major, hoping to become a Forest Ranger in the Great Smoky Mountain National Park, as I reside in East Tennessee (Americunt).
>Running away from conventional societal responsibilities, want to take AT LEAST a break from everything (school, job, etc.)
>I want to do this now. Leaving as soon as possible, probably within a week or two; I will be receiving my first paycheck from my new job here on thursday.
>I have a car payment, an iPhone 6 that is not completely paid off, and insurance payments to make on my car and such.
>On the scrawnier side, have a history of asthma, but also a history of sports and stuff, so really, physically doing this doesn't seem to me to be much of the problem.
>Aspiring author.
I can provide other info, but I don't know what else to put as a start. I would be writing down every step I took, hopefully turning it into some sort of book.
I am having a crisis, and want to make something of my time here on this rock with all of you. I have been thinking of something like this for some time, but not quite in this sense. Help me get my thoughts out with your questions and concerns.
Thanks, /adv/, ahead of time.
Kris
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self bumping a few times, enjoy random ass pictures, courtesy of gooble.
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Thinking of maybe taking a bus trip somewhere half away across the country to get me started.
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I'm nineteen with shitty genes, should I shave it off or hang on for a little while?
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You're fine child.
Just condition after every shampooing and you'll live.
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>>16494328
Looks like you are developing a mature hairline. If you are self conscious, grow it out a bit to hide the temple recession.
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Keep it short.
As you get older, cut it shorter until you either shave it or don't use a guard on the clippers.
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How to ease the heartache?
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>>16494059
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I miss Bob Ross too.
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>>16494078
I miss my first love
Been dating a girl for a little over a month and I really like her. I've come here a lot for help and you guys have been amazing.
Now it's finally time to ask her out officially right? The next time I'll see her she'll be going back home for thanksgiving weekend. Is it weird to ask her out at he airport after I drop her off or should I wait for her to get back?
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>>16493858
read this as
>been dating this little girl for over a month and I really like her.
Whew.
I wont tell you what to do, but I'll let you have some insight.
You tell at the airport
>pro- she says yes right on the spot
>con- "i'll have to think about it."
And then for an entire break she'll be asking her female family members about it.
You tell her after she's back
>pro- if she had a great time, this will affect her mood
>con- If she didnt have a great time, this will affect her mood.
there's more to it than that, but I'm sure other anons will have input.
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How have you been dating if you haven't asked her out
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>>16493928
I think he meant exclusive.
Which to be honest, if she already thinks they are exclusive, it might be awkward.
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I am so fucking horny right now and I can't fap because reasons. Now I'm talking some trans faggots for fucking them. But I just don't do i surpress the horniess right now or what the fucking do. I can't think straight.
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>>16493609
>can't fap because reasons
What are the reasons?
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Pay an escort for sex.
That way you don't end up being a massive prancing homo lala faggot.
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>>16493617
Reasons man, reasons.
>>16493624
I don't have a lot of money for a good escort. Should I waith for the first days of december for this.
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My boyfriend is trying to push me to "indulge" in his facesitting fetish. Is it just me or is this just a really gross thing to do? I can somewhat understand feet or backs or whatever, but this is a little disgusting. He says it's his ultimate fantasy but I want nothing to do with it.
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what specifically don't you find appealing about it. Personally I find the thought of feet far more revolting
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>>16493571
I can understand feet, it's just a body part. I can't understand deriving enjoyment of smooshing a vagina on your face. It's just disgusting.
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Have you told him you don't want to yet?
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Anybody have advice for a tall white man who wants to find a long term asian girlfriend/wife? What is the best nationality for that, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Thai, etc? Is it best to go live in their country and find one or is a Canadian/Vancouver immigrant okay? Is first generation or second generation immigrant better?
If you have stories and advice to share please do.
And I know it sounds beta and weebish, but I honestly just find asian women most attractive and I've been really enjoying learning basic Mandarin and Japanese. It's very interesting. I figure if I am going to one day find a long term partner, finding one from a completely different culture and background would allow me to learn a lot more than someone who is just like me.
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>>16493452
So - long term relationships, marriages in particular, are actually pretty fucking hard. Sure, opposites attract. Every point of difference between you and your significant other will be a point of stress. It is not insurmountable, but it will be there. Different economic backgrounds? That will cause problems. Different religion? Huge fucking problems. Different cultures? This can lead to so many different problems you don't even fucking have a clue. You like an Asian girl? Hope you like here Ama living with you (could be her mother, grandmother, all of the above - either way, you will have an Asian crone up in your everyday business).
Anyway - you want to know how to get an Asian girl? Be white. Move to Asia. That is all that is required. You have your stupid-ass yellow fever blinders on and will hook up with some Asian girl that every other expat around you will think looks like dog meat.
You won't believe me. A decade from now you will remember this and just think to yourself "fuck."
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>>16493452
My wife is native-born Chinese.
I cringed a little at the phrase, "best nationality." There isn't one. The differences between individual people are much larger than the differences between various nations. There are plenty of girls of any nationality or heritage, native-born, first generation, second generation, etc., which would be perfect for you or terrible for you. The way to find one good for you is not to cross off countries or backgrounds, but to meet as many individuals as you can.
I met my wife in my home country. I later visited her in China, and we started dating, and eventually returned to my home country to marry. We click no better or worse than any other couple, although we seem (at least at this point in time) to have a more lasting appreciation for each other because of the amount of time we've spent apart against our wishes to be together. We've done the long-distance thing more than once, out of necessity. It hurts and it's wounding, but in surviving it multiple times, it's made us stronger.
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>>16493452
>And I know it sounds beta and weebish, but I honestly just find asian women most attractive and I've been really enjoying learning basic Mandarin and Japanese. It's very interesting. I figure if I am going to one day find a long term partner, finding one from a completely different culture and background would allow me to learn a lot more than someone who is just like me.
Are you wanting to meet someone from another culture because you have a fetish for them, because you just want to learn more or because you want to immerse yourself in a foreign culture? because any of those 3 reasons will get you ignored by asian women.
How do I renounce Russian citizenship if I'm living abroad? I'm of the conscription age in Russia, so going to Russia to do so is not an option.
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>>16493425
Apply for citizenship in the nation of your choice?
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>>16493425
You can take citizenship in my underwear if you like, hot Russian guy.
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just go like this
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How do I stop constantly fantasising about being sick, dying or having something seriously physically wrong with me?
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OD on painkillers and get a liver disease.
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>>16493423
I don't want to die or get locked up in a nuthouse for attempting suicide.
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>>16493467
Do it faggot.
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I really want to fuck my housemate stupid but i'm concerned about the appropriateness of it, I moved in a few months back and am relatively uncertain how to proceed;
1) I have been informed (by another female housemate) that she may be asexual. However she is quite clearly interested in guys and makes no attempt to hide it.
2) She is still a student and is studying chimerstry, apparently quite good at it and dedicated to her studies.
3) I work night shifts, and rarely get to hang around all that often.
On top of this, i'm pretty fucking bad at expressing romantic interest in women to start with beyond making tacit innuendoes and expressing sentimentality, so any advice in general would be appreciated.
Pic unrelated.
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>fuck my housemate
>housemate
This can only end badly.
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>>16493305
I don't give a fuck. Either something good comes of it or it doesn't. I don't give a flying fuck about consequences when I consider the potential positives to having a relationship with this girl.
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>>16493305
so what, live a little.
worst case you get a new place after a bit of drama.