Where do I go to practice socializing and develop my social skills? At home? and how?
To the people who had anxiety before ; what "changes" do I need to make?
jobs?
>>16555371
Yeah how can I get a job if I'm anxious?
How can I not be anxious if I don't have a job?
It's meat and pudding
Find interest groups and clubs for people interested in the same things you are. This ensures that you have something in common with the first people you talk to, which makes for a good set of training wheels.
I've been chatting with a girl on some dating app (not Tinder - we didn't "match", the app just told me she wanted to chat)
She's 19 years old, and seems experienced.
I've been forward and told her I want to be the first to ever give her multiple orgasms, and I want to eat her out. Asked her when she wants to meet up, and she said her schedule is quite full, but she wants to slot me in sometime soon.
She might be stringing me along and laughing about it with her friends, I don't know and I don't care, but in case she's serious, I might end up fucking a girl who's young enough for some of my friends to be concerned.
Pros and cons of having sex with someone 12 years younger than me? I'm 31.
And what are good arguments against my mates who warn me against it due to her age?
>inb4 do you want to catch the mouth aids
I'm not having that discussion. Please don't /adv on pros and cons of sleeping with someone promiscuous the age gap and the fact that she's probably quite immature and not fully developed is the main subject.
Pic is me whenever someone presents STDs as arguments on this board.
12 years is a good age gap.
Give her a nice back massage.
Give her orgasms.
She will appreciate you if you always remain calm, especially if you are arguing.
Your mates may be jealous, just tell them love knows no age.
>>16555335
I appreciate advice on how to best be around young girls. I got fairly good game with women my age, but I guess I could pick up some to dos and not to dos.
Why would I be arguing though? I'm a pleasant and calm man in most situations. Good social skills desu.
I'm specifically looking for points to bring up if someone brings up the age gap, even if the girl in question is having doubts because of it.
I'm not looking for love. I just want to fuck a nineteen year old.
>>16555475
You're both adults and it's nobody else's fucking business. That's all you need to say.
So, I like physics, but I also like finding a job and not living in the streets. This is why I thought that physeng would be a good compromise between the two things. It should allow for a wider array of jobs while still allowing me to study what I love. Where am I wrong? Or where am I right?
In your answer, keep in mind that I live in Italy and I cannot afford getting a degree abroad. It is a bit of a meme, but notoriously most people with a physics degree in our country end up washing dishes. The only thing you may say as an answer to this is "no but Italian physicists are really appreciated all around the world", but something makes me doubt that.
P.s. This thread was originally on sci but they deleted it because they thought it was just about picking a college. It's actually more in general about the subject of PhysEng and whether it's worth taking as a compromise between physics and a stable job
Bump for interest
I have no idea how it could be that bad for physics people over there. Usually a physics degree is very versatile and lets you get into a wide variety of careers. It's absolutely one of the best degrees to have.
Source: got my degree in physics. Now working in finance.
>>16555529
It's really just that both public and private research in Italy suck hard, both because of low funding and general lack of interest in scientific progress. Things are slowly starting to change but not in the least fast enough for one to feel sure with a physics degree
This high school teacher who I kept in contact with is currently doing a part-time PhD out of interest. Is it a bad idea to jokingly say "you seem like someone who likes his job" in my Facebook messages to him?
I know that this is a minor question, but hey, nobody answered my question here >>16555109
Why do you want to say that?
It seems like a harness statement.
>>16555318
I bet that frog is delicious. I'd lick it, well worth it.
>>16555318
w-what?
First time on /adv/ but I'll cut to the chase, I have received an eviction notice and will be homeless within the next month, is there anything I can do to prepare myself?
>>16555180
Find another place to live?
>>16555180
cant you find somewhere to live? with friends? parents?
>>16555181
>>16555182
I have no money to my name and no friends or family, the nearest shelter is 20 miles away and I would have to walk it there
Guys I just got rejected from the college I wanted, what now?
>>16555118
> not having a plan b
How does this even happen?
>>16555118
Never give up and move on
Not from college (That part is up to you), keep looking for other colleges
I just found out my boyfriend of four years cheated on me with girls we work with (I got him the job three years ago). I quit my job on the spot, because even if he quits I can't work with those girls. I kicked him out of our house, which I am now stuck paying rent for entirely on my own. I plan on stripping to make ends meet, as I'm at a point in my schooling where I'm on call, and I had a special agreement with the owners of my job that I could work whenever available. Stripping will make me the money I need and have the flexibility of hours that I need.
I'm completely blindsided. As much as he's ruined my life, my instinct is to take him back. I've known people who've gone to couples therapy and come out stronger. Should we try to fix things? If not, please tell me how not to take him back. I'm very sad and lost.
Pic is our cats in a heart.
Hey, first up sorry for your situation, that must of really sucked.
Anyway two sections:
Firstly, logically, you should not really venture down the stripper path, usually people involved will offer you cocaine for a shift, or after party work drinks or stuff like that, that can encourage a very downward spiral life style, look at porn stars and most strippers, I mean if you want this, to eventually be a escort or something, then that is fine too, you have being warned.
While on the logical topic, you may want to just do what normal people do and stick with your core values and career goals but find another company, dont feel bad because a lot of people changes many jobs through their life, it is important you keep your values close to you (which those girls lack) and move on
Emotionally, you need to learn CBT and mindfulness, google that shit. Practise it every day. It will make shit like this in future seem like nothing if it ever happens again.
Take this as a life lesson to reach into personal development and come out as a better, non co dependant person anon!
How many people there is in the world? How many men? How many in your age (or a bit older if you prefer) You can guess its gona be SHITLOADS. Why would you go back to someone who not only didnt give a fuck about you but he didnt give multiple fucks about you. If he cheated once maybe you can excuse that.
I wouldnt.
He knew it was wrong when he was getting too friendly with that girl. He knew it was wrong when he started kissing her. He knew it was wrong when they started undressing. He knew it was wrong even during sex.
However he made the deliberate effort to do it anyways. Cheating isnt just an accident, its a serious of decisions made back to back.
As far as stripping goes, I wouldn't do anything like that if I was in your position. That kind of crap just seems hollowing to me.
I have no need for relationships or intimacy, i prefer full-time isolation with occasional 'other people time' - similar to the average persons need for 'alone time'
I lack a sense of morality/ethics, not that i don't grasp the concept, i simply don't feel any attachment too the idea of morality or ethics.
I have extended internal relationships with myself that i am fully aware of and control for my own entertainment (my form of socialization). It's pretty much my favorite thing to do; sit in the dark and pretend for hours on end.
I have severe long term substance abuse problems, primarily marijuana, booze and cocaine.
I have severe problems with security regarding compulsive locking of doors, and keeping alert around other people as if i were in a war zone.
I have issues with paranoia, from people on 4chan using software to analyze and track my posts to the people in my everyday life kidnapping me.
I am a generally friendly and polite person.
Aside from occasional outbursts of verbal rage from getting stuck in rush hour traffic while late for work, i'm a very calm and relaxed person - i've been told i have 'dead eyes' and a 'permanent poker-face' by people who have been around me an extended period during a time(s) of stress.
Should i seek mental health assistance? - i don't feel like i am mentally ill what-so-ever.. which is a hallmark of mental illness.
I don't want to ruin my life seeking help, however i don't feel that i am fit to function in our society and it could have some minor blow back at some point (like me ending up homeless or suicide, *nothing outwardly violent*)
What do?
I will be here until 8am pacific please don't be hesitant to respond because you think i'm gone. i'll read it.
>>16555068
yes op, you should seek immediate help from a mental health professional. no one that is not mentally ill would tell you otherwise.
>>16555095
Could you please specify which part of my post raised this flag for you?
I am very apprehensive about the mental health system (an other people in general as you may have noted from my post) and would like to hide as much as possible from them if i can, while still getting adequate assistance of course
I suffer from premature ejaculation, and it's bad. Like, 30 seconds into sex and I am holding back cumming. The sensation of pulling out usually makes me want to cum alone. This has been the case since losing my virginity at 15, through 4 years of having a gf, 1 night stands etc.
I usually get by by giving amazing head, without that skill I am utterly doomed. It's such a shame too, because I'm pretty big. Every girl I'm with freaks out by how huge I am, only to be massively disappointed.
My question is...should I get my foreskin removed? I'm 22 years old, and at this point pleasure no longer matters for me. I just want to fucking last in bed. Not being able to put it down is so awful that I've turned down girls who've hit me up because I'm too embarrassed.
I really want to get rid of my foreskin. I don't know what to do. This is awful. Please help.
Nothing? Ok then.
>>16555044
I wish I had your big dick problem. What have you tried before? There's sprays to keep the Wolf from the door and condoms with lubricants that do the same. Surely circumcision is a last resort?
>>16555044
Hi.
Im circumcised but i dont know if it helps cuz never done it before the procedure.
But i would say try other girls. Some girls have really tight pussies and it makes harder to control. Except one girl, ive always maintained a hard boner. (For me, getting hard is more important cuz if i dont fully want the girl, i wont get rock hard).
Plus, use more lube. Make sure it reduces your sensation. And/or try to masturbate before sex (an hour, or few, or a day etc.)
When i want to give the most pleasure, i masturbate a day or 12 hr before so i wont be too horny or sensitive.
And lastly, condoms help me after i get rock hard. Both physically and mentally (cuz i feel safer, no preg. No std, less sensation etc.)
Good luck bro
I hope it helps.
What's the best way to tell my parents I don't want to continue (community) college and learn about producing music [>inb4] and stuff. Also I say could get a retail or a part time job.
Bumps
>>16555022
why would you need to drop out of college to learn music production?
what are you studying?
>>16555022
Don't tell them at all. They will find out when they bump into you on the street asking strangers for change.
I'm a pharmacist in Australia. Managed to find a job despite the fact that the job market is saturated. What I love is teaching though. I took part in teaching voluntary programs during summer and I really enjoyed them, and I find teaching much more rewarding than my current job as a pharmacist.
Is a career change worth it?
I know that I created this thread before, but I have more things to add. My parents taught for their careers, and they think that it is ridiculous how I am thinking of this career change.
Another question: I have citizenship in another country. I am interested in working there (stayed there in the past and love it). Is it better for me to get a teaching degree there so that I can do a bit of networking there? I want to teach there and see what life is like in a different country. It will be expensive though and means that I have to drop everything.
>>16555001
bump
>>16555001
/biz/ here
Teaching is not a job that holds a great future.
You'll get paid a lot less, get yelled at by kids and their parents all day and the joy and passion you feel now will be sapped from you.
You're better off staying where you are and continuing to volunteer.
Who knows maybe in future investment opportunities will present themselves from contacts made and you will create jobs in that country rather than taking one.
Good luck
>>16555136
Well I am not interested in running a business - too risky for me.
There are smart people in the UK, Europe, etc who get top grades in their finals and yet decide to pursue Music, Math, etc instead of Medicine, Law, etc for their undergraduate degrees.
Yes, I understand that being a doctor or lawyer is stressful, but why don't these smart people go for "easy" jobs instead? Being a physiotherapist, nutritionist or actuary is not that stressful. This is certainly the case compared to something such as a researcher where no results = no funding = no income.
Really, all jobs are boring in their own ways. Even if they are interesting at the start, they become dull over time. Why not just pick something which leads to a stable income and learn to love that job?
You have no idea what you're talking about, that's for sure.
and don't judge others because you feel bad about yourself.
Why do you keep making this thread?
Because people want to do what they enjoy m8.
Ask questions that are too trivial for their own threads here.
>>16554944
Who scored the winning touchdown in Superbowl 14?
>>16554944
What is the half-life of strontium 90?
>>16555008
>>16555017
You can google that up!
> Be 19
> Only ever get drunk once, not too smashed but enjoyable
> Tried beer, Reds, vodka, rum
> Can't stand the taste of alcohol and want to vomit after a few drinks
All I have laying around is vodka. I took a shot tonight and was disgusted by the taste. Poured another with juice, and after a few drinks, almost began to gag while trying time finish it.
How can I enjoy alcohol? I enjoy the feeling but not the drink. Has anyone tired Skittles or Jolly Rancher vodka? What can I mix it with to taste good? HELP ME GET DRUNK ANONS
Being drunk sucks balls, why do you want to get drunk?
>>16554917
I like the feeling of being dizzy and it makes doing shit a lot more interesting. It's pretty relaxing to get a little buzz. Maybe you're doing it wrong?
>>16554904
>Red's
>tastes like shit
Take that back
Anyway, you don't drink hard alcohol for the flavor, you knock back the shot like you're taking cough syrup for a cold. Yeah you'll still taste it but you're trying to get drunk so bear with it.
Anyway, if you wanna try smelting good, one of me and my friends favorites is iced Rumchata coffee. Rumchata is just what it says: Mexican horchata with some rum in it. Brew a fresh 6 oz cup of your favorite coffee blend. Grab a 12 oz cup, fill 2/3's with ice. When coffee is done brewing, pour over ice and add Rumchata to taste, almost like a coffee creamer. Tastes creamy and smooth, no alcohol flavor, and will allow you to get a buzz without tasting it.
Some bloody Mary's are almost impossible to taste the alcohol in when you mix them right too
Just turned 30. My girlfriend of five years and I broke up.
Most of our mutual friends/acquaintances stopped talking to me and it's greatly affected my social life.
I live in a foreign country where I speak the language well and also one of the biggest cities in the world. I have a job that pays alright and I enjoy it. Still, I feel extremely depressed. Maybe the most I've ever been in my life.
I'm "old" now and feel like I failed. Maybe I will be forever alone now. How do I recover?
Are you Gaijin-san?
Go chill in Roppongi I heard.
Men become more attractive as they age.
>>16554894
That's an absolute no. It's a disgusting place.
>>16554895
Maybe... It's hard to get over that it feels too late to pursue a relationship now.