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>>16552758

quit doing drugs.

Stop using drugs if u are able to work go work ur assoff to earn and go live seperatelly dont use alchohol and dont be a fuking burden to your parents

Stay fit and active, get at least an hours sunlight per day, read a lot and help others when you can. These 4 things are enough to make 99% of human beings consistently happy and well rounded.

In your case I'd say also take a second job and contribute more to the rent or find another way to help financially until you improve yourself enough to move onto something new.

>>16552715
I'd go to a support group, you can meet peopel who know what you feel like

>>16552726
I've done that in the past. But when I get there, I'm always overshadowed by someone who like killed their kid over some heroin, which objectively makes sense. And I know it sounds like I'm making excuses, but I honestly feel trapped just listening to these people everytime I've gone.

>>16552715
>>16552715

>a girl cheated on me
>and now i want to kill myself

thats literally how pathetic you sound.

>i want to get clean but then ill have to face that alone and that sounds worse than just killing yourself.

then just kill yourself. as dr suess said 'Whether you like it or not, alone is something you'll be quite a lot!'.

being alone can be a mans greatest asset. which makes being lonely just a really stupid choice. no matter how surrounded you are by friends, families, servants, and mentors, you are still going to be alone, and having a crutch isn't going to help.

right now your brain is rewarding you for being depressed and doing drugs. you feel better when you believe yourself to be this poor unfortunate soul with a heavy burden, then of course the attention that comes with it in threads like this.

>>16552739

this right here kinda proves me point. its not enough to get help, you want to feel validated. and theres nothing wrong with that, but you are seeking the wrong kind of attention

wouldn't you rather be that guy who got his shit together? wouldn't you rather be the guy who did it on his own? the guy who shaped his own destiny and didnt care about whether or not he was alone while doing it? dont you want to be able to brag about that one day? my boss has been sober for 40 years this month.

if you do this on your own, you can be the guy who reaches out and helps the people like you. instead of being the victim who always needs saving, you can be the hero everyone looks up to. it literally just takes a choice.

>i still have no friends, but i feel thats the key
>how do i make friends
>and i mean lasting relationships

do you really think ANYONE wants to be friends with a druggie? i mean sure other druggies but they can't help you, and you refuse to go to support groups that actually have people in your situation, so what choice do you have?

you dont need friends to get clean. You need to get clean to make friends.

i always search stuff like that and that doesn't mean it gets me off or anything like that. i'm just curious

Do not attempt to conflate weird porn with realistic sexual fantasy. Literally nothing to worry about.

>>16552696
Well ... It has me feeling kind of weird. He told me to look through his history its pretty much only granny porn.
He said "I think all woman are beautiful even if they are older," and "I use to be really into it years ago."

There was a small smattering of ethnic porn (about 4 videos) and two "big clit" but everything else was grandmas.............

>I don't have enough money for a social life
Nigga what
Just go to some party's or get a new hobby where you can meet some people, money is not a requirement.

I suggest this a lot, but I really suggest people start lifting weights. It's not a magic pill, but the exercise really makes a huge difference in your overall mood. You feel better and more confident in yourself.

>>16552634
>Go to some party's

Ok, who with? Most of the people on my course don't live at the university, and have social lives at home. The people I live with are mostly foreign students (mainly Chinese) who don't socialise. Even if I did get invited to a party, I don't have enough money to buy alcohol or pay to go to clubs afterwards, which is what most people do at around 10-11pm after a party.

>>16552637
Gym membership was the only thing I allowed myself to splash out on at the start of the year, with money I'd saved up working over the summer. I go 6 times a week, and am probably in the best shape I've ever been in. It does help a little bit mood-wise, but I've been a regular gym-goer for more than 5 years and have exercised all my life, so it's not made any real difference for me recently.

Please respond I've even vomiting blood. I need to stop drinking.

you're an addict. why? what's going on in your life that's making you seek refuge in poison?

http://imgur.com/gallery/poMu0VD

She's cutting off her hair because she wants to get a pixie cut, and seems to be excited about getting a pixie cut.
That's pretty much all there is to it.
I wouldn't call you shallow because that's a silly thing to use as an insult, we all have things we do or don't want in a prospective partner.

What you do have to understand is that if she wants to cut her hair shorter you don't really have any business telling her that she can't. Especially because you aren't even in a relationship yet.

If you really want to be with her perhaps explain that shorter hair in a partner makes you feel uncomfortable - but be prepared for her to go off at you and break off... whatever you have; although that is a worst-case scenario.

why? because sometimes they like the look of it and sometimes women have the gall to make choices about their looks without those choices aligning with whatever pleases the men in their life

don't be a controlling knob. if she wants to cut her hair off that's her choice. if you don't like the look of it, find a girl who prefers to wear her hair long.

Also, if you tell her to not cut her hair for a reason other than the fact that you don't like it, that's lying and isn't really fair on her. Be honest, and suck it up if your honesty loses you a girl; lying about stuff like that always, always blows up in your face in the long-term anyway.

>kill bf (don't let her know about it)
>comfort her on her time of loss
>use this to get closer to her
>marry her

Make sure to plan well the murder, though. Could get bad for your side.

>>16552568
>do not want

Next?

funny thing: she probably doesn't have a bf

You drink an entire litre?!

>>16552386
no nigga, not on the reg but i have b4

High blood sugar levels does that. Keep on doing what you're doing for an eventual collapse and a diabetes diagnosis.

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Sure, have an abridged personal story
>Have a friend that lived in a cold, rainy city dealing with stupid people all day shuffling boxes in a warehouse
>Every weekend he would travel 300 miles to hang out with me in a fringe town, bitch about his life and how he hated it
>Told him EVERY TIME he would visit that he should nut up, move here and do something he likes
>...
>Two years later he's much happier working as a one-man taxi service in a small town, goes fishing every day and makes a great living

Follow your dreams OP.

OP, your pic doesn't work with video games
I tried

>>16552356
Funny enough OP, I was just about to ask a similar question.

That picture pretty much sums up my situation, and I'm not sure if it's right or wrong to give up worrying about income. Probably because I'm still under my parent's roof and I have a past incessantly grabbing at my heels.

I just kinda lost what I'm passionate about, I want to do alot of things, many of which I'm not even good at.

>>16552276

Be honest about what happened and if she isn't a shallow bitch she'll more than likely give you a second chance. Of course this also really deppends on of she is intrested in you or was just looking for a fuck.

>>16552357
I can't tell if she's a shallow bitch. I mean girls who aren't just looking for a hook up don't cuddle and passionately kiss the guy, I'd assume. But I'm honestly not sure, and I fucking hate how hook up culture has made me anxious about not making moves fast enough. She seemed to generally like me before I spilled my spaghetti.

>tfw holding hands walking back to her apartment
>tfw stop at a red cross walk
>tfw she grips one of my hands with both of hers
>tfw look at her and she has a cute smile on her face

Fuck man, I hate being so goddamn socially inept in college. I feel like I finally get a chance to have a relationship and yet I still fuck up, even when I was so close. I don't want to fuck random girls every week, I just want someone I can talk to and watch netflix with after a long day of studying or some shit.

>>16552400

"Hey, I've got to say I'm sorry about last week. I feel like such a spaz. To be honest, I kind of hate how hook up culture has made me anxious about not making moves fast enough, and I liked you enough I guess that's what happened. Truth is I just want someone I can talk to and watch netflix with after a long day of studying or some shit.

Anyway, sorry about all that. Have a good Christmas break."

If she responds positively, see where things go from there. If not, you got it off your chest.

Bang the fatties

>>16552246
They all wanna be "friends" anyway. Or at least the only kind of acceptable one does. The rest are too fat, I don't wanna bang em.

Post a screenshot of your profile OP, I'll try to help. I'm a 6/10 at best and a little chubby, and I've still matched with a decent amount of qts and had dates with them.

you have every right to be jealous. That's super suspicious.

>>16552166
It's too late now, but here's where you lost the highground:
>she tells me that he is her friends and I shouldnt want her to stop seeing her friends.
Next time when she mentions that she's going out for a wine with someone you think is sketchy invite yourself along. You shift the moral impetuous from yourself to her: you either get to go along and put this guy in his place, or you seize the moral highground by forcing her to admit that she wants to hang out with a guy she likes by herself.

Of course she could break out the old My-Personal-Space gambit, but you just counter with the Couple-Means-Sharing-Lives maneuver, and if you get stuck there's always the Crazy Ivan.

Being in a relationship is like being in a submarine battle, is essentially what I'm saying.

I'd be pretty upset. Not because she's hanging out with another guy (Well, I wouldn't be upset if that's actually all that's happening) but because she said that she'd do one thing, and goes behind your back and does the opposite. I'd say thats a red flag for your relationship if its only been a month and your partner is already willing to just tell you what you want to hear and go behind your back rather than discuss things.

Don't.

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>>16552156

Define 'God'.

Nigga could be anything.

Is newfag

What does r9k mean?

>>16552172
robot9000, the most generic name the author of XKCD could think of for the moderation bot he created.

>>16552172
It means "ROBOT 9000".

It's explained here:
http://blog.xkcd.com/2008/01/14/robot9000-and-xkcd-signal-attacking-noise-in-chat/

Ex-catholic.
Call a church you're looking to join. Get a meeting with the priest. In my old diocese, you had to meet with the bishop. You go to Sunday school for like a year or something, not sure. You're then baptized and saved from everlasting hellfire. Hallelujah. Praise be.

>>16552006

Grew up Roman Catholic.....


Fuck.that.shit.

Formerly catholic. Talk to a priest.
Also, there's no harm in entering a church and participating in worship services OP, even if you haven't converted yet.