I've survived a lot of bad stuff from women. I just don't know how to talk about it with other men or anyone. Counsellors just want me to leave all this stuff in the past and focus on the positives and changing my life around, which I've been doing. But essentially woman have ruined my life and financially ruined me due to false allegations. Except these women weren't third wave feminists or social justice warriors.
It's so awkward, shameful, and embarrassing to even talk about being falsely accused of things, and I hate that I even feel that way. It's shocking. People wonder if you actually did it.
Anytime someone inspires me, I write way more words than I want, and then I end up deleting what I wrote.
Being silent isn't the answer. But nor is raging out at women or feminists just because of the triggering things I read. It really makes me angry to read about how men are suffering the same way I have, who will never get justice, who are alone, who will never get reparations, and being told they somehow deserve it because they're men, or white, or they're oppressors.
I've already turned my life around, I already got hobbies. I already have coping mechanisms for stress and all that.
I've already done counselling and taken workshops.
I'm still angry and I want to be able to reach out to others going through what I'm going through.
It's not clear to me what a victimized man should do other than "be the better man, bury it in the past, move on with your life".
I don't know what to do. I'm lost.
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Tell us your story here. I am a good listener. I am a feminist woman but I don't think you deserve what happened. You are right to be angry. Maybe you can find people on /soc/.
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Also try to find better counselors.
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>>16610538
>financially ruined me due to false allegations
false rape accusation?
>am 18
>really vibing 5 month girlfriend
>ex enters life again
>kiss ex to see if feelings still present
>gf finds out and we breakup after 7 months
>she moves halfway across country
>comes back for Christmas
>she knows I'm sorry and That I love Her with all my heart
>she continuously makes false promises of us getting back together
>does shit that she knows will break my heart
>hangs out with me just to hook up
>she knows I mean something when I kiss her though
I know I'm the bad guy for cheating on her but she's made me so depressed by playing with my heart. Last night I finally decided to stop taking her bullshit and went off on her about even though I cheated, I was always more for her than she was for me. She got really offended by this but I don't care because of what she put me through.
I guess what I want to know is if maybe I'm not the only fucked up one. I feel like I'm doing everything to redeem myself but I don't know.
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>>16610495
Drop it with her.
You fucked up and played with her heart too. Get out of the whole thing and feel bad about it for like 10 years.
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Hey man you're story is similar to mine except mine was a 5 year relationship and my girlfriend 'suspected me' of cheating on her because I was talking to another girl,
Got back together with her, went on holiday etc. Big drama never ending, she breaks up only wants me when she wants me does shit to hurt to me.
And even still i'm left feeling with regret because she was hurt. Any sane man with a pair of bollocks would of fucked her off after the first week.
My advice to you is the same advice i'm giving to me. Just fucking walk away and let-it-go. We both fucked up lets open a new book.
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By chance are you in Texas?
Is it wrong to be narcissistic if no one really cares about you?
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Do you think it's wrong to be narcissistic?
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>>16610487
Maybe that's why they don't care about you t.bh senpai
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>>16610487
Depends how you channel it Anon.
I'm guessing your an insufferable twat, if so just become more humble.
There is nothing wrong with believing in yourself, just don't belittle people for not being as good as you perceive yourself, treat them as if they are and some may surprise you.
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So a coworker gave me a couple of shots of vodka during our lunch break, what can I eat or drink to sober up quickly. I work at a grocery store so I have access to a lot of things
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>>16610470
Greasy foods, bread, stuff to absorb. Also, water, coffee to piss it out. Don't drink on the job.
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>>16610470
Act natural. Just do things and don't worry about it. You will be fine unless you reached the point of no return... if you're a light drinker thats probably 5-6 shooters.
No one has to know you're drunk. and if you have lunch now and work in the next hour... your breath is going to smell. My boss noticed a liqour smell on my breath but i'm just a laborer.
I have an issue that I would like to get off my chest, when I go out to the bars with my friends I act like a buffoon. It tears me up when I'm sober and have to listen to my friends shit on me for the way I was acting. It’s very hard for me to refuse going out with my friends because I really don’t have any. And the way I act when I go out is just embarrassing and it keeps on reoccurring. For example I went up to this girl last night and she put in my phone “fuck off” because I was being obnoxious and I say and do the most embarrassing things. I can’t take it anymore, this isn’t me, this is not who I am. I want to change this, I don’t want to be known as a fool and if the people I actually care about knew that I act like a clown and do dumb shit when I get drunk they would lose all respect for me. I really find it hard to laugh it off but I lose control when I’m drunk
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It sounds to me like you need to lay off the alcohol. Not everyone can handle it.
Fortunately, designated drivers are now a thing. It's time to become one.
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>>16610469
You could even just drink less. Come on, OP.
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>>16610469
Drink less. Everybody does shit like this when they start drinking. The thing is to learn from it and get better.
For now, avoid hard liquor, stick to beer, learn to pace yourself. I used to drink like an idiot, but if I'm out drinking now, I don't have more than one or two drinks over the course of an hour, and if I have more than 7-8 drinks over the course of a night, I'm going to regret it the next day. A measured shot of liquor is one "drink." Respect that shit.
Okay so I need some advice on some unfamiliar territory.
In a few days I'm going out to dinner with a girl I like and she wants to just go as a friends thing. The only issue is I have a massive crush on her and it seems kind of hard for me to just go as a friends thing. She knows that I like her somewhat but I've never made any blunt/straightforward remarks about it. Should I just keep it as a friends thing or is there something else I should say/do?
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>>16610462
Everything you do from now on is going to be hyper analyzed.
Even if this isn't an official date she might be seeing if you are totally nuts beforehand.
Control your parts boy
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Bro.
OK I'm going to give you serious advice.
"Hi femanon, I think you're a cutie and I don't want to just be your friend.
If you arent down for that I'm going to move on.
So will I see you at 6?"
For yourself and for her.
If you are there to date her don't be dishonest with her, it looks weak, its dishonest and its unmanly.
You also shouldn't be friendzoning yourself, value yourself more. Treat yourself well go get what you want. And that's not to friendzone yourself with this gal.
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>>16610496
This is the best advice anyone could give you.
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About a year ago I met this guy on /soc/, he's a super cool dude and we talk everyday and play games too. Lately I've been starting to feel like I'm in love with him, I've always known I wasn't 100% straight but I had never felt romantic attraction towards another guy. I have never so badly wanted to be loved back by someone in my life. I've also been considering taking hormones and becoming a trap for him because I know he's into that. What should I do in this situation? Should I tell him about my feelings and hope he'll love me back as a trap?
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You shouldn't fuck with your body chemistry just to please a guy. Even if you were already in a real relationship, and it was going great, there's no guarantee it'll last forever.
In this case, however, you haven't even met in person, it's just a crush, and you have no idea if he feels the same way you do. So this is fucking crazy talk, and he will go running for the hills if you even suggest you'd do something so drastic for him at this stage. It's not attractive if you're willing to alter yourself just to please someone. That is way, way too much pressure.
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>>16610452
Do not go for someone on /soc/. There is always something majorally wrong with them.
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>>16610452
Don't trapify yourself for another person. Crossdressing is fine, but don't change your body for somebody else. That is something you should only do for yourself.
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How do I learn to keep my life to myself?
My friends know a lot of private things about me. They know I've seen hookers. They know I've had dick problems. They know embarrassing family moments. They know my embarrassing history in high school. I feel like I have to play a role as the "loser messed up guy" around them, and I don't feel like I grow around them.
The person I am now is much happier, I've been working out, make better choices, have improved most of my life. But my friends (and most people I know) know way too much about my embarrassing past.
How do I move on, and how do I learn to keep shit to myself from now on?
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Alright, lets break this down since you (amazingly so) can't solve this extremely complicated problem yourself.
>a. How do I move on
Get new friends. Get rid of your old friends.
>b. How do I learn to keep shit to myself from now on?
STOP SHARING EMBARASSING SHIT WHAT THE FUCK IS THE BIG PROBLEM!?
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>>16610383
Don't tell anyone anything unless they ask first. People respect a man who knows when he's supposed to speak.
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>>16610417
This, just for an inner circle or something with 2 or even 1 friend with who you can exchange all that private stuff if you wish, at least that's what I do
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>Be 24 yo girl
>Go to a club yesterday
>Drink a lot, take a lot of drugs
>Somehow end up making out with this cute shy 22 yo guy
>Invite him to my place
>Drugs wear off, attraction suddenly dies
>I suddenly have no wish to touch him with a 10 foot pole
>I fall asleep, he goes home
>He has been texting me non stop today
How the fuck do I fix this without breaking this guy's heart ? He seems to think we were going to date or something.
Also don't call me a druggie whore. I know I'm a druggie whore.
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I wonder if you could fixnit by telling him you are a druggie whore ?
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>>16610392
He knows.
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>>16610376
>don't call me a druggie whore. I know I'm a druggie whore.
typical druggie whore
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Hey /adv/ I'm a 16 year old male with a problem that is really affecting me personally.
I'm a chronic masturbater, on average I masturabted 3-4 a day, I now understand that this was way too much and have chosen to cut down considerably, now hoping for once every 2 days.
The real problem is my penis. It's not as strong as it used to be; its weaker and not fully erect, as well as smaller in length.
What do I do /adv/? Should I cut masturbation off completely? Is this more of a pyschological problem or a physical one due to a lack of excercise? I really want my penis to be back to full strength so what should I do?
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All psychological. You may be addicted to fapping, so slowly decrease by 1x a week rather than going cold turkey. Do exercises that stimulate blood flow to your genitals. Look in to supplements that facilitate blood circulation and glandular stimulation (but not "penis enlargement" pills).
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>>16610393
I honestly think I was addicted to fapping, but do you reckon my Penis is now shrunken permanently? Am I impotent or will I quickly go back to normal? Finally what do you reckon is the healthiest amount of masturbation in a week?
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>>16610418
The chances of your penis being permanently smaller is zero. Once you improve blood circulation and recondition your psyche, you will be pleased with the changes.
As for the latter question, only during instances of blueballs.
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>walk into bar
>see my old friends girlfriend working, pic related
>say hi, we start talking
>she starts coming over to me a lot, mentions that her boyfriend is in a whole different state
>when I leave she waves and giggles "bye!"
Should I go back and try to bang her?
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>old friends gf
>bf in another state
Abort, how desperate are you.
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>>16610354
You really fell for this, didn't you?
You believe that those strippers really thought you were cute, right?
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With friends like OP, who needs enemies?
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I'm a 19 year fat virgin with no really friends or social life, my problem is that I'm loud childish and I like to be different I'm very sweet hearted (i always put other people interest before mine) but i really want to change any advice videos I can watch or books I can read that will help me
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Self-help books are all mental masturbation.
Trail by fire is the only way, I would hit the gym and pick up an active, social hobby. MMA/jui-jitsu/muay thai might be good for you.
If you do that, go to school, and stop being a faggot you'll probably be good in 2-3 years.
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>>16610313
I'll add to this, follow above though.
What do you like to do? Don't tell me it's sitting around all day, doin bs online.
Find something where you can create or do. Volunteer, build, paint, etc. Get involved in something with responsibility!
Lastly, try and help others, even in small, seemingly meaningless ways. It will help you think about your own situation sometimes and at the very least brighten someone's day.
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Got a lot of money from christmas, and I'm undecided wether:
-Spend all the money on clothes
-Spend the biggest part of all the money on a Synthesizer and the modest rest on clothes
In essence I'm not in need of clothes. I have 2, probably 4 outfits that are a sure win. But I really like clothes, and I really like to dress nice. I love the chase that is picking the right items. I have money, yeah, but not as much as to just roll anywhere and buy half the store. That is bad, but it's also good because you gotta be real sharp with what you're picking. That's cool and you also end up looking good, wich is something awesome.
Then there's the synthesizer option. I've been wanting to get into it. I feel like I need more ways to express myself creatively speaking. I really want to pick it up and start learning and messing around on the go. I feel it would be really good for me. But of course that would take a good chunk of my money, and the "looking good" aspect is one of my worries.
What should I do, /adv/? What would you do in your case?
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Buying a synth is the obvious choice, because one of the top regrets in life everyone has is never learning to play an instrument.
Clothes are temporary, especially since you seem to be interested mostly in current fashion.
Seriously you know what the right choice is here. You just want someone to tell justify the shitty choice.
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>>16610303
I'm not interested in current fashion, but into looking good. I don't know, I might be a little obsessed over this? Since my girlfriend left me a few months ago, I wanna be back at the dammm market. I gotta look good. On the other hand, I soon have a very important meeting with a bunch of movie director whom wich I'm going to work with in the future, so I feel I gotta look extra sharp.
But maybe making a decision solely because of the aforementioned concerns is a bit extreme? I'm going to look better whatever I wear. And I don't need to impress anyone with new clothes. I already get compliments and I really like myself the way I dress.
Yeah, I hope I don't sound too stupid but yeah you're right, maybe I needed to let this out of my mind? You're very right with the "one of the top regrets in life everyone has is never learning to play an instrument". I'm all the time wishing to pick an instrument and learn to play it. This might be a good beginning
So I just got this unknown number of a girl pretending to know me. I made the mistake of giving my first name and she kept trying to string the conversation along pretending I was just with her and giving my name she used it in the convo. Was she trying to scam me or was it a prank? She also asked where my state was
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>>16610268
Just block her number, it's prolly a scam or prank
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>>16610310
it was unknown so I picked up and said hello this is "first name"
Then she just kept pretending she knew me and that we were just together when I was asleep. Prob a prank but I also suspected an identity theft attempt when she wanted to know my state. You live in "state" right? Was the line
So all she has is my phone and my first name
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>>16610333
As long as you didn't give her anymore information, you should be fine, could've been a shit telemarketer too
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I work for Walmart and make about 300 dollars a week, I have no ged because of family issues that prevented me to go to school. How do I get a better paying job that over looks small things like ged.
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>>16610206
What's preventing you from getting a GED now?
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get off 4chan Jacob
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>>16610215
I need to work 40 hours a week and don't think I'd be able to handle giving up the little free time I have to go to school