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boyfriend is catholic; I'm not. 2015-12-27 10:29:57 Post No.16608632
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boyfriend is catholic; I'm not.
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Historically, religion has merely been an avenue for others to abuse me. I have nothing against religion, but fanaticism makes me extremely uncomfortable, to the point of crying even. But with matt, it doesn't seem to matter. I spent a good portion of Christmas with his family, and prior to eating we all held hands while his dad prayed. Normally this would make me extremely uncomfortable, but this time it didnt? I'm unsure whether time has merely dulled the pain inflicted on me through religion, or if I love him enough that holding his hand has such an effect. Either way, it was enough for me to, at the end of the day as I was leaving to my apartment, tell him that I love him. This confession was met with all the warmth and acceptance, but he said that he "needs a little longer to say the same". Yet I have never felt so comforted.
It's been on my mind for a while though how a relationship might work between a Catholic and an atheist. I don't want to damage his faith; it is an important part of him and I do not want to change him. But I wonder how I might go about understanding him as a Catholic. Do I just ask his priest? Would that be too invasive?
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A relationship like this can work perfectly, just give him his space and let him believe what he wants to believe.
As for the abuse in your past, there are people who are very loving and kind and find religion as a support to be like that even in hard times. There are others who use religion to justify their atrocities and solidify their power over others. Try not to judge people solely on whether they are religious or not.
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>>16608632
Just let that part of him go and look past it. If he cares about you, he'll look past the fact that you're an atheist and won't try to change that.
As for "damaging his faith", that doesn't happen accidentally. You have to purposely say stuff to fuck with him. Anything else that makes him doubt is due to him taking a step outside his faith to view things, or that he doesn't strongly believe in it to begin with. This can be good or bad depending on your perspective. Either way, it's just another part of growing and you can't just treat it like you're avoiding stepping on nails.
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>>16608632
The thing with religion is, if you're not too much of a fanatic about it then anyone can get along with anyone else. If you are flexible and he is flexible, you're good. Unfortunately, religion can be used as justification for all kinds of horrible shit done to other people. The truly frightening thing is, it can get good people to do terrible things, because they might legitimately think they are helping them in the long run by hurting them in the short term.
The important questions you need to consider are:
How religious is he? Is he more evangelical, or closer to the "twice a year christian"?
How much of an atheist are you? Are you relapsing from a bad experience with religion, and if god shows you the light in the future will you convert back? Or, are you so logically minded that nothing short of something supernatural could convince you of god's existence?
Are you thinking about having kids? How will you/him want your kids raised?
How does he feel about abortions, if you were to get pregnant against your wishes and wanted it terminated?
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Hey /adv/,
On March 21st, 2016 I will be drafted to the military.
I have no idea what to do untill then, herecare my current stats:
Im /fit/, working out 6 timesca week and eating right.
I do little to barely any waitering, fucking boss hates me.
Thats it.. Im not a NEET, but i feel emptyness and uselessness, anything to help me make these few months?
Pic unrelated pretty much.
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>>16608625
>drafted
And what shitty country do you come from again?
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>>16608628
I live in israel, yet im a complete goy.
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How old are you? How can you be drafted in march if you`re schooling until june or so?
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Can someone give me advice on how to fix /adv/?
All it is is people in denial who refuse to listen to any actual advice given to them.
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>>16608619
This place used to be better now its for people whining about girl/boyfriend problems
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>>16608619
The solution to any problems of board quality is always to drown the shitty threads and posts in quality threads and posts.
If you want an end to shitty posts, post quality responses, every time.
If you want an end to shitty threads, create quality threads, and only quality threads.
Be the change you want to see in the board.
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Best friend/Ex girlfriend 2015-12-27 10:07:01 Post No.16608610
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Best friend/Ex girlfriend
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2015-12-27 10:07:01
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Back at the end of July, me and my girlfriend of several years broke up. While I wouldn't call it a mutual thing, it was on good terms. We still called ourselves best friends. We had always promised eachother that regardless of whether our relationship stayed together or not. But there was a lot of tension for awhile. And then she just started drowning herself in work. And while we still talked/talk, it's not very often and just isn't the same as before.
Keep in mind that we were best friends long before we dated. I know she recently started dating someone else and I have accepted the fact that the chance of us being together again is very slim.
So my quetion is how do I bring back the same kind of close friendship we had before we ever dated? I've been upset about the whole thing, but more than the relationship, I just want my best friend back. I'm afraid that I'm losing one of the most important people to me a second time.
Is it really impossible to maintain a close friendship after a relationship falls apart?
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Take time away from her. Let yourself get over the break up totally. Get used to being without her, and then start things over, slowly.
And, probably, if she is going out with someone else, her boyfriend will be jealous to see her hanging out with her ex (reasonably), so it might not happen anyway, at least not as it was before.
I am very close to my ex. He dumped me 3 years ago after being friends through all high school and dating for a year. We started hanging out a year ago or so. We rarely see each other because my boyfriend isn't really happy about me hanging out with someone I had sex with, but we often text.
Our relationship deeply changed our friendship, but we are still in good terms and pretty good friends.
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Thanks anon.
She has repeatedly said that given the chance, she wouldn't have changed anything and would go through it all again. I feel the same to a degree. At the same time, I just can't help but feel like a failed relationship wasn't worth it if it means I'm going to lose my best friend over it.
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PLEASE HELP!
>Clear Penile Discharge
I have had 2 urine tests over the last 6 weeks, both clear for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea.. I have severe anxiety about having Genital herpes (and have had some redness on my glans (that appears and then disappears randomly) but no fluid filled blisters...
HOWEVER..
I have had very small amounts of clear penile discharge.. It does not drip out of my penis but you can see the end of my penis is wet and sticky to touch (like precum)
My glans was red yesterday and I was freaking out, it was slightly better this morning and basically back to normal by tonight.
I just did 45 minutes light exercise and when I went to the bathroom I had the clear discharge again..
I am worried about herpes and have read that it can cause penile discharge in 1 to 2% of men BUT that those men have said it may be the worst pain they have ever felt.. I feel no pain at all when this happen and have had no trouble urinating.. What could be causing this????
Please help!
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That's a serious STD... you need to see a doctor asap
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>>16608615
Like?
I have tested clear for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea twice, the first time was 1 week after possible exposure and the second time 2 weeks after that (3 weeks after possible exposure). The possible exposure in question was protected sex with a woman of unknown status.
I have had no blisters just an on and off redness of the glans (tip of my penis) and this slight clear discharge which I have seen approx 3 times (once after waking up so I assumed precum as I probably had an erection during the night) once in an afternoon (maybe about 1.5 hours after having a random erection) and then just before which was after 45 minutes of exercise and light stretching.
I do not recall any other instances.
Please dont be a dick and freak me out for no reason, if you think it is legitimately an STD at least tell me what it could be.
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>>16608629
Dude, if you're worried go to a fucking doctor. There is literally nothing anyone can do for you over the internet, and even if you found someone to help you there's no way for you to know if what he's saying is bullshit or legitimately helpful.
Either go to a doctor now, or keep worrying and posting shit online until you get so fed up you go to a doctor anyway.
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Just got kicked out and am now homeless.
What do I do now?
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How much $ do you have?
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>>16608582
Where do you live op? Warm or cold place ?
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>>16608582
Spend some of the last of your money on a 24 hour gym membership. Don't sleep there, but unlimitted access to water and showers, a place to charge your phone/use a laptop, not to mention a somewhat warm/air conditioned location which you can hang out at for a few hours each day.
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Is this girl just playing me 2015-12-27 09:33:57 Post No.16608573
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Is this girl just playing me
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2015-12-27 09:33:57
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I tried an Internet dating site for the first time (plan to delete it shortly). I live in an area where women tend to be extremely picky and out of just trying to test it out from desperation; I notice I don't get many replies..
>Kek, it's all good though, I see my face everyday in the mirror. I know better than anyone that on a first glance, I'm not that desirable but it's okay I'm confident with who I am anyway.
But I did meet this one girl whom claims that she joined the site under the same circumstance. I got to talking with her, got her number and met up with her for a few drinks. This was a first for the both of us (claimed by her once again.) The date went fantastic! We had a lot in common and enjoyed each other's company. We also became intimate and I noticed that it was happening very fast. I'm okay if she dates other people because I totally understand that she needs to be open so that she doesn't want to get hurt. We texted each other nonstop until earlier on today when I asked if she was doing anything. Then I guess the messages ended there. This wasn't too long ago though lol.
I got out of a pretty bad relationship and I think I might be devastated to learn if I was used for attention. I can cope and get over it, but I might just call it in and not actively look anymore if I find out I was just some side guy.
I just wanted some advice and if you have questions that might be helpful in answering more accurately I'll be sure to attend to them. Please guys, I need insight.. You'll definitely save me from having my ego damaged.
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Bump?
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I just want an update. Bump.
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You're not getting many replies because it's in the middle of the night and /adv/ is one of the less active boards at this time.
If it's just today she hasn't texted much, she could have just got caught up with something. Calm down.
As for getting intimate fast, that could mean one of two things
>she's really into you
>she's using you for attention and maybe to have a few good fucks before finding someone else
Too early and not enough info to say which
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Calling All Doctor Fags 2015-12-27 09:20:45 Post No.16608549
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So, could anyone give me some tips on how to help myself or fix this or prevent it?
>My asshole, as far as I have known, had always stuck out a little.
>Just a little. Like a little pink button.
If it makes a difference, I'm female, btw.
Anyways,
>last week I was trying really hard to take a shit.
>Maybe it's been because of my poor diet lately, but that stupid shit would just not come out.
>I pushed for like half an hour
>sweat building up on my asscheeks
>toilet work out
>barely get a pebble out
>decide to give up
>thoroughly clean myself and spread in front of the mirror to assess the damage
>almost puke at the sight of my destroyed, lovely asshole
>it looked like an exploded muffin with a small blood trail
After I freak out and look up prolapsed assholes and realize I don't have that, I've left it alone, cleaned very gently, and try not to take big or hard dumps. I've been eating a lot less to help.
Fast forward to just now. I took a shower and realized it still sticks out, but now it's like twice as much pink sticking out. It's a noticeable bubble of flesh, like a skin tag? And I feel like it slightly inhibits my bowel movements.
Should I be concerned? I'm going to look for an ass doctor tomorrow.
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hemmeroids?
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Try anal
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Probably hemorrhoids or an anal fissure, sometimes those cause little skin tags.
Don't push so hard, either. Makes constipation worse believe it or not. Drink more water, lots more water.
I love my gf, we've dated on and off for 3 years, but I wish she'd cheat on me so if have a real reason to end the relationship. What do /adv/?
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>>16608528
fuckhead just dump her and go forward, if you feel like that you dont need any other reason, just be honest and tell her how you feel.
Jus dont forget that there is no turning back.
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>white people
>not cowards
pick 1
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>>16608644
>implying OP stated his race
don't be a nigger, you nigger
>>16608528
Shit-testing always is a good option.
Dump as much as possible of her on
>>>/soc/
and see what happens
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Anyone else feel as if the group of friends/colleagues you've chosen to associate with are constantly holding you back? I mean I'm no stud, but a handful of my friends are borderline autists and I go to a small school, of only like 300 or so students. 300 whole school, not my class. Any tips or stories of this happening to you?
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You have to be 18 to be here
So I just had the worst christmas ever. My entire family hates me because im le weird and were huge cunts. I feel like jumping off the roof someone please help me
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>>16608478
What did ya do, mate?
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>>16608483
Im just a fuck up and I act weird because of it. Last time i saw them i was awkward because i was on a bunch of drugs and they fucking hate me. I have life easy because im the baby at 24 and my half brothers and sisters despise me for it. Like all i wanna do is make it even just for them if anything fuck
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>>16608497
Sounds like you got a bunch of vague problems and self esteem issues so the best advice I can give you is to set concrete goals and force yourself to complete them. Those goals will depend on what you think needs to be done to turn your life around, but ultimately they should be quantifiable. For example, "go one week without using drugs." Or "read one book about social interaction this month." Making big changes to yourself can be intimidating but if you break it down into smaller pieces it becomes manageable.
Is it weird that a girl shows an interest in me but I don't feel anything towards her?
I find her attractive, but I don't have any feelings for her despite wanting a relationship.
We haven't gone out yet, but we see each other often, at the cafe and sometimes talk to each other, with mostly her doing the talking.
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That's normal. If you don't feel anything for her, don't go on any more than a handful of dates with her
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>>16608474
That's normal. Guys have emotions too. If you're not feeling it I wouldn't force romance.
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Your autism makes it impossible to you to feel anything.
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How do start the process of becoming a woman, /adv/? I know I want to transition, I know I hate my body right now and everything, I know this has been going on for years, but what I don't know is where to start. And before you tell me google I'm asking a bunch of different places including here so I can have as much information to read as I can get.
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>>16608442
When did you realize you wanted to change?
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>>>/lgbt/
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>>16608450
When I turned 15 8 years ago. It's been an uphill battle with my sexuality coming into play and various other things, but at this point I've accepted that I'm not happy with my gender. For a while it was just this feeling like I was missing something, then it became feelings of disgust when I would fap, eventually turning into severe nausea by the time I was 17.
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fuck i think i got lice. anyways shit, so past couple days i've been noticing my hair just itching more than usual i guess, behind the ears, and nape. i checked my hair for lice and i can't find any, but i've found little white dots that could just be dandruff. i've combed through my hair for the past hour and haven't found any signs, am i good?
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>>16608422
Have someone else look through it for you.
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Got a question for you /adv/
There's this woman I'm interested in, but I'm not at all at the same time. She's a 10/10 from what I can see, but she has 100+ allergies including latex. She's also 34, 9 years older than me. She can't go on birth control because she already had surgery due to a blood clot from it.
She is stupidly attractive but I can't risk getting her pregnant or any shit like that. We had 3 dates and she is really cool, but there was an incredibly awkward story on our last date.
>At her house
>making dinner with her and netflix/chill
>we make out, she grinds her ass into my crotch for a good 30 minutes as we make out
>get up to finish making dinner
>BALLS. HURT.
>first time having blue balls, they actually hurt, for real
>she tells me her sister is coming over, for me to go jack off in her bathroom
>seriously.
>go do it
>eat dinner
>cut contact
She sent me this email after we chatted for a bit, but I'm unsure of what to do.
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So no surprise you really don't know what to do, say or act. You still have a lot to learn and you're lucky I'm patient and see the good in people. This is why I told you this is where you get to apologize for being a rude jack ass and asking if I can forgive you and let's see what happens if we start over.
I just can't make it anymore clear on what you should do, but you went back to not talking again. This is your last chance, so make it a good email."
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That was a pretty direct and clear email. If you can't figure out how to proceed from here and insist on asking an Iranian Soap Carving image board for advice, then she's not the woman for you.