>meet girl while my then-relationship was falling apart, use her as emotional escape
>year later, friend confesses she's in love with me
>literally find her attractive one day and repulsive the next, it changes constantly
>we have good chemistry
>can't tell if it's because we genuinely do or if I'm just more confident around her because I've always known she was attracted to me
>on days I'm repulsed, I find it so bad that I'd be embarrassed to be seen in public dating her
>but, haven't had any romantic prospects in a very long time
I really can't sort these feelings out. Does it sound like I'm attracted, or a thirsty man seeing a desert mirage?
>>16609711
Thirst.
step outside of yourself and observe from an anon point of view
you aren't attracted to her.
you're already repulsed by being seen in public with her.
how's that going to play out a year into dating?
how's it going to crush this awesome person when you inevitably dump them because you're turned off by their appearance?
Stay friends.
Or, if you're that thirsty, fuck her and tell her you really dont want to date right now. That way you've put it out there, and if she decides to just keep banging, then you don't have to worry about shit
NOT. LOVE.
This is my inner thigh. Does that look like herpes to you guys? I'm pretty worried and the worst part is, I had sex with a girl last night who I really care for without mentioning it.
no, you have a yeast infection.
>>16609719
Seems improbable
I'm really fucking bored right now. Every sunday I have off and I usually just clean up the house. When I'm done with that though, I pretty much just browse 4chan all night until bedtime.
I like to draw, play guitar, and code, but i just cant be bothered doing them. I'm not exceptionally good at any of them, but I feel like even if I do these, I waste my time. But even so, I'm wasting time by doing nothing.
anyone else feel like this?
I'm taking anti-depressants and everyone said that they have been working, but I still don't see it.
4 words=
YOU. NEED. A. LOVER.
>>16609676
I feel it.
I'm decent at some things and should definitely fill my time with more productive shit.
It's a habitual rut, honestly.
You get drawn into doing the easy, brainless, nothing for hours and hours and hours, and then you go to bed going "Fuck I wasted all that time".
You need to develop more productive routines. You clean every Sunday, so that's a good start. Fuck around with guitar, code, or drawing for at least a couple hours. Commit to it. Mix it up if you get bored, but commit to at least a couple hours of nurturing these (could-be) talents.
Then, commit an hour to learning something new or doing something new. Maybe working out... learning a different type of code, learning how to play a different style of music, etc.
If you can do that for a couple weeks, it will become routine, just like your cleaning.
There is simply nothing on 4chan (or facebook, or insta, etc) that is going to be beneficial to you. Unless you use them as marketing tools for a business or something...
>>16609788
lol no.
dumb
You need to get out of your own little self-created bubble. Get out of the house. Exercise. Be with people. You're stuck in your own head and you're comfortable there and making excuses to justify your stagnation.
Get out of your comfort zone, OP. LIVE YOUR LIFE WHILE YOU HAVE IT!
I'm confident I have Misophonia, and I could just kill myself or others when I hear someone smack, crunch, chew, or slurp their food. Also, the sound of silverware clinging to a plate/bowl infuriates me. Right now, my father is completely on the other side OF THE HOUSE and I can hear him eating, and I am in tears. Actual, real tears. I am so upset and angry and anxious. It's the dumbest thing ever, but it's so real that I can't even describe it.
Anyone else suffer with this bullshit? Any cures? Any remedies? Any ways to tolerate these noises? I feel like I'm going to either spontaneously combust or kill myself.
Earplugs?
>>16609658
Feels like a bandaid to the problem. I'm listening to music right now with headphones on, and it's helping drown out the noise, but just knowing that when I take them off and he's still eating, I will hear him, and it sucks.
I normally do carry earplugs around, though. Like to the movies or restaurants. It helps but it's a sad life.
>>16609648
I have had the same thing for about 20 years, but I never knew there was a name for it til a couple years ago. And I'm glad I didn't because otherwise I probably would have just waved my diagnosis around in people's face like an autistic fuck and never tried to do anything about it. As it is, I was able to learn to block out *some* noise to *some* extent. I'm a lot better at blocking out machine noises and shit. People talking is still a noise that I have a terrible time with though, same with people sniffling. I just want to shove a box of kleenex at them.
Here's what I'd do:
Look up some relaxation techniques online - deep breathing, visualising a happy place, whatever works for you. Try several of them and see which ones seem to help. When someone's making noise, make a conscious effort to relax. Just try it for a minute or two, and then put in the earplugs. Basically the idea is to gradually increase your tolerance and to get yourself in the habit of going into relaxation mode when the noises happen. This is not a miracle cure, and it may take a few months or years, but it will help. And if you went to a therapist or a doc, their treatment recommendation would probably be pretty close to that.
Also do whatever you can to work towards moving out, so you can have more control over your environment. Whether it's working on completing school, looking for jobs so you can save up for an apartment, whatever - it makes it easier to tolerate annoying shit if you're actively working towards getting rid of it/getting away from it.
>6 yr old sister has younger cousins over
>at some point I hear her bossing them around like her mom does with her
>she says things like "whoever did this is gonna be in big trouble when I count to three" or "get out of my room now or do what I say"
>I get in the room and look at the toys on the floor
>she says "Yes, yes I know, it's a mess. No need to tell me" with the same tone her mom uses when angry
>I ask if she's having fun
>"they're impossible to manage!"
Why would a kid act like this? Just mimicking her mom? Will that stop? Because we told her to stop that behavior before, but she won't. If my memories from school are of any use, she'll get smacked or rejected at some point if she keeps doing this.
of course it won't pass, it's her personality
Children are like sponges, parents have to really watch what they say/do around them.
and telling them not to do something is definitely the wrong thing to do.
they'll copy whatever you do, it's normal.
you want them to be kind and nice? be kind and nice around them and to them.
Hey /adv/
I don't know if this is the right place to ask but I need someone to keep it real with me. I've been having trouble with studying, I've had a terrible studying career to say the least. I'm 24 and I'm halfway my bachelor degree, I've had to retake 2 years in high school too so it's safe to say I'm an awful student. This might come as a surprise but I actually love what I'm studying now and I don't think I'm 'classically dumb' if that's a thing. After years and years of terrible grades I have gotten pretty lazy and demotivated but I've had enough willpower to force myself to study most of the time. Today it kinda hit me that maybe it was the way I'm studying, I just read and read everything until I can repeat it by heart. Needless to say this is impossible to do when you're supposed to study several books for one exam. I've been asking around for study guidance at school but I mostly hear it's pretty shitty, google turned up with loads of random things as well so I hoped some of you could point me into the right direction of a good way to study.
>>16609560
former tutor here
There is no ONE way to learn anything. I hate that schools (including higher education) try to mandate a "one-size-fits-all" mentality. That's just ineffective and damaging (as you've clearly seen).
The best way to study is the way that WORKS for you.
Some people are visual. They could read for 3 hours and not understand a fucking thing, but watch ONE youtube video, and in 4 minutes it's crystal clear.
Some people are kinesthetic and need to have some sort of action or motion tied to the material. Use learning aids (molecule kits for science, for example). Make it an active process where you are doing something with your hands to put the material together.
Some people are auditory. Reading will bore them to sleep, but an audiobook while exercising or doing something else could stick in their brain a lot more efficiently.
You have to try new shit and find what makes things stick for YOU.
Memorizing chapters is dumb as fuck. I had so many academic peers that would just recite terminology verbatim and I would ask "Ok, but what does that do... what does an x create in the presence of a y?"
and they'd just stare blankly and go get the book, then re-read the same terminology verbatim.
They didn't even know what it meant!
They just knew how to repeat what was in the book.
That's fucking dumb! That's not learning anything at all.
>>16609807
>The best way to study is the way that WORKS for you
I figured as much, thanks for me giving me some examples! I'll try experimenting with those different styles.
How would you go about having to learn long lists? I have to learn lots and lots of pathologies and the causes, symptoms, consequences etc and by the time I start the next chapter I've already forgotten what I've learned in the previous chapter.
>>16609824
I was a science major as well.
Again, whatever works best for you.
Try mnemonics and acronyms. Those helped me massively in A&P.
but again, what worked for me may not work for you... just throwing out ideas.
I need a bit of help
I've never been good at doing mental math like multiplying, dividing or even adding and subtracting. I regularly mix up directions like right and left or east and west. However I have no issues with math when given a calculator (even though I have to use it for simple math). Also, my handwriting has always been shit, even though I've tried to improve it.
My father is dyslexic as is my aunt and grandfather on that side. I'm curious if I have any sort of disorder myself, because it ticks me off that I have to ask others to do simple math for me and that my handwriting is so shitty.
>pic unrelated
>>16609538
Are you retarded?
>>16609545
Nope. IQ is 128.
Sounds like you're just dumb.
Sup /adv/, I'll be short on something that looks very complicated to me. I'm stuck between three girls.
>1 my ex. Broke up almost 2 months ago, I hate her yet I dream of her 4 nights a week. By far my most beautiful story, if she didn't fuck it up it might have been the one.
>2 my current gf. We shared our bad ex experiences, during a week-end with friends slept in the same bed, what happens next well. Kept it going without motivation, there is no passion, I don't feel particularly happy.
>3 "The" girl. Been knowing her for 4 months, sort of friends, always together when in groups, different signs of mutual interest. I feel I could be in love quite easily. She's one among a hundred to my eye.
Now the situation. I think I should break up with my current since there is no love. I'm not the type of guy to stay just to be with somebody. "The" girl is part of the same group of friends (student association), but my current relation is not public, some people know there is something but nothing too big.
> How do I break up with the current without wiping all that friend group, and without making it awkward with "The" girl?
I know it's going to be difficult. But if, as I suspect, she is kinda interested in me and I'm right about the "I could go mad for her and be happy again", I am sure there is - and there must be - a solution. All help appreciated.
Picture unrelated
Up maybe?
no need to rush it dude just find a gal who's special
who toldya 2 get a gf right now
How is number one an option? Do you still love her? (Even though you "hate" her, you think your story is beautiful...)
Does your current GF love you?
If you don't love her, and you're not happy, not only are you wasting your time, you're wasting hers as well.
Number three isn't much of an option unless you know how to seduce a woman. She might be interested in you, but not necessarily in that way.
Question is in the subject. I'm going to be 25 soon and I don't meet women I'm attracted to too often. I used to be kind of an idealist and have not and am still not interested in one night stands or hooking up with women that don't appeal to me. I would much rather find a serious girlfriend but the opportunity hasn't ever been there. Should I just give up on that and pick up some random at a club/bar?
imo no
id rather never have sex if the best i can get will give me nightmares
>>16609501
Yea one it will get you the loss of th v thing that you care so much about and you'll realize sex ain't so great or amazing.
It's like pizza all pizza is good pizza but it's still just pizza.
Even bad sex is good sex
And ugly bitches are kinky cause there thristy might get some bomb sex out of it.
>>16609521
Personally I don't care that much about the v thing anymore but everyone else seems to. I also can't relate to others when they talk about relationships or sex
I've been extremely sick for the past five months since I finished college. I spent most of my time in and out the hospital doing tests, but I didn't tell my college friends about it.
Now I'm trying to get a job and some of them are making fun of me for not having a job yet. Should I tell them I was sick? Or just shrug it off?
Is this thread for real?
I didn't get a job for 3 years after graduating.
>5 months
Why wouldn't you literally take a year at least before joining the working world?
>>16609502
Because college is expensive, and not everyone has unlimited access to money? What is he supposed to do for a full year without working? "travel the world?" fuck off rich kid
>>16609539
Sit at home and post on 4chan.
OP's problem wasn't money though, it was how he is perceived by his 'friends'
Hi /adv/, i'm seeking some relationship and sex advice
Thing is i'v been with my first girlfriend of for over a year so far, at the start there were no problems whatsoever with sex, we fucked all the time, but as time went i found that my sexual desire, my flame so to speak, became smaller and smaller, to the point where i'm rejecting my girlfriend's advances for sex because i really just dont feel like fucking at all, what the hell? It comes to the point that the very idea of sex gives me this nauseous feeling inside me that makes me not want to have it, even though right now we have at most sex two times per week maybe, some times three which shouldn't be bad, but it just feels weird for me to be rejecting my gf's advances so much, i fear this might spark something bad on her part some day, i fear i may not have enough sexual strength for her.
The other thing is that when it comes to fapping, i have no trouble whatsoever, and i'll actually masterbate on days where i reject my gf's sex advances, which makes it look like i prefer my own hand over my girlfriend for sexual satisfaction..
Can anyone make logic out of this? Am i just not attracted to my gf anymore or something? But then i still have and enjoy sex with her... oh hell
Three questions:
1. When you fap alone instead of having sex with her, what do you fap to?
2. When you have sex with her, what about sex is it that is/was enjoyable?
3. When you watch porn, what do you self-insert as?
>>16609446
I watch sometimes hentai porn, but most of the times normal porn, i self insert as the man, many times ill be masterbating to photos of naked women so there is not much to insert myself as besides imagining myself fucking that same woman.
Sex with her is enjoyable in the way that we are both excited, and enjoying it, we both want it, and its enjoyable to me to feel her ass as i penetrate her from behind.
>>16609425
I second this thread AS i have the same problem. 25, lots of fuckbuddies. Now i am in a relationship again i lost my spark...
So there is this page on Facebook:
Neon Love Bar in Ernest, Indiana
and I can get no sleep until I find out why so many people like this bar that seems not to exist! Is this some kind of FB game, desprete souls virtual place? Can you help me please?
and te FB Name: Neon-411594352370847
it seems that they ascended to another dimension and you are out of it, the only explanation
Great! so you think they let me here just like that!
>Go on a couple dates and hang out with a girl a few times
>Ask her if she wants to be my gf
>She tells me I'm "too complicated"
What does that even mean /adv/?
It means that you are not stable enough.
>>16609300
But I'm just a kid going through university like her.
>>16609297
Sounds like you're a whiny faggot, who cries over his little problems all the time. .
Noone wants to be bothered with menial bullshit!
Is there any easy way to introduce yoursself over social media? Is this a bad idea? There is a gal on a form of social media that seems to be trying for my attention and I want to just message her and say something along the lines of "you are really attractive and I just wanted to introduce myself" or some bullshit. Just to get it out of the way and see what she says. We have a few things in common if that helps..
the good thing is that you are showing your interest right away
the bad thing is that you are showing your interest right away
>you are really attractive
Why do men always want to say this shit? It's fucking creepy to be that forward. Stop.
Ok, so i am just curious if cold can kill pinworm eggs?
No but a change of environment might. You might have an infestation somewhere you commonly touch or sit.
>>16609128
Ya just clean shit out of everything wash blankets in warm water. I had pin worms at one time it sucked.
no, like i have been using the same couch for years now and have never been bothered and i am asking about the cold thing because i have a chocolate in the freezer that i think might have given me the pinworms