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>>16612910
what are the problems in your life?

Make a life for yourself that you can handle. Some people can take on college and everything and make it. For some people, that's too much. For you, it's too much. Make a life that you can handle. Can you get a job? A simple job? Caregiving? Computer work? I don't know how third world you are. Volunteer somewhere that pays expenses? Join a convent or conservation group or something?

>>16612910 (OP)
>BIog posting when you couId be Iooking these subjects up on your own

No point in posting here.

If by hacking you mean obtaining access to computers remotely, all that is more or less done through psyops these days. There are very very few exploits you can use to gain direct access without input on the part of the user.

By psyops I mean convincing people to install a rootkit, keylogger or any other type of malware which allows you to spy on them. So my advice to you is, learn whatever programming language you need to learn, develop malware and bundle it with otherwise useful software and get people to install and use it. Once they do, you have access to everything they're hiding.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlezBUdD53w

>>16612945
>learn whatever programming language you need to learn
This. You can "learn to be a hacker" by following some step-by-step methodology and having a rudimentary understanding. You'd get that from some random hacker forum. But that's like doing a paint-by-numbers painting. Ya gotta understand programming language and computer hardware/software and the base that hacking is built upon. Hacking is several layers deep. Making sure you have a solid introduction so you can understand what's going on is the most important, so get good on different languages and how computers talk to each other and hardware shit and this that and the other.

>>16612899
Shit, sorry for the wall of text.

So she didn't trust me because I "cheated" on her. So after a year of me being exactly what she wanted, she broke up with me. This was a few months ago. I guess she never really forgave me? I don't know. We still ended up hanging out and having sex just as much as we always had, but after a week I was almost getting over things. But she says "Nothing's changed. Let's just stay together." So we do. During the next two months, things are mostly fine, but she cancels plans with me. She has no problems canceling plans with me to hang out with some classmates, but when I wanted her to go to a work party with me that I had discussed with her a month prior, she said she had made plans to hang out with one of her friends. I wasn't happy. That wasn't the first time that had happened, and I knew it wouldn't be the last.

Of course, I'm fine with her cancelling plans with me occasionally, and I want her to hang out with her friends, but I felt like I wasn't getting any special treatment, despite me being her SO for years. She called me a bitch jokingly a lot. I'd call her a faggot and tell her to get on her knees and beg for my forgiveness, and we'd have a laugh about it. But it bothered me that she was comfortable calling me that as often as she did.

At the party, this gorgeous girl sits next to me for a good part of the night. I think "Wow, it feels great having someone act interested in me." Then it hit me: the girlfriend didn't give a shit. So I start hanging out with the gorgeous girl over the next few days, I cheat on my girlfriend, then I break up with her. Shitstorm ensues etc. It's all passed now.

I miss my ex. The gorgeous girl has a boyfriend. The fuck do I do? (cont again)

>>16612903
(cont) Trying to get back with the ex sounds like a horrible idea, as I'm sure you agree. I could definitely continue seeing the gorgeous girl, but I feel really bad for her boyfriend. I could get her to leave him (it's long distance; the only reason she's with him is because she doesn't like letting go of people), but I'd have to commit to a relationship with her. Am I really cut out for that? I still miss my ex.

I don't know what to do. I just know that I'm really sad right now and it's cold out.

So any advice?

Stay alone for a while.
Work on yourself and get completely out of this relationship: it was pretty unhealthy and you need to understand what was wrong with it (cheating, lies, manipulation, changing yourself to fit her standards) before getting in a new one. Figure out what you want in a relationship, what was missing with your ex, and try to focus on that when you get back to dating.
It is not going to be easy, because everyone loves to be loved and being single sucks. But if you don't use this chance to grow up you will lose every other girl you fall for.
Good luck.

Are you a girl or a fag?

>>16612885
>Are you a girl or a fag?
hmmmm
>Everyone I ever meet ... is straight. What gives?

Shit man, I dunno.

>>16612943
Shit personality confirmed

If you're leeching off them and using what little money you have on things you don't need, then they're in the right. Start taking responsibility for yourself

get a job

>I also understand that having entertainment and responsibilities/paying debts aren't mutually exclusive

I dropped out of Uni to pursue full-time programming on my own. I'm not making any money, yet, so I'm currently leeching off of my parents, since the little savings I had have run out. I spend all of my money on food. The only entertainment I have is going out with friends. The last time I bought anything for myself was more than a year ago.

My advice is: understand the position you're in and live accordingly. Your parents are not obliged to take care of you, much less provide you with entertainment.

>Do I continue in college and become another drone in society
sounds like you already made your decision

You either have a choice of following what you want and it leading to success or failure and moving on, or not even trying and living the rest of your life unfulfilled. You know what you want to do.

Just know that the reason people are successful is because they work harder than everyone else. We always see the surface of success but we never see the grind. Just know that if you want to succeed in such a competitive field that it will take a lot of determination and strife.

>>16612858

It's hard. You always here of success stories of troubled people becoming multi millionaire stars. But most do work at it. Im confident in my ability to work hard and persevere, but I think living near Toronto is going to limit my exposure. I just hope I have the tools I need to succeed and I dont disappoint my family along the way.

I needed an opinion and I got one. Thank you. I needed to hear that.

Sounds like you're just blaming a convenient scapegoat to me

>>16612817
>hook up with guys
>consider yourself straight

Sorry, man, you're bi at the very least.

If you really need a label, then you can delve into the clusterfuck that is LGBTQIA+wtfidk, but I don't think that really matters to you. Some of people that do delve into such matters separate sexuality and romantic interests. You would probably describe yourself as pansexual or bisexual, but hetereoromantic. Heteroromantic bisexual. Bisexual but hetero-amorous. I don't know, pick a term you like. Google if you want to learn more. Sexuality and romantic interests don't have to be perfectly aligned, so split them and tada! You have a shitty explanation only 25% (or less) of general Americans would understand.

>>16612817
This sounds a lot like me around 3 years ago (I'm 21 now).

You sound bisexual to me. If the cravings for sex with men were only done once and you were not horny thinking about it again, then that would be a different situation. But you state you have done so numerous times, and would like to again.

Embrace it!

youre afraid of failure and rejection so you attempt to rationalize that you are being played by this girl to mitigate the pain if it ever ends badly

you need to understand that rejection is a normal aspect of life

Dunno , I haven't had friends since elementary school, and even then they were more like acquaintances.. Is there supposed to be some kind of special feeling associated with friendship? I thought being friends just meant you hung out a lot with someone and stuff.

sounds like you fags went to a big city school with so many people that they never really established a real connection

It feels like nothing. Only emptiness. Just like everything else in life.

Just stop jerking it dude, a guy in his teen years should try to avoid ejaculating more than once every three days. When you turn twenty, four days.

Also avoid porn. When you masturbate, if you have to, use your imagination. Go through the process of sex in your head. Think of kissing your gf, taking her clothes off, etc.

You should only ejaculate if you have too much sexual energy to handle, like if you feel like you'd cum just going down on your gf. If you do it right, you should be able to get a blowjob or go jack off then be able to get hard again within ten minutes. If you can't, you didn't have enough sexual energy to spare and you shouldn't ejaculate again that night.

Learn about your body's sexual energy while you're still young and you'll be a sex god for the rest of your life. I recommend you google the PDF of the book The Multi Orgasmic Man: Sex Secrets Every Man Should Know. It changed my life.

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Started/changed any medications?

Depressed?

>>16613256 I never needed any medications so I never used them and I was depressed as a kid but last few years Im feeling pretty good.

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>>16612747
bump

if youre going to the gym and eating healthy i would say thats a good start

now start working

>>16612869
I am returning to uni. Classes start next month. But I don't know if I will be able to concentrate. I tried it 2 years ago and dropped out because ... I am literally motivated at nothing :(

>>16612712
How pain let you go?

>>16612712
By sniffing heroin.

>>16612615
Be kind, have outstanding manners, bring a small token of appreciation to give them if they invite you to their home. A baked good, flowers, something like that. Being that they are foreign, you have an opportunity to research what is culturally appropriate/expected in such a gift. You may not think there's a big difference between UK and USA, but you'd be surprised how oddly different customs are in each.

Generally just be excited to see them, extremely gracious and kind and you'll be fine.

>>16612615
Just basic manners and friendliness are all you need, really. Eye-contact, smiling, hand-shakes or hugs, being happy to converse with them and getting to know them, always offering to help with whatever is going on, ect.

Do you know for sure she even is a lesbian? I know straight girls who look like that.
>I work at a gym

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>>16612604
>I'm a straight male

>>16612604
Probably because there are still some decently-sized/shapely boobs, as well as a clearly feminine face. If she looked like a bulldyke in the face with some floppy/gross titties, you'd likely feel different about it.