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Is she getting professional help?
The best thing you could do is be a good bf. Be supportive, attentive, understanding, patient, loving and there for her. Lots of cuddling, kissing, sex and whispering sweet nothings insde her ear should male her feel better. Also, make sure to be available if she wants to talk abut the reasons she is in this place right now. Hold her if she starts to cry, make her feel save and protected. Make her feel loved and beautiful. Tell her how proud you are of her accomplishements. Tell her how amazing she is. Tell her that all you want is see her happy again someday.

I don't like the idea of taking passive supportive approaches with people who are depressed. Their life choices are at the best misguided and at the worst a contributing factor to their feelings. I find it preferable to keep living life on my terms and inviting them to join me. It's up to them to realize that things are better that way.

>>16617785

>self harm

anyone who legitimately self harms is not stable enough to be in a relationship. believe what you want, but if they will damage their own body, they will damage theirs. at that point they have decided that they are so 'woe is me' that they do not care about what happens.

You're not ugly bro, just some bad luck. You should try haning out with a group of mixed girls and boys, if the girls are single, you can get their attention. Best of luck!

>>16617779

>im starting to think im ugly

post pic? lets see what you are working with. at worst we will give you some tips on how to improve.

>girls

what are your standards? truth is that some people have higher standards than they should. men dont often realize it becuase they think they are on the same level as a desired female,. but dont realize they have 10 other guys who look just like you also hitting on them. so they choose the most desirable of the bunch.

its a sucky situation, and most men can only compensate by dating uglier women.

>Dating life

curious, what do you want out of a dating life? you seem so determined to have one, but you dont sound like you've had anyone in mind for a really long time. whats the point of that?

>dating apps

i dont recommend them. its easy for anyone attractive (man or woman) to become corrupted by them, and women are especially susceptible. they like to be hit on all day but then cant make up their mind on who is better cuz everyones kinda the same. trust me ive been on both sides of that and recently deleted everything.

by deleting these apps it also FORCES you to go out instead of wait around all day swiping, and when you actually go out you can go meet people.

Why is dating so important? If you have friends and stuff, your social life is largely fulfilled. A gf well not make you happy. At all.

Just do you and if you meet someone you meet someone.

You probably won't. But try looking at new people, doing different things.

>>16617744
Picture them doing disgusting things. Imagine when you see them that they shit themselves and have shit all over their private parts. Think of them getting yelled at for being stupid.

Ignoring the entire second half of your post:

Don't ask her out at work, just casually ask to meet for coffee or if you can add her to fb etc.

Don't persist if she shows disinterest.

Personally hate when someone asks me out or shows interest well I'm at work, but if there's no other way around it you might as well. You have nothing to lose.

>>16617720

My ideal situation is I catch her as she goes on break and I ask to join her, but that's a slim shot. I won't persist, do guys really do that? If she is uninterested, it ends there.

>>16617765
Yeah forget your ideal situation. Just go for it.

>>16617593
Try internship, they prove really useful and if not you can always apply to stores, from Walmart to the local videogame or book store

Pretty much that unless your college offers student jobs or paid placements

If you drive, delivery

Gov'ment jobs if they pay above avg

Basically weasel your way into anything that's not min wage or offers fat tips

>>16617593

you can try applying for office work but chances are none will cater to your schedule. depending on where you live oyu might be lucky enough to find a store that needs night shift but consider the following:

what kind of places are open at night (re: once you are done with classes) ? any place that serves food. cuz dinner.

Call TLC and sell them your mother's addiction to hoarding for profit.

>>16617561
this

alternatively, you can buy her a trip to mexico or something and clean her house while shes gone

My uncle was the same but worth random tools.

If it's actually a problem, then you might need to have an intervention with her. It's a psychological problem. You can't just nag at her to get her to stop.

My visiting family finally left.

I love them and all, but having your sister, 8-year old brother, and sick-with-the-flu mom squished into your one-person apartment with you and your dog is mentally taxing.

dropped them off at the airport this morning and now my dog and I are enjoying a quiet apartment.

>>16617539
I set up a movie evening with a girl i like.

>>16617539
Let's see things that made me happy today...

>I woke up

Yep that's about it!

Nah, not necessarily. And if she bleeds it would only be a tiny bit of blood. And the blood would be fresh blood, unlike menstruation. Put a towel under her, have tissues near and possibly have the lights dimmed to help the two of you to not worry about any blood. And take a shower together after to get squeeky clean again. Have fun anon!

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Honestly it depends on quote a few things that /adv/ won't really be able to give you a clear answer.

It all depends on the girl, how nervous/relaxed she is, how wet she is, whether or not she still has her hymen, shit like that. It's possible there will be blood. There might not be.

The important thing is to make sure she is relaxed and comfortable as much as possible. Most of the time when girls talk about it being painful the first time, it's because they were super nervous which makes their pussies clench up.

Only 40% of women bleed their first time. And hymens are still intact in many non-virgins, a lot of the time they don't break, just stretch out. You need to go really slow and make her really turned on. If you think she's wet enough or relaxed enough, she's almost definitely not.

Just lay off messaging her and let her do the chase for a bit.

If you act like a cunt at this point you're giving her an excuse to leave you (which she's looking for).

Both of you sound insecure af

It sounds like your putting her on a pedestal. Women don't respect men who are head over heels in love with them.

Consider the following: Has she ever reciprocated any of these gestures for you? Does she buy you gifts? Does she cook for you? Or is sex the only asset which she bargains with?

If she's distant, it could be a red flat, or perhaps she needs some space because you've been around her constantly,

>>16617580

Well, she can't buy me flowers. She gifted me a present for christmas but thats a default i guess.

She doesnt like cooking but yeah sometimes she wakes me up with coffee to bed. She might've cooked something for me, i can't remember.

She would always meet me at the airport even tho i said thats not necessary and even tho that's 2 AM.

She always cares how i feel, visited and looked after me when i was sick.

When we eat at restaurants we do it like that - one time it's her turn to pay, other time it's mine. I'm not wasting too much cash on her.

I think it's me being too much around her. My problem is that i value relationships too much and fall in love too quick i guess.

She had a very abusive childhood and also mentioned that she's having trouble expressing her feelings and that nobody ever treated her like i do.

shameless self bump

Whew lad. Sell them on Craigslist or something, pawn shops are just going to rip you off.

If you stole them just don't put too many distinct details in the ad.


>mfw trying to post this brought up an expired ban about shitposting ponies

Fucking dynamic IP. Some faggot in my area must be a brony.

>>16617501
lol jesus

nah i didn't steal them they were in my old car, i never hooked them up. just needed some quick cash i probably will put them on craigslist though

A lot of girls don't get orgasms from penetration. You may be one of them.
Try oral.

I read a study that found a link between the physical attractiveness (measured objectively using symmetry since we know more symmetrical = more attractive) of a woman's partner and her ability to achieve orgasm from penetrative sex.

How much the woman says she loves her partner has no effect on it, just how symmetrical he is. Basically, only hot guys can make women cum from PIV and your boyfriend is probably just not objectively hot enough.

>>16617398
For me it was an opposite things like when playing games I just felt what us the point to thinking that they just contribute to losing time and really not satisfying me in any productive way other than the plot and that shit which really does not give you shit. So yeah I guess thinking about that may help but also realise their is loads of shit like just having a group with your friends with common interest and instead of watching the plot advance or just interact with it it's better to make your life the plot and you the character (I guess you can think like that) and yeah live it to the maximum as you only live once and it's all up to you anon

>>16617398
Then join a group or create one. It doesn't have to be esoteric bullshit, just browse meetup.com or search for local volunteer work and start attending.

Sure, they don't seem as cool and don't have any interesting initiation rituals, but they are real.

>>16617397
Apply for every position in Walmart, CVS, gas stations, and target.

>>16617397

Shitty manual labor will take literally anyone. Apply for landscaping, or warehouse work or stuff like that.

If it's interfering with your day to day life,
SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP !!!

>>16617406
That's the deal it isn't.
So, not a big deal yeah?

>>16617342
> Best way to spend new years alone?
Arsgang

Have fun

>>16617358
Thank very much anon.

>>16617358
Can I still smoke?