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Wait longer, save up even more, and buy a car that actually works. The amount of money you'll spend fixing it up and the ongoing costs for it will not make it worth it.

First of all, worksafe board. Secondly, google it. There are a million pages about this

WHY do you want to rip your eyes out?

>>16620525
no clue, just urges to scoop them out

well do it with pictures scooping ur eyes

>>16620462
>Every time I go to hangout with people it ends up being a shitty time and a waste of money
What makes you feel this way?

I feel the same way sometimes,but sometimes it's fun.maybe you're just hanging with the wrong people or in a bad mind set.

youre a social failure kill yourself

Sorry anon. That sucks. You aren't necessarily a bad person. I hope you manage to avoid ever indulging in those urges. If you do, Dan Savage calls those people a gold star pedophile, so you can think of yourself like that too.

if you feel like something's missing. it is

trust your gut

You're supposed to be excited to be with the other person. Sometimes, especially if you're never excited about anybody, the problem lies with yourself. You may be depressed and you don't know it.

>>16620474
But everything is great, I don't know what could possibly be missing.

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This.

It doesn't sound to me like you want to believe in yourself, but that you want affirmation from the people around you that you matter.

Are you happy with who you are? Does your life interest you?

>>16620468
Absolutely I want that affirmation, and sometimes I don't get it enough and it brings me down. I'm always the one reaching out to my friends. I'm always the one taking an interest in them. I have maybe two people in my inner circle (referencing the image) where it's reciprocated. All my friendships feel one-sided. If I try to strike up a conversation with a girl I'm interested in, it's always one-sided, where just today I talked with a girl I like but it was entirely me asking her questions and her talking about herself. She didn't mind talking about herself but she didn't ask me a single question. I felt like I was playing 20 questions and said so, and she said "U are lol..."

But if I'm going to get that affirmation, and it's going to be real, I need people to want to hit me up, and want to know what's going on with me, and want to get to know me. It's frighteningly rare where I've met a girl who is actually interested in trying to get to know me. Hence my belief that I'm boring as fuck. To do that I need to be able to express what makes me interesting. I don't know how to do that, and it seems I need to believe in myself more to do it, which I don't think I do.

the only time i've been tested for mono i had to go to the emergency room cause i was in so much pain.

you'll be ok.

>flu like symptoms today
>mono
the fuck is wrong with you.

You go to bed...and when you wake up you start from scratch and get over it.best wishes

>>16620402
Drink a few bottles of whiskey, youll feel better then.

>>16620406
Thanks anon. This is very difficult to me. I have been cheated twice.

Bump because I have a similar problem

>>16620397
I'm better at making posts than you are. I win.

Use that anger and turn it into motivation, dont try to become better than everyone else try to become better than you were before

What

>>16620388
do a barrel roll

All you can really do is keep trying

Nah bro, this is the time when you push those feelings deep down, go on to facebook, post a funny sentence or hilarious picture of yourself doing something awesome then jump on YouTube and look at some funny cat videos.

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Hello OP. I'm a trainee psychotherapist who plans to specialize in a type of therapy called Existential Psychotherapy. Existential psychotherapy is a type of therapy that focuses on helping people come to terms with the givens of life.

I don't believe you're having a breakdown, I suspect you're asking existential questions for the first time.

"What becomes of my life and the people I love when I die?", "What is reality? How is reality defined?"

These are difficult questions. Psychotherapy might be of use to you, but equally, existential philosophy might be of interest to you.

Good luck.

I have been there. I'm on medicine because all that mind wandering gave me panic attacks. It helps. If it's really bothering you and making you feel depressed then ask a doctor about a prescription.

>>16620358
Part of the problem is that i'm both claustraphobic and emetophobic; individually to only modest extents, but we're in a buidling that's no bigger than a large garage, adn ther'es 20-40 people crammed into it on any given day. I wear coats durring the summer and wash my hands at least 10 times a day, because some of these fucks just come in fucking miserable.
And I'm like, "Why don't you take the day?" and they're like, "I can't afford to miss!," and it's like the last month of classes and they've never been absent but they're here, with a feaver and the fucking shakes, because they think they're going to get failed if they miss one day apparenlty; meanwhile shumck 1 and ditz 2 never show up to class and have Bs, but these lung-hacking people show up year-round because in their warped minds taking the day off is a non-option, and they'ed rather get us all sick than call in a day.
There's also about... 20-25 computers in the entire building, of graphic design students, so they're not only all using the same computers, but like literally standing around waiting and looking over each-other's shoulders because they can afford the new phones and clothes and cars, but the Adobe Suit, which they're going to have to buy anyway and can get for $20 if they buy it while their a student is out of the fucking question!

Additionally, the colelge is 30mins away from my house so it takes me like $25 a week to get to and from that bad boy; on top of books and supplies.

So I show up miserable, am miserable for the hours I'm there, and then come home and take a hot fucking shower. I've managed like 4-5 friends in my time here, associates closer than associate, and you may think me petty or deranged, but there are like open, self-proclaimed furries and people drawing some middle-school-tier stick figures and dribble-paintings and turning it in as finished work! Some professors even give them Bs for it!

>>16620380
>>16620358
Worst of all is that the two GD professors that they still have (6 quit because the place is so shit!) rotate who does the senior seminar every year, so I'm going to be under the idiot; lucky me!
As it stands my odds of learning anything are officially over, and I'll just be clocking in for the next two semesters to get that piece of paper so people hiring me will trust that I know what I'm talking about.

> TL;DR
> Rant's Over
I really am miserable at the college I'm going to, and I just found out I'm going to have to stay for two more semesters when I thought I just had one left; the only thing motivating me to get through the last one.
I could just suck it up and wait it out, but I'm honestly just strait up depressed by the place, and the notion of having to spend another year of my life there; let alone the fact that I'm going to have to stay for another whole year and wait to get a job for another whole year due to ye' old arbitrary class prerequisites. It's crushing. I honestly considered dropping out and just going and working at the local Rite Aid again; for the foreseeable future, but that place sucked too (just for different reasons; and frankly not quite as much, but after my hernia I actually can't stand for 6 horus).

I knew a guy that sincerely wanted to be friends with everybody. He had good intentions, but he was totally oblivious to how he communicated with other people. There wasn't one single defining action that made him despised by other people. It was just his regular interactions that wore down on the nerves and to make matters worse, he would always try to worm into every situation uninvited. I would phrase it differently if it weren't for the fact that he was always doing this. It was this constant wear that made him a burden to be around. People had to be dodgy to avoid dealing with him. If you confronted him, it'd be met with whining and accusations of being unfair.

Why didn't we just sit and talk with him then? I see you're doing the same thing. "C'mon, man. Just tell me. Give me some advice." Yeah, that happened a few times. It never made any noticeable differences in behavior though. It was as if simply talking about his behavior was enough to satisfy him rather than actually changing it.

It was a fucking nightmare. In our group of friends, we had a chat server set up. He would always be hanging around there like 10 hours a day. If you tried to dodge him, he'd whine. If you told him you wanted a break from him, he'd whine. You couldn't help him become a more enjoyable person because other people can't fucking help you like that. He considered me the closest, and I was the one who put a dagger in his heart when I broke it all off. We couldn't relax as long as he was any way involved with us and there was no way out.

Let me tell you what my major issues with him were that I believe you might also have. My suggestion to you is this... There is a currency in social groups where by primarily obeying the norms, you are permitted to deviate occasionally. We are not perfect and we do get upset, but if your getting upset is too regular, you are doomed. You can openly dislike what other people enjoy as long as you are not constantly whining.

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>>16620668
Continuing... From the skipping around I did in your dialogue, I give you the following suggestions:

1. Appreciate things

If you were to say... Favorite a song on YouTube that a friend sends you, that builds enormous rapport with people. By demonstrating that you liked and appreciated something they did for you, it wins them over. If you're a regular complainer/critic, you're going to have to try really fucking hard to expand your horizons. Critics are the bane of society.

2. Do not ask them for help on your personality

Frankly, you're an adult, right, OP? You are not somebody else's responsibility. If whatever you're doing is losing you favor with others, your immediate response should be to look at whatever behaviors you have to justify. If you find yourself starting a sentence with "Well", you're probably about to attempt to justify a behavior. That behavior is probably detrimental. Overall, just stop making requests from other people to help you with your problems. You will decimate your standing with other people if you ask them explicitly for help and they perceive it as you ignoring them.

3. Watch your attitude/mood and take action to correct it.

If you can't help but get upset over something like video games or conversations, stay away from it. If you can't stay away from it, don't involve others in it. When I play DotA with friends and shit goes wrong, I know I will always get in a shitty mood and ensure that everybody around me knows it. So I don't play DotA anymore. It's not good for me. It gives me nothing. I'm out.

All of these suggestions can be deviated from assuming you regularly obey them. It really is a tit for tat world. In my case, if I'm not enjoying somebody's company, being alone is a step up from being with them. I wouldn't think twice about removing a thorn from my side. An occasional prick is alright though.