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As a guy, if I meet a girl and we hit it off and go on a date, I get a little excited. I tell my friends and shit about her when I hang with them.
I dont jump the gun or anything, but I have a very active mind, I think about everything, consider every angle and option.
Now, I dont date people for no reason. If I date a girl, if I even ask her out, its because I like her. I already have feelings for her. I wanna get to know her
So if we date a few times, then it doesnt quite work out, and we dont become a thing. Im fine with it. I can deal, Im a good looking guy I'll meet someone else.
But I may have already admitted, to myself and other people, that I had feelings for this girl and really liked her. Which is true.
So when the next girl comes along it all feels a bit... cheapened? Like nobody's really special, because if it doesnt work out, someone else will come along. Thats just how life works.
And if I really do meet someone new and have feelings for them, then telling people about them makes me feel kinda shitty. Like people just think "Oh yeah you really like this girl, just like the last one, and the one before that."
How to deal? I mean it feels almost like you should just keep your shit to yourself and not tell anyone about it. And not get excited about it.
I mean obviously you wanna meet someone special and fall in love. But then, is anyone really special? If realistically you can just meet someone else after?
Dunno how to deal with this very low key strange kinda feel
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>>16615820
What is love if baby dont hurt me no more... jk op you seem a bit too romantic for today standards
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>>16615840
I dont mean to be. Im a very Apragmatic person. I guess I just see the world as more dramatic and exciting/romantic than it actually is
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>>16615851
I just dont understand where you draw the line
Either romance and love and feelings and all that shit are all real and alive and well and we're all on some sort of quest to find our one true love and share a magical connection
Or we're all a bunch of apes humping each other and hanging out for shared shelter and warmth and food.
Wheres the happy medium?
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I'm gay but my parents don't know and i want to tell them, but they hate gays.
Any ideas on what i should do?
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>>16615794
They'll find out once you get herpes.
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Tell em stop being a pussy your their son they will most likely will love you and if they dont fuck em
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>>16615794
Just act like a normal guy. Keep your faggotry in the bedroom. If you want to suck cocks, dont do it publicly. Dont wear heels and skirts.
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Is it normal to be tweaked/agitated during an anxiety attack?
I was thinking about really puny things like happiness and mild existentialism, but it's always happening for no apparent reason.
My heart is racing really fast, I'm feeling sick right now.
I can`t calm down, I'm having an anxiety attack and I have no reason to.
I feel like I'm gonna die from a heart failure or something.
I'm feeling too agitated to go sleep, it's been 5 hours now.
It's always happening for no apparent reason.
Any tips on how to calm down?
I think I might have PTSD
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>>16615780
Play a videogame, always helps me, or at least most of the times.
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>>16615780
Do you mind sharing what was this traumatic event? It's perfectly normal having these feelings. Panic and anxiety attacks induce extreme fear in your heart. You have to reach for love, Anon. You need more love in your life. Or maybe you do have love in your life but you can't feel it. Respect yourself enough to cut the bad ties off of your life and embrace what really is dear to you.
And when you say there is no reason...well, there is always a reason for these type of situations. Don't ignore your feelings.
Incorporate some form of physical exercise into your life, a milder one focusing on relaxation. Have you tried meditating? Or just going into nature to stare at the lake. The bees and the birds. Work on feeling safe. This world is crazy enough so we need to be anchored from the inside, does that make any sense?
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>>16615780
OP, a therapist might be able to help you figure this one out. Other than that, for immediate relief, you could try playing Tetris for a good hour. The game is proven to inhibit the formation of traumatic memories.
/adv/ I have a problem my boyfriend won't let me play wow because I should answer the door for the pizza guy when he gets here but I really really want to play wow. wut do? Also if the info helps at all he's playing some stupid games while browsing 4chan so is he just being a lil bitch?
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>>16615764
>Playing WoW
>2030-15
I don't blame him.
>talking to a girl
>10/10
>holy fuck I stand no chance
>Maybe I'll snapchat her to see what she really looks like
>9.5/10
>says I'm cute and funny
>life complete
>we talk for a minute
>days go by
>FaceTime every night
>"I really like you anon, when are you going to take me on a date"
>soon
>stay in touch talk every night for the last week.
>tells me 30 min ago she has a kid
>with a rope or a gun?
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>killing yourself over this
Jesus Christ, you're overdramatic. If you can't handle the kid, don't date her
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>>16615757
I'd go with the gun since it's faster.
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>>16615763
It's just a joke, what does adv think about dating a girl with a kid?
Hey /adv/,
How come a girl would stop texting on tinder after suggesting to meet up? We had been talking all night, long convo etc, we just "clicked". She messaged me first and eventually after messaging all night I said "if you're free sometime this week, would be cool to catch up for a coffee/drink" to which she said "yeah for sure! that would be cool :)"
I asked her what day would be good for her then... *poof* she vanished into thin air..
Anyone had the same experience? Why do people do this? And what do?
I haven't messaged her again, that was 24 hours ago
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Yes, Ive had the same experience. There are a million reasons why she couldve done it. My advice: Just move on, if she messages you back, great, if not no big deal.
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Yeah it's done. I think it's just easier to blow people off online you know? Yeah it's rude but very common.
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>>16615737
Could be literally anything. Sudden crisis at school or work, ex-boyfriend returns, wave of depression for no reason, urgent money issues, took a trip somewhere. Literally anything. You can write her again in a few days if you feel like it, just don't get too invested.
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We’re at that point where I think we should start trying to have a baby. We had both agreed that we wanted a kid so I brought it up and ever since then he hates my guts. He’s not actively hostile but I can see that my presence ticks him off. We don’t have sex, we don’t kiss, we don’t touch. So, I talked to him about it and he said that it was work and after that he seemed ok with me. No sex but that’s fine, because he has a much lower libido than me anyway. However, I still feel like he’s kind of ticked off from me. Its a visible change when he comes home and sees me. I thought it wasn’t work anymore so I turned on a USB camera to record him when he comes home, and I deliberately went out of the house during the evening so he can come home to empty house.Basing this on what I saw from a week’s recordings, he comes home and when he realizes I’m not there he literally celebrates. He calls out my name and when there’s no reply he physically celebrates. Later, when I do call telling him that I’m coming home, he yells out “Fuck, leave me alone”, “Fuck off”, “Fuck my life” when the call cuts off.
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>>16615720
Something tells me you should drop trying to have a baby with this guy.
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You're naive if you still want a baby with him after that. It sounds like you both need to move on unfortunately.
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well.. break up with him, obviously. I mean it's weird that you filmed him but in this case you probably saved yourself a lot of trouble.
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How do I cope with abandonment?
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>>16615691
Learn to be a friend to yourself.
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>>16615706
...What the hell does that mean?
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>>16615691
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Inwp-xGHOlo
Add me if anyone wants to play Minecraft on ps4. Looking for nice friends to play with
My name is samakinz
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I would, but I don't want to risk my account getting hacked like my friend's xbox one did today, apparently.
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Driving to Dallas tomorrow for the first time and I'm pretty nervous. Any advice?
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>>16615682
Watch out for tornadoes.
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>>16615695 what I do if I see one ?
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i dont know what to do with myself anymore. all that genuinely makes me happy is listening to music. i used to have fun doing tons of other things but i just dont enjoy them the way i used to. i just feel like living is almost a waste of effort nowadays. what do i do to improve myself and my life from here guys?
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>>16615677
1. start journal
2. write down feelings
3. analyze patterns
4. don't lie to yourself
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Yo /adv/, me and my girl have been together for 3 years now, we are high school sweethearts (both 19), but we both still live with our parents. We want to have a courthouse wedding because why the fuck not, we just want to be able to call each other our spouse, and he'll its probably an irresponsible thing to do, but fuck it, for the sake of the argument, humor me. Our parents are really against the idea of us getting married, as they didn't even know we were dating for 3 years because we never really had to tell them. They think we've been together for a few months. If we get married, is it possible to hide it? Do they send you random shit in the mail or anything?
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>>16615665
God this is such a bad idea
Just give each other rings and call each other husband and wife. Why make it legally official?
Yes you will get stuff in the mail addressed to both of you.
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>>16615665
Yeah, clearly an awful idea. Any time your reason for doing something is "why the fuck not," it's time to take a step back and examine your own motives.
Maybe you want to get married because you think it would make your relationship, which I'm sure feels like the most important thing in your life right now, seen more legitimate. I'm sure you think what you're feeling for this girl is purer and stronger than what's between a lot of couples that are officially "married", and that your relationship deserves the same kind of recognition those couples get.
While that's not entirely insane, its also putting the cart way before the horse. I hate to break it to you, but until you and her can support yourselves as a family together, without mooching off your parents, you won't really be married, no matter what the courthouse says. Rather than adopting the trappings of a life together, you should be building it's foundation, and that's something you can't get in a courthouse.
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Fuck no. Christ.
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Anyone here watch Bojack Horseman? What does the quote at the end of season 2 mean?
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The pic related one? Sounds to me like how i treat the gym... except i go every other day.
It's just about attaining a goal, and putting in the work. He seems to be in running gear there. Think about it.
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That things are hardest at the beginning. That if you persevere, things will fall into place.
I mean, the guys jogging right? When you start you're going to be out of shape, and that's when it's going to be the hardest. But as you get more fit, it'll become progressively easier.
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Well the babboon was talking about running, but it can be applied to many things.
Throughout season 2, Bojack was struggling to try to become a good person. At the end of season 1, he realized he was a jerk after reading Diane's biography about him. Then at the start of season 2 he decided to change himself because he was no longer happy with who he was. He treated it as a change that could happen overnight if he just had the right attitude, but as the season progressed he seemed to be failing pretty hard and fucking up over and over despite his efforts. The quote here is telling him that being a good person isn't something he can just suddenly do. It's something that will require hard work from him that he'll need to do every single day. But if he does, he'll eventually get used to it until not being an asshole becomes second nature.
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I have been in the same relationship since I was 14 and I'm 21 now and she just left me.
It ended on pretty good terms but I have one issue, I have no idea how to get another woman in my life.
When I wasn't spending time with my last girlfriend I was working 14 hours a day for the last 3 years. So, it's safe to say I haven't been out on the adult scene much. Now I have nothing but money and time because I got promoted pretty high up the ladder but my idea of a good Saturday night is sitting around my house quietly watching television.
So how do I, "Get out there," and meet women?
>pic related: another fun Saturday night activity
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>>16615598
The reason my girlfriend left me was because when I started only working 30 hours a week because of the promotion I was home all the time so she had too much of me. She really wasn't a people person and because I work so many hours in the middle of nowhere the whole world just moves around and I have no idea what's going on in it. I just found out last week what a whip and neigh neigh is. Also just today I learned what these hover boards are.
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>>16615598
im in the same boat as I Isolated myself after highschool
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>>16615598
serves you right normies
get out
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I don't know how to get over my Ex.
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Hey, /b/, i've got a personal story to share with you.
Over summer, I met this beautiful girl over camp. We hit it off, and became very close before we "became a thing". Soon after I didn't want this to just be a camp thing, but I didn't know how she felt. We talked about it, and decided we'd try long distance. Before I agreed to it though, I asked her "Are you sure you can commit to it? I'd rather just be amazing friends or in an open relationship if you can't".
She went with it and we were a long distance thing. Skyped every night, talked all day, said good morning every day, it was incredible. She said I love you first, and at first I wasn't with it, but I came to be able to feel very strong love for her. We talked about going to each others dances (I'm a senior in HS, she's a junior), and saw each other about 3 more times before school ended. She lives in Hawaii, I live in Nevada.
Well, come a little over three months in our relationship and she starts to stop talking to me. Barely replies, won't tell me we aren't skyping, flunks out on talking, snapchatting, skyping, I started to stress REALLY bad. She wasn't just my girlfriend, or my love, she was also my best friend.
Come my mothers birthday, she tells me she wants to skype. I eagerly get on and she tells me she doesn't want to do this anymore. Doesn't want to be friends, doesn't want to talk to me, doesn't want anything to do with me before ending the call about 2 minutes in. I was devastated. Not only were we just planning for me to go to one of her dances just a few days before, but was everything a lie? Everything she ever told me?
I've never been so attached to somebody before and it's been 3 months since then. Found out she cheated on me with another guy from California, went to her dance with a guy that had a crush on her, started talking again to a guy that absolutely hated me for god knows why, and began being very provocative on her instagram (again).
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Just a few notes. She very much didn't treat me right emotionally. Her friend didn't know about me until a month into us being together, she never responded to a comment of mine on social media, never posted a picture, there was no indication she even had a boyfriend. I wish I could move on because she was a very mean person towards me, but I just don't understand why I can't "fall out of love" with her...
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>>16615556
I didn't even read your story because it doesn't matter.
Cut all contact with her. It doesn't matter why she did it, it doesn't matter that you don't understand it.
Its over. Its going to suck for a long time but you'll feel a little bit better everyday and sooner or later you'll fall for another girl who will probably break your heart again and then you'll repeat that cycle until you're about 25-26 and you actually have a fully developed brain stem to process adult relationships and around that time you'll finally be old enough to know what you want in a relationship and you'll find someone to spend your life with.
Thats how it goes for all of us. There's no way around it. It'll suck and then it'll get better.
Thats it. Theres nothing else to do.
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Fuck. Shit on /adv/ doesn't usually hit me this hard, but I'm in the exact same boat as you anon. Met a beautiful girl at camp over the Summer, she lives two states away. We both agreed to the long distance relationship, I asked her if she was serious, she replied yes. Everything was perfect, until a month or two in.
Just like you, she started giving me the cold shoulder. Stopped going on Steam. Stopped snapchatting me. Took two days for me to get a text.
Just like you, she never mentioned me to her friends, or our mutual friends from camp. Never liked my Facebook photos, no indication she had a boy friend.