So, i am on my witts end adv. I can't cum with my bf. I feel like we have tried it all. I can cum easily when masturbating. I had problems with cumming since i started having sex. I even made an effort to not train myselfe to masturbate in a specific way/position. I also sitch between using my finger, the shower, a dildo and a vibrator. So i don't think it's conditioning. My clit just goes numb when my bf is inside me. I can use a vibrator and it feels the same as if i would place it on my elbow. I also have tried to train my ability to have a vaginal orgasm, but had no luck. It starts to get really frustrating. I feel like it is more of a mental blockade, but i have no idea how to find good infos on how to overcome something like that. What in all hell should i do now?
A lot of girls don't get orgasms from penetration. You may be one of them.
Try oral.
I read a study that found a link between the physical attractiveness (measured objectively using symmetry since we know more symmetrical = more attractive) of a woman's partner and her ability to achieve orgasm from penetrative sex.
How much the woman says she loves her partner has no effect on it, just how symmetrical he is. Basically, only hot guys can make women cum from PIV and your boyfriend is probably just not objectively hot enough.