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You know, I'm in a similar situation, I'd love to do those things, but I really don't have the gumption to initiate it. I'd really like that same thing to happen. But hey, if you do it I'll do it.

Man I love Coldstone cakes.

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>>16615555

>How can I initiate these things without seeming sexually deviant or nuts?

You open your mouth and have a conversation with them about it. Stop trying to drop hints and be a fucking adult.

It's a phase and you're lying to yourself. Get over it and do something productive.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thought
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This is something that I have as a result of OCD. If you know that you aren't going to act on it, the thoughts alone are okay. If they're hindering your ability to function normally, speak to someone.

Just follow her, most girls don't really care as long as they know who you are. If she asks just tell her it was recommended by the app

>>16615601
thx senpai

>>16615503
Seconded. I'm a femanon and I don't have a ton of followers but I still wouldn't think anything of it. If you like her, you will need to be more bold if your intention is for this to be "flirty". I tend to mistake flirtation with politeness or friendliness so if you are trying to make a move, I think it needs to be more obvious. Of course every girl is different. Cheers anon, good luck!

>>16615478
You bank is probably your best bet for getting your first credit card. If you've had an account there for a while, they're likely to approve you even when others wont, assuming you don't have any credit built up yet.

I'm pretty sure the 55 days means 55 days after the payment is due. My card is on autopay, so I never pay interest because I just always pay it off whenever I use it.

As a side note, a credit card should be thought of in just the same way as a debit card. If you don't have the money in your bank account to buy it, don't fucking buy it. I've seen so many friends get deep into debt because they think credit card means "Buy now, pay when I'm old and have more money."

>>16615492
>As a side note, a credit card should be thought of in just the same way as a debit card. If you don't have the money in your bank account to buy it, don't fucking buy it.
This, but in addition to this, don't use your card to buy things like gas/groceries/etc because if you do so you'll be paying a lot more on those things because of interest. Use your credit card for a big purchase and then don't use it for a while. For example: say you've moved into your first part and would like to buy yourself a nice bed of good construction.. or maybe something like a computer or a new TV. Buy yourself something nice and lasting with your card, and stop using your card while you pay it off over time. That's a great way for beginners to build credit.

>>16615530
>don't use your card to buy things like gas/groceries/etc
Additionally, it's easier to lose track of how much you're spending when you're using it for small stuff. Definitely stick to only using it for bigger purchases

Sign up to be a logger in canada
Become a nurse
Become a rapper
Get your diving license dive for pearls
Join a crab ship
Kill yourself
So many options

>>16615469
If you've got jobs and work experience then it's not like you're in deep shit or anything. Do what you want.
Tell your parents as soon as possible though

Try setting a reach goal. Take a pursuit which, regardless of how improbable it sounds, interests you and make the biggest concrete steps you can toward attaining it. It could be a professional pursuit like breaking into a career, a personal pursuit like finding a place to rent, or another direction entirely. The point is to bite off something slightly larger than you think you can chew and put in the legitimate legwork to make it happen. Failure is okay; it's expected in fact. The hope is that you'll be pleasantly surprised by an unlikely success. And in the meanwhile you'll be occupied in some effort of ambition. You can make decisions about work and living arrangements based around that. I just think that on the whole everyone--foremost you--will be happiest if you occupy yourself with a substantial undertaking. That undertaking is college for many but it doesn't have to be that for you.

>>16615462
It's good to listen and care sometimes anon. Being a dickwad can only get you so far.

>>16615471
what if when you listen and care, it turns out they're kind of a jerk (if you're paying close attention) and your reaction sours an otherwise good relationship?


Is this a more specific reason as to why women like what you'd generally consider douchey alpha behavior?

One party not quite caring about the relationship means the relationship doesn't devolve into a constant battle for hierarchy?

>>16615456
Get something to occupy your time or find a girl.

>>16615461
What about when I have nothing else to do other than sit at the computer?
Maybe finding a really gross pic and putting it on my desktop would prevent me from fapping

>>16615477
You'd probably end up just fapping anyway. It's hard to not fap when you make it a habit. Find something or someone to break the routine of fapping.

and what kind of relationship is that exactly? are you talking about sharing the bathroom?

I'm not sure what your angle is. I don't see anything particularly odd, aside from the fact they're rather focused on the alternative look.

Are you talking about the fact that they portray the woman as more "manly" (in terms of slapping the guys ass, and taking less time than the other) than the guy?

>>16615447
Sounds like she knew what she was getting into and knew the risks of kissing you. Don't bother unless she says something.

>>16615447
Its honestly no big deal. Some people get infected and never get coldsores, some do. Either way, it's so common that there isn't that much stigma about it these days. I'm a femanon and get coldsores, and I have since I was a little girl. Luckily, I get them rarely (maybe once every couple of years), and my boyfriends of the time have always been understanding. It helps that she was already aware that you get them so hopefully she understood the risks. I mean yea, it sucks, but its really no big deal. I hope that helps.

>people making this big of a deal about coldsores
I've never gotten them, but I hardly think it'd be the end of the world if I did.

Either you infected her or you didn't. No need for you or her to spend weeks agonizing about it.

>>16615434
Don't comprimise on being fuckbudies if you aren't really looking for that as a gf bf relationship is far from that.Aim to get what you want and don't get algon with what is offered to you.

>>16615446
Yes we aimed for that. But WE failed to get it done properly and now its fucked up.

>>16615460
Well then you should first get your shit together and then get to her and explain her the relationship you want or just try to convince her and it surely will work but only if she trusts you as after such break up trust is what is most importance. So yeah if she doesn't trust you start by there if not proceed but first get your shit together anon and remember you didn't fuck up it was her who was fucked up.

>>16615428
>SJW or feminist shit
Wait is that common?

Go over to /d/'s bondage general. >>6587752 Chances are you can find them answering this exact question somewhere in there at length because they get it a lot. But if not, you can ask there because they don't seem to get tired of answering it for newbies.

>>16615423
If you are unable to afford gifts then why the fuck would you buy them? Work on bettering yourself if you feel you're not up for a relationship right now, and in this case getting a better job or get better at saving money.

It was just an idea on what I should do. I'm really unsure about what I would do to keep a relationship going and I always wonder how people do it.

whatever, thanks alot /adv/ >.>

We got our grandpa who was in a similar situation and iPad as well. Still had to show him how to use it and stuff though.
Could also just get him a simple chromebook/cheap laptop http://www.logicalincrements.com/#!/laptop

>>16615397
Change it if you want to.

>>16615397

if you want to. do you like seeing her ? keep her. would you rather see something else? change it to that.

dont change it to spite her. its already been a month so it cant be awkward or anything.

Cool. Thanks. I was just worried she might think negatively about it. But, she never changed hers so I guess it's fine. Damn. That feel when she loves me less.

>>16615377
on top of this my parents are fucking COMPLETELY unaware that i have a $3000 gaming setup at university. completely unaware.
i worked summers and winters at a nuclear company because family got me in. i made a lot of money and spent it on fucking awesome hardware. i can't even bring this machine home from the dorm because if i do my father will literally break it. on top of all this i'm not even a us citizen, just a permanent resident with russian citizenship.

i love technology, i love the internet, i love machines, i want to do business and planning and just live a happy life but i just don't know what to do right now.
yeah, fucking girls are interested in me but what the fuck do i do? i just fucking play video games. am i wasting my life? i see other people studying and achieving things, i see other people at least working and getting into a career, or working at a family business, or joining the army. i can't find solace in the fact that i can still be successful without going to a good school but can't maintain myself in it.

>>16615377

there are bigger things at stake than being 'an embarrassment' to you or your peers. if you spend life worrying about what people think of you you are going to do a lot of stupid shit for stupid reasons.

so drop that mentality, and realize that worse comes to worse, you can always reboot your life. millions of people do it. you may never be a CEO of some megacorp but really, who cares?
go on a bit of a spirit walk.then,
sit down and think about your career. decide if its REALLY worth it to you or if there is something else you'd rather be doing. adjust accordingly.

then go to your parents, explain the situation, give your apologies without them having to force you into the conversation. be a man and go to them and explain what you did wrong and how hard its been, but that you dont want to be the guy who did bad becuase it was 'hard'. you want to be the guy who rises to the occassion regardless of what that may be, and that you'd love it if they gave you another chance, but if not you'll go it alone.

then hope they give you that second chance.

>>16615388
>>16615388
what if i dont know what i want to do? what if i've fucked my career over already by getting shitty grades? i got a fucking D for christ sake, with a GPA that's now 2.7 overall. fuck me in the ass dude.