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>>16856960

Did you need advice? We really don't care if you're gay or not.

>>16856951

>going more than 35 miles over the speed limit

Are you trying to kill someone?

He cut you a break because 20 over and up is an automatic go to jail speed in most areas.

Look for a traffic lawyer and get that shit taken care of. Costs a little more, but it's worth it not to have that on your record.

If you see that cop again, thank him. He really should have arrested you.

>>16856951
Pay the money, thank the cop and learn your lesson.

>>16856945

Spanish probably, given how it's more accessible for you.

Spanish. French is a bit fucked up at some points, spanish is straight-foreard. Not as simple as english but whaddoyouwant, its an roman language>>16856945

Spanish. Once you figure out grammar properly, french might not that hard to learn also, but pronounciation is a whole different thing.

>>16856936
It looks like hair.

Do you have friends? I commute and still live at home, and I've never felt like I'm missing out or anything, but almost all my friends are/were in the same boat too.

>>16856930

I have some friends, yeah. Most are commuters, but I'm not exactly super close with them. Two of the guys I know I'm trying to get to know better because they seem really cool. If you don't mind me asking, what school do you attend?

>>16856927
Commuting automatically excludes you from a lot of social activity because it tends to happen spontaneously on the spot among residents - "hey," someone will shout in a dorm hallway, "Who wants to go out for pizza?"

So you have to work harder to create connections. Join clubs. Arrange your commuting schedule so you can spend more time on campus, working in the library or just hanging out in the snack bar. Reach out to others.

>>16856926
How long were you together? When did you break things off?
Was it a clean break up, messy, still friends or what?

Depending on where you live, if you go to your doctor you should be able to get a mental health plan.

They bore you because they aren't your ex, yet you say that all she did was fuck with your head and break you down. Why would you want that when you clearly just said how bad it was for you? Isn't it clear that people like her are bad for you?

Between that and then throwing shit around and ranting make me think you've got some deep rooted issues and potentially self destructive tendencies. Why?

>>16856935
We we're together for a year, we decided to end things the beginning of Sep last year...and here's where it gets complicated....she started dating some fool and (as stupid as this sounds) won't end things with him because he's "in love with her" and she doesn't want to hurt his feelings...I've tried leaving her even for a couple months I didn't talk to her, just ended up running right back. Also she fucks me behind his back all the time...I know I'm a terrible human and have already accepted that. Also I already did set-up a mental health plan through medicare and that I got three free sessions that honestly only gave the therapist time to get to know me and give me very little advice.

Hold a candle in a cold November rain?

Guy doesnt even have an e in axl

>>16857018
Nor does he have a rose.

Love is shared between two.

The term you're looking for is infatuated.

>>16856860
most likely true

Get over her. Not trying to be mean, sadly this is just part of life. You like someone, hell, you love someone, but then you can't be together for some reason... And it hurts. But you slowly get over it, it's all you can do. The girl in the picture is cute but she's pretty average, find some girl who looks like her who lives in your area.

bump because i still need advice

>>16856830
if you're recovering from depression (which i read as struggling with depression but improving), i don't think you should do it just yet.

the real question to ask yourself here is: what about the people you can't help? are you mentally strong enough to cope with someone coming to you for help, and still ending themselves? it takes serious mental fortitude to be able to handle that.

you should be prepared for the worst going into that kind of thing. it's a noble cause; but in reality you might find it to be much uglier than you anticipated.

My gf worked for what I guess is the UK equivalent for many years. She started off when she was young and idealistic, I don't know what your situation is like, but she was quite quickly taught that in her role, procedure and professionalism was very important and overruled self disclosure, personal experience and the ability to relate too much was actually unhelpful compared to the ability to detach and provide a service. I mean, I can't be like "I get you bro, man, I've been there, let me gas about myself and my situation a while".

It isn't effective and is kind of crass to do so y'know? Especially if you are like, 19 and depressed and some dude wants to kill himself because he is 51 and his whole life is falling to pieces after his wife left him and took everything and he has been diagnosed with prostate cancer and he is unable to emotionally connect to others or express himself because of growing up in a repressive childhood which was normal for his generation and has been masking it for years with the trappings of a normative identity which is now gone good luck with that idk lol.

>>16856825
sorry wrong photo idk how to delete this

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Find someone who you can actually meet in real life. Otherwise, it's just chaturbate.

>>16856825
Go to Australia?

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You know, saying, 'just move on' is not really nice, but it's the only solution. And the best one. Really, I'd say 'just solider on, and don't let your past poison your future," which is probably easier to take, anyhow.

I've been in your shoes, anon- dated the same girl from 13-23, wasted a couple of years moping, after it was over. I'm married with kids, now. I'd probably have suck started a pistol if I ended up with my ex. She was nothing but practice, in the end, and, in the end, that is all that failed relationships are, practice. That doesn't mean that they don't have value, they do. They teach you how to be more than you are now, how to do better next time, too.
So, no, it's not a lame question. You don't forget, and you shouln't. Time WILL take the sting out of the failures in your past, but the lessons, good and bad, need to stay with you. Once you meet the right woman, too, whether it happens at 27, 37 or 47, this will all make more sense, and you'll see that you needed this time to become the person that the other needed and wanted.
While you're working on that, focus more on building the life you want to have between now and the grave. You'll attract people of better quality as you become a better person while working on your goals. That helps, too.

>>16856850
damn, anon, thank you

its something i would probably say to someone if i wasnt this deep in my own shit now.

>You'll attract people of better quality as you become a better person while working on your goals.

the only real goal i have is to be truly happy and peaceful. everything else is just a bonus to that.

>>16856850
also, nice balloon

Do something else with your life. Volunteer, travel, get a hobby. Heck, even spend more time with your family. Money isn't the be all and end all and it doesn't make you happy.

> In my last job I could have made $500k+ eventually but I quit because the hours were burning me out and I didn't get along with my coworkers that well.
honestly, its something i would do too. doesnt mean its the best choice possible, but when you look at it, life doesnt really have "the best choice".


>I feel like a loser sometimes for quitting my previous job
i know how you feel, but at the end of the day, you did what you knew was best for you. and even if you didnt, you would still have learned something new about yourself.


>Mostly I just think of just dropping everything and becoming a game director or an entrepreneur or a scientist or something where I don't have to deal with corporate culture and office boredom so much. Should I feel bad that I probably wouldn't be contributing to society as much?
and being part of corporate culture is contributing? been there, done that (only thing im not in finance but in agricultural production). no one of those fuckers cares about "contributing" at all. your pure heart says otherwise about yourself, and honestly i think you are awesome OP. if you feel like you belong in game making business, then heck, youd contribute more to society than some office rat sitting down and looking at numbers 12 hours a day and not knowing what its all really about.

> Should I just get a visa to move to the US somehow and settle into a cushy silicon valley job instead?
its your choice. if you choose to do it its good. if you dont, its still good. you have a lot of choices to make on your own. 80% of the world would kill for such a chance.

>Deep down I'm not sure if I care about anything
but you do care

>If I'm not mentally occupied all I end up thinking about is my eventual death
we all do, but just remember, be what you are and enjoy no matter what you are doing and how much you are earning.
shit, ive seen people who lost their jobs, families, wives, even kids, and they still found ways to feel good and laugh.

>>16856818
That's enough money to provide yourself and potential family with a comfortable life. You should take this opportunity to make yourself happy or find things that do.

My parents worked their whole lives with the goal of getting as much money as possible, ignoring their own happiness, and now they're in their 60s with health problems and probably not much time left to enjoy that money they earned. Obviously it sounds great for me because I'm an only child who gets to inherit all of it, but that's a shitty outcome for them. I wish they could have spent their lives happier and left me with little or nothing.

Don't work just to give your kids money to waste once you're dead, OP. Be useful and helpful in the world, and be happy,

>>16856784
It's a case by case thing.

No set guidelines.

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Sex.

If you're older, sex and living conveniently close to a liquor store.

Us men like saggy clit and fat chicks

What do you hope to achieve by telling your friend?

>>16856780
I assume he wouldn't be so eager to take her back anymore if he knew that I was with her. He think she's been waiting for him and only him. And I feel like shit, getting dumped like that and having to hang around with those two and watching them cuddle and shit.

>>16856789
So basically your thought process is "if I can't have her, he can't either"

>>16856763
>what do you ladies do that helps? Sos lmao

Getting a man that knows what to do.

>>16856763
You need to learn how to love yourself. If you can't figure out what you like, how can you expect someone else to? Figure out how you masturbate and what you like, look up guides if you have to.

I will say that your g spot is a ribbed area that's about behind where the clitoris is. Generally stimulating that with one hand while stimulating the clitoris with the other is a good way of getting off, but stimulating the clitoris alone should be sufficient.

If you're talking about during intercourse, it can be hard for females to get off through vaginal intercourse.

There is a lot of literature on the internet that would just be regurgitated to you here (with perhaps too much misogynistic tones), I encourage you to look on google.


I do hope you're old enough to use this site.

Explore your body, then watch porn to figure out what you want to try.