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So, I like this girl who goes at my courses at uni, I should just ask her out, I got that much, and I was planning to ask her to go to the movies (and try to guess a movie she is willing to see) since there's not much else to do here.
However the question is, how can I start small talk her until I have enough confidence to not sound weird when I'll ask her out? I'm awful at it and she's very shy, so whenever we are together with our collegues we both don't talk very much, especially to one another.
The second, and maybe more important question is: what do I do if, after asking her out, I only receive a long silence? It happened to me many times before and I never knew what to do to sound kind and to receive a proper answer

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In a universe of seas of relationship problems, I have a problem with solitude.

Imagine a mammal-free and earth-like planet, with two lonely neutered kittens placed at opposite sides of the planet, perhaps even in the ocean. What is such a feline rationally justified to do with its life?

I seem to be having difficulty coming to terms with the fact that life appears to be nothing more than an obnoxious series of banal platitudes. I secretly wish to find something in my existential existence, but it is very quiet.

I sometimes wish I were the lonely kitten, if only it had any idea what it was doing.

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Hey guys.

I'm a lower class (digital artist) who makes a couple hundred dollars every now and then

While my girlfriend is a dentist and makes thousands of dollars.

The problem is, she's always going out of her way to treat me, to lend me money (even if I struggle returning it) and taking me places

I'm plagued with guilt, negativity and sometimes it can really get to me, where I become annoyed.

Is someone who gives too much a bad thing? Why does this bother me so much?

Do I place more value on money than she does for having less?

Any ideas? Thanks guys...

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Is it acceptable to make a throwaway Paypal account for buying porn?

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Atm I just broke up with my girlfriend. Best girl on the planet. Loved her to death. But we were just incompatible now. Now I'm crying my eyes out in a McDonald's listening to fucked up music. What do

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In a sea of "how do I get a girl" or "I think my girlfriend is cheating" threads, I have a question about marriage.

Seven years into a relationship, three years into marriage, 1.5 years into having a kid. Wife doesn't work, I have a full time career that supports us. I come home, I spend a few hours upstairs with the family usually until the kid needs to go to sleep, after that the wife puts the kid to bed and I head to my den for a couple hours.

While I'm upstairs I help take care of him, change him, entertain him, help with dinner, the trash, busywork, pay the bills, most maintenance stuff you'd generally expect the stay-at-home spouse to do, but I still want to help.

So I have the kid for like six hours alone today while she's going doing her errand shit like grocery shopping, dry cleaning, that shit. She gets home, I'm pissed off because the kid has been a little faggot for the last two hours and he's got me pulling my hair out. She wants to know why I'm "pissy," I say its because of the kid, and she flips. Five hours later and she still won't talk to me because "it's bullshit that I complain about taking care of him for a few hours" and that I "never want to help out."

What the fuck. I mean, just what the fuck. This is a common thing, too. A consistent issue where I bend over backwards constantly. I wasn't doing enough with the kid at first, I step up. I'm not helping out enough around the house, she says something, I step up and do more now. I was spending too much time in the den, I stay with the kid till he's asleep and have fun with him. I do everything for her including picking out the house with the one hour, one way commute that she loves and is more expensive, rather the in-the-city house with the fucking seven minute walk from the office that was cheaper to boot.

I love her to death, but I have no idea what to do here. She makes me feel like I'm the one failing the family when I'm working my ass off probably 75% of time.

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There is a pretty girl at my oil painting club that I wanna get to know. It meets weekly, and I started chatting her up last week and this one. She’s a cute girl, smart, funny and laughs easily to most things I say.

Towards the end of last night’s painting session, she asks me: “So _____, how old are you?”

What's the subtext here, is this some kind of indicator that she’s interested? It felt like rather a random question, and she made the point of prefacing it with my name.
FYI, I had her guess my age. I’m 30 (but look more like 26) and she is somewhere around 21-22, still a college student.

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Right now Im finishing up my requirements for my AA-T degree. For those of you that dont know an AA-T degree essentially an AA that gives you junior status within the CSU system, allowing transfer from a CC to a University much easier. However I am currently regretting taking the class to meet the transfer requirement and would rather just drop it. I could still get just a regular AA with the other class Im taking.
Things to consider:

>Im planning on moving from CA to AZ.
> Not planning on getting a BA due to current circumstances.
> An AAT would just be a back up plan should I want to move back and/or go back to school.

Should I tough it out for a potential backup plan or should I just say fuck it and take it easy?

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So I'm in class with this girl and we had to interview each other for a project.

After that she asked for my number in case she had more questions.

Then she invited me to down to lunch, which is an app to get lunch with people.

After that she texted me about her food, I didn't really talk to her that long.

Now today she added me on Snapchat through my phone number and she posted a story of her in full makeup.


Am I reaching or being oblivious?

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Anyone familiar with the film industry? I want to act, write, edit, or direct movies. I understand that the film industry is a gamble and is basically luck based; but is there anything I should do this early in my life that would give me a chance?

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I have so many things I can do, so many things I want to get better at, things I want to try, and so on. But all I do every day is waste time by browsing Nigerian penis shrinking enthusiast community forums.

I realize it's a huge waste of time and I don't achieve anything I consciously want to achieve by doing it, but it requires the least commitment to get started on - just two clicks and you're already browsing.

Why can't I do things I consciously want to do? Do I not actually care about them and am just deceiving myself? Am I not doing these things for myself, and is that why I don't have any motivation to do them?

A lot of things I just think "oh hey that would be cool if I did that" or "that could be useful down the line" or "this seems like it would be more quality entertainment than browsing 4chan" so I put it on my to-do list, but then either never get enough motivation to start doing it or start it but quickly lose interest.

I dunno /adv/, this is something I find really annoying about myself. I've been planning for two weeks to find time to sit down and think about my future, but even though I'm a NEET, definitely not busy, and yet I still haven't found even a minute of free time to do it. Halp.

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I've been depressed for most of my life, but I manage it just fine around other people. No one I haven't told has any idea. The friends I've confided in have been genuinely surprised.

I think about killing myself several times a day, every day. Some days, it's the only thing I think about. I can't remember the last time I had a day where it hasn't at least crossed my mind. I have just accepted it as a fact of being me.

After having a bit too much to drink the other night, I told my boyfriend this fact. He was really upset by it, which is understandable, and he wants me to see a psychologist. I saw one when I was a teenager, but I stopped going (and stopped taking the prozac he prescribed me) when I felt I was doing well enough to handle it on my own, and I have managed fine. I don't have an interest in seeing one now, especially since if I mention the suicidal thoughts, they're obligated to do something about it. I work and go to school full time; I don't have time to deal with that.

Is there an alternative to appease my boyfriend, but not force me into a situation where I might end up under supervision or something? Has anyone experienced a similar situation? Thanks.

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hey /adv/,
So there's this girl that I have been talking to for awhile, flirting back and forth and having conversations and such and I was really starting to catch feelings for her, but now lately it seems like she talks to me less and less, and doesn't even initiate conversation with me first like she used to. Now, I have tried texting or snapchatting her, and both times she just leaves me on read. I snapchatted earlier today, and I just checked now and she opened it an hour ago. It's literally killing me. All I can think about is her and it hurts. So my question is, how do I get over her, or make her want to talk to me again, and also have any of you anons experienced similar things with girls?
>pic related, it's how I feel

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I don't really want too ask questions like these, but I'm having a hard time figuring her out.

>Living in Vietnam
>Met a girl via social app
>Refuse too meet me at first
>Eventually meets up with her friend
>Buys me dinner
>Leaves after 10 minutes of meeting
>Thought i was rejected
>Still speaking via FB
>Asks too meet Wednesday
>Reschedules to Friday
>Reschedules to Saturday @ 3pm
>Reschedules to Saturday @ 5pm
>Finally meets for movie
>She buys Popcorn + Tickets
>Slight touching, gazing, joking at movies
>After movie asked if she wanted to grab a bite too eat
>Claims she's full and wants to go home she's tired.
>It was 7:30 pm
>Basically begged her for me to take her home.
>I asked when we can meet again and she said next week
>I called her out on her BS
>She claims she misses me and still wants to see me.
>That i made her cry.


Wtf is going on?

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Thanks for reading this, I'm just starting to come out of a three year long depression. How do I start to re-build? I'm just starting to realize where my friends are at, and how my relationships are all weaker, and how I'm running behind. I still have an okay job, and I'm going to start college, but can anyone else relate? I feel alone starting all over, and hearing someone else's story and some help may make me feel better about the future. Professionally fine but personally, feel wrong I guess.

TL;DR: Coming out of a severe depression, can anyone relate, or give tips on living life afterwards?