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>>16858239
I tend to identify long term goals then plot a series of short easy goals to reach them. If I wanted to become ripped, I would join a gym, then learn how to lift a barbel. Next I would plan beginner sets and good times to do them.

Really it all starts with deciding what you want. If you can visualise a series of short goals, with enough time you can achieve anything.

>>16858236

Do something until you are mentally and physically exhausted, then set an alarm.

>>16858236
Perfect 6/6 split.

I'd just stay up all night. 20 hour day is no problem for me.

Go to bed whenever. Set alarm and get the fuck up when it goes off. I used to get like 4 hours of sleep a night during the week for years cause I'm an idiot.

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>>16858220
i dont know
in melee peach could potentially be the strongest floaty depending on how the metagame continues to develop, but armada's consistent and ability to blow out pp, mango, and leffen with peach is pretty aweinspiring. + she doesn't have a nearly as awful matchup vs fox as puff does

in smash 4 though the meta is still super early and we're not sure how floaties do, especially considering how the rest of the cast is significantly floatier compared to the gamecube title. there aren't any top players that main peach or even have a pocket peach yet, and it definitely seems like sheik or zss are the way to go. there's no armada for smash 4 that makes it seem like peach can go even with the rest of the cast.

W/o knowing you, will honestly say you're not worthess. Nobody is.

No need to answer out loud, but do you fixate on your outward appearance ( the part you can physically control) and neglect your internal thoughts, feelings, values, etc.

Not to add more confusion in your thinking. Please don't over analyze some stranger's opinion. Just maybe find someone who has your best interests in mind as figure out where you want to go and how to get there. Peaxe

>>16858274
Idk, I care a lot about appearance but I always have too. I'm really confused and am wondering if I'm transgender. I don't always cross-dress but there's always this desire for me to be a pretty girl.

You're not trans you just have female envy, there's a specific word for this I forgot. Basically, just like your crossdressing, you want to play dress up and look like a woman. Not BE a woman. Which you never could be anyway. Cheers.

When you develop a crush, you find the girl on Facebook so that you can go through her photos to find ones of her and her ex knowing full well that this totally demotivates you.

>my mental health is in order
Not even fucking close m8.

>>16858125
This, you still have to work on your insecurities OP.

If you want to date, stop giving a shit. Every girl has a past, and you weren't a part of it, get over it.

If a girl is interested in you, she's interested in you. Her ex's are her ex's for a reason.

Keep lifting, eating well, and practicing your game. Start an okcupid account or tinder account and practice flirting with randos. It will boost your confidence tremendously, and help you get over fear of rejection.

My advice is don't use a face picture until you're confident in your abilities. Use a photo of a man standing so far from the camera that you can't see his face, or a man scuba diving. Girls sometimes dig mysterious profiles like that and are open to flirting with them.

Keep improving yourself op!

>>16858125
not really. i don't go through someone's facebook photos to be demotivated. it's more like a picture of my crush pops on my facebook feed and i just click next until her past photos start popping up and then I see the ex.

Don't. You're trying to force something which should resolve naturally. Your two month relationship is not going to suffer a lick of damage over this situation right now.

>>16858080
Unhealthy and I'll tell you why. You seek validation from other people.

Validation comes from within.

I used to be a lot like you, then around 20 I suddenly snapped out of it and started liking myself and my surroundings. I stopped needing justification to be me.

That's what you need. 'Opening up' isn't a thing.

>>16858082
I always imagined that having a relationship with someone meant that I had this connection of total trust instantly.

So this is probably due to my inexperiencedness with relationships?

>>16858104

How did you snap out of it?

I recognize the needing validation. But it is only the case with her. For the rest I don't give a shit about what the world thinks/wants from me.

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>>16858067
Suck it's dick

>>16858067
Tell your neighbors. If they do nothing call the cops.

If the cops get nothing done and this is actually affecting you, shoot the dog.

You tell them that their dog is barking all day. If they don't do something about it, you call the cops every time it lasts longer than 15 minutes.

I'd expect it to be more likely than not that it SHOULD be a problem. It's not so much about having stuff in common--I've dated people from so many walks of life--but that your life experiences are significantly different. She doesn't go through what you do on a day-to-day basis. It makes it hard to relate to someone like that. It's a breeding ground for insecurity and jealousy. I don't worry as much about "stuff in common" as I do "life in common." A lot of compatibility in a relationship comes from being with someone who gets you. How is she going to "get" the life of a 25 year old? How are you going to "get" the life of a college girl when you're a few years removed from that setting and it's always a changing environment?

There's nothing to be nervous about regarding the date. None of what I said has any bearing on that. You'll have a wonderful date, no problem. My concern is about your expectations for this going into the future. Every step beyond dating is probably a step downhill.

As long as she's over 18, who gives a fuck? I respect guys with younger girlfriends, young girlfriends are the shit.

They look up to you, worship your cock, and are easy to please.

My gf is my age and she's great (22), but I've had teenage pussy in the past and it's a whole 'nother ball game.

My bf's 21, i'm 27. I was kind of shocked when i met him and i found out his age... I genuinely thoufht he was my age.
However, i think it's very important to keep communication open. In every relationship, but in age-gap ones even more so. Especially regarding expectations, how you spend time together, values, future, and so on. We are in rather different parts of our lifes. I'm going towards 30, he's just out of bein a teen. There is some compromising that needs to be done, for sure. But so far we manage that pretty awesomely. He's studying abroud and has ample ipportunity to party with friends, so when we meet we have the urge to just stay at home and spend some quality time. I know he want's to have a family one day, and so do i. But i respect that he might take his time to get to the point where he feels ready whilst i might get there sooner. But those are decisions and talks i leave to the future for now. We just love to spend time together. No need to overshadow tht with possible obstacles in the future that might turn out to not even matter.

>>16858056
You're on the wrong dating website, mang. Not sure what the hookup ones are, since I've never really done this, but Tinder is a well-known one.

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>>16858068
I've signed up on meetic (not sure it's famous in the US, i'm in europe), simply because of the sheer amount of girls.
I've managed to meet 3 of them in a month
>first one I was able to have her meet me at my place and I fucked her
>other 2 I went to a bar with them and they never replied at my texts after that
so I have no idea wtf I'm doing wrong
I'd assume that most girls who say they are looking for a serious relationships would be down to fuck if I manage to meet them and play my cards right... but apparently not

Girls most of the time don't go looking for casual sex because sex comes so easy to them and they don't want to be seen as sluts.

However, if you say you're looking for a relationship, or just to be friends, that doesn't mean she won't put out on the first date.

Seriously, on tinder, okcupid, etc, they all fucking do this shit "not just looking for hookups!!" Is only partially true. They aren't out looking (well most of the time), but if it "just happens" in the heat of the moment, well that's not their fault! It's yours! Girls hate taking responsibility for having had sex. They want it to just happen, so that way they can justify it after as being your fault and they didn't do anything slutty.
>be on tinder
>message cutie, talk for a bit
>I'm not looking for a hookup you know
>yeah just cuddling is fine
>hang out
>cuddle for all of 5 minutes before we start making out and fucking like rabbits

>>16858052

"The girl that got away" is still this girl from high school/college that I didn't act on because of a lack of self confidence.

I developed a thing for her when my LDR was starting to wane. She was on the dance team, just absolutely gorgeous. I was terrified of talking to her, but when I was finally single, this girl started to invite me to parties that she was at, where I finally met her and we became pretty close.

She had a boyfriend, but for years she was over at my house all the time - she'd sleep over, make me breakfast in the morning, drive me places, always invite me out... the boyfriend was basically nowhere to be seen. She had a terrible reputation for ripping guys' hearts out when they thought she was interested, so I was convinced I was friendzoned.

Then we started to get more intimate... we skinny dipped together, I saw her naked multiple times, she asked me if I wanted to get married on the Vegas Strip when we were out there waiting to watch Star Wars Episode 3 at 3 in the morning. It almost happened.

For some reason, I never nutted up and just told her we should make something of it. I freaked out more and more, and with the benefit of nearly a decade of hindsight, I kick myself about it daily.

She's married now and still looks great... she always likes my status updates, we seem to share everything in common, she's just taken and she's gone.

I still think about this way more than I should.

>>16858052
Was really into this guy. Told him how I felt but told me he wasn't ready for a relationship. Few weeks later he starts dating my best friend. Still upsets me even though it was years ago. Last I heard they're still together.

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>>16858022
Give them some blowjobs you stupid whore

Use their gifts as inspiration. What did they send over to you and your family?

>>16858109
An apron, three cookbooks filled with traditional British recipes, some cute tea towels, and some canvas bags with the British flag and other distinctly British motifs. When my boyfriend returned we sent a cookbook back with him along with a few other small things. I was thinking of possibly getting them something distinctly American like they did with the bags, but I'm not sure what.

I think it's possible to change.

My gf of 2.5 years cheated on someone in a previous relationship and learned from it apparently. I can't know 100% for sure whether or not she has on me, but I believe her when she says she hasn't, we really REALLY are in love with eachother and fantasize about living together, and it's very obviously genuine and sincere on her part as well, as someone whom it's very hard to win over their trust, I trust her completely now, I can just hear how much she loves and cares for me in her voice and can feel it in her actions, she's the most caring, and amazing person I've ever met, and honest I've been fantasizing what it would be like to marry her and have kids with her, which I haven't told her because I don't want to scare her with rushing into things, but the idea of it is so fucking beautiful and I think she would be An amazing wife and mother to my children

It all depends on the situation.

Would I date a woman who had cheated on her previous husband? No.

Would I date a woman who did a stupid thing back in high school and it's been well over a decade since it happened? Sure.

>>16858002

sometimes someone doesnt understand how important fidelity is until they've actually cheated or been cheated on. until then it might not seem like a big deal. but after fallout, people grow and change a bit.

repeat offenders are probably going to serve lifelong sentences though.

all that being said
>its absolutely reprehensible

is it tho?

>>16857983
Busy I guess.

Chill out senpai. Don't spam calls. It's been like a day.

>>16857995
I haven't spammed, don't worry. I only texted her like last night. I want to still seem interested, because I am, but I don't want to come off as desperate

>>16858045
I was literally about to post this same exact thread then I saw your post. I went out with a girl on thursday, texted her that I had a great time but didn't hear back. The kicker is she is in one of my classes (uni) on monday so I have to face the inevitably of seeing her again. I'm sweating this interaction for some reason because I haven't been rejected or accepted yet... it's a weird gray area and it pisses me off. I'd rather have her come right out and reject me rather than this fucking guessing game.

There's nothing you can do, you fucked up and made a huge mistake, seriously this isn't something to be taken lightly, like Ohhh oh well, no you brought a fucking child into the world that you can't afford to raise properly, and because of that the child is going to live a shitty life and not know you, and probably grow up to hate you. All you can do is try to take up a part time job if you have time, and send her what little you can, even though that's hardly put a dent in what will be needed to raise the kid, if you don't even have time for that, idk what to tell you man, you really fucked up

1. Tell them

2. Good luck with the part time job

Anon it's Poland. You can probably rely on your parents to provide the pittance it takes to live there. You can pay them back later right?