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>>16856271

>A couple of months ago
>Start to feel lonely, no roommates, she goes home every night as per mothers request
>She's twenty one, and despite her age or position in life, her mothers mentality is "If you live under my roof, you abide by my rules."
>General 7:00 PM Curfew on Weekdays
>1:00 AM on Weekends
>reminder: she's twenty-fucking-one years old.
>Discuss moving in almost a year ago
>Monetary situation has kept her from making the leap
>Her father (separated) pays for her schooling, her mother is of the wholehearted "You shouldn't move together until you're married," mentality
>Totally devoid of logic from my standpoint
>Her mother does not treat her well. Emotionally abusive, physically when she drinks, (Often, not frequent.)
>Has threatened to cut off contact with her daughter entirely if she were to go against her wishes
>She wants out, I want her with me, Father will be reluctantly supportive, mother will likely disown her child
>One of girlfriends three worldly desires is to rebuild a broken relationship with her mother
>She's torn between moving in with me and forsaking her mother, or continuing to tolerate her living situation despite her own happiness.

(2/3 I don't know how to space posts)

Evidently Adblock was keeping me from posting. Fun.

I have a few choices here adv

>Marry her prematurely and risk a separation
We've been together almost two years and I know I'll marry this girl someday, but for the time being, neither of us are in a position to do so without it seeming forced or with ulterior motive. I don't want to risk losing her over something like that

>Convince her mother to see otherwise
Given her mentally and emotionally abusive tendencies, coupled with her adamantly stubborn nature, it's unlikely I'm going to be able to convince this should-be mental patient to listen to reason

>Convince her to forsake her mother for our mutual benefit
As I expressed, she'll do nearly anything to hold on to what terribly weak relationship she's been able to muster between the two so far, and I would never want to come between that for fear of regret and resentment in the future.

I'm in a hell of a pickle, /adv/. We both want to be together but there are outside forces keeping us from achieving that goal. Is there anything you can tell me that might aid me in my relatively minute troubles?

Thank you in advance.

yes

everytime i overeat or eat junk food i get that bad feeling after the initial pleasure goes away, and i'm not even self concious about my weight

Go and talk to the teacher. Also the teacher may be in the right here - lots of classes are not about whether you got the right answer, but about whether you used the right method to get your answer. That's why you'll find in lots of classes you'll get partial credit if your working is right but for some reason you come to the wrong answer.

>>16856272
>Take it to the department head.
The first thing they'll do is ask if OP has talked to the teacher.

I had this happen to me in math 132, which was a finite mathematics course in college. Which was by far the worst math---well the worst class in general I took at college.

Its been awhile, but had to something to do with matrices and reduced row echelon bullshit. There was an easy formula to do to get the answer, but if we did that we didn't get points on the test, they wanted us to grind out the matrix using the long method. Man I hated that shit.

Anyway, dispute it OP---unless they specifically said you couldn't use a certain method, they can't punish you for using it.

>>16856227

You'll need to talk to a medical professional about your medical problems if you want actual advice.

You should consider investing time into cognitive behavioral therapy to correct the fucked up thought patterns causing your depression in the first place so you don't have to mitigate the symptoms with meds.

>>16856227
How long have you been on your meds for? Because it will take time for you to get used to it. If it has been a while, you should talk to your doctor about what alternatives or supplementary meds you can take.

I was on 150mg Zoloft but I experienced too much fatigue, and my doctor prescribed me mirtazapine for it. It didn't work, but it was worth a shot

>>16856227
First of all, going off meds cold turkey can really fuck you up. I've done it twice and didn't realize how damaging it was until days later.

I've been on antidepressants for quite a while. I was on Lexapro for 2 years (it didn't do shit) and have been on Zoloft for 3 years. Zoloft personally made a huge difference in my life. It has helped my tolerance for dealing with both other people and my own negative/masochistic thoughts. However, it does have some fucked up side effects like making me tongue-tied. I seriously have some physical problems speaking that don't come up when I'm off it or taking a lower dose.

tl;dr yes meds can give you bad side effects, but you really need to see a doctor to talk to them about the particular side effects of any given med, and you might be on the wrong one

Well obviously a counter curse or a ward spell. Just check the commonly asked question threads newfag.

>>16856224
Attempt to exist at an elevated intensity.

>get goat horns
>get red paint
>get some rags
>find out where they hold their rituals
>get an airblower
>find a way for you and the air to get into the room
>get naked
>cover ALL of your body in red paint
>even your face and hair
>proceed to glue the horns to your head
>this "cult" are probably thinking the devil looks like the stereotypicam version
>when you can see the ritual is at it's most intense peak you blow the airblower into the room with a lot of force so that the candles blow out
>make sure air is cold for maximum spoopyness
>get into the center of the room
>they shouldn't see you get in since it's dark
>standing there in the middle all nude with only some rags covering your devilpenis you let out a haunting shriek and take a shit on the floor and quickly leaving the place after that.

>>16856211
What you did OP?
Just a small story not a 5 post green text

>>16856225

I made him angry

there u go famlee

>>16856230
Bet you're a lazy wise ass.

You're above average for the US and about average for most of Europe

Relax and watch less TEEN SMASHED BY MASSIVE COCK

>>16856214
Second that, altough size does matter, unless you are like 3 inches don't worry about shit

Anon you're supposed to measure bone pressed. I did the know that until two weeks ago (I'm 22) and I thought myself small. So much suffering could have been avoided. So I'm just spreading the good word when I can.

Lol, what? Hell no they won't, unless you apply for NSA or something, and they'll already know so it would be counter-intuitive.

>>16856185
You just have paranoid family members. My parents are like that too. If they knew what an IP was, they'd probably have told me the same thing.

Everything >>16856191 said.

Lmao your parents are clueless and that would require a court order

>>16856148
Tonight.

Tonight you will write down the schedule for tomorrow morning.

Never mind this.
Let it die.

Go to the nearest hospital

>>16856163
I will.
I'm sorry.
Thank you.

I don't know. Maybe he doesn't find you attractive and has to sort of "force" himself

You do realize communication is maybe the most important aspect of a successful relationship, right...?

>>16856130
I don't think so. He's a bit of an odd ball, I've tried talking to him about and he's said he has problems connecting with people and depression and would come to it when he was ready. The only person who knows him on a deep level is his best friend who was surprised he took agreed to date me apparently he hasn't been with someone in four years so I most have something working for me? He's a bit of a social recluse so it's hard to get to know him.

>>16856130
Shit advice

You want to make her feel like it's her fault?.

OP i had a lot of trouble with my ex GF too, everyone is different, i had a combo of issues that i had to fix.
But the more i invested in the relationship, the more erections i had, she even got a little fat and i liked her even more.
You just have to make him invest more

Where did you get it?
Any other details about whatever that thing is?

>>16856086
The picture made my eyes blurry. Wait, the picture is just blurry. Can we get a better pic?

>>16856082
read books about people greater than you doing the things you wanna do. like lifting weights? read arnold schwartzenegger's books. total recall is a good one.

read tim fucking grover's (coach for michael jordan) "relentless". i promise you wont be disappointed.

watch videos of people you admire. motivation is all around you. just gotta know where to look.

what do you want to improve on anon?

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>>16856127
I want to get to get decent at surfing, I want to learn to program and I want to get aesthetic. I've stopped playing vidya, but now I just waste my days in other ways.

>>16856082
You just need a very strong reason to keep doing what you are doing. For instance, when I want to keep studying but have no motivation for it, I try to remember every time that I've been bullied, and that I must end up making more money than they do. For me, that's something that is above anything that may try to pull me out of my routine.

That's a weird looking ring...

>>16856069
It's a SPECIAL ring, anon

>>16856073
What's so 'special' about it?

No. Don't think about it. Don't accept any possibility of it. Do not let your one time having sex with some slut grip your bank account by the balls.

Extremely unlikely. If you're really curious you can chat her up, but I'd bet money it was just some other guy.

My girlfriend was inside of her mom for 11 months strangely. But that does not pertain to you. Deff not your baby.