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>>16855340
> I asked her out and she said she didn't feel like she knew me well enough and wanted to wait and get to know each other better.

That's some bullshit excuse, this is EXACTLY the goal of dating.
Ask her out again, don't make a big deal out of it, if she says the same thing, tell her that. If she still doesn't want to, she's not interested, move on.

>>16855340
Ask her out again, if she gives you the same BULLSHIT line of "I want to get to know you better" then come back (nicely) with something along the lines of "That's what dating is for." If she doesn't want a date, then just ask her out for lunch or coffee. If she still turns you down, that's her tough luck and you should cut her off and move to the next.

Yes I know you've developed REALLY REALLY intense feelings for her. That's life, kid. Prepare for many disappointments from lots of people you meet. Just be glad you didn't marry this one before things got disappointing. So if things don't work out, just move on to the next one.

>>16855340
How did you two meet?

Probably, there's a good amount of crossover. My uni has a top ten chem E program but we don't even have a nukeE. There's a reason I'm sure

>>16855500

It feels sort of like a shakedown with all of the Masters programs in Nuclear Engineering being offered right now. They just want another pound of flesh, or so it seems.

Any physics based major should be alright. There will definitely be nuclear modules and you'll learn the core of what you need. You can always transfer or do further study later.

There are very few specific NEng programs worldwide but obviously the demand is huge, so naturally most are going to be coming from other relevant courses.

>>16855329
You're just imagining things.

He's back

i think you should talk to someone about this, probably a counselor or therapist. This sort of thinking is not good/healthy for you or anyone else. If you go down that road, it will only become worse for you.Calm down and think through it

>>16855399
This is my first time posting here, sorry
>>16855414
I have to go see a counselor soon, so I'll discuss it with them then, thanks

>>16855308
Hs is full of kids and if kids screw up they get a slap on the wrist or help.

Uni is full of adults who are expected to be able to fend for themselves. Barring gross misconduct you will see no intervention whatsoever.

If you're used to dragging your feet, you will crash and burn.

In college there's a much wider expanse of opportunity. You can conceivably take many different approaches to your life. The structure mostly comes down to your choices and your ambition. That having been said, one of the choices is to stick around the people who act exactly like they did while in high school. There would honestly be no major difference in your life whatsoever if you chose to hang around them.

My college life was way different than in high school. Lots of impulsive decisions, lots of adventure. The only overarching decision I made was that whatever I did, I resolved to be good at it. That included my classes so my grades never slipped as a result. But I did some of the party/drinking/drugs stuff, some of the "let's pretend like we're actual adults" life, physical fitness, networking, random ass classes, etc. All of it. I wasn't even close to having that much freedom in high school. But I'm serious when I say that opportunity is the key. You don't HAVE to do what I did. You have just as much opportunity to take a one-track approach to your time there.

As a 21 y.o. Guy with a high sex drive and who used to party a shit ton like that, yeah there's a good chance he's hitting a hot piece of ass on the side, no definite evidence obviously, and he could be completely innocent, but I'd keep my eyes peeled if I were you, I know being in his situation I'd probably fuck them if I wasnt getting any from my gf and if they were attractive I probably wouldn't hold back at all.

Throw alcohol in the mix, and even if he knows it's a bad idea sober he'll still probably do it. That's what the party lifestyle is all about desu. Forgetting all your responsibilities and problems, and having nights you won't remember, or basically nights you have no responsibility over dumb decisions you make. You're right on the dot, pretty much everyone in the partying/drinking scene is hooking up/cheating

>>16855303

>Dates Chad
>Complains about Chad being Chad

>>16855333
Nice trips

Thank you for the input, anon. I'm scared of that happening so I've been holding myself back from getting really attached to him. I told him already that his drinking bothers me and that I won't take our relationship to the next level because of this.
Also how can I keep my eyes peeled since I don't have interest in his partying lifestyle? I'm supposed to meet all his friends soon but I can't always be with him when he goes out. He gets drunk + he is often in very rowdy and noisy places so he does't text me during those times. He is probably too drunk to txt.

When you were still partying, anon, did you ever have a gf you cheated on b/c you were drunk? Did you have some friends in relationships who never cheated during nights out?

I don't have much experience with partying and drinking, I'm usually home or out having dinner/watching a movie with one or two gfs. I don't really know how to set bouderies here b/c I have no experience in what I'm dealing with.

Fuck it. Finish school, get your own insurance. It's only a trip, not the end of the world.

The best solution to home difficulties is employment and detachment. Work your ass off, ensure you are studying a PROFITABLE career track and move forward.

If you ever have kids, don't put them on your insurance. They can drive a beater and get liability only. Millions of people, self included, do just that.

>>16855294
Find an airline that flies into Destin–Fort Walton Beach Airport or Destin Executive

I'd try Southwest

850 fag representing

>>16855294
I fuckin love Destin.

Haven't been in 10+ years.

Is it still dank down there?

Who fucking cares just do shit ya fucki g retard

>>16855287
This shit isn't fun anymore, that's the problem

It's getting boring and exhausting

$10 says there are things that you're turning down for made up reasons, when in reality you're just anxious or insecure about trying them. You'd probably enjoy the shit out of being amazing at something very difficult or significant, but the challenge can be a huge turn-off. Get over it. Do something worth living for if you're this desperate to find meaning in your existence.

Just get on with life, unless all you do is browse 4chan all day. Tbh you should put you're mind on positive things

>>16855282
it's a small world, there's a chance you'll run into her again at some point

I have no idea what PSD is, but tell them to fuck off.

>>16855277
What are your grades like?

If they're shit, SPD is probably the excuse your parents are leaping to.

Why do they think you have SPD, and what on earth do basketball and your friends have to do with it?

>>16855275
I'd say it's more of a wake-up call.

>>16855275
it's both funny and fucked up. you should probably quit before it escalates to something that isn't funny and is just deadly.

>>16855273
If you have to ask, then yes.

>>16856221
perfectly said.

>>16855273

If you're attracted to the opposite sex, and they look and act like the opposite sex, then no of course it's not gay. Who gives a shit anyway, fuck whomever you want. Only insecure little babies get their panties in a wad over whether they're gay or not. Go, be free.

are you bi?

I've come to terms with who I am. I know what I can and cant do, but over the last two years it seems like an increasingly bigger subconscious part of me won't have that. It's started to emerge in every social situation I go into. It started off as me trying to act a certain way, to copy what I see other people doing to be succesfully social, to just be able to blend in and operate without tension in my job and daily life. But somewhere along the line, it's like my fake persona started taking a path of its own. I know too many people to keep track of now, I'm out all the fucking time partying, doing very drug under the sun, 'livin' it up'. But in every one of these situations its still like I'm just in the backseat, silently watching everythingunfold while that other me goes on autopilot, controlling and managing my social life for me without any effort on my part. I'm just a passenger in my body, watching out a window while the driver does what he wants. Up until now I've been too bored, cared too little about what goes on in my life to do anything but ride the wave.

Recently though, I've started to despise what the driver's become. He's riddled with narcisism, everything he(I) do or react to is ocused on me. Or not even so much that as, I'm focusing on how I'm going to react, what everything means to me, what I can get out of my current interaction, or jsut obsessing over how good I(he) has gotten at fooling everyone into thinking I'm a real person. When I lay down to sleep, I think of all the things I said and did to be socially acceptable and I fucking cringe, I want to cry and beat myself for what I've become. and it's at the point where I cant control it anymore. I'm fully aware of what's unfolding, what I'm becoming, but every time I open my mouth I'm powerless to control the spastic cringy fuckwit that relies on other people's reactions to satisfy my narcisism. Everything Ido is centered on trying to get people to notice me, but its not even me they're looking at. The only times I ever feel like I'm showing other people who I truly am is when I'm online.

I'm losing control. My emotions are slipping away from me, and the other me is getting bigger and louder every day. I've become the popular mega tool that I despised so much throughout my life.

What do I do next? Am I Cracking apart? Is this some type of schizophrenia or something? I'm desperate, I'm lost, I have no idea what I'm doing anymore. All those years of precise control and observation are going out the window. What comes next?

You are the awkward one. I have no idea how I'd reply to that either. Thumbs up emoji too, maybe? It's a pointless thing to say and it doesn't call for any obvious response.

>>16855210
You say you weren't flirting but it's pretty obvious by your substanceless message and emotional reaction that you expected some response from her indicating that she likes you. Be honest, do you really have a gf?

>>16855229
I have a gf I honestly I wasn't haha, I was pretty high and thought it would be funny seeing as the response was pretty blunt to this guy, felt bad for him even If he's done no work. Guess it just seemed weird haha my intention was to be funny, I don't want to get with this girl