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Started working in a local Emergency Department, and I just completed a few of my orientation shifts. Here is where my concern is. The job I do consists of two duties, desk (secretary work) and patient care. This requires 3/12 hour orientation shifts per duty. I've done the patient care orientation, but not the secretary orientation. They scheduled me for a regular shift that includes both duties, but I have yet to do the secretary training. The shift is tomorrow, and it has me on edge. The person who did my patient orientation said I will do fine, but it has me really concerned. The volatility of certain personalities in the work environment, and my lack of training for that facet of the job is going to make people think I am inept. What do?
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You should post this on some medical subreddit.

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I just started working this year.

I normally have this internal monologue running about things I see and read, but because my job needs things done on time without spending time on tangential thoughts, I've had to suppress it with some success.

However nowadays I feel like I exist mentally on a lower level. It's not easy to get back, the habit of thinking unconsciously about everything from various angles. If this continues I fear I will become dumber over time. Help.
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Read, study, excercise, eat veggies, apples, bananas, oranges, fish, fish oil, etc.
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>>16912787
You have a point I guess, I haven't had the time to exercise regularly and eat healthy

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I'm having conflict with a friend over a trip and I want to know if I'm in the wrong here...

Our buddy is having his bachelor party in Nashville later this year, and we live on the West Coast. Tickets aren't cheap. My friend is pretty frugal though, so we're looking for the cheapest way for us to fly out there, but it's on Labor Day weekend, so prices are through the roof.

He wants to fly into Atlanta, and then drive nearly 5 hours up to Nashville (and of course return). Due to the timing of the flights, this is going to require getting a hotel room in Atlanta, or taking a red eye flight. Plus an extra day of work. Then a car rental fee. Then gas. Not to mention the pain in the ass of getting up early or trying to stay up and alert after flying across the country, only to get into town to get piss drunk and party all night. Then, after a weekend of partying, nothing sounds worse than a 5 hour hungover drive back to the Atlanta airport to come back home.

This would save about $120.

Am I wrong for trying to tell him he should just nut up and spend the extra money to make this easier on us, or am I guilty of "not having a sense of adventure," as he's claiming?
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>>16912759
>This would save about $120.

If you're going to have to miss an extra day of work, it's going to cost you a lot more than $120.

Tell him you're not convinced the gymnastics of his plan are worth it, and you're going to go the other route because it's going to put you in a tough spot work-wise.
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You should spend the $120 on a hooker and waive goodbye as he drives back to Atlanta. At least you saved his marriage from the hooker, his soon-to-be would be pleased.
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>>16912780

Well, work is PTO, so I'd still be making money, that's just kind of an annoyance.

>>16912781
I'm not flying with the guy getting married, it's a friend and I going to his bachelor party.

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So I've got a relative, he's a old guy, 23 yo, never had a gf, doubt he ever even kissed anyone. He's 6'4, light skinned black guy. He's soft spoken, polite, and unfortunately slow. Legit borderline retard slow. He graduated HS. He works, takes care of himself, cooks for himself etc. so he's high functioning. He's a good looking guy, not fat, good shape.

Problem is he is a social dud. He is uncomfortable in social situations, super shy etc. I am considering hooking him up with an escort but I don't know if that is a good idea.

He wants to get married and have a family one day, but I don't think it's in the cards for him, sad to say. So, what I'm afraid of, if I introduce him to what he is missing, and he can never get it again, would I leave him worse off in the end than if he just didn't experience sex to begin with?
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most people will gain literally nothing from having sex with an escort.

sex is all about the connection you have with the person you're sleeping with, you cant just skip that and expect to gain the same thing.
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>>16912751
This. Leave him alone anon, don't meddle. You'll probably mess him up even more.
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Has he actually asked for your help in this matter?

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What's up /adv/! So I'm a senior in high school, and there is this girl who I want to talk to. The thing is she doesn't know I exist. I don't have her for a class, nor have I ever had a class with her even though she went to my middle school too (granted this is my first year at this high school). I rarely ever see her. I joke around with my friends saying she's like a rare Pokemon because I only see her like once a week, maybe twice a week if I'm lucky. She's really beautiful, I think she's an 8, with blue eyes (I think blue eyes are the most beautiful thing a girl can have).

So anyways, I don't know what I should do. I started thinking about her when I saw her at the gym, she looked really pretty. But I don't think she goes anymore because I don't see her there anymore. I don't have her for a class and I had to ask my friend for his yearbook so I can see what her name was, and show my friends to see if they know her. Some of them say they have her for a class but they don't really know her. They say she's really shy, which I would assume is a good thing for me right? I'm a pretty shy guy, but I don't think I'm as shy as I used to be. I used to be extremely nervous, now it's not as bad, but I still do have it.
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Just a little background on me, I'm a senior in high school. I'm 0 for 8 with girls in my high school career lmao, my freshman year I messed up because of my shyness. My sophomore year I messed up because the girl had a boyfriend. Then from Junior year to now, I've just been straight up curved. Just no interest at all. I've been single for all of high school, but don't get the impression that I'm horrible with girls. My sophomore year, I had a thing with a girl who was really pretty, but we agreed to mutually end our thing with her because I just wasn't feeling her and she knew it. A few months ago, this girl dm'd me through ig, but she went to a different school, and being an athlete who's gonna play in college, I don't have time for long distance. Also, there was this girl who was really beautiful who said she used to like me my freshman year, I was like "damn why didn't you tell me back then?" Lmao but yeah I'm defanitly not your "ladies man".

I've been thinking of just going up to her and asking for her number (I think I know where she hangs out because of the direction I saw her walk one time), but I tried that a couple weeks ago and the girl said no. It's pretty weird too if you think about it: you're just walking and a guy you don't know at all comes up to you and asks to get your number. Id imagine it being pretty awkward. I've also thought of trying to find her IG and dm her there, but I say no for two reason: I don't know her @ name and because I feel like a lot of people my age rely on social media and technology for this type of stuff too much, and it's not a thing I want my generation to continue with. Of course, if that's the last resort, I'll do it, I just prefer not to do it. I really have 0 clue on what I should do, I've come to /adv/ for help lmao.

If you guys want a pic of me, I'll show you. I might be ugly, & maybe that's why people don't want me, but only if u guys request it, because Id be embarrassed as hell if anyone from my school saw this
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PS This is my first ever 4chan post! Thanks for the help, guys.
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>>16912758

>first ever 4chan post!
That's obvious. I'll be honest, I didn't read any of that. However, here's my advice: just do it, anon. If she shuts you down, you're a senior in high school. Why should you give a fuck? You have nothing to lose. As far as ugliness goes, if you dress well no one will notice. Check out /fa/.

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What's the best way to get rid of a phobia?
I've heard there's a lot of treatments, I'd prefer one that doesn't involve drugs.

As thanks, I will tell you guys what I'm scared of. Might make you have a bit of a giggle.
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Depends on what you're afraid of, but always boils down to facing your fear.
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Expose yourself to your fear in a controlled and safe way, starting very basic and slowly increasing the intensity as you can tolerate it.

Find someone with a pet tarantula or go to a pet store that has spiders. Sit and do something in the same room with the spider, as close as you can handle it. Do not touch it, don't interact with it, simply keep yourself in its presence. You want to be mildly uncomfortable but not severely so, and allow yourself to become comfortable.

Once you've reached a level of comfort in the same room, ease yourself closer. Once you're okay with that, try holding the box. once you're okay with that, try being near a spider that isn't contained (such as sitting in a web). Then try being near a moving spider, then try brief contact, then try prolonged contact, etc.

The point is you was to train yourself to realize that a situation that you fear is actually safe.

It's a balance. You want to go slowly enough that you don't make yourself panic, but you want to have yourself not entirely comfortable with the situation when you start. Slowly push the edge of your comfort zone.

While you're in that uncomfortable state, practice things like breathing to help reduce anxiety levels. Slow, deep breaths, with the exhale longer than the inhale, are relaxing and calm your systems. Fast breaths and breaths with inhale longer activate fight-or-flight systems. If you catch yourself starting to hyperventilate, stop it with a deep breath and sigh, then start breathing over again.

If you find yourself start to panic, remove yourself from the situation. The point is to be slow and calm and establish safety. It's okay if you can't strike the balance, especially the first time. Just change the situation and try again.
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>>16912945

Shit, the beginning of my explanation got deleted. I was using spiders as an example.

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Dear Mr. 4chan

I come to you seeking inspiration and/or assistance.

Here's the story:
Talk to this guy 3 years ago. Becomes an aquintance of mine and my ex (I was first). Gradually friends up with her. Info: open relationship. They hang out, text and shit. She assures me they won't fuck. Fast

forward some weeks: I find out they fucked. Since they're friends, she invites him to her bday party. He doesn't know that I know they fucked. I ask him if there was anything going on. He negates.
I tell him I know and that I have a problem with him. He claims to not understand why.

Some months ago, same cocksucker messages my new gf. Open relationship again. He either doesn't know she's my gf or he's doing it on purpose. I inform him and make it clear he should stay away. He

understands, telling her I've marked my territory.
Last week, he messages her again on another website, asking for a meeting (to fuck). She tells him she has to ask me first and then tells him I have a problem with him. He responds saying he doesn't know why

I have a problem with him.

End of story.
Since she already answered, I couldn't troll him or do anything. But! I do have his facebook name (real name) and his profile on two other websites + his personal photography page.
Can you do something to fuck up his shit, Mr. 4chan?
I don't want to arrange a meeting between him and a baseball bat for example, because then he'd probably sue and ultimately win. So I want to have something happening that doesn't lead back to me.
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>>16912691
That shotgun is like a really hot woman. Looks great, terrible to spend any actual time with.
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>>16912691
>open relationship
so what's the problem?

if you dont want your gf cucking you, then dont have open relationships
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It's not the point that he has fucked her. That's ok. The point is him being a fucking liar and him now being purposefully ignoring to stay the fuck away.

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How would a white 18 yo male seduce an elderly woman? I have an old lady fetish
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Dude halo reach was probly my favorite halo, after halo 3
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>>16912659
What is attractive about old people?
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>>16912803
no halo will ever come close to halo 3 sadly, halo reach was refreshing though

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I'm trying to quit pornography and I haven't masturbated in 25 days. I honestly don't believe in all the nofap bullshit, but I thought it was worth a try. So far nothing changed.

Tonight I looked at some porn and got really horny. I just want to fap now. How do I stop myself?
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By not touching your penis, ever.
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>>16912651
why do so many people think they have a porn problem? how many times a day did you used to look at porn?
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>>16912651
By getting a girlfriend.

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Someone help me pls
>angry at qt 3.(14) gf for going afk for a long time
>she was watching a movie with sis, didn't tell me she was going to after her shower
>wait for a long time until she comes back happy n stuff
>ignore her messages trying to talk to me asking if im angry
>feel like a monster for being angry
i love her so much
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Tell her you fell asleep or whatever
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>>16912633
i'm pissed off and i want to tell her but i hate getting angry at her
i was thinking about saying that too but it just doesn't feel right with me
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>>16912628
>>16912633
>>16912643

I have to bring a notebook to college everyday.

The desk we have are very small, so there's only room for the notebook itself.

I hate touchpads. Is there any alternatives other than a mouse?

I can't have a mouse because the desk has no space for it.
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Older Lenovo's have a little red clit, there's also touch screens.
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If you're desperate you could get a graphics tablet and just use it on your lap? Bit of a pricey solution if you have no other use for the tab though.
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just buy a couch mouse and use it on your leg

not perfect but still a million times better than touch pad

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How would you spice up this conversation?
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Want to see my wand

please respond
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>>16912625
JK patronums are gay, I'm a seventh level evoker.

You fell for my ruse and revealed your identity as an opposed summoner. Prepare to be fireballed.

I cast Fireball.
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Say that's lame, gay, whatever.

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ITT: We drop some hard, solid sifu-like wisdom and hope the weaboos learn something.

I'll go first: Life is not full of disappointment, you are.
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>sifu

Found the weaboo try-hard hipster.
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>>16912638
>Found the guy who doesn't appreciate irony
Did i offend your weabooness?
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>>16912667

Surprisesurprise, someone who doesn't know the definition of irony.

It isn't irony when it's true, Buck.

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I'm wondering if I am hot because I have a crush on a dude at my school (yes, I'm bi, get over it) and I wanna know if he's possibly down to smash?
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>>16912606
Hey Shia
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please I just wanna know if anyone gonna tap my faggot ass
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>>16912606
Young Shia laboob

Is it really that bad to want to murder?

I recently was told that when you confide in a therapist and say "Yes, I have thought about murder before" they are required to report you, at least in name only, to the police as a potential threat.

Not that I have plans or methods but there are those people you work with, or live with, or just know of that it might be a pleasing thought to see them dead?

Am I normal or not?
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>>16912574
>Am I normal or not?
I'd say yes, so long as you don't think about acting on it. I myself have had thoughts like those when it came to certain people, but so long as you keep it to yourself, and don't act on it/break laws, then I'd say you're quite normal.

Being frustrated/angry at someone you don't particularly like is a normal responce to stimuli and thinking about them out of the way permanently is a way to vent your frustrations, and again, is normal so long as you have no plans on actually doing it.

Does this help?
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>>16912574
There is no normal.
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>>16912574
>I recently was told that when you confide in a therapist and say "Yes, I have thought about murder before" they are required to report you, at least in name only, to the police as a potential threat.

If you live in the US this is total bullshit.

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