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>>16911356
LOL

>>16911356
You are competing but not in a bad way. Hes just made a friend. You realize that you are losing in interest to a female gamer online. You arent competing for him per se, just his time.
Hes not going to dump you for her. In game items are things you buy for your friends.
Hes not falling in love with her or anything. You are just jealous he found a good female friend. Id be more of a problem if it werent online since youd have to worry about what they do alone and if its really just friendship.

>>16911366
She works in the town we live in... I don't play the game he does, so I don't get all their conversations but I do see some over his shoulder and they seem to chat ALOT considering its an action oriented game.

he also constantly watches the shows she sends him, they're like, these political shows, ones that make me think she might either be completely insane, or shes actually a dude, who is insane

>>16911336 i had a guy fall in love with me like that too (I'm very religious). I really regret making him like me. (though he started to like me first).

To answer your question. Why don't you go to college? Or get a part time job? Promise your parents that you'll make an effort and go to therapy and take your meds on time

>get treatment
>get well
>get a job

Alternatively;
>apply for disability
>get paiddddd

>>16911327 demon like anti-christ stuff? Did you sell The soul?

>>16911346
you could say that.

>>16911327
how does one become a demon?

Don't change anything about yourself.
Change the people you hang out with.

>>16911403

that is hard. And what if I'm the problem

I feel you. My mom is a therapist, mostly for people with eating disorders. She eats (good tasting) food with them all the time, in sessions. Eating disorder is usually result of childhood shittiness, so they talk about those things and try to build mental structure to them as I understand. She works with dietician as well. I think she really does help people.

Life is extraordinarily difficult... I'm really depressed today too. Going to take a swing at it though, somehow. Maybe write another letter to anon, go sit in the trees, earn $10, listen to music, I'll find out.

Produce is easy street bud, you're mostly dealing with old people and people who slightly care about their appearance.

Just relax, its all good.

>>16911294
Well, i'm only closing produce the last hour of my shift when the store is closed. It's the process of closing it which gives me anxiety because it's pretty lengthy with lots of specific steps. Like, we have to move certain veg to certain boxes, some get water, some get ice, etc. I try to follow the list but it gets over whelming. Especially since they left me alone last time.
I just don't want to be slow and have to make everyone else stay longer and help :(

If anxiety before work irritates you you have two ways. Either you try to be preoccupied with something else before work so you forget about work. Running in the morning maybe? The trick is of course not to flee from the emotions, but for a short time forget about the thing that triggers them. Or be prepared for what work throws at you, but as you said that takes time to achieve.

>>16911278
Just be nice to people. Say hi when you see them in passing, ask what's up, talk to them if they come to talk to you. Don't hole up in your room. You don't have to be bugging them all the time, but make an effort to check in and see everyone. If you get invited to hang out or do something, GO. Do not make an excuse. You learn only by doing.

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>>16911278
Dont worry slut you'll be fine 20 is not that old. Just remember to pic related and never get nervous around a girl and always hug them instead of shaking their hand, they are not dudes.

>>16911278
you still have a whole college ahead of you

im in similiar situation as you just got thru 1 semester of my uni,and trying to find new circles

>>16911253
>6 years
>college

Okay, so she's had a kiddie relationship and is realizing she doesn't care about it anymore because no one gives a damn about the person they dated when they were 14.

However, she IS going behind her boyfriend's back. I doubt you'd be happy if you found out she was going to lunch with and texting a dude all the time. So just realize if you go for this chick, she has no problem going behind her partner's back, and will likely do that to you down the road when a better option shows up.

If you're cool with that thought, go ahead and make a move on her. Don't wait for her to do it. You ask her out on a date.

>>16911269
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>>16911269

They started dating when she was 18 and now live together. They are engaged.

How can I ask her on a date if they live together. The only time I have with her is either at school or when her man is at work.

We've been keeping it platonic and formal but we've been flirting a lot more lately and recently broken the touch barrier. No hugs but light shoving. I can see it in her that I make her feel good. If she's in a shitty mood, by the end of out interaction shes as vibrant as I've ever seen her.

>people that got fucked up by romance
to me it sound more like you haven been fucked up long before you started your first "reltionship". you should have done some maturing before commiting.have you ever been to therapy? it seems like you have some SERIOUS intimacy issues. if not, strongly consider giving it a try. it might be a wise move to wait with getting into a new realtionship untill you get your shit together.

>>16911238
Appreciate the reply but you have me pegged wrong.

Was I fucked up before the relationship? Yeah. I was raped by my dad when I was 8.

However I never cheated until the last year of the marriage when I was finally done with it and wanted a divorce.

I tried marriage counseling with her and she couldn't seem to keep her legs together or her hands out of my wallet. Not to mention that she got addicted to drugs.

Did I mention I was a pastor before all of this?

Did I mention I've been divorced for the last 4 years and have grown accustomed to the single lifestyle?

I've followed what society thinks is expected of a good husband to the letter.

What I'm asking is, how do you come back from that?

How does one "get their shit together"?

And are there other people that despite their best efforts that have had their idea of what love should be completely crushed?

>>16911272
>I was raped by my dad when I was 8.
> finally done
>have grown accustomed to the single lifestyle?
>I've followed what society thinks is expected of a good husband

Case closed. You see anon, i knew from your op that you got molested or had an abusive/neglecting/addicted parent.
you DO have intimacy issues. the fact that you where "finally done" with your marraige indicated that it wasn't a pleasant experience which also adds to me believing that this wasn't going to work out in the first place. sure, it wasn't only YOUR fault, i'm not saying it was! But you have choosen the wrong girl to even begin with, which also indicated an inability to have a healthy realtionship.
growing accustomed to the single lifestyle does NOT equal "maturing" in any way you turn it. not even close OP...
What society thinks is "expected" of a "good" husband might not be what works in YOUR relationship, let alonre the fact that you did those things because they where "expected" instead of doing them because you wanted to.

>How does one "get their shit together"?
acknoledge that you have not a single clue about how relationships work. then you start to learn the basics of how humans work, how relationships work, how personal development works and so on. then you slowly start to incorporate this knowledge into your life, testing what works for you and what doesn't. it's trial and error and it's something you should have been doing as a kid/teen with the guidance of your parents. you aren't to blame that you haven't had this help. your parents are. but blaming isn't going to help you in any way. just know where it comes from so you can try to do some damage controle.

If it's so bad that he's considering suicide, he should really seek professional help. What you can do is supporting him so he feels himself valued and appreciated. Why is he depressed?

What are you doing dating a 17 year old? Are you the same age?

He's stressed about a lot of things but I'm not sure what triggered it.
We're about to be the same age in a month

Dump the old cunt and upgrade to a younger one.

Nope.
You were a literal whore, some guys just can't deal with that. Some will say they can, just so they can use you since they see you as worthless, and then drop you. But you can't change their minds either, all you do is move on.

My advice though, is to learn to lie. Absolutely no one will know if you do. It's the only way you'll ever find love and not die alone since you can't back decisions you've already made.

>>16911151
Why would you want that shit to go unnoticed? Call the bank ask what the fuck happened if they don't know, ask the card company. Sort that shit out don't be a cuck with your money.

>>16911170

My bank account is fine, only one ammount was withdrawn from my account.

Something must have happened on the credit cards end, the ammounts are the same save .33 cents.

My only worry is that they will find out later and just randomly take the ammount from my account.

>>16911185
So call them and find out, if you get it sorted out now you can have a say in what they do. If you do it later, they can do whatever they want and just tell you about it later.

I sometimes wonder how many guys like OP end up with an STD on the night they lose their virginity.

>>16911150
Fucking deal with it you pussy. You're 19. People have been fucking lived longer and not done it.

Sex is great, but there's more to life than sex. This kind of behavior is what gets you fucked up with STDs and depression.

Find a fun, cute girl with similar interests. Hell, find more than one. After getting to know them a bit, ask if they wanna bang. If not then ask the next one down the list.

Your behavior is what the media does to us...

>I have 0 motivation to do anything except try to get laid,
Guys like this don't get laid. You don't even have the motivation to be the kind of hunk that pulls pussy left and right.

She's probably fucking other guys and feels guilty you haven't moved on yet.

>>16911156
I don't feel like that's the case. She knows I'm dating and seeing women, she's specifically curious about the sex aspect. I mean, surely she must think I have, its like she needs confirmation that i have.

>>16911149

My friend, the absolute best thing to do is to move the fuck on. Being in a situation like that will do nothing but drive you crazy. She is either still not over you and wants to know what you are doing, which is not her concern anymore as she obviously didn't care dipping out. Or, she is doing it to simply fuck with your head like some of the women in the world like to do. And I mean it will fuck with your head and heart eventually. Move on to better things, now these things wont always come right away, the way you hoped or want them too, and they wont always be good. But you can bet your ass you have learned at least one good and one bad thing from being with her, take those things with you on your life journey and if your smart you wont repeat the past.