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So I'm on Tinder looking for dates, right? Not sex. Just dates and female friends, that I can take out for coffee and shit. You know, sappy romantic stuff like that.
I get a match with a relatively hot girl that I would love to hang out with, given the opportunity. A few hangups I have though.
One, she's 25. I'm 22, and that's not a HUGE difference, but she's probably graduated college and into her career. I'm still having college experiences and having fun in that regard.
Two, she sent me the first message and said that she'd only be in town for two weeks and that if I wanted to hang out, I should text her. She gave me her number. Is it worth it to hang out for two weeks and then perhaps never see her again? Like I mentioned, I'm not looking for a hookup.
And three, I'm fucking nervous because a qt grill just contacted ME. What the fuck do I do now.
Thanks in advance.
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>>16913581
>So I'm on Tinder looking for dates, right? Not sex. Just dates and female friends
You're going to find some crappy friends and dates
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>>16913581
Go with it you goose what the fuck do you have to lose apart from your virginity.
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Do it. Those could be the best two weeks of your life.
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How do I become better at admitting or accepting when I'm wrong about something and apologizing for being a douche canoe about it?
Also how do I get better at just being more chill and not giving as much of a fuck about things or getting angry/upset about them?
These are 2 things I really hate about myself and want to change. I'm 100% sure that it's probably because I'm really insecure and have self esteem issues. The only thing that's ever worked for me was either pot or alcohol, but I'd like to figure out how to do it without being high or drunk all the time.
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I think that I used to be in a similar situation. I don't know the specifics of what you're going through but what worked for me, oddly enough, was, in a way, being less confident. I used to be really insecure so I over compensated and boldly took positions and stuck with them. I found that when I really passionately took a position on something I found it really embarrassing to change my mind. The trick is to still have opinions but always try to present them as your best understanding based on what you currently know. if it's an actual argument where you don't want to seem abrasive, always end your points by asking the other person what they think or ask them to explain there point of view. the more you can de-escalate a conversation from an argument to a discussion the easier it is to change your mind. the reason being is your not admitting defeat or losing to the other person, but coming to a solution together
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Is it better to try to work on your problems, or accept the fact that you are a loser generate creep?
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>>16913548
Accept the fact that you are whatever a bunch of random faggots told you that you were?
Obviously the better course of action is to work on yourself. If you are willing to change and taking action, then you will change, for better or for worse.
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>>16913561
I am willing to change, but what if I mess up in the meantime ? That will positively ruin my life.
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>>16913574
If you fuck up you get back up and learn from your mistakes, knowing a bit more about how to do better next time. Life is a learning experience, if you're afraid of failures or blow each one out of proportion instead of treating them like necessary stepping stones then you're not getting anywhere.
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Alright /k/, so I'm going to enlist next week. This is the conclusion of multiple months of trying to enlist (originally was going navy nuke, wanted to use welding experience.) However I failed hearing test at meps, doc assured I would get waiver. Was kicked out of Navy office minutes later. Tried army later, waiver denied. What I didn't know was that tons of kids failed their hearing test that day, and that the waiver authority wasn't accepting waivers of any kind.
So my recruiter came back a couple of weeks ago and says I can get a hearing consultant, pass test with only two numbers being high, but still passing. Wasn't accepted but I still fucking passed the test at meps, even better (wore plugs, work in a shop.) Even then, the waiver authority kept me dq'd and made me take a hearing waiver.
So the question is, can I do anything about it, and if not, what jobs would I qualify for? I qualified for all jobs through asvab.
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why are they lighting the oil on fire?
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>>16913554
It looks cool? I'm just assuming they wanted to burn all that excess shit so it didn't just pollute the ground.
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Hey, /adv/ I've never posted here before but I'm pretty down and do know who to talk to about all of this.
Last Friday my girlfriend of four years asked if we could open up our relationship. We're both very open about sexual partners and neither of us agree with monogamy so I was ok with it. Well, there's a girl that I've been talking to for the past few weeks that I've really been into. She's constantly on my mind and we talk all the time. Sometime I think she's really into me as well but at others times I feel like I bother her more than anything, but she insists that I dont. She was the first person I told that my relationship became open and she seemed to show interest of the idea of fucking. Well yesterday we were talking and I brought up that I'm into her and all that shit and she said I was "freaking her out and making her uncomfortable because I have a girlfriend." This didn't bother her a few days ago and I don't know if she's just using that as an excuse for not liking me or if that's really the reason. I asked her why it bothered her all of a sudden and she responded with "I don't know, I don't want to talk about this." So, I dropped it.
Is she into me or not? Is she just afraid of her feelings getting out of hand and not being able to have me because I'm in a relationship or have I majorly been freaking this girl out for the past week?
Tldr: in an open relationship, talk to new chick, down to fuck, decides the fact that I have a go freaks her out. Is she into me or not? Should I just stop talking to her?
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Open relationships are gross and creepy cuck senpai.
Yes stop talking to women.
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>She's constantly on my mind and we talk all the time.
openrelationshipfag here. You are wandering into dangerous territory.
I can tell you for a fact that if you don't set the emotional and physical boundaries right now you are dooming your relationship.
If merely having sex with other people is what you've agreed to then you need to cut this emotionally obsessive shit out right now, if she wants to fuck cool, if not, cool.
You have a girlfriend. The only person's feelings you should put first is your girlfriend. You're looking for a NO STRINGS ATTACHED fuck here, not another relationship.
As soon as you start falling for someone else the entire point of the open relationship has failed and you know as well as I do that your concern for this girl is crossing a boundary that your girlfriend probably wouldn't be comfortable with.
Whether she's into you or not is not the issue because you seemed to have not established the fact that whether you have sex with this girl or not it can't go any farther than sex if you are to maintain your relationship with your current girlfriend.
Figure your shit out dude, because you're blurring the lines a bit and its not cool. As soon as shit gets complicated with you and a potential sex partner you bail because you owe it to your girlfriend to keep your extracurricular activities completely separate from your primary relationship. You owe that to her, and if you really give a shit about whether this girl is into you then you need to leave your girlfriend and try something else out.
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I'm having a psychotic episode right now and I have a final tomorrow. I can't see my psychiatrist until Wednesday, and studying for the final is futile because I lose my train of thought every few seconds and I can't grasp the semantic meaning of text, so I have to read a paragraph at least 3 times before I can understand it.
Is there any way that I could postpone the final if I have a note from my psychiatrist or some shit like that? I already emailed my professor and asked him nicely for an extension, but unless I can find some other way to postpone the final I'm fucked
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>>16913495
definitely try to get a note from your shrink
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Fuck it up and build again
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I'm a 27 y/o emergency physician(male) that has the next 10 days off work.
I got home today and the first thing I did was clear out my whole apartment and literally chucked out all the shit accumulating in my apartment. It felt great, but very straight edge.
I feel like fucking up my whole worldview, learn new shit and unlearn a bunch of old shit. I want to fuck up all my paradigms and perspectives - and rebuild it again.
So, how to deconstruct and rebuild in 10 days?
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Aw man do I what I missed the chance to do with that time off and take a road trip.
I got like 8 or 9 days off through a freak quitting old job/getting new job delay and got my car all tuned up for it. Then I get a call from my parents who needed me somewhere right in the middle of it.
I live in CA but I would've taken a trip through portland to seattle with my brother. We had a bunch planned out so I'm still waiting for another chance to try it.
Look for music festivals and other stuff too.
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Guys, any advice on what to do in Deep Web? 2016-03-14 03:18:08 Post No.16913476
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Guys, any advice on what to do in Deep Web?
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Well, I'm just a newbie here, and you might think that I'm one of what you call 'Normies,' and shout 'REEEEEE' at me. But aside from that, I want to try visit The Deep Web, I might as well download TOR. But do you have any tips on what to do and not to do?
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Just search for the Hidden Wiki. The Tor browser has a custom search on it's own sites, and the Hidden Wiki has a pretty large list of some "interesting" sites. Just don't do anything, only click around.
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>>16913476
>Just don't do anything, only click around.
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>>16913476
TOR is not a place you just go to hangout. its not 4chan, its not youtube, its not newgrounds. its not a place where we people post a wide variety of shit to keep you entertained, because they have no reason to.
TOR is amazon. its craigslist. its a place you go when you are looking for something specific. oyu go in to get what you are looking for, then you get out, cuz there is no reason to hang out.
what are you looking for?
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Hey /adv/, first time posting here.
I could use some career advice. Is design/engineering technology (drafting & design) a limiting career? Is there opportunity for advancement? I'm worried that I'll be stuck making under $60K/year.
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>I'm worried that I'll be stuck making under $60K/year.
Do what you love, the money isn't important if its something you're passionate about. When you do what you love your passion shows through your work and thats more valuable to any company than even the most educated and qualified of people.
Don't turn 60, living the last decade or two of your life and realize you spent your life doing some boring shit you didn't want to do just because you wanted the extra cash.
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That was inspiring anon, thank you.
What I want to do is build and race cars. But unfortunately that takes a lot of money.
Wanna text my ex. I miss him, it's been almost 2 months. We were both stressed and argue a lot, but we never (to my knowledge) cheated or whatever. He said he loved me. Had instances where he gave me silent treatment cuz he said he hated the stress of arguments and me being moody (wasnt in good place atm) and needed space.. he wasn't perfect either. Anway this time the "were done because its enough" actually turned out to be real. Said he'd get back to me/we'd talk when I saw him in person at a bar 2 weeks later, never happened. I stopped sending pathetic texts and sent a last "alright whatever fuck you and have a nice life" message. Fast forward he saw me at a bar with another guy the other day, and a mutual buddy of ours said "yeah he was bothered by it". I was kinda happy but bummed mostly. I'm in a better place mentally and want to try things again. Should I try texting him and risk being pathetic and clingy still, or just forget it? I didn't even care for the guy I showed up with, AND the mutual buddy ended up hitting on me when he was away from my ex. Shitty.
tl;dr was in bad place am better now and want to communicate with ex despite him going no contact. Please, guys. I still feel empty and lonely and despite reaching out to old friends/new people it's not helping.
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>hey... it me again. Bumping this thread...
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Is it possible to move on from a relationship too quick? In early February my girlfriend decided she didn't want to be in a relationship after three years, after 4 months of me trying to fix us. I cut contact completely a few weeks ago, but since I'm still young and don't want to become a sperg I'm trying to learn how to actually date people and talk to girls, but in the back of my mind I feel like I may be moving on too fast. I've been trying to justify it with the fact that the past 4 months couldn't even really be called a relationship with the way things went so I technically had all that time to recover while it simultaneously sunk.
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4 months is still incredibly early mate, I broke up with my lady in October and still have some lingering feelings. They say that it tends to take about half the time of your relationship to fully get over someone, so you're looking at around a year and some before you may stop thinking about her.
but to answer you question, yes I would think 4 months is still quite early.
Any students/former students here?
What are some time management tips you would give to others?
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Always plan your work hours for the year (from 6 to 8 on Monday... )
Every Sunday make your precise plans for the week (economics on Monday...)
Always write your time table with your work and leisure hours and pin it somewhere in your room/flat
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Treat school like it was a 9-5 job.
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Don't own a cell phone.
Don't have friends or a girlfriend.
Don't have a life.
I was a 4.0 student in high school. Then before I went to college I got a phone, friends, a girlfriend, etc. now I'm 24 years old and still in community college because I can't pass my classes. And my GPA is fucked so no university for me!
I'm bored
I'm a 25 year old male, middle class worker. I have a pretty set routine during the work week. And honestly I'm just really bored. Typically I work 2pm-10pm, get off work, go home work out (every 2 days) at home, then shower, make some food and watch political news for a few hours Until I go to sleep. I enjoy watching politics, especially this campaign season. But I'm just bored. Other than following politics, the only other hobby I have is shooting guns. But I can really only do that once a month. I just don't really feel like I have a purpose right now, or a reason to live.
Suggestions?
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>>16913398
Do a sport,learn a something you always wanted to do,if you are REALLY desperate read the bible.
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>>16913475
I'm going to take a class to learn Italian, but that won't start until the end of May
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>>16913489
Well, try reading a book or meeting new people.
So I'm a 17 year old male looking to start going to the gym. I don't want to go with my dad, and I don't have any brothers to go with, so how do I find someone to ask, and ask them if they want to start going to the gym with me?
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>>16913383
Ask your friends?
I started going with my friend, and he was a good help. After a while, I started going by myself.
Usually, there are always total douchebags at the gym. Although, there are a lot of nice people that are willing to help you. I'll ask a guy if he could critique my posture while dead lifting. I got my posture down on just about everything just by asking people. I go by myself most of the time, and it's a great feeling.
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>>16913383
Get the fuck outta here you underageb& shitcan.
Go by yourself you literal baby.
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Ok so here's the thing.
There's this two girls that I met at a friend's party, they are always together.
Both are cute but I have a thing for girl A.
But girl B tried hitting on me quite heavily.
Should I actually play along with girl B to make girl A jealous or just make my move with A?
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>>16913382
>Threesome
>Done.
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>>16913382
Make your move with A, don't be a prick by making others jealous.
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>>16913382
Girl A will only get jealous if she's interested, and if she's interested you don't need to make her jealous.
So just go after her directly.