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I'm sorry, I don't have anyone to turn to and I really don't have real friends so I'm just going to let's it out here. But basically my boyfriend won't let me have any friends. He's too insecure and suspicious to let me hang out with anyone (mainly other guys). If I could I'd leave now but I have invested so much time into this relationship that it would set me back years.
I'm just so mad that I didn't see any warning signs that he wouldn't let me talk to any of my male friends when we first started dating. I dropped everyone because I didn't want him feeling like shit even though I wasn't doing anything sketchy. I caught him over and over speaking to other girls and having lewd conversations with them only for him to claim to do it only because I put him through emotional pain because I have a lot of male friends. I let this dude walk all over me and now I'm paying for it. He gets upset when I get anxious when he talks to other girls. But I told him that if he doesn't hide that he's talking to them from me that I would feel way better over it. Yet he keeps hiding it from me. He's now talking to some new girl named Eva and he hid that from me. I know he's going to blame it on me because I recently became friends with someone from work who infact is closet gay. It's hard for me to connect with most girls but I'm trying my best. I'm just an idiot and I deserve this stress.
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You're not an idiot and he's exhibiting classic controlling and isolating behavior.
Honestly, you should probably just leave him. He sounds manipulative and potentially abusive. I'm getting major red flags even with this little bit.
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>>18610071
just dump him. this is basic shit.
>but I have invested so much time into this relationship that it would set me back years.
you'll recover faster than you think. get out of the relationship now before this guy gets worse.
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I would but I have no family in this state and can't go back. I work a shitty dead end job making only $9 an hour so I first have to find a few people to room with that aren't too sketchy.
Our relationship has no romance and it does feel very forced at this point, it's just a major shit show.
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lemme ask u fellas somethin:
how far would you travel for some pussy?
im considering driving 2hrs to see this girl i matched on Tinder, and theres no guarantee of sex. what do yall think?
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With guarantee, and assuming very hot, a few hours. No guarantee, almost no distance
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I am having guaranteed sex with my ex to whom I lied about us getting back together. I travel 16hrs to fuck her every 15 days
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>>18610043
No guarantee? Can you travel to her safely, on a good day, and without risk of losing money? If so, it's not the worst thing ever. I've seen dudes date chicks 1,000 miles away and eventually get together. As long as you have the resources then why not?
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i'm a piece of shit that deserves nothing but pain 2017-08-11 03:50:33 Post No.18610042
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i'm a piece of shit that deserves nothing but pain
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i got called for an interview and got asked a few basic questions like do you have high school diploma and drivers license but then the lady asked if i have the probatory license which i do so for now i can't get the job which is fine since i wasn't really interested in that one in particular and I'm pretty sure i'm gonna get called for another one very soon but when i got home i told my dad that it was his fault for not signing me up in driving ed earlier. now i feel like fucking shit. not only did i act like a spoiled entitled brat but i possibly hurt my dad's feeling even though he is working his ass off so that we can live comfortably under a roof and over what? A job that pays barely more than the one i have right now and would require me to drive 40 minutes to get there? I am a piece of shit, i don't deserve to have parents like that who actually care about me and love me. there's so many other instances of me acting like that honestly. How do I fix myself, /adv/.
>Do not hesitate to be rude and insulting towards me, i deserve everything for being the idiot i am.
>pic somewhat related
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Just tell your dad your sorry Retard he will understand or murder you , So yeah
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>>18610051
that'd be the logical thing to do but for some reason i find it hard to apologize to members of my family. i'm a douchebag i know
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>>18610059
Just apologize it's not hard
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I'm feeling pretty fucked up these days and I'm not sure what I'm going to do if my plans keep crumbling around me. I'm feeling like ditching all of my possessions and walking out of my own life as in becoming a vagrant.
>Started side work to become a full fledged financial advisor but failing miserably due to no marketing experience
>Partner who was going to help me quit yesterday leaving my chances for success diminished
>Had to quit full-time job a month ago because my employer demoted me when I blew the whistle on them
>Too traumatized by previous experiences to do anything by temporary work and odd jobs
>Bills and debt piling up day by day because I don't have regular flow of income
>Helped put my dad's business on the fast track for success but he hasn't paid me or even thanked me for it
>Car slowly failing and got pulled over because I can't afford to keep registration, maintenance, and sticker in order
>Admitted feelings to friend subtly after we spent the weekend together and she hasn't acknowledged me since
>Fucked up sleeping pattern that makes me sleep from 7pm till 2am and then slip back to sleep until 12pm
>Constant headaches and hands are always so damn cold even on a summer day
>Hardly any of my actual good friends talk to or visit me
>Can't even enjoy vidya like I use to
Can I just catch a break or something?
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What do I need to do to get into an ivy league school? 2017-08-11 03:32:52 Post No.18609987
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I'm 19 years old. Graduated from high school last year. Since graduation I've started up my own blue collar business. Alright so here's the deal, lately I've been considering trying to get into an ivy league school later down the road and I'm unsure if there is any possibility of being accepted. In high school I skipped and didn't do well my freshman and sophomore year and then I switched to an alternative school for the last two years and made good grades. I never took the SAT. Then I took two business classes just because we were able to get a ton of financial aid so I figured why not since it might help with starting a business but I didn't participate in the assignments and I failed the classes. Now I'm building up my business and making decent money and have not gone back to school since. I want to save up for a couple years and fund myself going to an ivy league school to get a degree in some sort of STEM field. Is there any way I would ever be admitted and if so, what are the steps I need to take to get there?
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Ivy league schools only accept the top of the top of high school graduates. Almost all of their students have unweighted GPAs above a 3.8 or something like that, and if you didn't do well your freshman and sophomore year, you basically have no chance of getting into any of them.
Just go to the local university, you'll be saving money on applications (each application is like 75 bucks per Ivy league school) and tuition. You can do a lot with a STEM degree from a local university.
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>>18609987
your chances are very slim, and thats just in general not just for you. it heavily depends on your GPA grades etc and I would say its highly crusial you take the SATs, that's how they determine how smart you actually are bc grades and GPA arent enough. it will look good that you have a business and outside work.
Like the other guy said you dont have great odds. Best bet is to go to a school that wont milk every penny out of you, and then possibly if u wanted to try apply for graduate school at an ivy. good luck man
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>>18609987
I'm an athletic recruit at one of the top Ivies. Unless you're recruited, have a parent or sibling in the faculty, or are famous I wouldn't get your hopes up. Once you get through those three groups, there aren't many spots left even for legacies, let alone normal people. It's still worth applying, but if you can do well at another solid uni, then you'll do be in basically the same spot as if you went Ivy.
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Me and my dad are having some weed brownies tonight. It my dad's first experience with weed he has never smoked weed or had edibles before.
I've heard stories about first timers freaking out especially on edibles
So my question is what should I do if he starts to freak out?
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Give him a blanket, some hot chocolate, good food, and something that will captivate his interest like a movie or video game to play. Music would help too.
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>>18609990
Thanks anon
Another question there's 1 gram in each brownie is that a lot for a first timer?
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How do you know if the girl you're with is the one you want to marry?
She's enlisting and we're both 20. If I were to marry her now we'd be able to stick together but if not I'll probably never see her again. I really like her, but I'm not sure if I'm ready to marry. I've only known her two years
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Don't do it, thats how you end up with three kids you hate and a divorce at 50 cause she was fucking some guy in your bed. You've only been with her for two years, and you're not going to see her for long periods of time. Why would you trap yourself into that? Break it clean while you still can and search for someone else.
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This girl I know keeps talking to me like this, what does she mean?
I have a gf and she knows it
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She was joking around and then realize oh shit I don't wanna lead this dude on and said maybe not, that or she doesn't want to come off as clingy, I dunno, needs more context mang.
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stop texting other girls late at night moron
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she just randomly texts me man
it's 11ffs, we last talked a few days ago and I stopped responding.
oh and
yes I know it was 7-11, I always like to use that joke for the luls
>pic related my gf
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Cooling off friendships (TLDR; at the end) 2017-08-11 03:14:33 Post No.18609931
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I've known my roommate since we were kids (we're both out of college now). She's been going through a tough time, her mother has cancer. By default she's a very compassionate person, and often her emotions consume her, basically dictating every moment of her life. The end result being that she's a little self centered, and the conversation tends to be about her. At the end of the day I like her, we have a lot of fun.
Now about me. I have a moderate anxiety disorder and spent all summer unemployed because my anxiety refused to let me work my last job (it really really sucked), but also refuse to let me quit (I'm a really really practical person). Basically job abandonment, so no reference, and it was hard to find work. I was very depressed, drank a good amount by myself, stopped going out, let my room go to shit... Basically everything short of suicidal thoughts.
Still though, my friend is going through -a lot-. So I've been there for her, have let her pour her emotions into me, and have generally been her rock. I haven't complained once about what I'm going through, but she's said herself it looks like I'm having a crap summer.
Yesterday I got a new job that I'm extremely excited about and wanted to talk about it, as close friends would. I brought it up once, and got railroaded onto a different subject before she stepped out. No acknowledgment -at all- that something cool happened for me.
I shoot a text saying it would've been cool if she asked me how my first day went. She replies "We'll talk about it later face-to-face." Then, she doesn't come home.
At this point it would've been over for me if she apologized. I didn't need a face-to-face about it. It's really not a massive issue.
I give her the benefit of the doubt, because of everything she's going through and give her all day today to bring it up. She doesn't bring it up, and actually, she asks me to carry her luggage to her car while I'm bringing her to the airport.
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We were half way to the airport before I brought up that she wanted to have a face-to-face about yesterday. I basically told her the investment level in our friendship and each other's lives is one sided, and has been a while. I stressed that I knew she was having a tough time, but blatant disregard towards another person's life, especially someone who has been -crucial- to get her through a rough patch was ridiculous. While she did apologize, she generally asserted that whatever is going on with her takes complete precedence over everything else. My translation of that = her problems are more important than anything else, and she can be excused for being self-centered.
By the way, her Mom has always had a bright prognosis and just entered remission last week.
I could've easily gotten over her looking over what is basically the end of my own rough patch, but not even following through on the face-to-face that SHE proposed (that I could've done without) is just too much. I gave her every opportunity today to bring it up, and was completely warm all day towards her. She waited until I basically chased for that apology and the conversation happened under the time limit of going to the airport. Not ideal.
Anyways, no amount of shit going wrong in my life has every eclipsed the problems of others and shit has gone down for me that I could explain, but this is already a damn novella. I like to be there for people, because usually, they've been there for me.
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>TLDR
I've decided to really focus on just investing in myself, not one girl I've known since I was a kid.
The problem is silently unsticking myself from my roommate. I don't want to reach an understanding with her about this issue. I just want to not be responsible for dealing with her problems anymore, and not have an uncomfortable living situation. We'll still hang out from time to time, but I never again want to have a conversation that's soley about her.
How do I do that though? How do you disengage from a codepent person? We're under a lease for another year. I'm going to have to put up with this. I'm really lacking some concrete strategies on how to go about this.
Also: I don't date her, I've never wanted to date her, she's never wanted to date me, and virgin loneliness is not a problem here.
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Not your personal blog.
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im seriously considering suicide 2017-08-11 03:10:16 Post No.18609917
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i was diagnosed with clinical depression last year, although ive been depressed for almost a decade now.
ive been through a lot of psychologists, psychiatrists, life coaches, medications and nothing seems to work. i try to put the work, try to stay positive but it all just seems pointless. now im trying some new medication, but im already with the mindset that i just won't work.
is it worth even trying anymore? does it "get better" eventually?
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I don't know what you want us to tell you.
The only certainty is that life cannot improve if you end it. Until then, you can search for happiness i your own way.
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in a way, im just hopeless, i just want to hear stories of success or that medicine actually saves people or that at least for someone things changed.
something of that nature, i know it's stupid but i lately i feel like it. every single person i interact with a similar condition that i have has an equally crappy situation.
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what do you want out of your life?
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Just started wellbutrin 10mg. What should I expect? I guess it works a little in the first two weeks then you feel the full effect at four. I'm hoping it helps me focus more
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10mg is surely a typo? I started at 150 and pretty quickly went up to 450.
Personally I find it lifts my mood a bit and makes me smile more, which is quite nice, but doesn't really do much for my concentration. I will possibly try stimulants next. Remember these things have significantly varying effects from person to person so you really have to just try it yourself and see what you think.
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My grandfather was diagnosed with colon cancer in the past. It was caught early and he received chemotherapy and surgery.
Last week he gets a petscan, and today he learns that the cancer has spread to his lungs. They also want to do a catscan just to make sure it hasn't spread to his brain, though he said that was very unlikely. He also said that it's very unlikely that they'll be able to cure it, but they're pretty sure they can make sure it doesn't get any worse.
So how serious is this actually? Is it going to be treated for a long time but he's going to live his last years in complete squalor? Is this going to shorten his life expectancy? How much should I be freaking out over this?
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>think I'm misogynistic or even misanthropic
>think I want large groups of people to not exist
>meditate on it and think some more
>realize I'm just very unhappy with myself and the way my life is
>I don't actually want anyone to get hurt
I found the problem but what's the solution?
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Well done on finding the problem, most people don't get there. I don't believe anyone's found a solution yet though. Keep struggling and pushing, the further you go the better you will become.
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As someone who suffers from constant negativity towards those around me I can tell you that the reason you exhibit such resentment towards others is because either you are worried about the potential negative impacts they may have on your life or that they don't live life the way you do and that frustrates you. The way you need to see it is there are people around you that you don't like but in their mind they're never going to know this because they are focused on living their own life and not letting others bog them down with negativity. Likewise there are people out there who show bitterness towards yourself, and likewise you must behave the same way. You have to live your own life, nobody can be held responsible for your shortcomings other than yourself, it's a tough mentality to absorb but once you do the presence of those around will cease to draw your reaction.
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I have a small (I'd say ant sized) mole on my left upper arm. It's too small to really get a good look at. My family has no history of skin cancer, but plenty (bordering on tons) of irritating/embarrassing but benign skin conditions ranging from eczema to atypical moles and weird birth marks. Should I be worried? I was struck with facing my own mortality a few months ago when I nearly drowned, and now I'm paranoid I might have skin cancer despite my only "symptom" being the previously mentioned small mole. I know I've had it for years as well.
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Doctorfag here. You're probably young (under 40) and chances of having skin cancer this age are pretty low.
However, any mole can evolve into cancer! I think you'll feel better ir you take it off. Any dermathologist can do it, and they also do a microscopical analyze to see if it's cancerous and shit.
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Dark is bad, light is good. Different colors is bad, solid is good. Hair growth is good. Like the other guy said, a dermatologist or ever a family medicine practitioner can remove it or at least tell you it's fine.
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Car Accident, No Damage 2017-08-11 02:34:21 Post No.18609818
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Well lads, I need some peace of mind.
I got into my first car "accident" today. I was backing out of a tight parking lot, and bumped a guy's car. I couldn't have been going faster than 5mph, no damage to either of our cars. I pull over out of the way, and get out to talk with the guy. He inspects for damage, but says he's angry that I "tried to run". All I did was pull my car over to park it out of the way before getting out to talk, but he wouldn't believe me.
After a brief back and forth, he calms down, and tells me to just go, but continues to scold me for supposedly trying to run. I thank him and apologize repeatidly, and drive off home.
This was a few hours ago, but I'm extremly anxious. Like I said, there was no damage, he let me go, and we didn't exchange information, but is there any chance of me getting in trouble with the law or insurance? I live in Utah if that helps. I'm pretty sure I'm 100% fine, but my anxiety keeps knawing at me.
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the cops will laugh at him if he tries to report it. police have better thing to deal with than tracking down a no-damage maybe-possible-theoretical crime of which they have no proof
if you didn't give him your insurance information then it's entirely his problem - the only way the insurance could be a problem bother you is if they call yours
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Thanks, that's all I needed to hear. It's the first time I've ever hit anyone driving, and despite it being so minor, I was pretty freaked out.